May 27, 2025 • 17 mins
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This episode: You're too rigid, man.
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Kevin Tejada:
I'll decide what to name this episode after I'm done recording, (00:28):
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Kevin Tejada: but it's going to be something like rigidity or inflexibility. (00:31):
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Kevin Tejada: And no, I'm not talking about literal inflexibility as in you can't stretch properly. (00:34):
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Kevin Tejada: Although that might be a future episode. I'm talking about the inability to adapt. (00:40):
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Kevin Tejada: And this is in regards to exercise or weight loss or whatever it is. (00:46):
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Kevin Tejada: This is kind of a subset of a perfectionism where it's an all or nothing approach. (00:50):
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Kevin Tejada: Any deviation is like a cause for alarm. It's panic. It's everything's falling apart. (00:55):
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Kevin Tejada: It's not accounting for real life. And I'm someone who suffered from this a (01:00):
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Kevin Tejada: lot as recently as last year. (01:04):
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Kevin Tejada: And even way, way, way before that. I remember in college about, (01:07):
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Kevin Tejada: I don't know, 12, 13 years ago, I lived close to my college and I was a commuter. (01:12):
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Kevin Tejada: So I was able to just go over there and use the gym basically anytime, (01:17):
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Kevin Tejada: even though I didn't live on campus. That was great. (01:21):
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Kevin Tejada: I was so disciplined as well. I went to the gym Monday, Wednesday, Friday without fail. (01:25):
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Kevin Tejada: Unless of course the gym was closed and they didn't tell commuters because fuck commuters. (01:31):
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Kevin Tejada: That was more common than you think actually. (01:35):
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Speaker2: But it was great. (01:37):
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Kevin Tejada: I had the discipline down. I was going no matter what. (01:38):
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Kevin Tejada: But I regret that. I don't regret the discipline I had, but I regret following it to that degree. (01:42):
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Kevin Tejada: I was too rigid. I was not flexible enough with my goals. (01:49):
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Kevin Tejada: And what happened was I missed out on going to have fun a lot. (01:52):
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Kevin Tejada: There are many, many times throughout the summer where my dad was like, (01:58):
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Kevin Tejada: hey, let's go to Six Flags today. (02:01):
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Kevin Tejada: I'm like, on Wednesday, I go to the gym. I can't go. I'm not going. (02:02):
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Kevin Tejada: I mean, part of that was I was still like kind of fat or pretty fat. (02:07):
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Kevin Tejada: And I didn't want to go to Hurricane Harbor and take my shirt off because I was fucking fat. (02:10):
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Kevin Tejada: I'd rather work towards, you know, shaping myself into something better. (02:15):
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Kevin Tejada: But that was fucking stupid. (02:19):
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Kevin Tejada: I could have just gone to the gym on Thursday, on Tuesday, on fucking Saturday. (02:21):
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Kevin Tejada: I missed out on going to Six Flags probably like, I want to say like 15 times (02:26):
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Kevin Tejada: because of this habit I had of not being flexible, sticking to my guns way, way, way too much (02:31):
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Speaker2: To the point of. (02:40):
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Kevin Tejada: Detriment. Now, being disciplined and having a strict habit can be really good, (02:40):
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Kevin Tejada: but not being able to adjust due to real life is not good. (02:47):
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Kevin Tejada: By the way, if you're listening and you have no idea what Six Flags is for some (02:52):
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Kevin Tejada: reason, it's a very popular amusement park with a nearby or attached water park (02:55):
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Kevin Tejada: called Hurricane Harbor. (03:01):
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Kevin Tejada: I can't be assuming people know what the hell I'm talking about. (03:03):
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Kevin Tejada: Now, moving on to other people besides myself, a lot of people deal with this in terms of their diet. (03:06):
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Kevin Tejada: They're very rigid with it. They're, you know, again, I'm going to shit on carnivore diet. (03:11):
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Kevin Tejada: They're like, oh, I can only eat meat and butter or whatever the hell it is. (03:15):
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Kevin Tejada: And that's how it is. They're not open to any kind of change, (03:19):
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Kevin Tejada: not open to any kind of adaptability. (03:22):
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Kevin Tejada: You're just going to stick to it no matter what. Again, having this discipline can be really, (03:24):
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Speaker2: Really, really, really helpful. (03:30):
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Kevin Tejada: But real life calls for flexibility often so (03:31):
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Kevin Tejada: if you're on the carnivore diet and you're eating at a middle middle eastern (03:35):
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Kevin Tejada: place and they ran out of meat for some reason eat the fucking falafels it's (03:39):
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Kevin Tejada: fine you need to be able to make that adjustment you could be missing out on (03:43):
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Kevin Tejada: some great stuff like for myself for my day job i work in it at a university (03:47):
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Kevin Tejada: guess what colleges have on campus. They have gyms. (03:54):
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Speaker2: Sometimes they have pools. (03:58):
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Kevin Tejada: Now I have a hybrid schedule. So I go into the office sometimes. (04:00):
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Kevin Tejada: And since they have an indoor track as well, I'm thinking, oh man, (04:04):
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Kevin Tejada: I need to use that track every time I go in. (04:07):
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Kevin Tejada: Because if I'm only going in once per week, that'd be a great way to get cardio, (04:12):
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Kevin Tejada: run around the track, right? (04:15):
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Kevin Tejada: I was very strict about that for about a year, which is cool. (04:16):
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Kevin Tejada: I forced myself to run for a year and not on a treadmill. So awesome, right? (04:20):
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Kevin Tejada: Not awesome because I had a pool and I wanted to swim in it, (04:25):
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Kevin Tejada: but I didn't have time to, you know, middle of the day, go to the gym, (04:27):
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Kevin Tejada: work out a bit, run, and then go eat and then go back to the, you know, to the office. (04:32):
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Speaker2: To my cubicle. (04:37):
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Kevin Tejada: I didn't have time to do all that shit and go swim in the pool. (04:38):
