E20: Owning Our Boundaries with Therapist Wendy Morgan

“A boundary is something that I set for myself. It lives in me. My boundaries move with me,” says therapist Wendy Morgan. She joins Zovig Garboushian in this episode to talk about the role boundaries play in both therapy and everyday life. They discuss the real meaning of boundaries—how they aren’t rules to control others, but personal commitments to protect our own well-being. Have you ever wondered why it’s so hard to hold firm on your boundaries without feeling guilty? Wendy explains how guilt, often tied to people-pleasing and perfectionism, can cloud our ability to set and maintain healthy boundaries.

 

Wendy and Zovig point out the importance of self-awareness. How do we know when to stand firm or when to be flexible with our boundaries? In both therapy and daily life, it’s important to recognize your needs and make intentional choices. Zovig and Wendy also talk about how boundaries shift based on the situation, and why taking ownership of them is key to fostering healthier relationships and greater self-respect. This episode will leave you reflecting on your own boundaries and how to protect them in a way that serves you best.

 

Quotes

• “There is so much out in the world right now about boundaries—everywhere you look, whether it’s TikTok or pop psychology, there’s a lot of talk about boundaries. Some of it is really helpful and important, but on some occasions, the presentation of boundaries comes across in a performative kind of way. ‘I’m going to draw a line in the sand, and if you cross it, something bad will happen. The consequences will come.’ I think we need to stop thinking of those as boundaries. Those are not boundaries; those are named consequences. Boundaries are about the things that I do, not the things that you do.” (03:17 | Wendy Morgan) 
• “A boundary is something that I set for myself. It lives in me. My boundaries move with me.” (04:18 | Wendy Morgan)
• “So, how does letting your own boundary get breached serve you? There’s usually something there. And then the accompanying question, what would it look like or how would it serve you differently if you held the boundary?” (30:58 | Wendy Morgan)
• “I think it’s really important to understand that we cannot control how other people see us, feel about us, or think of us.” (44:51 | Zovig Garboushian)

 

Links

Connect with Wendy Morgan:

Website: www.wendymorgantherapy.ca

LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/wendy-morgan-46658116

 

Connect with Zovig Garboushian:

Website: www.boldnessablazecoaching.com

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/zoviggarboushian/

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