October 19, 2021 • 45 mins
Cassie Calvert talks to Nikki Bozeman, Amanda Tucker and Davida McPhee about their lives away from the game and what it's like being married to a Baltimore Ravens player.
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Speaker 1 (00:07):
Welcome back to the Purple Chair Podcast. I'm your host,
Cassie Calvert. In each episode, we're giving you a peek
behind the curtain of the Ravens organization. I am so
excited for this episode as I welcome in three incredible
women whose last names you might recognize. Nicky Boseman, Davida McPhee,
and Amanda Tucker. Welcome to the Purple Chair Podcast. Thanks
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for having us. So. Of course, your husband's all played
for the Ravens. We know that, and I love that
We've got all three phases of the game represented here.
But um, let's talk about how we got here originally.
How Davida, how did you and Purnell originally met. We'll
start with you. So, um Pernel and we call him
fee so I call him pe So. I refer to
him to be a lot of people call him by
his last name, Magpie. So Be and I made in
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college UM in Mississippi State University. I'm from Jackson, Mississippi.
He's from um Palm Beach, Florida, a small town Copper Hockey, Florida.
So he attended Mississippi State. I was there as well.
So we actually met in college. I was an r
A A resident advisor in a dorm room and it
was a Koway dorman. He was living there. I was
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sitting at the desk working. He came and checked in, UM,
he was moving in from junior college. We started to talk,
We became friends. Firs. We were friends, were about a
good year, and then we kind of started to date.
So you were his r A. I was his r A.
I was. Was he a good resident? He behave? You know,
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with you know, football, they're never really there, so they're
never really in the building. He was always kind of gone,
and he kind of found his niche of UM football,
other football players that were living on on campus apartments.
So I was a junior and he was coming in
as a sophomore, going into his junior year. I was
a junior hidden into my senior year UM. So he
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never was really there. He never was there. I remember
a funny story when it was time to check out. UM.
It was, you know, going into summer BREAKT was I'm
the check out and he didn't clean his room. And
we were seeing friends at this point, and I'm like,
I'm doing broom checks and I'm like, used to have
a T be in here, you know, closed like bedding,
and he was like, just um, just take it and
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put it somewhere, you know when I'll come get it later.
And I'm like, no, it doesn't work like that. It
doesn't work. You need to come and clean your room
so we can do a you know, a nice checkout.
So that was that was. It was okay, But he
was never really near. She said, he was okay. I
loved that, Amanda. You two are college sweethearts as well. Right,
how did you and Justin originally meet? Yeah, we're both
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from Texas. I'm from the Dallasford other area and then
Justin's from Austin, and we met at summer freshman orientation. Um,
Justin was already practicing football team and I just so
happened to have a girl in my orientation group that
went to high school with him. We walked by a
bus stop and we met and we kind of just
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became friends sort of on Facebook because that was pree
Twitter pre Instagram and TikTok um. And then a few
months later we went and got ice cream and then
we've kind of been together since, which is really nice.
I guess that it all started on Facebook. It did
start on Facebook. I don't know if that happens anymore,
but Nikki, one of my favorite clips and it's probably
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you guys are probably Internet things because of this is
when Bradley proposed to you at the National Championship. So
how did you get to that moment? And did you
have any idea that that was going to happen that day? Um?
So we met in college. I was the center on
the basketball team and he was a center on the
football team. So our friends were always like trying to
set us up together. Um, but I didn't really know
of him. Um. And I was tutoring a guy because
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we were taking summer school, so I was tutoring another
offensive lineman in kon because he needed to pass econ
to uh play, and he was like, I'll just cheat
off you. I'm like, no, we don't do that. I
was like, if you want to learn econ, econ, but
we don't cheat on each other of each other. So
we had our econ final and we're on this bus
and his name is Isaa Gluatua and Isaac is typical boy.