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Kevin Tejada: So I just didn't, I just didn't do it. Over two years working at that place (04:42):
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Kevin Tejada: and I didn't really use the pool. That's fucking stupid. it. (04:46):
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Speaker2: So a few months ago. (04:50):
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Kevin Tejada: I'm, you know, I became more open switching up my cardio. Like, (04:51):
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Kevin Tejada: yeah, running is cool. It's helpful, but you know what? Cardio is cardio. (04:55):
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Kevin Tejada: Swimming is cool. I don't have a pool at home, so let's try this out. (04:59):
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Kevin Tejada: So I switched my running to swimming and it's been fucking great. (05:03):
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Kevin Tejada: When I go to work, I get to use a pool and I get to use a sauna because I opened (05:08):
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Kevin Tejada: myself up to not being so fucking rigid. (05:11):
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Kevin Tejada: I also have the flexibility to, you know, choose to run Certain times instead (05:14):
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Kevin Tejada: of swim I don't often like to do that Because swimming is way way way more fun (05:18):
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Kevin Tejada: than running But I can if I want to I have that flexibility now (05:22):
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Kevin Tejada: I was suffering from rigidity for quite a while and I was missing out on using (05:27):
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Kevin Tejada: a fucking pool indoor, heated, because I was so rigid with my fitness schedule (05:30):
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Kevin Tejada: at that time that I just neglected to even try that stuff out. (05:36):
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Kevin Tejada: Imagine missing out on swimming in a pool literally just because, (05:42):
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Kevin Tejada: well, I've been doing this and I don't want to stop doing this. How silly. (05:45):
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Kevin Tejada: Even even more recently this was the case my workout schedule was monday wednesday thursday (05:50):
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Kevin Tejada: which yes leaves friday saturday and sunday without exercise which is a bit (05:58):
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Kevin Tejada: long but you know that's mostly a problem for other people because that's not (06:02):
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Kevin Tejada: an asshole but my discipline makes it so i can just i can work out like three (06:07):
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Kevin Tejada: days in a row and just not work out the other four days and i'll be fine i'm (06:10):
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Kevin Tejada: not gonna fuck up my habits now ideally if you can work out three days in a row, (06:14):
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Kevin Tejada: full body like I do, you're probably not doing it, you know, (06:18):
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Kevin Tejada: in a way that's challenging enough. (06:22):
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Kevin Tejada: But what I'm saying in general is I'm okay to have the bigger, (06:23):
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Kevin Tejada: the bigger breaks. I wouldn't recommend that to others when you're just starting out. (06:26):
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Kevin Tejada: That's gonna fuck up your consistency in the recovery timing. (06:29):
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Kevin Tejada: But I'm being honest on here, Monday, Wednesday, Thursday, Wednesday or Thursday (06:33):
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Kevin Tejada: would be kind of like a cardio-ish day or an easier day. (06:38):
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Kevin Tejada: For example, working out a bit and running or swimming. And that's how it was (06:41):
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Kevin Tejada: for basically two years. (06:45):
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Kevin Tejada: And I planned that around my office schedule, right? But then my office schedule (06:47):
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Kevin Tejada: has recently changed because of boomers and return office bullshit, (06:51):
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Kevin Tejada: blah, blah, blah, right? (06:55):
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Kevin Tejada: So instead of panicking and making myself suffer a bit by trying to stick to (06:56):
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Kevin Tejada: this, even though it wouldn't work as well as before, I became flexible. (07:00):
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Kevin Tejada: I changed my workout schedule. (07:05):
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Kevin Tejada: Now it's Tuesday and Wednesday, the days I go in. (07:08):
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Kevin Tejada: And then Friday, Saturday, or Sunday, I just choose whatever as the other workout day. (07:11):
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Kevin Tejada: Yes, not only was I flexible enough to change my workout schedule, (07:17):
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Kevin Tejada: I was flexible enough to build in flexibility into the schedule itself. (07:20):
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Kevin Tejada: And you know what? It's fine. I used to also do this with the time of day. (07:25):
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Kevin Tejada: For a very long time, I would just not eat until I exercised. (07:30):
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Kevin Tejada: And whether, you know, I would exercise at 10 a.m. or 2 p.m., whatever. (07:33):
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Kevin Tejada: I can only eat afterwards because I liked exercising fasted because I, (07:39):
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Kevin Tejada: you know, when I was on track in high school, I was a fat kid on track. (07:44):
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Kevin Tejada: And if I ate at a certain time and I would run, I'd feel like, (07:48):
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Kevin Tejada: oh, man, I got to stop running. I feel horrible. (07:51):
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Kevin Tejada: So I could feel all the food beside me, right? Now, it's not the case these days. (07:55):
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Kevin Tejada: Exercise i can eat and then go work out (07:58):
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Kevin Tejada: an hour or two later and be totally fine but for (08:01):
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Kevin Tejada: a long period of time i just didn't allow that because that's just (08:05):
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Kevin Tejada: how i was doing it but also fairly recently i'm like oh yeah i can just eat (08:07):
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Kevin Tejada: a bit in the morning if i want to and just be totally fine when i go to exercise (08:12):
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Kevin Tejada: i'm not going to feel bloated or heavy or whatever a lot a lot of this rigidity (08:16):
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Kevin Tejada: comes from being an adult essentially because i'm i'm realizing now that becoming more (08:20):
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Kevin Tejada: Flexible, it's kind of like becoming more childish in a way. (08:26):
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Kevin Tejada: You know, when you were a kid, you would just roll with the punches a bit more. (08:29):
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Kevin Tejada: If you were to go to recess, you know, the certain parts of the playground weren't (08:34):
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Kevin Tejada: available, certain toys weren't available. It's like, whatever, (08:37):
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Kevin Tejada: you would just do something else, right? (08:40):
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Speaker2: Same for this situation. (08:42):
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Kevin Tejada: You know, I can't eat at this time, whatever, it's fine. Or if I can only eat (08:43):
