June 3, 2025 • 21 mins
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Kevin Tejada:
You know those magical creatures, imps? I bet they have imp doctors too. (00:28):
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Kevin Tejada: Who do you think those imp doctors treat? (00:33):
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Kevin Tejada: Impatience! Yeah, that's the topic of the episode. I was going to do a bit where (00:36):
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Kevin Tejada: I was silent for a bit and then accuse you of being impatient, (00:41):
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Kevin Tejada: but this is an episode, so you think something's fucked up with the audio. (00:44):
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Kevin Tejada: So you get a shitty pun instead. (00:47):
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Kevin Tejada: Anyway, impatience is rampant in the weight loss and fitness community. (00:50):
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Kevin Tejada: It is honestly one of the biggest limiters. the biggest limit, (00:55):
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Kevin Tejada: one of my voice cracking, one of my 12, is the biggest limiters in achieving those goals. (00:58):
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Kevin Tejada: It's honestly one of the biggest limiters in achieving that goal, (01:04):
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Kevin Tejada: whether it's weight loss or fitness or whatever it is. (01:07):
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Kevin Tejada: And there are a bunch of reasons. A lot of people, first of all, (01:10):
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Kevin Tejada: have really weird expectations of how long something is supposed to take, (01:12):
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Kevin Tejada: how quickly it can happen. (01:16):
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Kevin Tejada: They're frustrated when things plateau for a bit or they don't have, (01:17):
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Kevin Tejada: you know, rapid progress. (01:22):
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Kevin Tejada: And a lot of people just want quick fixes, get fit quick schemes. (01:23):
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Kevin Tejada: They just want like a thing they can do instead of a change they can make. (01:29):
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Kevin Tejada: And these expectations due to impatience mess up a lot of people. (01:33):
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Kevin Tejada: This affected me a lot when I was losing a hundred pounds. (01:38):
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Kevin Tejada: I actually had maybe no frame of reference for how long it would take realistically. (01:42):
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Kevin Tejada: I did have a friend who kicked off the inspiration for me. He lost 90 pounds in a year. (01:47):
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Kevin Tejada: So maybe in the back of my mind, I'm thinking, wow, this should be much faster. (01:52):
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Kevin Tejada: But that's crazy shit what he did. Maybe it was two years. I don't know. (01:56):
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Kevin Tejada: Regardless, beyond him, I had no frame of reference for how long things should (02:00):
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Kevin Tejada: take normally. So it felt like it took a very, very long time. (02:04):
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Kevin Tejada: And I won't lie, it was frustrating at times. But I never gave up because Because (02:09):
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Kevin Tejada: the friend who lost a lot of weight, he showed me a regular ass guy can lose weight. (02:13):
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Kevin Tejada: So if I don't lose weight, that's on me. So I have to do it. (02:17):
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Kevin Tejada: Doesn't matter if it takes a long time. It can be done, which means I got to do it. (02:20):
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Kevin Tejada: Now, one of the biggest aids for me in having this patience was playing RPGs, (02:24):
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Kevin Tejada: playing video games where you would level up, grow your stats and become better over time. (02:30):
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Kevin Tejada: If you play video games, you probably understand what I'm talking about. when (02:37):
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Kevin Tejada: i say grinding is common if you (02:41):
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Kevin Tejada: don't know grinding in a video game is where you essentially redo certain (02:44):
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Kevin Tejada: areas or you fight certain enemies over and over (02:48):
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Kevin Tejada: again that you already defeated to get usually pretty (02:51):
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Kevin Tejada: small amounts of experience points so you can level up increase your stats get (02:54):
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Kevin Tejada: stronger before you move on to the next area this can help you out in terms (02:59):
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Kevin Tejada: of having an easier time when you enter that new area because oftentimes you (03:04):
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Kevin Tejada: enter a new area and things are hard as fuck right away so when you grind beforehand (03:07):
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Kevin Tejada: you are stronger than you normally, (03:11):
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Kevin Tejada: would have been and it's a bit easier a bit more manageable at least, (03:14):
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Kevin Tejada: Now, when you grind, this can take a long, long time. And guess what? (03:19):
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Kevin Tejada: None of that grinding matters until you level up. (03:23):
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Speaker1: So you could be (03:28):
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Kevin Tejada: Fighting these stupid monsters, going through this area all over again. (03:29):
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Kevin Tejada: You could be doing this for like an hour or more before you get where you want to get to. (03:32):
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Kevin Tejada: It can take a while before you actually see that level up notification. (03:37):
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Kevin Tejada: But between levels, when you're grinding, when you're fighting, when you're, you know, (03:42):
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Kevin Tejada: killing those monsters you get nothing absolutely (03:46):
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Kevin Tejada: nothing changes about your character until you level up (03:50):
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Kevin Tejada: so you have to be okay with grinding you have to be (03:53):
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Kevin Tejada: okay with doing this thing over and (03:56):
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Kevin Tejada: over and over and seeing nothing getting nothing for it so i was okay with that (03:59):
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Kevin Tejada: i mean i wasn't okay with it as in oh i'm totally fine and not upset or frustrated (04:04):
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Kevin Tejada: at all but i was used to it when i was younger no one really told me hey you're (04:09):
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Kevin Tejada: gonna have to put in a lot of work before you see any kind of progress whatsoever. (04:13):
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Kevin Tejada: I'm like, oh yeah, like grinding, right? (04:18):
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Kevin Tejada: Yeah, I've been there, done that. So that's why I was able to go through that. (04:20):
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Kevin Tejada: I did have patience built in from gaming as a younger lad. (04:25):
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Kevin Tejada: That's a pretty good skill, honestly. Not the, you know, spending 50 hours playing (04:30):
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Kevin Tejada: RPGs, but putting in work without seeing anything in terms of progress for a long, long time. (04:34):
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Kevin Tejada: That is such an important skill. (04:42):
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Kevin Tejada: That's an extra bit of patience Because in a lot of other things You put in the work and you see. (04:44):
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Kevin Tejada: Gradual progress, incremental Little progress here and there With grinding, (04:49):
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Kevin Tejada: you see jack shit until you level up With weight loss, it feels the same You (04:53):
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Kevin Tejada: see jack shit until You notice your watch getting a bit looser You hit a certain milestone in the weight, (04:58):
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Kevin Tejada: You look at pictures of yourself when you were first starting out with the weight loss compared to now. (05:04):
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Kevin Tejada: That's where you see the main difference. But when you're in it, (05:10):
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Kevin Tejada: when you're grinding, you feel nothing. (05:13):
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Kevin Tejada: You feel no progress happening at all. That's why those stats are important. (05:15):
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Kevin Tejada: That's why patience is important. Now, this whole problem is exacerbated heavily by social media. (05:20):
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Kevin Tejada: People just straight up fucking lying online. (05:26):
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Kevin Tejada: Unlying. talking about how quickly they accomplish certain things or whatever. (05:30):
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Kevin Tejada: Now, obviously, a lot of people are telling the truth. Yeah, (05:35):
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Kevin Tejada: I did this in this amount of time. Sure. Some people are not, though. (05:37):
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Kevin Tejada: Some of them use a lot of filters, a lot of really nice lighting to kind of (05:41):
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Kevin Tejada: exaggerate their points a bit. So my point is a lot of people, they think, wow. (05:45):
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Speaker1: I should be (05:49):
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Kevin Tejada: Making a shit ton of progress pretty quickly, according to these guys online. (05:50):
