Season 2 Episode #3 - No, Not Even a Slap on the Hand : Why Discipline Doesn’t Need to Hurt

In this episode, we’re talking about something that still shows up in lots of parenting advice - the idea that “just a little slap” is harmless, helpful, or even necessary.

We explore:

• Why physical punishment (yes, even a slap on the hand) isn’t just ineffective — it can be harmful
• What the research tells us about physical discipline and long-term outcomes for children
• What respectful, effective discipline can look like
• How we support children’s behaviour without shame, fear, or force

Whether you were smacked as a child and want to do things differently, or you’re deep in the trenches and looking for a better way - this episode is for you.

You are not alone, and you don’t have to figure this out without support.

Parenting support and education: 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Parent Help – 0800 568 856 | parenthelp.org.nz 🧡 The Parenting Place – Courses, workshops, mentoring | parentingplace.nz 🌱 SKIP – Free, positive parenting resources | skip.org.nz 👣 Barnardos – Parenting support & early learning | barnardos.org.nz 🤝 Family Works – Parenting courses & counselling | familyworks.org.nz 👶 Plunket – Early parenting support | plunket.org.nz 🌿 Ngā Maia Māori Midwives – Whānau-centred care | ngamaia.co.nz

Violence prevention and family safety: 🧡 Shine – 0508 744 633 | 2shine.org.nz 🏡 Women’s Refuge – 0800 REFUGE (733 843) | womensrefuge.org.nz 🧍‍♂️ Hey Bro – 0800 HEYBRO (439 276) – for men wanting help to stop violence