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Kevin Tejada: at this time, fine, whatever. I can just make... (08:47):
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Kevin Tejada: The time that I go exercise is a bit different. It's a skill to be able to say, (08:50):
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Kevin Tejada: whatever, I'll deal with it. (08:55):
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Kevin Tejada: A skill I highly recommend developing. (08:57):
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Kevin Tejada: This messes with a lot of people, especially adults, like I'm saying. (09:00):
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Kevin Tejada: Children are a lot more flexible than adults. I mean this physically and in terms of their habits. (09:03):
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Kevin Tejada: A lot of adults, they're kind of set in their ways, especially as they get older. (09:08):
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Kevin Tejada: And it works to their detriment because a lot of their ways are not great. (09:12):
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Kevin Tejada: Sometimes they're inefficient to begin with but over time they can become obsolete (09:17):
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Kevin Tejada: you know maybe the best way of doing this habit just doesn't work anymore and (09:22):
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Kevin Tejada: you have to be open to evolving and changing but if you're not open to that (09:27):
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Kevin Tejada: you're just fucking yourself over for no reason (09:30):
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Kevin Tejada: Stagnation is death remember that and for some people this goes even deeper (09:33):
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Kevin Tejada: it goes mental some people literally don't want to lose weight because in their (09:37):
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Kevin Tejada: mind they're inflexible with their identity. (09:41):
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Kevin Tejada: They're thinking, I'm the fat guy. (09:44):
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Kevin Tejada: I don't want to lose weight. That's weird. It won't be me anymore. (09:46):
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Kevin Tejada: I'm the chubby guy. I'm the fat guy. (09:49):
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Kevin Tejada: Guy who's going to die at 55 due to a heart attack. (09:51):
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Kevin Tejada: That's them. They don't want to change. They're not open to it. (09:54):
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Kevin Tejada: In fact, there was actually one point in time where this was me. (09:57):
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Kevin Tejada: I remember in high school, I was at my fattest, 244. (10:01):
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Kevin Tejada: That's in pounds. If you're European or something, that was 111 kilograms. (10:06):
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Kevin Tejada: I remember thinking at one point, you know what? I'm just going to be the fat (10:12):
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Kevin Tejada: guy. This is who I am. I'm very overweight. Losing weight seems tough. (10:15):
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Kevin Tejada: I'm just going to, this is just me now. I'm just going to stay fat. That's me. (10:20):
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Kevin Tejada: It took my friend telling me that he lost about 90 pounds to break me out of that mindset. (10:24):
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Kevin Tejada: Thankfully, mentally, I was open to that kind of information that kind of changed. (10:32):
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Kevin Tejada: I knew, hey, it was possible for this normal guy to lose weight. (10:37):
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Kevin Tejada: That means I can do it too. You know what? I kind of want to do it. (10:43):
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Kevin Tejada: So I'm going to change my mindset. (10:46):
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Kevin Tejada: I'm going to be a guy who is losing weight instead of the fat guy. (10:48):
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Kevin Tejada: I'm glad I did. So I was able to move on, become fit and help out a lot of other (10:52):
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Kevin Tejada: people lose weight too. So that's great. (10:56):
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Kevin Tejada: But if I wasn't open, if I was inflexible, if I was rigid in the mind, I would have stayed fat. (10:59):
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Kevin Tejada: I wouldn't have been open to it. And then ironically enough, (11:04):
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Kevin Tejada: my body would become, it would evolve over time into a much fatter, (11:07):
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Kevin Tejada: much more unhealthy form. (11:13):
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Kevin Tejada: Anyway, enough about me for now. Let's get into some numbers. (11:16):
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Kevin Tejada: In a study at Google, employees with very rigid exercise schedules were 10% (11:19):
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Kevin Tejada: less likely to actually visit the gym at least once a week after the incentives ended, (11:26):
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Kevin Tejada: compared to a 5% decline for people with flexible schedules. (11:31):
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Kevin Tejada: So the moral of that little story is that most people just give up in general. (11:36):
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Kevin Tejada: But if you're more flexible, you're less likely to give up because you're less (11:42):
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Kevin Tejada: likely to run into these seemingly insurmountable roadblocks in your progress. (11:46):
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Kevin Tejada: If you think, oh, there's an obstacle, I can maneuver around it. (11:51):
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Kevin Tejada: Then you're more likely to stick with the overall goal because you know that (11:55):
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Kevin Tejada: you can adapt to the obstacles. (11:58):
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Kevin Tejada: If you're not open to that, you will probably just stop. Research shows that (12:01):
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Kevin Tejada: individuals adopting flexible dieting strategies have a stronger correlation (12:05):
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Kevin Tejada: with the absence of overeating. And that's interesting. (12:10):
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Kevin Tejada: My take on this is if you are open to changing up the way you eat, (12:14):
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Kevin Tejada: when you eat, all this kind of stuff, you're more focused on the overall end (12:19):
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Kevin Tejada: goal, as in maybe losing 20 pounds or something like that. (12:23):
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Kevin Tejada: There are many ways to do that. I mean, there's only one way, (12:26):
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Kevin Tejada: eating at a caloric deficit. but how that looks in your day-to-day life. (12:29):
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Kevin Tejada: There are many ways to achieve that. (12:33):
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Kevin Tejada: For example, you can eat one huge meal throughout the day. (12:35):
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Kevin Tejada: You can eat a lot of small meals throughout the day. You can eat in the morning (12:39):
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Kevin Tejada: and wait a long time at night. (12:41):
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Kevin Tejada: You can intermittent fast, just eat three square meals a day, all this kind of stuff. (12:43):
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Kevin Tejada: There's a lot of ways to get there. Now, if you're really rigid with that, (12:48):
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Kevin Tejada: that kind of eating schedule or what you're eating, (12:52):
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Kevin Tejada: if things don't go the way that you expect, you might panic, (12:56):
