August 12, 2025 • 25 mins
Episode 101 Unbecoming: The Path to Your True Self
In this episode of "Your Inner Advocate," host Kimen Petersen explores the concept of "unbecoming"—shedding the roles, beliefs, and expectations that no longer serve us in order to discover our true selves. Drawing from personal stories and moments of vulnerability, Kimen discusses the journey from seeking external validation to embracing authenticity and inner wisdom. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on what they need to let go of, challenge their inner critic, and take small, courageous steps toward living a life aligned with their purpose. The episode closes with a practical challenge: choose one thing to release this week and make space for growth and fulfillment.
- Welcome & Introduction — 0:02
- The Concept of Unbecoming — 0:40
- Early Life: Seeking Approval & Wearing Masks — 0:51
- The Cost of External Validation — 1:25
- Burnout & Breaking Point — 7:20
- The Turning Point: Listening to the Inner Advocate — 9:50
- What Unbecoming Really Means — 10:17
- Letting Go: Shedding Roles and Expectations — 10:58
- The Courage to Change — 12:04
- High Performers & The Trap of Hustle — 12:28
- Finding Alignment & True Fulfillment — 14:03
- Reflection: Questions for the Listener — 14:55
- You Are Already Enough — 15:41
- The Challenge: Letting Go of One Thing — 17:36
- Consistency & The Power of Small Steps — 21:30
- Final Thoughts & Encouragement — 24:28
- Outro & Call to Action — 24:51
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(00:02):
Welcome to Your Inner Advocate,a podcast by Kimen Petersen,
formerly Conversations with Kimen.
This podcast is a space forinspiration, soulful insights,
and meaningful life lessons.
Your host, Kimen Petersen drawsfrom personal stories and powerful
conversations with remarkablepeople to help illuminate your path.
These episodes reflect his livedexperiences and thoughtful perspectives,
(00:25):
all aimed at encouraging you to live lifewith greater authenticity, joy, and ease.
Your inner advocate is here tohelp you tune in, trust your inner
wisdom, and move through life withmore clarity, flow, and fulfillment.
Unbecoming shedding themasks to find your true self.
(00:50):
There's a quote I haven'tbeen able to shake lately.
Maybe the point of life isn'tabout becoming something, but
unbecoming everything you'renot, so you can finally be.
Who you are always meant to be.
That just stops me every time I hearit because if I'm honest, so much
(01:12):
of what I thought I needed to be wasreally about survival, about approval,
about fitting into roles that neverreally quite felt, felt like home.
And I think maybe someof you feel the same way,
but not only that.
(01:33):
Many of the things I feltover my life were very much
of the opposite of empowering.
I felt like I wasn't good enough.
I felt like I was unworthy.
I felt like I wouldnever amount to anything,
and literally I had this beliefin me that I was just taking
(01:58):
up space on this planet Just.
Dispersing a certain amount of error,and I continued doing that until I died
and my body faded away andthen I dispersed less air.
Although I really wanted to makea difference, I didn't think
(02:20):
I ever would or ever could.
Just think for a secondhow that life would feel.
If that was what your endurable dialogue,your inner critic was telling you.
And not only that,
(02:42):
I used to, I used, I, I used to say, Iused to fight on the wrong side when my
internal dialogue would say, you suck.
You'd never get a mo.
You are, you're useless.
You're, you're a loser.
And I would, uh, I would agree with it.
And even though I understand theinternal dialogue isn't who we
(03:03):
are now, back then, I didn't know.
I thought that was who I was.
And so I would build it up strongerand stronger and stronger to the point.
I believe that's who I was.
And yet now
I don't think that's who I am.
(03:25):
It's not how I show up.
It's not what I'm intendingto do in this life.
It's not what my purpose is,
you know?
I also remember being akid and hearing be strong.
What was it?
Big boys, don't cry.
(03:48):
Stop your crying, or I'll giveyou something to cry about.
And that's what I took on.
I took on a life of being emotionlessor pushing it down so deep
(04:11):
and, and I mean, some of the thingsI took on too was like my parents
were super hard workers, so I tookthat on like a badge of honor.
But the funny thingis, even in doing that,
no matter how hard I worked in mylife, I never really felt fulfilled.
