What if your body has been telling you the truth about your relationships all along? In this episode, intimacy coach and healer Shelby Avann joins Gwyn to explore how attachment styles, self-consent, and the chakra/energy system shape our love lives and our sex lives—often right down to the physical sensations we feel (hello, crygasms 👋).
Together we cover:
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The four attachment styles—how they form and how to move toward secure
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Self-consent: slowing down, listening to your body’s yes/no, and rebuilding trust with yourself
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How emotional blockages can show up as physical pain (and what to do about it)
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Somatic tools you can use today: breathwork, grounding, sensory check-ins, and boundary practice
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Reiki and energy work as gentle support for intimacy healing
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The Erotic Blueprints (Jaiya) and why mismatched “erotic languages” create friction
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Community, kink/tantra curiosities, and creating safer containers for pleasure
Guest: Shelby Avann — intimacy coach, energy healer, and creator of the Intimacy Incubator programs. Find Shelby: shelbyavann.ca • Instagram: @theintimacymistress
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