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Kevin Tejada: maybe you overeat, maybe you binge one time to make up for something, whatever it is. (13:01):
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Speaker2: If you have. (13:05):
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Kevin Tejada: Your eyes on the prize of weight loss, (13:05):
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Speaker2: A lot of different ways. (13:08):
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Kevin Tejada: To get there. So you're not gonna panic. (13:09):
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Speaker2: At two years in. (13:12):
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Kevin Tejada: In this study, flexible restraint was one of the strongest predictors of weight loss maintenance. (13:13):
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Kevin Tejada: Basically saying, if you can deal with what life throws at you, (13:18):
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Kevin Tejada: you'll always be able to maintain or even lose your weight. (13:22):
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Kevin Tejada: If you're unable to deal with what life throws your way You're gonna fucking (13:24):
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Kevin Tejada: struggle You're gonna panic So how do you deal with rigidity and flexibility (13:29):
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Kevin Tejada: I still don't know what the hell I'm gonna call this episode Maybe I do a slash title (13:33):
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Speaker2: Who knows Anyway. (13:38):
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Kevin Tejada: How do you deal with this? Well, become more flexible That's it, basically (13:40):
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Kevin Tejada: Have a plan B, have a plan C, have a plan D. (13:45):
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Kevin Tejada: Try that out. You can argue those are other forms of rigidity in a way, (13:50):
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Kevin Tejada: because if you don't do this, you're definitely going to do this or whatever. (13:55):
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Kevin Tejada: But if you have multiple plans or at least ideas of how to get where you want (13:57):
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Kevin Tejada: to get to, you'll be more flexible. (14:00):
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Kevin Tejada: Don't just follow one approach to getting somewhere. (14:03):
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Kevin Tejada: If you want to be fit don't just say okay i need to you know (14:06):
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Kevin Tejada: monday pushing exercises wednesday pulling (14:10):
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Kevin Tejada: friday legs no be open (14:13):
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Kevin Tejada: monday full body wednesday cardio friday full body again whatever be open to (14:16):
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Kevin Tejada: changing up to days of the week be open to what kind of cardio you do maybe (14:22):
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Kevin Tejada: you want to stick a jump rope in your gym bag it gives you the option to do (14:27):
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Kevin Tejada: that at any point you do cardio every day a little bit. (14:31):
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Kevin Tejada: That way, if your timing changes due to real life, then you can adjust. (14:34):
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Kevin Tejada: But if your schedule is, oh, I'm going to be super rigid Monday, (14:39):
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Kevin Tejada: Wednesday, Friday, this, this, this, you can't do it, then it's like, oh, shit. (14:43):
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Kevin Tejada: Well, I guess the plan for this week is ruined or I just didn't get to do this (14:47):
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Kevin Tejada: this day because I couldn't do my rigid workout. (14:50):
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Kevin Tejada: I couldn't do 10 fucking bicep exercises because I'm stupid. (14:52):
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Kevin Tejada: So I guess I just won't work out today. (14:57):
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Kevin Tejada: Have multiple backup plans and have different ways to get to the goal focus on the goal this (14:59):
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Speaker2: Is a big. (15:04):
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Kevin Tejada: Part of uh ender's game the book i don't (15:04):
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Kevin Tejada: know why but i'm going to get into this a little bit this uh this very popular (15:08):
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Kevin Tejada: sci-fi book called ender's game about child soldiers and the main character (15:11):
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Kevin Tejada: ender he is leading he has a team he has a platoon what that he puts into sub (15:16):
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Kevin Tejada: platoons of like four platoons of five people or five platoons of four people (15:22):
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Kevin Tejada: whatever it is now the other teams they They were very rigid. (15:27):
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Kevin Tejada: This is such a fucking tangent. The other teams were very rigid. They had strict orders. (15:31):
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Kevin Tejada: They had strict plays, game plans, very specific tactics that they would act out. (15:36):
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Kevin Tejada: So when things didn't go according to their plan, they were fucked. (15:42):
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Kevin Tejada: Ender, on the other hand, did not do that. With all his little subplatoon leaders, (15:46):
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Kevin Tejada: he would say, this is the goal you have to achieve. Think in terms of the goal. (15:50):
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Kevin Tejada: Whatever you got to do with your guys to get there, that's what's going to work. (15:54):
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Kevin Tejada: So just do that. I trust you. (15:58):
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Kevin Tejada: This gave them the freedom to adapt quite a (16:00):
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Kevin Tejada: lot in their combat scenarios you know i live in (16:03):
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Kevin Tejada: chicago so there's uh there's sirens every day (16:05):
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Kevin Tejada: there was a full ass minute of a siren blasting (16:08):
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Kevin Tejada: just now now if i were a really rigid person i would (16:12):
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Kevin Tejada: just end the recording and start over again right but no i'm open (16:15):
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Kevin Tejada: i'm flexible i've learned how to edit so i'm (16:18):
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Kevin Tejada: good now now going back to to ender (16:21):
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Kevin Tejada: and his platoons now they had a lot of success with (16:24):
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Kevin Tejada: that strategy and that's what i implore you to try out think about the end goal (16:27):
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Kevin Tejada: the way that you get there be open to changing evolving adjusting adapting don't (16:31):
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Kevin Tejada: just say this is the game plan this is it if i go off the rails i don't know (16:37):
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Kevin Tejada: what i'm gonna do you're gonna fail if that happens anyway as i've said i've missed out on (16:40):
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Kevin Tejada: not going to six flags not using a pool for a long time because i was just like (16:46):
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Kevin Tejada: oh i need to exercise this way at this time because i was fucking stupid let (16:51):
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Kevin Tejada: me know in the comments what have you missed out on because of your inflexibility, (16:55):
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Kevin Tejada: your inability to change? I'm really curious. (16:59):