(04:33):
No how no ma, no matter how muchI was emotionless and I pushed it
down and I pretended to be strong,
it never filled the gap
no matter how much.
My internal dialoguesays, you're safer alone.
(04:57):
It never felt good.
So I wore all these things like badges,not because I wanted to, because that
was kind of expected of me internallyand externally, and I never even
stopped to ask, is this who I am?
(05:20):
You know, as I fast forward into adultmed adulthood and it became achievements,
status, success, external things,
and I let it tell me,
and I'm good at it, I'm really good.
(05:42):
I remember as I were, was working through.
My twenties, um, going from job to job,
getting accreditations, certifications,licenses, built my way up,
knowing full well that what I wasreally here to do was to help,
(06:08):
but seeing as I wasn't smart enough
'cause I was dyslexic, so.
Reading and spellingdidn't come easy to me.
I thought I could get, getthat feeling of being whole by
accomplishing a really big job.
So I took a job as a building operationsmanager at a very high profile building
(06:36):
thinking.
Finally, when I have the title, that'swhen I'll feel whole and complete.
But it didn't work.
But here's the truth.
No one told me you can become reallysuccessful at being someone you're not.
(06:58):
And that's what I did.
And when that happens, vents, that'swhen the burnout creeps in, the quiet
ache, the inner restless, the whispers.
This isn't it,
(07:20):
that Whisper is your inner advocate.
It's a part of you remembers who youreally are, even when the world forgets
and when this hit, the burnout hit me.
It hit hard.
It was a Sunday.
I got called in foranother emergency call.
(07:43):
See, I hadn't been sleeping.
I was losing weight.
I was incredibly depressed on the verge oftears all the time, but still really good
at hiding my emotions more so I thought.
And after that emergency call, Iwent home and I sat on the couch
and I couldn't catch my breath.
(08:04):
I thought this was weird.
And it was anxiety inducing.
I was like, I can't catch my breath.
I can't catch my breath.
And then I started to feel chest pains.
I went down to the clinic acrossthe street, walked in the front
door, went up to the reception.
She said, do you have an appointment?
I'm like, I'm, I'm having troublebreathing and my chest hurts.
(08:30):
She rushed me into the, intoone of the rooms and I could
hear her banging on the door.
Of the room.
The doctor was in frantically.
The doctor came in, took my vital signs,
sent me right to St. Paul's Hospitaldowntown, pretty much a cardiac hospital.
(08:51):
They put me in the cardiac ward,
shaved my chest, put on little sensors,did a chest x-ray, started taking blood.
And I started to think, sothis is how it turns out.
This is how it works.
This, this is how it ends
(09:16):
all along, I knew
I was here to help people,
but I wasn't listening.
I was trying to be everything else.
I was trying to look forexternal validation and.
In a title of a job.
And when I got there, I knew so well.
And this is the interestingthing about life, is
(09:42):
life will tell you when it's timeto move on to move forward and
it'll, it'll be a small whisper,
then it'll be a push.
It'll be a shove, and then it will takeyou and it will throw you on the ground
and said, now, and this was my now.
So I said, if there's anybodylistening in my head, anybody out
(10:05):
there, help me through this, then I'llfigure out what I'm supposed to do.
So let's talk about this word unbecoming.
It sounds backwards, doesn't it?
It's like loss.
It's like, it's liketaking someone thing away.
(10:27):
It's like.
Like ripping something fromyourself, but it's not backwards.
It's the opposite.
Unbecoming is a process of shedding,of releasing what doesn't belong.
The pressure, the perfectionism, thepeople pleasing, the fear, and this
was the point that I had to unbebecome, I was so afraid 'cause I'd
(10:52):
worked myself all up into a frenzythat this was it, this was, this was
the thing that was gonna bring me joy.
And I had to let go of all that, that itwasn't a title that was gonna give me joy.
It wasn't a high profilejob, it wasn't any of this.
And I literally had to burn allmy bridges and quit that job.
(11:14):
And I sat in such fear of this.
I had to give up everything.
'cause you know, when you burna bridge, you can't go back.
So it was shedding.
I was releasing what doesn't belong.
I was letting go of thepressure, the perfectionism,
the people pleasing, the fear,
(11:37):
and sometimes this means facingsome uncomfortable truth.