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Kevin Tejada: But that's not the case. Things actually usually take longer than you expect. (05:54):
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Kevin Tejada: But a lot of people are not patient enough for that because they (05:59):
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Kevin Tejada: have a skewed view of how long things (06:02):
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Kevin Tejada: should take or how quickly this should happen due to (06:05):
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Kevin Tejada: the power of editing you guys wouldn't know (06:09):
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Kevin Tejada: it but i exercised extreme patience just now as (06:12):
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Kevin Tejada: i'm in chicago and i had to wait a full (06:15):
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Kevin Tejada: fucking 30 seconds for all the sirens to pass by my window you know i hear that (06:18):
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Kevin Tejada: fire truck basically every day but i i never hear or see anything about fires (06:23):
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Kevin Tejada: around here so i don't know i don't know where they're going honestly but anyways (06:27):
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Kevin Tejada: i had patience instead of just talking over the siren and possibly fucking up (06:31):
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Kevin Tejada: the audio so patience helps with uh podcasting too. (06:35):
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Kevin Tejada: Anyway, these expectations that people have due to social media and other shit, (06:39):
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Kevin Tejada: people are taking advantage of that, of course. (06:43):
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Kevin Tejada: A lot of fitness abs, fitness programs, whatever they are, they promise rapid (06:45):
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Kevin Tejada: weight loss. Now, here's the thing. (06:50):
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Kevin Tejada: If someone ever says, oh, you'll lose 10 pounds in a month or blah, (06:52):
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Kevin Tejada: blah, blah, they're full of shit because you can't know how quickly someone (06:57):
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Kevin Tejada: will lose weight unless you already have their their stats, unless you know (07:02):
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Kevin Tejada: how much they weigh already. (07:05):
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Kevin Tejada: Because, yeah, some people could lose 10 pounds in a month, maybe a bit more (07:07):
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Kevin Tejada: because some people are just that overweight where that big of a deficit. (07:10):
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Kevin Tejada: It's not going to be it's not going to it's not going to be dangerous for them, (07:14):
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Kevin Tejada: at least not to begin with. (07:17):
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Kevin Tejada: But if someone says, let's say, oh, you can lose, you know, a pound or so per week. (07:19):
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Kevin Tejada: Yes, pretty much anyone on this planet, they can they can deal with like a three (07:26):
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Kevin Tejada: to five hundred calorie deficit per day. It's about a pound a week. (07:30):
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Kevin Tejada: That is legit. anything way beyond that (07:34):
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Kevin Tejada: you cannot possibly say without knowing the person now if you're (07:37):
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Kevin Tejada: targeting people who are extremely overweight with (07:40):
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Kevin Tejada: that messaging then maybe that can be true too because again they (07:43):
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Kevin Tejada: have such a such an excess of weight that that big of a deficit you know it (07:45):
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Kevin Tejada: could it could work for a bit point being though if if you're kind of a bit (07:50):
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Kevin Tejada: overweight and someone's saying oh you're gonna lose fucking 15 pounds in a (07:55):
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Kevin Tejada: month you're gonna die if you follow that that's It's not, it's not legit, not realistic. (07:59):
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Kevin Tejada: Probably just a marketing lie to begin with, to be honest. (08:04):
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Kevin Tejada: This leads to a lot of people yo-yoing. If you don't know, yo-yo dieting is (08:07):
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Kevin Tejada: basically, well, it doesn't have to be dieting necessarily, but yo-yoing with your weight is going up. (08:11):
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Kevin Tejada: Like a yo-yo goes up and down. It's the weight going up and down because you (08:17):
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Kevin Tejada: keep changing your habits. (08:21):
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Kevin Tejada: You keep trying these things. They may work temporarily, but then they don't (08:23):
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Kevin Tejada: work long-term because they're not sustainable habit changes. (08:25):
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Kevin Tejada: But you're too impatient to actually try that. So you're going to go back and try something else. (08:29):
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Kevin Tejada: Might work for a little bit, but then it's not sustainable. Then you go back (08:32):
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Kevin Tejada: up and wait, blah, blah, blah. (08:35):
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Kevin Tejada: You get it. now most people who suffer from impatience are (08:36):
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Kevin Tejada: beginners because they just don't know any better they (08:40):
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Kevin Tejada: just don't know how long things take in general they may (08:43):
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Kevin Tejada: see an extremely fit fit juicy (08:45):
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Kevin Tejada: guy and they're thinking yeah i can get there in about three months yeah (08:49):
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Kevin Tejada: no motherfucker that'll take (08:51):
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Kevin Tejada: you years probably almost definitely they think (08:54):
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Kevin Tejada: of the same for for weight loss oh yeah yeah if i actually try i (08:57):
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Kevin Tejada: could lose weight really quickly i could drop these these uh (09:00):
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Kevin Tejada: 30 pounds in like uh you know a month or two no and (09:03):
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Kevin Tejada: if you do you're about to die because you went on an insane (09:08):
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Kevin Tejada: deficit or you started off really you know really obese (09:11):
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Kevin Tejada: in which case that's fine even though that (09:14):
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Kevin Tejada: even then that's that's a lot 30 pounds in a month that's you're doing something (09:16):
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Kevin Tejada: fucked up there but a lot of beginners due to these expectations they have impatience (09:20):
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Kevin Tejada: because they just they just don't know better they don't know that they need (09:25):
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Kevin Tejada: the patience to see this whole thing through and And impatience affects people with huge goals as well. (09:29):
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Kevin Tejada: Let's say you want to lose 100 pounds like I did. Now, if you do it correctly, (09:36):
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Kevin Tejada: if you do it like robotically, you could lose 100 pounds in. (09:40):
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Speaker1: About two years. (09:44):
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Kevin Tejada: Maybe even a bit less, right? Now, real life happens. Maybe it'll take a bit longer. (09:45):
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Kevin Tejada: For me, I didn't know what the fuck I was doing. So it took me, (09:50):
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Kevin Tejada: I don't even know, five to six-ish years to lose 100 pounds. (09:53):
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Kevin Tejada: I didn't figure out what I was doing until the very end, basically, with the nutrition. (09:57):
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Kevin Tejada: But if you would have told me ahead of time, hey, it's going to lose. (10:02):
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Kevin Tejada: It's going to take about six years for you to lose 100 pounds. (10:05):
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Kevin Tejada: My impatience would have, it might have prevented me from even trying. (10:08):
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Kevin Tejada: Because while I did say I do have patience in terms of grinding, (10:12):
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Kevin Tejada: when you put it out there at the beginning, hey. (10:15):
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Speaker1: It's going to be (10:17):
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Kevin Tejada: Six years before you do this. It's like, that's more than going to college. (10:17):
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Kevin Tejada: What the fuck? Maybe it was five years. I don't remember. (10:21):
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Speaker1: I don't know, (10:25):
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Kevin Tejada: Somewhere between four and seven. I really don't remember. I'll say five to (10:25):
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Kevin Tejada: six, something like that. (10:29):
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Kevin Tejada: But it can be daunting because at the beginning you want something. (10:30):
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Kevin Tejada: The reason you're even starting this goal to begin with is because you want it. (10:34):
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Kevin Tejada: So someone's telling you, hey, there's going to be a lot of time between now and then. (10:38):
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Kevin Tejada: Impatience, inevitably, it's gonna it's gonna pop up in your head (10:43):
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Kevin Tejada: a bit like oh but i want this thing i'd want (10:45):