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Kevin Tejada: And I really hope you make it. See you next time. (17:02):
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Kevin Tejada: but it's going to be something like rigidity or inflexibility. (00:31):
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Kevin Tejada: And no, I'm not talking about literal inflexibility as in you can't stretch properly. (00:34):
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Kevin Tejada: Although that might be a future episode. I'm talking about the inability to adapt. (00:40):
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Kevin Tejada: And this is in regards to exercise or weight loss or whatever it is. (00:46):
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Kevin Tejada: This is kind of a subset of a perfectionism where it's an all or nothing approach. (00:50):
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Kevin Tejada: Any deviation is like a cause for alarm. It's panic. It's everything's falling apart. (00:55):
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Kevin Tejada: It's not accounting for real life. And I'm someone who suffered from this a (01:00):
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Kevin Tejada: lot as recently as last year. (01:04):
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Kevin Tejada: And even way, way, way before that. I remember in college about, (01:07):
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Kevin Tejada: I don't know, 12, 13 years ago, I lived close to my college and I was a commuter. (01:12):
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Kevin Tejada: So I was able to just go over there and use the gym basically anytime, (01:17):
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Kevin Tejada: even though I didn't live on campus. That was great. (01:21):
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Kevin Tejada: I was so disciplined as well. I went to the gym Monday, Wednesday, Friday without fail. (01:25):
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Kevin Tejada: Unless of course the gym was closed and they didn't tell commuters because fuck commuters. (01:31):
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Kevin Tejada: That was more common than you think actually. (01:35):
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Speaker2: But it was great. (01:37):
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Kevin Tejada: I had the discipline down. I was going no matter what. (01:38):
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Kevin Tejada: But I regret that. I don't regret the discipline I had, but I regret following it to that degree. (01:42):
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Kevin Tejada: I was too rigid. I was not flexible enough with my goals. (01:49):
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Kevin Tejada: And what happened was I missed out on going to have fun a lot. (01:52):
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Kevin Tejada: There are many, many times throughout the summer where my dad was like, (01:58):
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Kevin Tejada: hey, let's go to Six Flags today. (02:01):
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Kevin Tejada: I'm like, on Wednesday, I go to the gym. I can't go. I'm not going. (02:02):
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Kevin Tejada: I mean, part of that was I was still like kind of fat or pretty fat. (02:07):
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Kevin Tejada: And I didn't want to go to Hurricane Harbor and take my shirt off because I was fucking fat. (02:10):
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Kevin Tejada: I'd rather work towards, you know, shaping myself into something better. (02:15):
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Kevin Tejada: But that was fucking stupid. (02:19):
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Kevin Tejada: I could have just gone to the gym on Thursday, on Tuesday, on fucking Saturday. (02:21):
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Kevin Tejada: I missed out on going to Six Flags probably like, I want to say like 15 times (02:26):
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Kevin Tejada: because of this habit I had of not being flexible, sticking to my guns way, way, way too much (02:31):
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Speaker2: To the point of. (02:40):
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Kevin Tejada: Detriment. Now, being disciplined and having a strict habit can be really good, (02:40):
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Kevin Tejada: but not being able to adjust due to real life is not good. (02:47):
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Kevin Tejada: By the way, if you're listening and you have no idea what Six Flags is for some (02:52):
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Kevin Tejada: reason, it's a very popular amusement park with a nearby or attached water park (02:55):
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Kevin Tejada: called Hurricane Harbor. (03:01):
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Kevin Tejada: I can't be assuming people know what the hell I'm talking about. (03:03):
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Kevin Tejada: Now, moving on to other people besides myself, a lot of people deal with this in terms of their diet. (03:06):
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Kevin Tejada: They're very rigid with it. They're, you know, again, I'm going to shit on carnivore diet. (03:11):
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Kevin Tejada: They're like, oh, I can only eat meat and butter or whatever the hell it is. (03:15):
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Kevin Tejada: And that's how it is. They're not open to any kind of change, (03:19):
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Kevin Tejada: not open to any kind of adaptability. (03:22):
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Kevin Tejada: You're just going to stick to it no matter what. Again, having this discipline can be really, (03:24):
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Speaker2: Really, really, really helpful. (03:30):
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Kevin Tejada: But real life calls for flexibility often so (03:31):
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Kevin Tejada: if you're on the carnivore diet and you're eating at a middle middle eastern (03:35):
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Kevin Tejada: place and they ran out of meat for some reason eat the fucking falafels it's (03:39):
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Kevin Tejada: fine you need to be able to make that adjustment you could be missing out on (03:43):
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Kevin Tejada: some great stuff like for myself for my day job i work in it at a university (03:47):
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Kevin Tejada: guess what colleges have on campus. They have gyms. (03:54):
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Speaker2: Sometimes they have pools. (03:58):
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Kevin Tejada: Now I have a hybrid schedule. So I go into the office sometimes. (04:00):
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Kevin Tejada: And since they have an indoor track as well, I'm thinking, oh man, (04:04):
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Kevin Tejada: I need to use that track every time I go in. (04:07):
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Kevin Tejada: Because if I'm only going in once per week, that'd be a great way to get cardio, (04:12):
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Kevin Tejada: run around the track, right? (04:15):
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Kevin Tejada: I was very strict about that for about a year, which is cool. (04:16):
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Kevin Tejada: I forced myself to run for a year and not on a treadmill. So awesome, right? (04:20):
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Kevin Tejada: Not awesome because I had a pool and I wanted to swim in it, (04:25):
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Kevin Tejada: but I didn't have time to, you know, middle of the day, go to the gym, (04:27):
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Kevin Tejada: work out a bit, run, and then go eat and then go back to the, you know, to the office. (04:32):
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Speaker2: To my cubicle. (04:37):
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Kevin Tejada: I didn't have time to do all that shit and go swim in the pool. (04:38):
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Kevin Tejada: So I just didn't, I just didn't do it. Over two years working at that place (04:42):