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He's like, oh, this bus stop and oh the grass
is green. I'm like, we have a test, Like we
need to focus focus, okay, and he's like, oh, and
this is my friend Bradley, and I'm like, hey, al right,
so we need this test. So then I see him
in the dining hall later and my roommates like, oh,
that's the guy from the bus and he's staring at you,
and she's like you need some water, and she like
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pushes me up to go get water, and I'm like, fine,
I guess. So I walked up there and he was
like nicky. I'm like yeah, and I don't remember, like
I do not remember meeting him. I must have been
in like test mode or something. And so then we
went on a date and we've kind of been dating
from there. Um. And so for the National Championship, I
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had no idea. Well, I should have said, like, you know,
when you get to that point in like your dating
relationship where you're like, all right, it's Christmas, all right,
it's Valentine's Day, you know, you just like start like
thinking about things, and um, we have been together. We've
been together eight years. So we were together four years
I guess at the time. Um. And so but then
I was like, you know what, We're just not gonna
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do that, because then you could get your hopes up
and get upset, and so I'm like, we just need
to not do that. So the game was even if
I had like any inclination that it was gonna happen,
the way that that game ended like it was a
So we went into overtime. So back up, we were down,
like I don't know, we were down like sixteen a
halftime or something, and um Jalen Hurts was playing. So
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at halftime, Jalen Hurts got benched and they put in
Um two a tongue of voloa, and he brought us
all the way back to Tide. We were playing Georgia
and in Kate Cleveland, Ben Cleveland's fiance was at the game,
and so we talked about this all the time and
so um, so we brought all the way back to Tide,
went into overtime, they kicked the field goal, so we
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had to score a touchdown to win the game, and
two a through a touchdown on second and twenty six
um and so we were just like freaking out. Everyone
was scre aiming, you know, at all that. So and
then this is like a very long drawn on story,
but the President happened to be there at the game,
so there was secret service. Well, usually on the when
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they won the national championship two years ago, all the
girlfriends would jump into the field, you take pictures, you
go in the confetti like all that stuff. So that's
what like, that's what we're gonna do. Well, there was
secret service on the field. So I go to jump
and she pulls out a taser and she goes, if
you jump, I will taser you. And I'm like ha ha,
I'm like, you know whatever, You're not gonna taser me.
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So I go to jump and she literally like the
thing like is like fire and she's like clicking it
like she is gonna tasteer me. And he looks at
her and he's like you cannot taste her her and
she's like, oh, yes, I can. And so he goes
and grabs his offensive line coach and tells him like
what he's gonna do because he's about to propose. And
at this point, the whole offensive line is standing there
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because he told them, and obviously I'm still clueless, and
they're like we need to figure something out, like they're
all panicking, and I'm like, guys, it's fine, it's okay,
Like it's not the end of the world just picked her,
and so he gave me his offensive line coach, gave
me his wife's credentials to get onto the field. Well,
that lady was just being a jerk and she's like, no,
those aren't the right credentials, and they're like, yes, yes
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they are. So they grabbed the producer of ESPN and
they go, this is what we're doing. And she's getting
on the field. So he like grabs me by the
arm out of the stance and I'm like walking by
this lady and I'm like, please don't days, Please don't
Dayseri and um So, anyway, then we get on the
field and he proposes, and after that it was like
there were so many events that led up to that.
When people are like, oh, did you know, I'm like no,
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I was just so scared of um one winning the
game too, being dased and three. I was like, that
was not that was the last thing I was thinking about.
That's wild. It's just crazy to me that he had
like the composure to go through that entire crazy game
and then like still pull off a proposal like I
would be a nervous wreck at that point. Well, and
even I asked him, I'm like, where did you put
this ring? I'm like, were you just throwing it away
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in your shoe? He said, Oh, it wasn't my backpack
in the locker room. I'm like, oh, that's a very
typical college boy answer. So someone had to like run back.