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Kevin Tejada: it as soon as soon as possible but you're telling me it's gonna (10:48):
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Kevin Tejada: take a long time this much time oh my god i don't want to do this shit so if (10:52):
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Kevin Tejada: you have a big goal and you have to find out how long it's gonna take and patience (10:56):
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Kevin Tejada: kicks in and might stop you from even trying and there are a lot of people who (11:00):
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Kevin Tejada: have unrealistic goals sometimes too this is a very common thing back in my (11:04):
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Kevin Tejada: days as a trainer Even now, (11:07):
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Kevin Tejada: as a coach, people would say, oh, man, I want to get ready for this wedding, this event. (11:09):
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Kevin Tejada: OK, so you want to lose, you know, 25 pounds for this event. (11:15):
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Kevin Tejada: OK, cool. When is it? Two months. (11:18):
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Kevin Tejada: Well, that's not happening. People get upset when you tell them that. (11:21):
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Speaker1: It can happen (11:25):
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Kevin Tejada: If you want to get liposuction. You got time for it, I think. (11:26):
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Kevin Tejada: But if you're talking real weight loss. (11:29):
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Speaker1: That shouldn't happen. (11:30):
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Kevin Tejada: You need to understand that just because you set your mind on wanting something (11:32):
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Kevin Tejada: doesn't mean it's going to happen by the time you want it. (11:36):
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Kevin Tejada: That's what fucks a lot of people (11:39):
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Kevin Tejada: up. This bratty attitude where they want something, but they want it now. (11:40):
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Kevin Tejada: If it doesn't happen now, well, they freak out or they think they might as well not try. (11:45):
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Kevin Tejada: And it's odd too when they're talking about, you know, I want to get in shape (11:49):
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Kevin Tejada: for this wedding or vacation. (11:52):
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Kevin Tejada: Guess what? That's happening way too soon for you to make that kind of change. (11:54):
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Kevin Tejada: And the really weird thing is that for some people, if they don't manage to (11:59):
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Kevin Tejada: hit this goal in time, they just don't continue. (12:02):
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Kevin Tejada: I want to lose 30 pounds for this wedding. I only lost 10. (12:06):
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Kevin Tejada: Well, fuck it. What kind of mindset is that? Just keep losing weight for your (12:10):
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Kevin Tejada: life, not for the fucking wedding or vacation. Just keep on doing it. (12:15):
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Speaker1: What are you, stupid? (12:18):
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Kevin Tejada: Anyway, let's get some numbers in here. Some of these are crazy. (12:20):
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Kevin Tejada: 73% of people who set fitness goals (12:24):
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Kevin Tejada: expect significant visible results (12:27):
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Kevin Tejada: within the first two weeks that's crazy (12:30):
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Kevin Tejada: so three-fourths of people are fucking stupid that's (12:34):
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Kevin Tejada: insane but not that surprising and by (12:37):
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Kevin Tejada: the way most physical change it takes like six weeks at least for you to really (12:41):
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Kevin Tejada: notice something so yeah chill out this is a stat that comes up a lot only eight (12:46):
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Kevin Tejada: percent of New Year's fitness resolutioners survive past February because impatience (12:52):
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Kevin Tejada: is the most cited reason for that. (12:58):
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Kevin Tejada: Now we get into dieting. Two-thirds of dieters return to their pre-diet weight (13:01):
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Kevin Tejada: within about three years. You know why? (13:05):
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Kevin Tejada: Fad diets. As I say often, don't go on a diet, change yours so that you can actually live with it. (13:08):
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Kevin Tejada: If you go on a diet, you're doing something that's not you, not sustainable. (13:16):
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Kevin Tejada: Just copying this other thing for a bit to reach a goal. (13:22):
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Kevin Tejada: But here's the thing. If you want to stay at that weight, you have to eat a (13:25):
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Kevin Tejada: certain weight for good or for a very long time. (13:29):
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Kevin Tejada: So adjust your own diet to make it work for you. (13:32):
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Kevin Tejada: I'll just hop on. I'm going to hop on fucking keto and lose weight and then (13:35):
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Kevin Tejada: hop off keto because I did it. Are you stupid? (13:38):
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Kevin Tejada: You have to keep doing what works if you want it to keep working. (13:41):
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Kevin Tejada: And the best way to do that is to just adjust your own life to make it work. (13:44):
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Kevin Tejada: This one's fucked up. The average person abandons a new fitness routine after (13:48):
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Kevin Tejada: just two weeks if they don't see immediate results. (13:52):
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Kevin Tejada: That's fucking crazy. These people need to grind more. (13:55):
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Kevin Tejada: This way it's kind of funny. I'm not sure which fitness app they're referring (13:58):
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Kevin Tejada: to in this in this stat, but 82% of fitness app users expect to lose weight (14:01):
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Kevin Tejada: twice as fast as is physiologically realistic. (14:06):
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Kevin Tejada: So most people who use some kind of application to lose weight, (14:10):
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Kevin Tejada: maybe like RP strength or something, I don't know. (14:13):
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Kevin Tejada: They expect to lose weight twice as fast as is even possible. (14:15):
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Kevin Tejada: Where do they get the expectation from? (14:20):
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Speaker1: That's what I'm curious about. (14:21):
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Kevin Tejada: That's weird. Studies show that those who lose weight gradually, (14:23):
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Kevin Tejada: as in one-ish pounds per week, are 42% more likely to maintain their weight (14:27):
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Kevin Tejada: loss after five years compared to the ones, compared to the people who lost weight very rapidly. (14:33):
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Kevin Tejada: This is because they slowly piece together a life that allows for weight maintenance. (14:38):
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Kevin Tejada: Weightnance. This makes sense. I lost weight over a very long period of time. (14:45):
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Kevin Tejada: Now, I kind of, I wish I lost a bit faster, but losing it slowly, (14:50):
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Kevin Tejada: I think it's probably beneficial for me. (14:54):
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Kevin Tejada: Not only because I didn't have a shit ton of excess skin, you know, (14:56):
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Kevin Tejada: I had plenty of time to adapt to my new body, but I just got used to adjusting (15:00):
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Kevin Tejada: my life so that I just don't become fat again. (15:06):
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Kevin Tejada: I had a lot of time to make those changes, and they stuck. (15:08):
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Kevin Tejada: 91% of quick-fix dieters regain all lost weight plus additional pounds within (15:12):
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Kevin Tejada: one year. That's fucking insane, and I believe it. (15:18):
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Kevin Tejada: You imagine you eat one way, we're eating a bunch of tasty food and you're fat (15:21):
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Kevin Tejada: as shit. And you just change wildly into something else. (15:24):
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Kevin Tejada: You might not like it, but you're sticking through. (15:29):
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Kevin Tejada: You lose a bunch of weight and you're happy now. And then you go back to normal (15:31):
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Kevin Tejada: because that's your normal. You didn't change your normal. You just hopped onto someone else's plan. (15:34):
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Kevin Tejada: And then you go back to normal and you gain more weight. (15:39):
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Kevin Tejada: I don't know how they gain more weight. I'm assuming just because in general, (15:42):
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Kevin Tejada: they were meant to gain more weight with their habits to begin with. (15:45):
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Kevin Tejada: People who set realistic expectations are 3.5 times more likely to stick with (15:51):
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Kevin Tejada: their fitness programs long-term. (15:56):
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Kevin Tejada: Obviously, if you set really weird expectations and you're just not going to (15:58):
