015 | Codependency is Not Your Fault (Part Two)

In this continuation of last week’s conversation, Molly unpacks how an extreme, individualistic culture – summed up by the myth of “pull yourself up by your bootstraps” – creates the perfect conditions for people-pleasing and codependency. She traces how compassionate, group-attuned folks internalize shame around needs, over-function to keep the peace, and burn out trying to do the impossible.

 

Molly also offers a powerful reframe: True strength is interdependence, and boundaries rooted in love are the doorway back to our power, personally and collectively.

 

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In this episode, Molly explores:

• the history of the original “bootstraps” phrase, and why it was meant to be sarcastic.
• four ways bootstraps-thinking shows up as codependency symptoms.
• why sensitivity isn’t a problem – it’s part of the medicine.
• how boundaries don’t harden your heart; they free it to love wisely.
• the truth that you are not the problem: You’re experiencing a symptom of a problem that is changeable.

 

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