So the trainer grabbed it at halftime. But he also
he didn't tell anyone. So um, Jeff Allen was the
head athletic trainer and he didn't want to tell Saban
because everyone's afraid to Saban, and so he asked Jeff.
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He's like, do you think this would be a good idea?
And Jeff basically told him you're graduated at that point,
you can do whatever you want. And he was like,
that's a great answer. So he didn't tell anyone because
he didn't want people to think that was his motive
during the game or like he was anyway thinking about it.
So when they're on the podium and they're giving him
the trophy, he literally has a huddle. And when I
like watched the film back, you can see it. He
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has a huddle with all the offensive lineman and then
they literally all go like this and turn around and
look at me because he had just told him Hey, guys, like,
I'm going to propotes. So it was it was great.
It was a great night. Have one more question about
this because it's just two wild to me. How does
it feel to like know that millions of people watched
to be proposed to on national television? Um? It cool?
I mean I thought, like, um, I don't know. I
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thought it was cool. I did. I at the moment,
you're just like, so it's so surreal and you're so
like in it, um that you don't really think about it.
So like a bunch of my best friends, like obviously
I didn't know, so I didn't have done to warrant anyone.
They were all like in the bar watching it. So
they're sending me videos of them like hysterically crying in
the bar after at the game, and um, and I
had a lot of friends that were like there, So
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it was really cool. I mean, I probably goes, well,
we didn't have to like have an engagement party, Like,
I guess you're right, we've done it. People flew through
plenty of parties. We at that point winning the national championship,
I'm sure. Okay, So well, fast forward to now that
we're here, and I think a lot of people have
misconceptions about what it's like to have a spouse that's
in the NFL. Do you find that to be true? Like,
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what do you think the biggest misconceptions about this life
that you guys live are you go first? I don't know.
I think it kind of changes as as we've kind
of been in it longer. I think a lot of
people think that it is it's all positive, and I
think sometimes and it's also some people think that it's
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like super duper special, to the point that you can
be almost uncomfortable having those relationships with them. Um, I
don't know. It's it's every time I meet somebody, they
have lots of questions. They want to know maybe what's
Lamar like, or like what's Joe like? And sometimes it's
just hard to explain, like they're all we're all just
normal people. And I know people say that a lot,
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but it's true, Like you wouldn't see your dentist at
Target and just freak out and go over and bug them.
I love I love the dentist, but it's it's kind
of just that everybody just comes in, they do their job,
and it's very public, but it's also really fun and
everyone's just likes to be normal people. I don't know.
That's all I can really think about. I think, um,
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I think one of the biggest misconceptions for what I
kind of say going into your eleven. For some reason,
I feel like people think we're like so rich and
rolling in though, and we just have all of these
money and we spend very curiously, UM, and our guys
are financially irresponsible. I've noticed that a lot. UM, that's
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not the story for everybody. You know, everybody doesn't get
the hundred million dollar contract. Everybody is not just like
super rich, and those people there are, most of them
probably are very frugal. And I think that that's just
a misconception. UM. A lot of family friends, sometimes fans,
even UM ask for a lot more than what is
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kind of accommodating for for our lifestyles. And sometimes it
can be unfair that people treat you as if, um,
you're just so rich and you're just so care you
spend so curiously and I can ask, you know, for
a brand new car in the house, or if I
ask for something you, um, you should give it to
me because you have a whole lot of money, because
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you're play in the NFL, and that's just not a
true story or true statement. I feel like that goes
across the or two because I mean this is only
our fourth I say only, but it's our fourth year
and people are still like, oh, well, you make enough money,
you should do that. And I'm like, well, I don't
think there's that understanding. Like it's literally, like Devita said,
like they think you get drafted. In the second you
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get drafted, you all become billionaires and like that's it,
You're set for life. And like, you know, I agree,
like if you, um, if you invest it well and
do all that kind of stuff, you will be But
that's not to say that like I need to buy
you a car or I need to buy you like
all these things. You know, So I would agree that's
definitely something about it. And I think like that people
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um have the misconception that like you have all this money,
so your life is so easy. And I think like