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Kevin Tejada: hit, they're not going to happen. (16:01):
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Kevin Tejada: And constantly setting yourself up for failure is not fun or helpful. (16:03):
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Kevin Tejada: Keep in mind, a lot of people don't seem to grasp this, but if you set your (16:07):
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Kevin Tejada: expectations a bit low, I'm not saying don't be ambitious. (16:12):
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Kevin Tejada: What I'm saying is if you set your goals to be achievable, guess what? (16:15):
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Kevin Tejada: Once you hit that goal, you can set another one. (16:19):
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Kevin Tejada: Imagine that. You don't have to just go straight to the hardest goal ever and (16:23):
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Kevin Tejada: make that just your only goal. Set a smaller one, an easier one. (16:27):
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Kevin Tejada: First, hit that, then create more. Create more goals after that. (16:31):
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Kevin Tejada: You can always create more goals, but you can only fail an overly ambitious (16:35):
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Kevin Tejada: goal so many times before you just want to stop. (16:40):
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Kevin Tejada: Now about half of people who (16:43):
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Kevin Tejada: quit fitness programs cite a lack of (16:46):
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Kevin Tejada: visible results as their primary reason despite them (16:48):
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Kevin Tejada: making probably a lot of good progress on the (16:52):
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Kevin Tejada: inside you know their breathing capacity is probably better their stamina is (16:54):
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Kevin Tejada: probably a bit better a lot of people get upset of from a lack of visible results (16:57):
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Kevin Tejada: because not only are their expectations fucked up but they're not actually tracking (17:04):
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Kevin Tejada: these results what a lot of people expect is they're fat they start this program (17:08):
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Kevin Tejada: and then one day they're going to wake up and look like a model. (17:12):
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Kevin Tejada: That's not how it fucking works. You have to take pictures of when you started (17:16):
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Kevin Tejada: and then compare yourself along the way. That's where the progress starts. (17:18):
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Kevin Tejada: A lot of people expect to just. (17:22):
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Kevin Tejada: Enter a program of fat, and then leave being very obviously fit. (17:24):
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Kevin Tejada: There's a lot of in-between that you have to keep track of. (17:29):
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Kevin Tejada: And by the way, if you had some more patients, you would start seeing visible (17:33):
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Kevin Tejada: results after about six weeks. (17:37):
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Kevin Tejada: You will start to notice some of that. Your pants will get looser. (17:38):
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Kevin Tejada: Your man boobs won't protrude as much. But impatience causes them to just want (17:42):
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Kevin Tejada: to see this stuff after two weeks. (17:48):
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Speaker1: That's crazy. (17:51):
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Kevin Tejada: So how do you deal with impatience? Well, one of the biggest things is to set (17:52):
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Kevin Tejada: realistic expectations. (17:55):
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Kevin Tejada: Because if your expectations are wrong, I'm going to lose a hundred pounds in a month. (17:57):
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Kevin Tejada: You're going to expect very weird things and you're going to be very, (18:01):
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Kevin Tejada: very upset when it's your three weeks in and you have 97 pounds to lose. (18:05):
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Kevin Tejada: You're going to feel like, oh, I need to really hurry up. (18:10):
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Kevin Tejada: The impatience will kick in. But if you have a longer, longer-term goals, (18:13):
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Kevin Tejada: realistic expectations, your patience will naturally work a bit more in your (18:17):
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Kevin Tejada: favor because you'll know this will take a while. (18:21):
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Speaker1: So you're not going (18:25):
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Kevin Tejada: To feel this impatience. Another thing to do is to focus more on data, (18:25):
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Kevin Tejada: measure your food, measure your weight, measure your exercise stuff, all this stuff. (18:33):
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Kevin Tejada: If you measure it, that can actually help with the impatience a bit. (18:38):
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Kevin Tejada: Because what messes up a lot of people with the impatience is they don't see (18:43):
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Kevin Tejada: very obvious results quickly enough. (18:46):
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Kevin Tejada: But if you start measuring, you will see results much faster. (18:48):
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Kevin Tejada: Now, granted, these results will come in number form and will be smaller, (18:53):
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Kevin Tejada: but you'll see them much, much sooner than you'll see physical change. (18:57):
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Kevin Tejada: And what also would help with the impatience is to understand that life is life. (19:01):
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Kevin Tejada: All right, you're going to have plateaus, you're going to have valleys, (19:06):
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Kevin Tejada: you're going to have, all this kind of stuff. Like for me, I took a trip to Italy recently. (19:08):
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Kevin Tejada: And before the trip, I lost weight in anticipation and I gained the weight back (19:13):
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Kevin Tejada: after I came back for a while on the trip to Italy. (19:17):
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Kevin Tejada: Now, if you looked at the scale or something, you think, oh, (19:21):
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Kevin Tejada: wow, that's fucking horrible. (19:24):
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Kevin Tejada: You're going up and down. No, the thing is I'm patient enough to prepare for (19:26):
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Kevin Tejada: a trip and then deal with the aftermath afterwards. (19:32):
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Kevin Tejada: I have that long-term view and understand life isn't just, oh, (19:35):
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Kevin Tejada: I'm going, making straight progress (19:39):
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Kevin Tejada: consistently forever at the same exact rate. That's not how it works. (19:42):
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Kevin Tejada: So understanding that life, when you're thinking about your weight loss or your (19:46):
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Kevin Tejada: fitness or whatever on a line graph, it's never going to be a straight slope. (19:51):
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Kevin Tejada: It's going to look like a fucked up roller coaster. (19:56):
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Kevin Tejada: As long as it's slowly trending towards where you want to be, (19:59):
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Kevin Tejada: you'll be okay. Just chill out, plan for it. (20:02):
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Kevin Tejada: Honestly, realistic expectations are probably the best, but having a long-term (20:06):
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Kevin Tejada: mindset is more important. (20:10):
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Speaker1: Someone with a short-term mindset, (20:12):
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Kevin Tejada: They're only thinking like maybe two weeks into the future. They're thinking, (20:13):
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Kevin Tejada: okay, I started doing this thing. (20:17):
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Kevin Tejada: Two weeks have passed. I haven't seen progress. I'm fucking upset. I quit. (20:19):
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Kevin Tejada: Someone with a long-term mindset, they get two weeks and they're like, yep, I'm still doing it. (20:24):
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Kevin Tejada: It's like six months in. Yep, I'm still doing it. I have seen some progress (20:29):
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Kevin Tejada: actually, but regardless, I'm still doing it. (20:32):
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Kevin Tejada: If you think long-term, you're going to last long-term with your goals. (20:35):
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Kevin Tejada: And that's honestly the best way to deal with impatience, in my opinion. (20:39):
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Kevin Tejada: Expectations and patience are basically the same thing. Patience is just the (20:43):
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Kevin Tejada: expectation that things will take longer than you think. (20:46):
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Kevin Tejada: Speaking of patience, thanks for your patience with this podcast. (20:50):
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Kevin Tejada: What are we, over 40 episodes in and you're still here? (20:53):
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Kevin Tejada: Holy mamma mia, thank you. That's cool. Remember how I started off this podcast (20:56):
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Kevin Tejada: fairly shitty and now I'm a bit less shitty? (21:00):
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Kevin Tejada: Apply that patience to your goal, okay? Think long-term and then maybe you'll make it. (21:03):
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Kevin Tejada: Anyway, I've been patient enough. I'm hungry as fuck. I'll see you next time. (21:10):