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Kevin Tejada: and I didn't really use the pool. That's fucking stupid. it. (04:46):
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Speaker2: So a few months ago. (04:50):
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Kevin Tejada: I'm, you know, I became more open switching up my cardio. Like, (04:51):
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Kevin Tejada: yeah, running is cool. It's helpful, but you know what? Cardio is cardio. (04:55):
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Kevin Tejada: Swimming is cool. I don't have a pool at home, so let's try this out. (04:59):
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Kevin Tejada: So I switched my running to swimming and it's been fucking great. (05:03):
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Kevin Tejada: When I go to work, I get to use a pool and I get to use a sauna because I opened (05:08):
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Kevin Tejada: myself up to not being so fucking rigid. (05:11):
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Kevin Tejada: I also have the flexibility to, you know, choose to run Certain times instead (05:14):
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Kevin Tejada: of swim I don't often like to do that Because swimming is way way way more fun (05:18):
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Kevin Tejada: than running But I can if I want to I have that flexibility now (05:22):
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Kevin Tejada: I was suffering from rigidity for quite a while and I was missing out on using (05:27):
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Kevin Tejada: a fucking pool indoor, heated, because I was so rigid with my fitness schedule (05:30):
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Kevin Tejada: at that time that I just neglected to even try that stuff out. (05:36):
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Kevin Tejada: Imagine missing out on swimming in a pool literally just because, (05:42):
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Kevin Tejada: well, I've been doing this and I don't want to stop doing this. How silly. (05:45):
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Kevin Tejada: Even even more recently this was the case my workout schedule was monday wednesday thursday (05:50):
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Kevin Tejada: which yes leaves friday saturday and sunday without exercise which is a bit (05:58):
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Kevin Tejada: long but you know that's mostly a problem for other people because that's not (06:02):
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Kevin Tejada: an asshole but my discipline makes it so i can just i can work out like three (06:07):
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Kevin Tejada: days in a row and just not work out the other four days and i'll be fine i'm (06:10):
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Kevin Tejada: not gonna fuck up my habits now ideally if you can work out three days in a row, (06:14):
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Kevin Tejada: full body like I do, you're probably not doing it, you know, (06:18):
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Kevin Tejada: in a way that's challenging enough. (06:22):
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Kevin Tejada: But what I'm saying in general is I'm okay to have the bigger, (06:23):
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Kevin Tejada: the bigger breaks. I wouldn't recommend that to others when you're just starting out. (06:26):
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Kevin Tejada: That's gonna fuck up your consistency in the recovery timing. (06:29):
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Kevin Tejada: But I'm being honest on here, Monday, Wednesday, Thursday, Wednesday or Thursday (06:33):
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Kevin Tejada: would be kind of like a cardio-ish day or an easier day. (06:38):
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Kevin Tejada: For example, working out a bit and running or swimming. And that's how it was (06:41):
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Kevin Tejada: for basically two years. (06:45):
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Kevin Tejada: And I planned that around my office schedule, right? But then my office schedule (06:47):
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Kevin Tejada: has recently changed because of boomers and return office bullshit, (06:51):
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Kevin Tejada: blah, blah, blah, right? (06:55):
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Kevin Tejada: So instead of panicking and making myself suffer a bit by trying to stick to (06:56):
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Kevin Tejada: this, even though it wouldn't work as well as before, I became flexible. (07:00):
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Kevin Tejada: I changed my workout schedule. (07:05):
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Kevin Tejada: Now it's Tuesday and Wednesday, the days I go in. (07:08):
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Kevin Tejada: And then Friday, Saturday, or Sunday, I just choose whatever as the other workout day. (07:11):
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Kevin Tejada: Yes, not only was I flexible enough to change my workout schedule, (07:17):
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Kevin Tejada: I was flexible enough to build in flexibility into the schedule itself. (07:20):
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Kevin Tejada: And you know what? It's fine. I used to also do this with the time of day. (07:25):
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Kevin Tejada: For a very long time, I would just not eat until I exercised. (07:30):
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Kevin Tejada: And whether, you know, I would exercise at 10 a.m. or 2 p.m., whatever. (07:33):
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Kevin Tejada: I can only eat afterwards because I liked exercising fasted because I, (07:39):
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Kevin Tejada: you know, when I was on track in high school, I was a fat kid on track. (07:44):
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Kevin Tejada: And if I ate at a certain time and I would run, I'd feel like, (07:48):
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Kevin Tejada: oh, man, I got to stop running. I feel horrible. (07:51):
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Kevin Tejada: So I could feel all the food beside me, right? Now, it's not the case these days. (07:55):
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Kevin Tejada: Exercise i can eat and then go work out (07:58):
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Kevin Tejada: an hour or two later and be totally fine but for (08:01):
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Kevin Tejada: a long period of time i just didn't allow that because that's just (08:05):
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Kevin Tejada: how i was doing it but also fairly recently i'm like oh yeah i can just eat (08:07):
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Kevin Tejada: a bit in the morning if i want to and just be totally fine when i go to exercise (08:12):
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Kevin Tejada: i'm not going to feel bloated or heavy or whatever a lot a lot of this rigidity (08:16):
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Kevin Tejada: comes from being an adult essentially because i'm i'm realizing now that becoming more (08:20):
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Kevin Tejada: Flexible, it's kind of like becoming more childish in a way. (08:26):
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Kevin Tejada: You know, when you were a kid, you would just roll with the punches a bit more. (08:29):
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Kevin Tejada: If you were to go to recess, you know, the certain parts of the playground weren't (08:34):
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Kevin Tejada: available, certain toys weren't available. It's like, whatever, (08:37):
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Kevin Tejada: you would just do something else, right? (08:40):
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Speaker2: Same for this situation. (08:42):
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Kevin Tejada: You know, I can't eat at this time, whatever, it's fine. Or if I can only eat (08:43):
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Kevin Tejada: at this time, fine, whatever. I can just make... (08:47):