It means saying
maybe I don't need to bethe hero all the time.
I don't have to earn love.
That was the thing.
I was trying to earn respect and love.
(11:57):
I don't have to beeverything to everybody else.
I think unbecoming, letting go ofall those things that are holding
you back, of all those stories,
letting go of the job that'skilling you is actually the
(12:18):
most courageous thing we can do.
And this was the mostcourageous act of my life.
And you know, it's interesting.
I never thought I was a high performer,but I used to admire the high performers,
the athletes, the entrepreneurs, theleaders, people who never stop pushing.
(12:45):
And as I, as I've learned in myrecent career, there is something
magnetic about that kind of drive,like working with incredible people.
It makes me want to stepup to be another level.
Makes me want to do more, be more.
I mean, it's a two double-edged swordin a sense because on one side you
(13:06):
see all of the things you want to do,and the other side you clearly see
the all the things you're not yet.
And I say yet and remember, try to add.
Yet if you say all the things you'renot because there's still time.
(13:27):
But I've noticed that a lot of peoplewho were striving for money, fame, power,
like when I was at that big job there, Ididn't see a single happy person there.
(13:47):
They have the competitive edge.
Yes.
But they're also running from somethinghustling for worth or validation,
trying to prove they're worth it.
Don't get me wrong, Istill believe in excellent.
I still love process, but it'snot about pushing anymore.
(14:11):
It really isn't.
It's about becoming aligned with who I am.
Who I'm meant to be withmy purpose, with my why.
It's about doing what fuelsyou, not what drains you.
It's about becoming someone youcan live with quietly in your head,
(14:36):
not just some, somebody,somebody else will applaud.
So when I left that job.
I needed to slow downand I needed to reflect.
So humor me for a minute.
(14:57):
Just take a moment.
Wherever you are walking, driving,sitting on the bus, pause,
ask yourself, what am Istill trying to prove?
What am I still trying to prove?
I ask myself, what part of me feelsheavy worn out, no longer true?
(15:23):
What part feels heavy?
What in you feels worn out?
What feels no longer true?
And finally,
if I was to remove allthe pressure, who am I?
(15:44):
Who am I without the pressure?
Maybe even close your eyes for a second.
Breathe in.
Hold it.
The truth is, you're not a project to fix.
(16:04):
You're not.
There's nothing wrong with you.
Perfect whole and completejust as you are in this prove.
In this moment, you are wholeand complete and lacking nothing.
Fear, anxiety, worry.
(16:26):
It all lives in the past wherethe future, but in this moment,
you are whole and complete.
You are just a person to remember.
Remember who you actuallyare when the noise goes away,
(16:49):
what you are actually here todo, not the actions, but the
purpose beneath the actions.
You here to inspire.
Are you like me?
Are you here to help?
Unbecoming is not failure.
(17:12):
And yeah, I felt like it was failure.
It was a failure.
I'd never quit anything withouthaving something to fall back on.
But it's not failure, it's courage,and it's the path to freedom.
(17:36):
Do you want to take on a challenge?
How about a challenge?
I'll do it with you
and this is your challenge this week.
Choose one thing.
Just one thing.
It doesn't have to be big, it's just one.
It's funny.
Start small.
(17:57):
Work bigger than than get to massive.
Choose one thing that you'reready to release, to let go of.
Maybe it's a belief, right?
I'm not enough.
Maybe it's a habit, something thatyou're, you're habitually doing
(18:18):
that isn't serving you, somethingthat's not moving you towards your
purpose, your goals, and your dreams.
Maybe it's actually arole that you've outgrown.
I'm no longer this.
Sometimes when you let go ofsomething, you're left with a void,
(18:41):
and if you let go of something andyou create a void, then put something
in there, but something powerful,something that will move you towards
your goals and dreams and your purpose.
First, say it out loud, thenwrite it down as many times as you
need, and let it then let it go.
(19:03):
If you need to write it down and tearit up and burn it, do it safely, do it.
My wish for you right now is may youhave the courage to stop trying to be
impressive of and start becoming you
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who you're meant to be.
That person aligned with yourpurpose, with your dreams, your goals.
Honestly,
the truth is, and I'm saying thisto me as much as I'm saying it to
you, because who you really are
(19:54):
is already enough.