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Kevin Tejada: Who do you think those imp doctors treat? (00:33):
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Kevin Tejada: Impatience! Yeah, that's the topic of the episode. I was going to do a bit where (00:36):
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Kevin Tejada: I was silent for a bit and then accuse you of being impatient, (00:41):
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Kevin Tejada: but this is an episode, so you think something's fucked up with the audio. (00:44):
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Kevin Tejada: So you get a shitty pun instead. (00:47):
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Kevin Tejada: Anyway, impatience is rampant in the weight loss and fitness community. (00:50):
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Kevin Tejada: It is honestly one of the biggest limiters. the biggest limit, (00:55):
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Kevin Tejada: one of my voice cracking, one of my 12, is the biggest limiters in achieving those goals. (00:58):
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Kevin Tejada: It's honestly one of the biggest limiters in achieving that goal, (01:04):
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Kevin Tejada: whether it's weight loss or fitness or whatever it is. (01:07):
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Kevin Tejada: And there are a bunch of reasons. A lot of people, first of all, (01:10):
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Kevin Tejada: have really weird expectations of how long something is supposed to take, (01:12):
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Kevin Tejada: how quickly it can happen. (01:16):
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Kevin Tejada: They're frustrated when things plateau for a bit or they don't have, (01:17):
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Kevin Tejada: you know, rapid progress. (01:22):
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Kevin Tejada: And a lot of people just want quick fixes, get fit quick schemes. (01:23):
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Kevin Tejada: They just want like a thing they can do instead of a change they can make. (01:29):
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Kevin Tejada: And these expectations due to impatience mess up a lot of people. (01:33):
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Kevin Tejada: This affected me a lot when I was losing a hundred pounds. (01:38):
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Kevin Tejada: I actually had maybe no frame of reference for how long it would take realistically. (01:42):
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Kevin Tejada: I did have a friend who kicked off the inspiration for me. He lost 90 pounds in a year. (01:47):
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Kevin Tejada: So maybe in the back of my mind, I'm thinking, wow, this should be much faster. (01:52):
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Kevin Tejada: But that's crazy shit what he did. Maybe it was two years. I don't know. (01:56):
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Kevin Tejada: Regardless, beyond him, I had no frame of reference for how long things should (02:00):
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Kevin Tejada: take normally. So it felt like it took a very, very long time. (02:04):
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Kevin Tejada: And I won't lie, it was frustrating at times. But I never gave up because Because (02:09):
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Kevin Tejada: the friend who lost a lot of weight, he showed me a regular ass guy can lose weight. (02:13):
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Kevin Tejada: So if I don't lose weight, that's on me. So I have to do it. (02:17):
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Kevin Tejada: Doesn't matter if it takes a long time. It can be done, which means I got to do it. (02:20):
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Kevin Tejada: Now, one of the biggest aids for me in having this patience was playing RPGs, (02:24):
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Kevin Tejada: playing video games where you would level up, grow your stats and become better over time. (02:30):
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Kevin Tejada: If you play video games, you probably understand what I'm talking about. when (02:37):
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Kevin Tejada: i say grinding is common if you (02:41):
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Kevin Tejada: don't know grinding in a video game is where you essentially redo certain (02:44):
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Kevin Tejada: areas or you fight certain enemies over and over (02:48):
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Kevin Tejada: again that you already defeated to get usually pretty (02:51):
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Kevin Tejada: small amounts of experience points so you can level up increase your stats get (02:54):
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Kevin Tejada: stronger before you move on to the next area this can help you out in terms (02:59):
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Kevin Tejada: of having an easier time when you enter that new area because oftentimes you (03:04):
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Kevin Tejada: enter a new area and things are hard as fuck right away so when you grind beforehand (03:07):
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Kevin Tejada: you are stronger than you normally, (03:11):
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Kevin Tejada: would have been and it's a bit easier a bit more manageable at least, (03:14):
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Kevin Tejada: Now, when you grind, this can take a long, long time. And guess what? (03:19):
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Kevin Tejada: None of that grinding matters until you level up. (03:23):
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Speaker1: So you could be (03:28):
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Kevin Tejada: Fighting these stupid monsters, going through this area all over again. (03:29):
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Kevin Tejada: You could be doing this for like an hour or more before you get where you want to get to. (03:32):
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Kevin Tejada: It can take a while before you actually see that level up notification. (03:37):
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Kevin Tejada: But between levels, when you're grinding, when you're fighting, when you're, you know, (03:42):
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Kevin Tejada: killing those monsters you get nothing absolutely (03:46):
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Kevin Tejada: nothing changes about your character until you level up (03:50):
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Kevin Tejada: so you have to be okay with grinding you have to be (03:53):
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Kevin Tejada: okay with doing this thing over and (03:56):
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Kevin Tejada: over and over and seeing nothing getting nothing for it so i was okay with that (03:59):
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Kevin Tejada: i mean i wasn't okay with it as in oh i'm totally fine and not upset or frustrated (04:04):
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Kevin Tejada: at all but i was used to it when i was younger no one really told me hey you're (04:09):
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Kevin Tejada: gonna have to put in a lot of work before you see any kind of progress whatsoever. (04:13):
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Kevin Tejada: I'm like, oh yeah, like grinding, right? (04:18):
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Kevin Tejada: Yeah, I've been there, done that. So that's why I was able to go through that. (04:20):
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Kevin Tejada: I did have patience built in from gaming as a younger lad. (04:25):
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Kevin Tejada: That's a pretty good skill, honestly. Not the, you know, spending 50 hours playing (04:30):
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Kevin Tejada: RPGs, but putting in work without seeing anything in terms of progress for a long, long time. (04:34):
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Kevin Tejada: That is such an important skill. (04:42):
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Kevin Tejada: That's an extra bit of patience Because in a lot of other things You put in the work and you see. (04:44):
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Kevin Tejada: Gradual progress, incremental Little progress here and there With grinding, (04:49):
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Kevin Tejada: you see jack shit until you level up With weight loss, it feels the same You (04:53):
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Kevin Tejada: see jack shit until You notice your watch getting a bit looser You hit a certain milestone in the weight, (04:58):
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Kevin Tejada: You look at pictures of yourself when you were first starting out with the weight loss compared to now. (05:04):
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Kevin Tejada: That's where you see the main difference. But when you're in it, (05:10):
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Kevin Tejada: when you're grinding, you feel nothing. (05:13):
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Kevin Tejada: You feel no progress happening at all. That's why those stats are important. (05:15):
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Kevin Tejada: That's why patience is important. Now, this whole problem is exacerbated heavily by social media. (05:20):
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Kevin Tejada: People just straight up fucking lying online. (05:26):
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Kevin Tejada: Unlying. talking about how quickly they accomplish certain things or whatever. (05:30):
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Kevin Tejada: Now, obviously, a lot of people are telling the truth. Yeah, (05:35):
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Kevin Tejada: I did this in this amount of time. Sure. Some people are not, though. (05:37):
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Kevin Tejada: Some of them use a lot of filters, a lot of really nice lighting to kind of (05:41):
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Kevin Tejada: exaggerate their points a bit. So my point is a lot of people, they think, wow. (05:45):
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Speaker1: I should be (05:49):
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Kevin Tejada: Making a shit ton of progress pretty quickly, according to these guys online. (05:50):
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Kevin Tejada: But that's not the case. Things actually usually take longer than you expect. (05:54):