that's the biggest thing that we've come across is like, oh,
well you have money, so that's not hard for you,
or you have money so you can do this or
do that, And I think like that's the biggest thing
is um, I tell people all the time. I'm like,
you watch my husband on Sunday and you see if
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he has a bad snap, or you see if he
has a bad play. I see if he gets up
and he's okay and he's not hurt. And I think,
like that's the biggest thing, is like the next day,
Like you don't see them when they can't walk, you
don't see them when there's things going on, and like
that's the hardest part of like the behind the curtain
stuff that no one gets to see and like and
then if you were to bring it up or you
were to talk about it, it's like, but you're fine
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because you're making millions of dollars. And so I think
like that's the hardest part of it all for at
least for us personally. I feel like that's and not
to say like it's all a bad it's great. There's
so many good things about it. But I think like
that's the one downside of the this business. I guess
you mentioned the public criticism, Like how do you guys
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handle that when your spouse is publicly criticized. I feel
like for me, it'd be really hard for me not
to like be in the comments, like arguing with people
like I still want to do that and that's like
literally my job. Like how do you like manage that? Yeah,
I think, um, go ahead to the comments, and it's
just kind of how you through it. Yeah, I um.
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Twitter was a big thing, especially in college, because you know,
you have all the Twitter trolls and everything that you
um you want to like look up and not look
up and and I get it. And taking everything with
a great assault our ours is mostly because like we
had to deal with it in college, and I would
say dealing with it at nineteen is a lot harder
than dealing with it at seven. So I think like
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dealing with it in college was hard. You know, he
went from Bradley was the starting guard. I think it
was right guard to losing his job the first game,
like he didn't even they ran out on the field
and they were like, oh, by the way, you're not playing,
So you know, like dealing with all that stuff from
Twitter at he was twenty at the time and I
was twenty one. Um, was a lot harder than now.
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So I feel like you get like more mature and
you get kind of more used to it. I feel
like it's still just like corralling our moms, like, you
cannot reply to this person, and if you try to
call them out, regardless of how much you think that
you're right, they're just going to say something else. So
let's just not. Can we just not? You need to it,
like just press the leat. We call it eating the
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trash in our house. Um. Usually after the game, justin
I was always like, let me just eat the trash
for a minute, and he usually like does like a
quick look over and he's like, okay, but I mean
early on, I mean, this is gonna be your ten
for us. Um. People could be very vicious. Also at
times they're really nice. Um. And then I always feel
like fantasy football puts this whole twist on it where
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you can do everything right and somebody is still mad
because you they lost their fantasy football game because you
did your job well, yeah exactly, like you kind of
can't win. And um, it's the criticism can be hard,
but it also it goes away after you know, six
days later, somebody's onto something else or you know, the
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next game, and it just you have to kind of
not put too much stock in it because it isn't
gonna last forever. But like you said, the families can
be hard because they still love to read it, and
then they love to bring it up and they love
to respond, and they love to ask you about this
article that some nobody wrote. And I'm like, grandpa could
be a grandma. And I'm like, you guys have the
same last name. Please don't respond like you don't know anything.
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I'm like, you this random reporter. I'm like, don't you
think Bradley would have known about his job before this
random person? Yeah, Amanda, I have a question for you
because you mentioned like kind of the spectrum that Justin sees.
And after the Saints game with the missed extra point,
he got up on podium. This is this moment always
stuck with me when I read his quote. He was like,
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but more than anything, I just wanted to be here
at the podium if I was ever going to teach
my son or any young person about accountability, I felt
like it was really important that I stand up here
and answer whatever questions you guys have. And he said
there and he took questions after a really tough moment
for him, And that just always impressed me, Like, how
proud does that make you feel? That he's like setting
that kind of example for your son. Oh, I think
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for sure, and I think it's important for any young
person because nobody's ever going to be perfect. I mean,
it's clear by the meme that went viral he was
just as shocked as everybody else that that bald didn't
go through. And um, it was a big deal. But
at hindsight, like looking back, it really didn't have a
huge effect. But still it's important because it's so easy
in that moment to kind of just hide or wait.