It's more than enough.
It's more than perfect to take you.
To your purpose and dreams,
(20:14):
keep on
identifying the things that are in yourway and let them go as you see them.
And imagine this is a practice.
It's not.
It's not a one and done thing.
'cause typically the reallyhard stuff is a practice.
(20:39):
And will you fail at times?
Will you go back?
Will you lean into your old self?
Of course you will.
It's habitual, it's programmed.
But here's the thing, you can.
Rewrite over the program,you can change the program
(21:00):
even with the internal critic playing overand over again that this is who you are.
You can completely work onbeing your own inner advocate
and saying, that was who I was.
Who I am now is this.
And then you can start doingeverything that's aligned with
(21:21):
who you declare yourself to be.
You don't have to get it perfect, andyou don't have to have the ultimate
thing on your plate right now.
Just find a place to start.
It's just like when you're coming backfrom an injury or a tough time, you don't
(21:41):
jump out and go all out the first time.
You slowly start moving in thedirection of your dreams and goals.
And you do it slowly, so you don't see,the problem is if you go too fast, you
could, one, you could reinjure yourself,
(22:02):
you could exhaust yourself.
You could take yourself intoa state of under recover.
But the truth is, if you can go slow.
Slower than you think,slower than you expect.
(22:22):
But consistent,
you know, be like water,look at what water does.
Look at the Grand Canyon, for instance.
Look at how massively impressivethat is, and do you realize
it's just a trickle of water
that carved that out?
(22:45):
And look at the size of that andlook at the power of water, and
he didn't do it because of thisincredible force in the moment.
It did it through consistency Over time.
If you want to get anywhere in thislife, you just start being consistent,
consistent in your actions.
(23:06):
Consistent in your thoughts,consistent in your internal dialogue.
And it's okay to fall down and fail.
You just get back up and you do it again.
And even if you, you have thisconversation where I am, you know, I'm
not good at routine, like start, likeadd on, but I'm trying, I'm working
(23:28):
on it until the point is, yeah, okay.
So I can do routine untilyou get to the point where.
I got new routine is I'm nailed routine.
I've nailed it.
And then like take it to another level
routine in your thought.
If your thought is notserving you, argue with it.
(23:49):
Don't allow a negative thought to comeout and be spoken into the real world.
Unless you're saying, I'mfeeling like this and you're
working your way through this.
Just don't say I am.
I am as a creation.
If you want to unbe become, you haveto let go of all the negative ims.
'cause the negative ims are your internaldialogue, your internal critic trying to
(24:12):
hold you back and keep you inside a box.
And if you want to do anything amazingin this life, you have to smash that
box over and over and over again.
I really hope this conversation helps.
(24:34):
Because the truth is you don't need tobecome anything you are already that you
just need to unbe become all the partsthat are not that until you condense
yourself into who you really are.
, thank you for listening to this episode of Your Inner Advocate, a podcast by
(24:55):
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Until next time, keep listening toand developing your inner advocate.
Welcome to Your Inner Advocate,a podcast by Kimen Petersen,
formerly Conversations with Kimen.
This podcast is a space forinspiration, soulful insights,
and meaningful life lessons.
Your host, Kimen Petersen drawsfrom personal stories and powerful
conversations with remarkablepeople to help illuminate your path.
These episodes reflect his livedexperiences and thoughtful perspectives,
(00:25):
all aimed at encouraging you to live lifewith greater authenticity, joy, and ease.
Your inner advocate is here tohelp you tune in, trust your inner
wisdom, and move through life withmore clarity, flow, and fulfillment.
Unbecoming shedding themasks to find your true self.
(00:50):
There's a quote I haven'tbeen able to shake lately.
Maybe the point of life isn'tabout becoming something, but
unbecoming everything you'renot, so you can finally be.
Who you are always meant to be.
That just stops me every time I hearit because if I'm honest, so much
(01:12):
of what I thought I needed to be wasreally about survival, about approval,
about fitting into roles that neverreally quite felt, felt like home.
And I think maybe someof you feel the same way,
but not only that.
(01:33):
Many of the things I feltover my life were very much
of the opposite of empowering.
I felt like I wasn't good enough.