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Kevin Tejada: But a lot of people are not patient enough for that because they (05:59):
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Kevin Tejada: have a skewed view of how long things (06:02):
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Kevin Tejada: should take or how quickly this should happen due to (06:05):
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Kevin Tejada: the power of editing you guys wouldn't know (06:09):
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Kevin Tejada: it but i exercised extreme patience just now as (06:12):
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Kevin Tejada: i'm in chicago and i had to wait a full (06:15):
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Kevin Tejada: fucking 30 seconds for all the sirens to pass by my window you know i hear that (06:18):
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Kevin Tejada: fire truck basically every day but i i never hear or see anything about fires (06:23):
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Kevin Tejada: around here so i don't know i don't know where they're going honestly but anyways (06:27):
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Kevin Tejada: i had patience instead of just talking over the siren and possibly fucking up (06:31):
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Kevin Tejada: the audio so patience helps with uh podcasting too. (06:35):
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Kevin Tejada: Anyway, these expectations that people have due to social media and other shit, (06:39):
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Kevin Tejada: people are taking advantage of that, of course. (06:43):
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Kevin Tejada: A lot of fitness abs, fitness programs, whatever they are, they promise rapid (06:45):
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Kevin Tejada: weight loss. Now, here's the thing. (06:50):
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Kevin Tejada: If someone ever says, oh, you'll lose 10 pounds in a month or blah, (06:52):
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Kevin Tejada: blah, blah, they're full of shit because you can't know how quickly someone (06:57):
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Kevin Tejada: will lose weight unless you already have their their stats, unless you know (07:02):
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Kevin Tejada: how much they weigh already. (07:05):
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Kevin Tejada: Because, yeah, some people could lose 10 pounds in a month, maybe a bit more (07:07):
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Kevin Tejada: because some people are just that overweight where that big of a deficit. (07:10):
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Kevin Tejada: It's not going to be it's not going to it's not going to be dangerous for them, (07:14):
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Kevin Tejada: at least not to begin with. (07:17):
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Kevin Tejada: But if someone says, let's say, oh, you can lose, you know, a pound or so per week. (07:19):
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Kevin Tejada: Yes, pretty much anyone on this planet, they can they can deal with like a three (07:26):
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Kevin Tejada: to five hundred calorie deficit per day. It's about a pound a week. (07:30):
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Kevin Tejada: That is legit. anything way beyond that (07:34):
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Kevin Tejada: you cannot possibly say without knowing the person now if you're (07:37):
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Kevin Tejada: targeting people who are extremely overweight with (07:40):
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Kevin Tejada: that messaging then maybe that can be true too because again they (07:43):
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Kevin Tejada: have such a such an excess of weight that that big of a deficit you know it (07:45):
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Kevin Tejada: could it could work for a bit point being though if if you're kind of a bit (07:50):
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Kevin Tejada: overweight and someone's saying oh you're gonna lose fucking 15 pounds in a (07:55):
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Kevin Tejada: month you're gonna die if you follow that that's It's not, it's not legit, not realistic. (07:59):
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Kevin Tejada: Probably just a marketing lie to begin with, to be honest. (08:04):
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Kevin Tejada: This leads to a lot of people yo-yoing. If you don't know, yo-yo dieting is (08:07):
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Kevin Tejada: basically, well, it doesn't have to be dieting necessarily, but yo-yoing with your weight is going up. (08:11):
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Kevin Tejada: Like a yo-yo goes up and down. It's the weight going up and down because you (08:17):
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Kevin Tejada: keep changing your habits. (08:21):
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Kevin Tejada: You keep trying these things. They may work temporarily, but then they don't (08:23):
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Kevin Tejada: work long-term because they're not sustainable habit changes. (08:25):
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Kevin Tejada: But you're too impatient to actually try that. So you're going to go back and try something else. (08:29):
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Kevin Tejada: Might work for a little bit, but then it's not sustainable. Then you go back (08:32):
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Kevin Tejada: up and wait, blah, blah, blah. (08:35):
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Kevin Tejada: You get it. now most people who suffer from impatience are (08:36):
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Kevin Tejada: beginners because they just don't know any better they (08:40):
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Kevin Tejada: just don't know how long things take in general they may (08:43):
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Kevin Tejada: see an extremely fit fit juicy (08:45):
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Kevin Tejada: guy and they're thinking yeah i can get there in about three months yeah (08:49):
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Kevin Tejada: no motherfucker that'll take (08:51):
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Kevin Tejada: you years probably almost definitely they think (08:54):
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Kevin Tejada: of the same for for weight loss oh yeah yeah if i actually try i (08:57):
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Kevin Tejada: could lose weight really quickly i could drop these these uh (09:00):
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Kevin Tejada: 30 pounds in like uh you know a month or two no and (09:03):
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Kevin Tejada: if you do you're about to die because you went on an insane (09:08):
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Kevin Tejada: deficit or you started off really you know really obese (09:11):
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Kevin Tejada: in which case that's fine even though that (09:14):
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Kevin Tejada: even then that's that's a lot 30 pounds in a month that's you're doing something (09:16):
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Kevin Tejada: fucked up there but a lot of beginners due to these expectations they have impatience (09:20):
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Kevin Tejada: because they just they just don't know better they don't know that they need (09:25):
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Kevin Tejada: the patience to see this whole thing through and And impatience affects people with huge goals as well. (09:29):
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Kevin Tejada: Let's say you want to lose 100 pounds like I did. Now, if you do it correctly, (09:36):
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Kevin Tejada: if you do it like robotically, you could lose 100 pounds in. (09:40):
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Speaker1: About two years. (09:44):
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Kevin Tejada: Maybe even a bit less, right? Now, real life happens. Maybe it'll take a bit longer. (09:45):
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Kevin Tejada: For me, I didn't know what the fuck I was doing. So it took me, (09:50):
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Kevin Tejada: I don't even know, five to six-ish years to lose 100 pounds. (09:53):
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Kevin Tejada: I didn't figure out what I was doing until the very end, basically, with the nutrition. (09:57):
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Kevin Tejada: But if you would have told me ahead of time, hey, it's going to lose. (10:02):
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Kevin Tejada: It's going to take about six years for you to lose 100 pounds. (10:05):
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Kevin Tejada: My impatience would have, it might have prevented me from even trying. (10:08):
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Kevin Tejada: Because while I did say I do have patience in terms of grinding, (10:12):
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Kevin Tejada: when you put it out there at the beginning, hey. (10:15):
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Speaker1: It's going to be (10:17):
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Kevin Tejada: Six years before you do this. It's like, that's more than going to college. (10:17):
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Kevin Tejada: What the fuck? Maybe it was five years. I don't remember. (10:21):
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Speaker1: I don't know, (10:25):
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Kevin Tejada: Somewhere between four and seven. I really don't remember. I'll say five to (10:25):
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Kevin Tejada: six, something like that. (10:29):
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Kevin Tejada: But it can be daunting because at the beginning you want something. (10:30):
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Kevin Tejada: The reason you're even starting this goal to begin with is because you want it. (10:34):
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Kevin Tejada: So someone's telling you, hey, there's going to be a lot of time between now and then. (10:38):
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Kevin Tejada: Impatience, inevitably, it's gonna it's gonna pop up in your head (10:43):
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Kevin Tejada: a bit like oh but i want this thing i'd want (10:45):
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Kevin Tejada: it as soon as soon as possible but you're telling me it's gonna (10:48):