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Maybe for the players, although they have required media when
it's required. Um, he could have waited until Monday to
answer those questions. But it did make me really proud,
and um, I think it really changed it. Um, And
that's not why he did it, but I think it
helped maybe make people realize that he wasn't going to
blame it on like whatever reason it could have been. Um,
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it's funny with that kick, that was probably one of
the hardest. We've been really lucky, I'll just point it
that way. We've been really lucky. We've always had such
great support from the fans. But that was the game
where I was waiting in a lot usually like wait
in this very crowded family room waiting for the guys
to come off the elevators and I went straight to
the lot and we had really good friends in town
who um we didn't get to see very often, and
they came out there like, oh, should we get an
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uber back to our hotel? And I'm like, I don't know.
Let's see how this goes. Like if we make it
to dinner, then we're going to be okay. And so
I waited and I'm like sitting in the car and like, hey,
we're in the car when you get out here. And
he came out and I was like, so, no pressure.
Do you want to go to dinner? Do you want
to go to home? And he's like no, let's go eat.
And I was like, okay, we're fine. Like if you
would have said, like I think I just want to
go home and not go to dinner, I would have
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been a little worried. And we sat at a restaurant
that's in downtom Baltimore, and they had this huge window
and all these fans were coming by and I was
like this could be kind of brutal, and every single
person was so nice that came by, like it was
just they were like thumbs up like you got it,
it's okay. And that was almost the most shocking, Like
he was like, all right, I'm ready to get rassed
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a little bit by like a fan, and like people
were so kind that it it was it was nice.
It was just a really nice reassuring moment that it's okay.
Like and like you said, I think that that might
have helped. I think it helped him process it. And um, ultimately,
for any of these guys, like whether it's Bradley or
it's you guys, anything that happens like it doesn't it
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can't linger like it can't linger with the players. It
may linger with the fans, it may linger with the
coaches a little bit, um, the media anything like that,
but the guys have to be ready to just move
on to the next one. Like one bad snap, Well,
if it's in the first quarter, what are you gonna
do for the other three quarters? You're gonna like be
down about it, Like there might be another game, maybe
there's a short turnaround, maybe the games on Sunday and
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they have to play on Thursday. You kind of just
have to move on. And that's really hard, um for
a lot of guys to do and It's really hard
for a lot of maybe the fan base to do
or UM coaches or media, but the guys don't kind
of have a choice. They just have to go on
to the next. We talked about all the time this
game is like eighty percent mental, and you know, you
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come to a clean slate when you make it to
the league and that's your you know, your of your
athleticism got you here and you're eighty percent of what's
between your ears is what's going to carry you to
be a Hall of Famer and what's going to carry
you to be the greatest kicker of all time. You
know what's going to carry you to be that stuff.