I felt like I was unworthy.
I felt like I wouldnever amount to anything,
and literally I had this beliefin me that I was just taking
(01:58):
up space on this planet Just.
Dispersing a certain amount of error,and I continued doing that until I died
and my body faded away andthen I dispersed less air.
Although I really wanted to makea difference, I didn't think
(02:20):
I ever would or ever could.
Just think for a secondhow that life would feel.
If that was what your endurable dialogue,your inner critic was telling you.
And not only that,
(02:42):
I used to, I used, I, I used to say, Iused to fight on the wrong side when my
internal dialogue would say, you suck.
You'd never get a mo.
You are, you're useless.
You're, you're a loser.
And I would, uh, I would agree with it.
And even though I understand theinternal dialogue isn't who we
(03:03):
are now, back then, I didn't know.
I thought that was who I was.
And so I would build it up strongerand stronger and stronger to the point.
I believe that's who I was.
And yet now
I don't think that's who I am.
(03:25):
It's not how I show up.
It's not what I'm intendingto do in this life.
It's not what my purpose is,
you know?
I also remember being akid and hearing be strong.
What was it?
Big boys, don't cry.
(03:48):
Stop your crying, or I'll giveyou something to cry about.
And that's what I took on.
I took on a life of being emotionlessor pushing it down so deep
(04:11):
and, and I mean, some of the thingsI took on too was like my parents
were super hard workers, so I tookthat on like a badge of honor.
But the funny thingis, even in doing that,
no matter how hard I worked in mylife, I never really felt fulfilled.
(04:33):
No how no ma, no matter how muchI was emotionless and I pushed it
down and I pretended to be strong,
it never filled the gap
no matter how much.
My internal dialoguesays, you're safer alone.
(04:57):
It never felt good.
So I wore all these things like badges,not because I wanted to, because that
was kind of expected of me internallyand externally, and I never even
stopped to ask, is this who I am?
(05:20):
You know, as I fast forward into adultmed adulthood and it became achievements,
status, success, external things,
and I let it tell me,
and I'm good at it, I'm really good.
(05:42):
I remember as I were, was working through.
My twenties, um, going from job to job,
getting accreditations, certifications,licenses, built my way up,
knowing full well that what I wasreally here to do was to help,
(06:08):
but seeing as I wasn't smart enough
'cause I was dyslexic, so.
Reading and spellingdidn't come easy to me.
I thought I could get, getthat feeling of being whole by
accomplishing a really big job.
So I took a job as a building operationsmanager at a very high profile building
(06:36):
thinking.
Finally, when I have the title, that'swhen I'll feel whole and complete.
But it didn't work.
But here's the truth.
No one told me you can become reallysuccessful at being someone you're not.
(06:58):
And that's what I did.
And when that happens, vents, that'swhen the burnout creeps in, the quiet
ache, the inner restless, the whispers.
This isn't it,
(07:20):
that Whisper is your inner advocate.
It's a part of you remembers who youreally are, even when the world forgets
and when this hit, the burnout hit me.
It hit hard.
It was a Sunday.
I got called in foranother emergency call.
(07:43):
See, I hadn't been sleeping.
I was losing weight.
I was incredibly depressed on the verge oftears all the time, but still really good
at hiding my emotions more so I thought.
And after that emergency call, Iwent home and I sat on the couch
and I couldn't catch my breath.
(08:04):
I thought this was weird.
And it was anxiety inducing.
I was like, I can't catch my breath.
I can't catch my breath.
And then I started to feel chest pains.
I went down to the clinic acrossthe street, walked in the front
door, went up to the reception.
She said, do you have an appointment?
I'm like, I'm, I'm having troublebreathing and my chest hurts.
(08:30):
She rushed me into the, intoone of the rooms and I could
hear her banging on the door.
Of the room.
The doctor was in frantically.
The doctor came in, took my vital signs,
sent me right to St. Paul's Hospitaldowntown, pretty much a cardiac hospital.
(08:51):
They put me in the cardiac ward,
shaved my chest, put on little sensors,did a chest x-ray, started taking blood.
And I started to think, sothis is how it turns out.
This is how it works.
This, this is how it ends
(09:16):
all along, I knew
I was here to help people,
but I wasn't listening.