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Kevin Tejada: take a long time this much time oh my god i don't want to do this shit so if (10:52):
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Kevin Tejada: you have a big goal and you have to find out how long it's gonna take and patience (10:56):
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Kevin Tejada: kicks in and might stop you from even trying and there are a lot of people who (11:00):
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Kevin Tejada: have unrealistic goals sometimes too this is a very common thing back in my (11:04):
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Kevin Tejada: days as a trainer Even now, (11:07):
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Kevin Tejada: as a coach, people would say, oh, man, I want to get ready for this wedding, this event. (11:09):
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Kevin Tejada: OK, so you want to lose, you know, 25 pounds for this event. (11:15):
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Kevin Tejada: OK, cool. When is it? Two months. (11:18):
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Kevin Tejada: Well, that's not happening. People get upset when you tell them that. (11:21):
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Speaker1: It can happen (11:25):
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Kevin Tejada: If you want to get liposuction. You got time for it, I think. (11:26):
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Kevin Tejada: But if you're talking real weight loss. (11:29):
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Speaker1: That shouldn't happen. (11:30):
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Kevin Tejada: You need to understand that just because you set your mind on wanting something (11:32):
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Kevin Tejada: doesn't mean it's going to happen by the time you want it. (11:36):
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Kevin Tejada: That's what fucks a lot of people (11:39):
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Kevin Tejada: up. This bratty attitude where they want something, but they want it now. (11:40):
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Kevin Tejada: If it doesn't happen now, well, they freak out or they think they might as well not try. (11:45):
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Kevin Tejada: And it's odd too when they're talking about, you know, I want to get in shape (11:49):
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Kevin Tejada: for this wedding or vacation. (11:52):
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Kevin Tejada: Guess what? That's happening way too soon for you to make that kind of change. (11:54):
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Kevin Tejada: And the really weird thing is that for some people, if they don't manage to (11:59):
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Kevin Tejada: hit this goal in time, they just don't continue. (12:02):
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Kevin Tejada: I want to lose 30 pounds for this wedding. I only lost 10. (12:06):
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Kevin Tejada: Well, fuck it. What kind of mindset is that? Just keep losing weight for your (12:10):
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Kevin Tejada: life, not for the fucking wedding or vacation. Just keep on doing it. (12:15):
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Speaker1: What are you, stupid? (12:18):
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Kevin Tejada: Anyway, let's get some numbers in here. Some of these are crazy. (12:20):
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Kevin Tejada: 73% of people who set fitness goals (12:24):
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Kevin Tejada: expect significant visible results (12:27):
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Kevin Tejada: within the first two weeks that's crazy (12:30):
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Kevin Tejada: so three-fourths of people are fucking stupid that's (12:34):
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Kevin Tejada: insane but not that surprising and by (12:37):
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Kevin Tejada: the way most physical change it takes like six weeks at least for you to really (12:41):
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Kevin Tejada: notice something so yeah chill out this is a stat that comes up a lot only eight (12:46):
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Kevin Tejada: percent of New Year's fitness resolutioners survive past February because impatience (12:52):
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Kevin Tejada: is the most cited reason for that. (12:58):
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Kevin Tejada: Now we get into dieting. Two-thirds of dieters return to their pre-diet weight (13:01):
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Kevin Tejada: within about three years. You know why? (13:05):
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Kevin Tejada: Fad diets. As I say often, don't go on a diet, change yours so that you can actually live with it. (13:08):
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Kevin Tejada: If you go on a diet, you're doing something that's not you, not sustainable. (13:16):
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Kevin Tejada: Just copying this other thing for a bit to reach a goal. (13:22):
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Kevin Tejada: But here's the thing. If you want to stay at that weight, you have to eat a (13:25):
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Kevin Tejada: certain weight for good or for a very long time. (13:29):
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Kevin Tejada: So adjust your own diet to make it work for you. (13:32):
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Kevin Tejada: I'll just hop on. I'm going to hop on fucking keto and lose weight and then (13:35):
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Kevin Tejada: hop off keto because I did it. Are you stupid? (13:38):
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Kevin Tejada: You have to keep doing what works if you want it to keep working. (13:41):
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Kevin Tejada: And the best way to do that is to just adjust your own life to make it work. (13:44):
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Kevin Tejada: This one's fucked up. The average person abandons a new fitness routine after (13:48):
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Kevin Tejada: just two weeks if they don't see immediate results. (13:52):
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Kevin Tejada: That's fucking crazy. These people need to grind more. (13:55):
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Kevin Tejada: This way it's kind of funny. I'm not sure which fitness app they're referring (13:58):
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Kevin Tejada: to in this in this stat, but 82% of fitness app users expect to lose weight (14:01):
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Kevin Tejada: twice as fast as is physiologically realistic. (14:06):
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Kevin Tejada: So most people who use some kind of application to lose weight, (14:10):
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Kevin Tejada: maybe like RP strength or something, I don't know. (14:13):
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Kevin Tejada: They expect to lose weight twice as fast as is even possible. (14:15):
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Kevin Tejada: Where do they get the expectation from? (14:20):
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Speaker1: That's what I'm curious about. (14:21):
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Kevin Tejada: That's weird. Studies show that those who lose weight gradually, (14:23):
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Kevin Tejada: as in one-ish pounds per week, are 42% more likely to maintain their weight (14:27):
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Kevin Tejada: loss after five years compared to the ones, compared to the people who lost weight very rapidly. (14:33):
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Kevin Tejada: This is because they slowly piece together a life that allows for weight maintenance. (14:38):
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Kevin Tejada: Weightnance. This makes sense. I lost weight over a very long period of time. (14:45):
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Kevin Tejada: Now, I kind of, I wish I lost a bit faster, but losing it slowly, (14:50):
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Kevin Tejada: I think it's probably beneficial for me. (14:54):
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Kevin Tejada: Not only because I didn't have a shit ton of excess skin, you know, (14:56):
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Kevin Tejada: I had plenty of time to adapt to my new body, but I just got used to adjusting (15:00):
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Kevin Tejada: my life so that I just don't become fat again. (15:06):
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Kevin Tejada: I had a lot of time to make those changes, and they stuck. (15:08):
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Kevin Tejada: 91% of quick-fix dieters regain all lost weight plus additional pounds within (15:12):
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Kevin Tejada: one year. That's fucking insane, and I believe it. (15:18):
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Kevin Tejada: You imagine you eat one way, we're eating a bunch of tasty food and you're fat (15:21):
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Kevin Tejada: as shit. And you just change wildly into something else. (15:24):
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Kevin Tejada: You might not like it, but you're sticking through. (15:29):
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Kevin Tejada: You lose a bunch of weight and you're happy now. And then you go back to normal (15:31):
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Kevin Tejada: because that's your normal. You didn't change your normal. You just hopped onto someone else's plan. (15:34):
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Kevin Tejada: And then you go back to normal and you gain more weight. (15:39):
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Kevin Tejada: I don't know how they gain more weight. I'm assuming just because in general, (15:42):
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Kevin Tejada: they were meant to gain more weight with their habits to begin with. (15:45):
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Kevin Tejada: People who set realistic expectations are 3.5 times more likely to stick with (15:51):
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Kevin Tejada: their fitness programs long-term. (15:56):
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Kevin Tejada: Obviously, if you set really weird expectations and you're just not going to (15:58):
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Kevin Tejada: hit, they're not going to happen. (16:01):