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Kevin Tejada: The time that I go exercise is a bit different. It's a skill to be able to say, (08:50):
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Kevin Tejada: whatever, I'll deal with it. (08:55):
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Kevin Tejada: A skill I highly recommend developing. (08:57):
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Kevin Tejada: This messes with a lot of people, especially adults, like I'm saying. (09:00):
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Kevin Tejada: Children are a lot more flexible than adults. I mean this physically and in terms of their habits. (09:03):
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Kevin Tejada: A lot of adults, they're kind of set in their ways, especially as they get older. (09:08):
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Kevin Tejada: And it works to their detriment because a lot of their ways are not great. (09:12):
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Kevin Tejada: Sometimes they're inefficient to begin with but over time they can become obsolete (09:17):
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Kevin Tejada: you know maybe the best way of doing this habit just doesn't work anymore and (09:22):
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Kevin Tejada: you have to be open to evolving and changing but if you're not open to that (09:27):
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Kevin Tejada: you're just fucking yourself over for no reason (09:30):
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Kevin Tejada: Stagnation is death remember that and for some people this goes even deeper (09:33):
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Kevin Tejada: it goes mental some people literally don't want to lose weight because in their (09:37):
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Kevin Tejada: mind they're inflexible with their identity. (09:41):
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Kevin Tejada: They're thinking, I'm the fat guy. (09:44):
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Kevin Tejada: I don't want to lose weight. That's weird. It won't be me anymore. (09:46):
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Kevin Tejada: I'm the chubby guy. I'm the fat guy. (09:49):
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Kevin Tejada: Guy who's going to die at 55 due to a heart attack. (09:51):
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Kevin Tejada: That's them. They don't want to change. They're not open to it. (09:54):
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Kevin Tejada: In fact, there was actually one point in time where this was me. (09:57):
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Kevin Tejada: I remember in high school, I was at my fattest, 244. (10:01):
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Kevin Tejada: That's in pounds. If you're European or something, that was 111 kilograms. (10:06):
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Kevin Tejada: I remember thinking at one point, you know what? I'm just going to be the fat (10:12):
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Kevin Tejada: guy. This is who I am. I'm very overweight. Losing weight seems tough. (10:15):
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Kevin Tejada: I'm just going to, this is just me now. I'm just going to stay fat. That's me. (10:20):
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Kevin Tejada: It took my friend telling me that he lost about 90 pounds to break me out of that mindset. (10:24):
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Kevin Tejada: Thankfully, mentally, I was open to that kind of information that kind of changed. (10:32):
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Kevin Tejada: I knew, hey, it was possible for this normal guy to lose weight. (10:37):
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Kevin Tejada: That means I can do it too. You know what? I kind of want to do it. (10:43):
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Kevin Tejada: So I'm going to change my mindset. (10:46):
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Kevin Tejada: I'm going to be a guy who is losing weight instead of the fat guy. (10:48):
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Kevin Tejada: I'm glad I did. So I was able to move on, become fit and help out a lot of other (10:52):
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Kevin Tejada: people lose weight too. So that's great. (10:56):
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Kevin Tejada: But if I wasn't open, if I was inflexible, if I was rigid in the mind, I would have stayed fat. (10:59):
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Kevin Tejada: I wouldn't have been open to it. And then ironically enough, (11:04):
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Kevin Tejada: my body would become, it would evolve over time into a much fatter, (11:07):
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Kevin Tejada: much more unhealthy form. (11:13):
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Kevin Tejada: Anyway, enough about me for now. Let's get into some numbers. (11:16):
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Kevin Tejada: In a study at Google, employees with very rigid exercise schedules were 10% (11:19):
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Kevin Tejada: less likely to actually visit the gym at least once a week after the incentives ended, (11:26):
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Kevin Tejada: compared to a 5% decline for people with flexible schedules. (11:31):
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Kevin Tejada: So the moral of that little story is that most people just give up in general. (11:36):
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Kevin Tejada: But if you're more flexible, you're less likely to give up because you're less (11:42):
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Kevin Tejada: likely to run into these seemingly insurmountable roadblocks in your progress. (11:46):
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Kevin Tejada: If you think, oh, there's an obstacle, I can maneuver around it. (11:51):
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Kevin Tejada: Then you're more likely to stick with the overall goal because you know that (11:55):
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Kevin Tejada: you can adapt to the obstacles. (11:58):
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Kevin Tejada: If you're not open to that, you will probably just stop. Research shows that (12:01):
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Kevin Tejada: individuals adopting flexible dieting strategies have a stronger correlation (12:05):
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Kevin Tejada: with the absence of overeating. And that's interesting. (12:10):
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Kevin Tejada: My take on this is if you are open to changing up the way you eat, (12:14):
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Kevin Tejada: when you eat, all this kind of stuff, you're more focused on the overall end (12:19):
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Kevin Tejada: goal, as in maybe losing 20 pounds or something like that. (12:23):
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Kevin Tejada: There are many ways to do that. I mean, there's only one way, (12:26):
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Kevin Tejada: eating at a caloric deficit. but how that looks in your day-to-day life. (12:29):
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Kevin Tejada: There are many ways to achieve that. (12:33):
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Kevin Tejada: For example, you can eat one huge meal throughout the day. (12:35):
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Kevin Tejada: You can eat a lot of small meals throughout the day. You can eat in the morning (12:39):
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Kevin Tejada: and wait a long time at night. (12:41):
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Kevin Tejada: You can intermittent fast, just eat three square meals a day, all this kind of stuff. (12:43):
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Kevin Tejada: There's a lot of ways to get there. Now, if you're really rigid with that, (12:48):
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Kevin Tejada: that kind of eating schedule or what you're eating, (12:52):
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Kevin Tejada: if things don't go the way that you expect, you might panic, (12:56):
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Kevin Tejada: maybe you overeat, maybe you binge one time to make up for something, whatever it is. (13:01):