I was trying to be everything else.
I was trying to look forexternal validation and.
In a title of a job.
And when I got there, I knew so well.
And this is the interestingthing about life, is
(09:42):
life will tell you when it's timeto move on to move forward and
it'll, it'll be a small whisper,
then it'll be a push.
It'll be a shove, and then it will takeyou and it will throw you on the ground
and said, now, and this was my now.
So I said, if there's anybodylistening in my head, anybody out
(10:05):
there, help me through this, then I'llfigure out what I'm supposed to do.
So let's talk about this word unbecoming.
It sounds backwards, doesn't it?
It's like loss.
It's like, it's liketaking someone thing away.
(10:27):
It's like.
Like ripping something fromyourself, but it's not backwards.
It's the opposite.
Unbecoming is a process of shedding,of releasing what doesn't belong.
The pressure, the perfectionism, thepeople pleasing, the fear, and this
was the point that I had to unbebecome, I was so afraid 'cause I'd
(10:52):
worked myself all up into a frenzythat this was it, this was, this was
the thing that was gonna bring me joy.
And I had to let go of all that, that itwasn't a title that was gonna give me joy.
It wasn't a high profilejob, it wasn't any of this.
And I literally had to burn allmy bridges and quit that job.
(11:14):
And I sat in such fear of this.
I had to give up everything.
'cause you know, when you burna bridge, you can't go back.
So it was shedding.
I was releasing what doesn't belong.
I was letting go of thepressure, the perfectionism,
the people pleasing, the fear,
(11:37):
and sometimes this means facingsome uncomfortable truth.
It means saying
maybe I don't need to bethe hero all the time.
I don't have to earn love.
That was the thing.
I was trying to earn respect and love.
(11:57):
I don't have to beeverything to everybody else.
I think unbecoming, letting go ofall those things that are holding
you back, of all those stories,
letting go of the job that'skilling you is actually the
(12:18):
most courageous thing we can do.
And this was the mostcourageous act of my life.
And you know, it's interesting.
I never thought I was a high performer,but I used to admire the high performers,
the athletes, the entrepreneurs, theleaders, people who never stop pushing.
(12:45):
And as I, as I've learned in myrecent career, there is something
magnetic about that kind of drive,like working with incredible people.
It makes me want to stepup to be another level.
Makes me want to do more, be more.
I mean, it's a two double-edged swordin a sense because on one side you
(13:06):
see all of the things you want to do,and the other side you clearly see
the all the things you're not yet.
And I say yet and remember, try to add.
Yet if you say all the things you'renot because there's still time.
(13:27):
But I've noticed that a lot of peoplewho were striving for money, fame, power,
like when I was at that big job there, Ididn't see a single happy person there.
(13:47):
They have the competitive edge.
Yes.
But they're also running from somethinghustling for worth or validation,
trying to prove they're worth it.
Don't get me wrong, Istill believe in excellent.
I still love process, but it'snot about pushing anymore.
(14:11):
It really isn't.
It's about becoming aligned with who I am.
Who I'm meant to be withmy purpose, with my why.
It's about doing what fuelsyou, not what drains you.
It's about becoming someone youcan live with quietly in your head,
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not just some, somebody,somebody else will applaud.
So when I left that job.
I needed to slow downand I needed to reflect.
So humor me for a minute.
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Just take a moment.
Wherever you are walking, driving,sitting on the bus, pause,
ask yourself, what am Istill trying to prove?
What am I still trying to prove?
I ask myself, what part of me feelsheavy worn out, no longer true?
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What part feels heavy?
What in you feels worn out?
What feels no longer true?
And finally,
if I was to remove allthe pressure, who am I?
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Who am I without the pressure?
Maybe even close your eyes for a second.
Breathe in.
Hold it.
The truth is, you're not a project to fix.
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You're not.
There's nothing wrong with you.
Perfect whole and completejust as you are in this prove.
In this moment, you are wholeand complete and lacking nothing.
Fear, anxiety, worry.
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It all lives in the past wherethe future, but in this moment,
you are whole and complete.
You are just a person to remember.
Remember who you actuallyare when the noise goes away,
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what you are actually here todo, not the actions, but the
purpose beneath the actions.
You here to inspire.
Are you like me?