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Kevin Tejada: And constantly setting yourself up for failure is not fun or helpful. (16:03):
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Kevin Tejada: Keep in mind, a lot of people don't seem to grasp this, but if you set your (16:07):
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Kevin Tejada: expectations a bit low, I'm not saying don't be ambitious. (16:12):
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Kevin Tejada: What I'm saying is if you set your goals to be achievable, guess what? (16:15):
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Kevin Tejada: Once you hit that goal, you can set another one. (16:19):
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Kevin Tejada: Imagine that. You don't have to just go straight to the hardest goal ever and (16:23):
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Kevin Tejada: make that just your only goal. Set a smaller one, an easier one. (16:27):
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Kevin Tejada: First, hit that, then create more. Create more goals after that. (16:31):
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Kevin Tejada: You can always create more goals, but you can only fail an overly ambitious (16:35):
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Kevin Tejada: goal so many times before you just want to stop. (16:40):
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Kevin Tejada: Now about half of people who (16:43):
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Kevin Tejada: quit fitness programs cite a lack of (16:46):
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Kevin Tejada: visible results as their primary reason despite them (16:48):
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Kevin Tejada: making probably a lot of good progress on the (16:52):
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Kevin Tejada: inside you know their breathing capacity is probably better their stamina is (16:54):
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Kevin Tejada: probably a bit better a lot of people get upset of from a lack of visible results (16:57):
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Kevin Tejada: because not only are their expectations fucked up but they're not actually tracking (17:04):
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Kevin Tejada: these results what a lot of people expect is they're fat they start this program (17:08):
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Kevin Tejada: and then one day they're going to wake up and look like a model. (17:12):
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Kevin Tejada: That's not how it fucking works. You have to take pictures of when you started (17:16):
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Kevin Tejada: and then compare yourself along the way. That's where the progress starts. (17:18):
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Kevin Tejada: A lot of people expect to just. (17:22):
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Kevin Tejada: Enter a program of fat, and then leave being very obviously fit. (17:24):
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Kevin Tejada: There's a lot of in-between that you have to keep track of. (17:29):
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Kevin Tejada: And by the way, if you had some more patients, you would start seeing visible (17:33):
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Kevin Tejada: results after about six weeks. (17:37):
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Kevin Tejada: You will start to notice some of that. Your pants will get looser. (17:38):
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Kevin Tejada: Your man boobs won't protrude as much. But impatience causes them to just want (17:42):
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Kevin Tejada: to see this stuff after two weeks. (17:48):
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Speaker1: That's crazy. (17:51):
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Kevin Tejada: So how do you deal with impatience? Well, one of the biggest things is to set (17:52):
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Kevin Tejada: realistic expectations. (17:55):
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Kevin Tejada: Because if your expectations are wrong, I'm going to lose a hundred pounds in a month. (17:57):
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Kevin Tejada: You're going to expect very weird things and you're going to be very, (18:01):
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Kevin Tejada: very upset when it's your three weeks in and you have 97 pounds to lose. (18:05):
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Kevin Tejada: You're going to feel like, oh, I need to really hurry up. (18:10):
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Kevin Tejada: The impatience will kick in. But if you have a longer, longer-term goals, (18:13):
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Kevin Tejada: realistic expectations, your patience will naturally work a bit more in your (18:17):
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Kevin Tejada: favor because you'll know this will take a while. (18:21):
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Speaker1: So you're not going (18:25):
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Kevin Tejada: To feel this impatience. Another thing to do is to focus more on data, (18:25):
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Kevin Tejada: measure your food, measure your weight, measure your exercise stuff, all this stuff. (18:33):
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Kevin Tejada: If you measure it, that can actually help with the impatience a bit. (18:38):
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Kevin Tejada: Because what messes up a lot of people with the impatience is they don't see (18:43):
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Kevin Tejada: very obvious results quickly enough. (18:46):
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Kevin Tejada: But if you start measuring, you will see results much faster. (18:48):
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Kevin Tejada: Now, granted, these results will come in number form and will be smaller, (18:53):
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Kevin Tejada: but you'll see them much, much sooner than you'll see physical change. (18:57):
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Kevin Tejada: And what also would help with the impatience is to understand that life is life. (19:01):
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Kevin Tejada: All right, you're going to have plateaus, you're going to have valleys, (19:06):
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Kevin Tejada: you're going to have, all this kind of stuff. Like for me, I took a trip to Italy recently. (19:08):
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Kevin Tejada: And before the trip, I lost weight in anticipation and I gained the weight back (19:13):
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Kevin Tejada: after I came back for a while on the trip to Italy. (19:17):
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Kevin Tejada: Now, if you looked at the scale or something, you think, oh, (19:21):
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Kevin Tejada: wow, that's fucking horrible. (19:24):
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Kevin Tejada: You're going up and down. No, the thing is I'm patient enough to prepare for (19:26):
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Kevin Tejada: a trip and then deal with the aftermath afterwards. (19:32):
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Kevin Tejada: I have that long-term view and understand life isn't just, oh, (19:35):
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Kevin Tejada: I'm going, making straight progress (19:39):
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Kevin Tejada: consistently forever at the same exact rate. That's not how it works. (19:42):
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Kevin Tejada: So understanding that life, when you're thinking about your weight loss or your (19:46):
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Kevin Tejada: fitness or whatever on a line graph, it's never going to be a straight slope. (19:51):
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Kevin Tejada: It's going to look like a fucked up roller coaster. (19:56):
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Kevin Tejada: As long as it's slowly trending towards where you want to be, (19:59):
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Kevin Tejada: you'll be okay. Just chill out, plan for it. (20:02):
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Kevin Tejada: Honestly, realistic expectations are probably the best, but having a long-term (20:06):
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Kevin Tejada: mindset is more important. (20:10):
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Speaker1: Someone with a short-term mindset, (20:12):
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Kevin Tejada: They're only thinking like maybe two weeks into the future. They're thinking, (20:13):
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Kevin Tejada: okay, I started doing this thing. (20:17):
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Kevin Tejada: Two weeks have passed. I haven't seen progress. I'm fucking upset. I quit. (20:19):
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Kevin Tejada: Someone with a long-term mindset, they get two weeks and they're like, yep, I'm still doing it. (20:24):
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Kevin Tejada: It's like six months in. Yep, I'm still doing it. I have seen some progress (20:29):
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Kevin Tejada: actually, but regardless, I'm still doing it. (20:32):
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Kevin Tejada: If you think long-term, you're going to last long-term with your goals. (20:35):
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Kevin Tejada: And that's honestly the best way to deal with impatience, in my opinion. (20:39):
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Kevin Tejada: Expectations and patience are basically the same thing. Patience is just the (20:43):
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Kevin Tejada: expectation that things will take longer than you think. (20:46):
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Kevin Tejada: Speaking of patience, thanks for your patience with this podcast. (20:50):
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Kevin Tejada: What are we, over 40 episodes in and you're still here? (20:53):
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Kevin Tejada: Holy mamma mia, thank you. That's cool. Remember how I started off this podcast (20:56):
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Kevin Tejada: fairly shitty and now I'm a bit less shitty? (21:00):
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Kevin Tejada: Apply that patience to your goal, okay? Think long-term and then maybe you'll make it. (21:03):
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Kevin Tejada: Anyway, I've been patient enough. I'm hungry as fuck. I'll see you next time. (21:10):
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