So I think, um, we talked about that all the
time because like center is a huge mental game. You know,
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it's a huge like, uh, specialists is pretty much one
of the hardest ones mentally, UM, and then I think
centers right behind it. You know, being able to have
a consistency of snaps and you know you can if
you have one bad snap in your head goes hey, whire,
You'll have five more. And so like, I think that's
the biggest thing we talked about is just like one
play at a time, One play doesn't affect the next,
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and one game doesn't affect the next. I love. One
thing that's always sentiment seems really special to me is
the camaraderie that you guys have as like a broad
group of spouses. And does that help you kind of
get through those moments like not having these other people
who kind of are going through the same experience as you. Yes,
I think so a lot. I think that, Um, when
the guys are on the tame, the spouses a significant others,
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we become like family. So when you know, our spouse
gets hurt or is out for the remainder of the
seeds and always out for one or two games, it's
so important and feel so good for that person to
be there to kind of talk you through away because
we've all kind of been there, or to give you
that encourage me, or to you know, sin food by
the house, you know. And I think that the Writings
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Organization we do a great job with that encouraging each other,
communicating with one another and just helping each other out,
so that it's like a blessing to have that when
you're kind of going through And I talked to talked
to a lot of other UM, friends that we have
across the league, and there's like mixed reviews, but I
can definitely attest that we have some of the best
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like um, like camaraderie and just knowing each other and
just being open to new people. And there doesn't really
seem to be any like, oh, this is the star
wide receivers, you know what, you know what I mean,
there just doesn't seem to be any of that like
I'm too good for someone else. UM. So I think
that's really cool. And I think that's like an attest
to the team and what kind of guys they choose
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to be in that locker room, and then what kind
of women the guys choose, um to be their spouses.
So I think, UM, at least for as my point
of view, I think it's it's a great team, great
organization and a great group. I totally agree, and it's
some of our most fun years have been the years
where it's been really fun off the field too, and
that's a direct reflection of maybe the personalities in the
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locker room and then how it translates to off the field. UM.
I will add that sometimes the the relationships that can
be one of the hardest parts of the NFL is
actually making those relationships and then seeing those people go, um,
we're on Like I said, we're in your tent. So
it was really hard for a while for the last
few years because I had such a good group. We
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had a good friendship group. Um. And then slowly, you know,
they start moving. That's part of the business, whether it's
they get cut from the team, they get they go
to a new team, or they retire. Like we're at
the age where many of my good friends have retired,
and I'm like, Okay, I have fun in Iowa or
have fun in Arizona, Like I'll see you when I
see you. And these are people that you you've shared,
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like some of the highest moments of your life with
you shared some of the hardest moments. Um you shared honestly,
like all your holidays with the good ones. You know,
they were there when you had your children, or when
you got engaged or when gosh, you just need somebody
in the middle of the night to come and like
jump your car, and then all of a sudden they're gone.
And it's kind of like every season, I kind of
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feel like it's like a new you kind of have
to like reset and then re prioritize and kind of
get to new get to kind of figure out where
you want to go and who wants to be a
part of that in the personalities that go. But aside
from that, it's so it is really great, like even
like I said, the busy little family room after the game,
it's it's kind of like a really nice like homecoming
every home game. We didn't have it of course last year,
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but you get to like see everybody, like maybe you
didn't get to see them in the stands or you
haven't seen them in a couple of weeks because they
haven't been here, but it's always great to see the
friendly faces. And then you get to know the extended
families too. You get to know be like Bradley's parents
come in for every game and or whatever it is,
and you get to it's really nice having that as
a nice like home base of UM like a community, Davida.
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You're the one who here who your family has moved
to other teams. So what is it like when you
go into a new organization and kind of having to
rEFInd that community as you move from team to team. Yeah,
it can be challenging. Like Amanda said, you um you
find your niche in your team, and if you've been
there two or three years and you get close to
the ladies and then if they're gone or you're gone.
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So we've been in situations where we're you know, we
started with the Ravens and then we went to Chicago
and then Washington and we're back. Um I'm going to
say that there's no no place like the Ravens when
it comes to their family support and just you know,
the organization taking care of the guys and the family. UM.