Are you here to help?
Unbecoming is not failure.
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And yeah, I felt like it was failure.
It was a failure.
I'd never quit anything withouthaving something to fall back on.
But it's not failure, it's courage,and it's the path to freedom.
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Do you want to take on a challenge?
How about a challenge?
I'll do it with you
and this is your challenge this week.
Choose one thing.
Just one thing.
It doesn't have to be big, it's just one.
It's funny.
Start small.
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Work bigger than than get to massive.
Choose one thing that you'reready to release, to let go of.
Maybe it's a belief, right?
I'm not enough.
Maybe it's a habit, something thatyou're, you're habitually doing
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that isn't serving you, somethingthat's not moving you towards your
purpose, your goals, and your dreams.
Maybe it's actually arole that you've outgrown.
I'm no longer this.
Sometimes when you let go ofsomething, you're left with a void,
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and if you let go of something andyou create a void, then put something
in there, but something powerful,something that will move you towards
your goals and dreams and your purpose.
First, say it out loud, thenwrite it down as many times as you
need, and let it then let it go.
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If you need to write it down and tearit up and burn it, do it safely, do it.
My wish for you right now is may youhave the courage to stop trying to be
impressive of and start becoming you
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who you're meant to be.
That person aligned with yourpurpose, with your dreams, your goals.
Honestly,
the truth is, and I'm saying thisto me as much as I'm saying it to
you, because who you really are
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is already enough.
It's more than enough.
It's more than perfect to take you.
To your purpose and dreams,
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keep on
identifying the things that are in yourway and let them go as you see them.
And imagine this is a practice.
It's not.
It's not a one and done thing.
'cause typically the reallyhard stuff is a practice.
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And will you fail at times?
Will you go back?
Will you lean into your old self?
Of course you will.
It's habitual, it's programmed.
But here's the thing, you can.
Rewrite over the program,you can change the program
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even with the internal critic playing overand over again that this is who you are.
You can completely work onbeing your own inner advocate
and saying, that was who I was.
Who I am now is this.
And then you can start doingeverything that's aligned with
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who you declare yourself to be.
You don't have to get it perfect, andyou don't have to have the ultimate
thing on your plate right now.
Just find a place to start.
It's just like when you're coming backfrom an injury or a tough time, you don't
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jump out and go all out the first time.
You slowly start moving in thedirection of your dreams and goals.
And you do it slowly, so you don't see,the problem is if you go too fast, you
could, one, you could reinjure yourself,
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you could exhaust yourself.
You could take yourself intoa state of under recover.
But the truth is, if you can go slow.
Slower than you think,slower than you expect.
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But consistent,
you know, be like water,look at what water does.
Look at the Grand Canyon, for instance.
Look at how massively impressivethat is, and do you realize
it's just a trickle of water
that carved that out?
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And look at the size of that andlook at the power of water, and
he didn't do it because of thisincredible force in the moment.
It did it through consistency Over time.
If you want to get anywhere in thislife, you just start being consistent,
consistent in your actions.
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Consistent in your thoughts,consistent in your internal dialogue.
And it's okay to fall down and fail.
You just get back up and you do it again.
And even if you, you have thisconversation where I am, you know, I'm
not good at routine, like start, likeadd on, but I'm trying, I'm working
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on it until the point is, yeah, okay.
So I can do routine untilyou get to the point where.
I got new routine is I'm nailed routine.
I've nailed it.
And then like take it to another level
routine in your thought.
If your thought is notserving you, argue with it.
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Don't allow a negative thought to comeout and be spoken into the real world.
Unless you're saying, I'mfeeling like this and you're
working your way through this.
Just don't say I am.
I am as a creation.
If you want to unbe become, you haveto let go of all the negative ims.
'cause the negative ims are your internaldialogue, your internal critic trying to
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hold you back and keep you inside a box.
And if you want to do anything amazingin this life, you have to smash that
box over and over and over again.
I really hope this conversation helps.
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Because the truth is you don't need tobecome anything you are already that you
just need to unbe become all the partsthat are not that until you condense
yourself into who you really are.
, thank you for listening to this episode of Your Inner Advocate, a podcast by
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Kimen Petersen, formerly Conversationswith Kimen if you found value in
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