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Speaker2: If you have. (13:05):
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Kevin Tejada: Your eyes on the prize of weight loss, (13:05):
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Speaker2: A lot of different ways. (13:08):
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Kevin Tejada: To get there. So you're not gonna panic. (13:09):
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Speaker2: At two years in. (13:12):
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Kevin Tejada: In this study, flexible restraint was one of the strongest predictors of weight loss maintenance. (13:13):
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Kevin Tejada: Basically saying, if you can deal with what life throws at you, (13:18):
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Kevin Tejada: you'll always be able to maintain or even lose your weight. (13:22):
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Kevin Tejada: If you're unable to deal with what life throws your way You're gonna fucking (13:24):
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Kevin Tejada: struggle You're gonna panic So how do you deal with rigidity and flexibility (13:29):
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Kevin Tejada: I still don't know what the hell I'm gonna call this episode Maybe I do a slash title (13:33):
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Speaker2: Who knows Anyway. (13:38):
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Kevin Tejada: How do you deal with this? Well, become more flexible That's it, basically (13:40):
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Kevin Tejada: Have a plan B, have a plan C, have a plan D. (13:45):
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Kevin Tejada: Try that out. You can argue those are other forms of rigidity in a way, (13:50):
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Kevin Tejada: because if you don't do this, you're definitely going to do this or whatever. (13:55):
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Kevin Tejada: But if you have multiple plans or at least ideas of how to get where you want (13:57):
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Kevin Tejada: to get to, you'll be more flexible. (14:00):
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Kevin Tejada: Don't just follow one approach to getting somewhere. (14:03):
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Kevin Tejada: If you want to be fit don't just say okay i need to you know (14:06):
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Kevin Tejada: monday pushing exercises wednesday pulling (14:10):
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Kevin Tejada: friday legs no be open (14:13):
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Kevin Tejada: monday full body wednesday cardio friday full body again whatever be open to (14:16):
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Kevin Tejada: changing up to days of the week be open to what kind of cardio you do maybe (14:22):
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Kevin Tejada: you want to stick a jump rope in your gym bag it gives you the option to do (14:27):
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Kevin Tejada: that at any point you do cardio every day a little bit. (14:31):
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Kevin Tejada: That way, if your timing changes due to real life, then you can adjust. (14:34):
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Kevin Tejada: But if your schedule is, oh, I'm going to be super rigid Monday, (14:39):
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Kevin Tejada: Wednesday, Friday, this, this, this, you can't do it, then it's like, oh, shit. (14:43):
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Kevin Tejada: Well, I guess the plan for this week is ruined or I just didn't get to do this (14:47):
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Kevin Tejada: this day because I couldn't do my rigid workout. (14:50):
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Kevin Tejada: I couldn't do 10 fucking bicep exercises because I'm stupid. (14:52):
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Kevin Tejada: So I guess I just won't work out today. (14:57):
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Kevin Tejada: Have multiple backup plans and have different ways to get to the goal focus on the goal this (14:59):
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Speaker2: Is a big. (15:04):
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Kevin Tejada: Part of uh ender's game the book i don't (15:04):
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Kevin Tejada: know why but i'm going to get into this a little bit this uh this very popular (15:08):
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Kevin Tejada: sci-fi book called ender's game about child soldiers and the main character (15:11):
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Kevin Tejada: ender he is leading he has a team he has a platoon what that he puts into sub (15:16):
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Kevin Tejada: platoons of like four platoons of five people or five platoons of four people (15:22):
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Kevin Tejada: whatever it is now the other teams they They were very rigid. (15:27):
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Kevin Tejada: This is such a fucking tangent. The other teams were very rigid. They had strict orders. (15:31):
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Kevin Tejada: They had strict plays, game plans, very specific tactics that they would act out. (15:36):
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Kevin Tejada: So when things didn't go according to their plan, they were fucked. (15:42):
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Kevin Tejada: Ender, on the other hand, did not do that. With all his little subplatoon leaders, (15:46):
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Kevin Tejada: he would say, this is the goal you have to achieve. Think in terms of the goal. (15:50):
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Kevin Tejada: Whatever you got to do with your guys to get there, that's what's going to work. (15:54):
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Kevin Tejada: So just do that. I trust you. (15:58):
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Kevin Tejada: This gave them the freedom to adapt quite a (16:00):
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Kevin Tejada: lot in their combat scenarios you know i live in (16:03):
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Kevin Tejada: chicago so there's uh there's sirens every day (16:05):
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Kevin Tejada: there was a full ass minute of a siren blasting (16:08):
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Kevin Tejada: just now now if i were a really rigid person i would (16:12):
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Kevin Tejada: just end the recording and start over again right but no i'm open (16:15):
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Kevin Tejada: i'm flexible i've learned how to edit so i'm (16:18):
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Kevin Tejada: good now now going back to to ender (16:21):
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Kevin Tejada: and his platoons now they had a lot of success with (16:24):
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Kevin Tejada: that strategy and that's what i implore you to try out think about the end goal (16:27):
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Kevin Tejada: the way that you get there be open to changing evolving adjusting adapting don't (16:31):
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Kevin Tejada: just say this is the game plan this is it if i go off the rails i don't know (16:37):
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Kevin Tejada: what i'm gonna do you're gonna fail if that happens anyway as i've said i've missed out on (16:40):
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Kevin Tejada: not going to six flags not using a pool for a long time because i was just like (16:46):
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Kevin Tejada: oh i need to exercise this way at this time because i was fucking stupid let (16:51):
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Kevin Tejada: me know in the comments what have you missed out on because of your inflexibility, (16:55):
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Kevin Tejada: your inability to change? I'm really curious. (16:59):
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Kevin Tejada: And I really hope you make it. See you next time. (17:02):
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