05: Living as an Enneagram Two: Compassion, Pride, and Healthy Boundaries with Kari Dobbs

05: In this episode of Why Do I Do What I Do? Exploring the Enneagram, Paul sits down with his daughter, Kari Dobbs, to unpack life as an Enneagram Two—the Helper and Encourager. Known for their deep compassion, loyalty, and desire to be needed, Twos are often described as the most relational type on the Enneagram. But as Kari shares, those same strengths can sometimes become struggles when pride, people-pleasing, or perfectionism creep in.

  Together, Paul and Kari explore:   What it means to live with a “Helper’s heart” in marriage, parenting four boys, teaching, ministry, and friendships.   The strengths of a Two: empathy, loyalty, encouragement, and the ability to connect deeply with others.   The shadow side of a Two: pride, over-functioning, and the exhaustion that comes from giving until there’s nothing left.   How Kari has learned to balance caring for others with setting healthy boundaries and practicing self-care.   Why faith and encouragement are central to her identity, and how following Jesus has reshaped her understanding of serving and loving others.   Kari’s story is filled with honesty, humor, and hard-won wisdom about relationships, self-awareness, and spiritual growth. Whether you’re a Two yourself or love someone who is, this episode shines a light on both the beauty and the challenges of the Helper’s journey.