So for me, what makes it easier for me, I
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um Fee and are are very faith based. People were
strong in our faith, so I always try to find
the people that are similar and most teams have have
a Bible study or organization where um, the ladies get
together and kind of um, I guess come together with
their faith and UM read the Bible, pray that kind
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of support system. So for me, once I have attended
those scenes, it's the first thing that I reach out
for to try to figure out who was over the
Bible study, what you know, how can I be a
part of it? And that just kind of helps me
to situate myself in the community in the in the
circle of new ladies that I'm in, and I always
like that it's good to have something in common with
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people and that you can kind of get through those
seasons with Definitely, Nikki, you're very involved switching gears a
little bit um and running you and Bradley's foundation. He
said numerous times that truly wouldn't go without you, and
I know he's a big part of that too. So
what really like day to day kind of goes into
running a player's foundation. Um, it's a lot so um,
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I'm mean when you're an organization. So one of the
reasons that we wanted to start something is because Bradley
and I were both passionate about it younger, whether it
was bullying or food and security that we've kind of
switched into now. Um. But a lot of the reasons
was when we would give money, we would be like,
I have no idea where this is going, you know,
I have no idea who this is going to. I
have no idea if it actually goes to help kids,
(26:20):
like you know, we just didn't know. So our biggest
priority is taking the most amount of that money and
giving it straight back to the community. But the flip
side of that is we don't have a lot of
we don't have a lot of hired staff because then
that cuts down on what you can give back. Well. Um,
the other I guess flips out of that would bean
that I am. You know, so many hats in the organization,
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which is great and I love it. Um. It's a
you know, fifty sixty hour week job when you know
you're planning events, you're planning all these things, you're gathering
backpacks for back to school, You're scheduling food deliveries, you're
you know, trying to talk to a sponsor or go
out to dinner with a donor or whatever it is.
There's so many things go with that. Um. But it's
I wouldn't trade it for the world. UM. And it
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was hard during COVID because we really thrived off like
getting to talk to kids and getting to hug them
and getting to give them food and getting to talk
to them. UM. And I think COVID was hard because
like you just didn't get that interaction as many zooms
as you would go on. It just wasn't the same. UM.
So we were able to get back in person this year, UM,
and it's been really awesome. So it's a. It's a
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full time job, but I wouldn't trade it for the world.
That's awesome, And I know that in the off season,
you guys are able to do a lot more of that.
Hands up, what is the off season kind of like
for all three of you? I know during the season,
you guys have to carry a lot of the loads.
What is it like in the off season when your
spouse is just there a lot more and you guys
are able to have more of that family time. The
off season can be pretty farm for it's our off
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season home is in fort latter day of Florida. Um,
so we're in Florida where the weather is perfect. It's
like right in time before it gets extremely hot in Florida.
So we're bait like February March. Um, isn't it just
made because of that's not on the schedule, which makes
me not really have a schedule as well. Um, So
like when they're getting up, it's easier for me to
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get up and kind of schedule my day. But when
they're just kind of you're not relaxing and to join
the off season, Um, it can kind of you know,
make me do the sime. But it's it's when this
the season is so so strenuous and it takes so
much out of them that it feels so good to
just go home. Um, you know, leave where we are
lead Baltimore, go into our home in Florida and just relax,
(28:28):
be with family. You know. Of course COVID last season
prevented us from traveling, but we usually traveled during the
off season and that is our time. So just kind
of traveling and get back to us rekindle and um
just show each other a little bit of moral attention
that we don't really get during the season. Yeah. I
think for us, UM, it's you know a lot of
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uh community work stuff like that. UM, and travel too.
I think you go through like two seasons. And I
was actually talking to um on about this and it
was like, so during the season you go and we
don't have kids yet, so I'm like, God bless everyone
that does because when he leaves, I'm like, these dogs
are getting them the nerves. And he's like, okay, well
you don't have toddlers, so you Um, but you go
(29:14):
through like you know, I'm a single dog mom for
however long that time is. You know, if something goes wrong,
I'm missed his Sandy, I am, you know, taking care
of the dogs whatever, working, um, and then but then
you go to this other season where like literally overnight
you're with them twenty four hours. So it's like you're
with them twenty four hours a day for you know,
six months out of the year, and then there's a
(29:35):
hard clock where like you don't see them at all.
So it's just like and it always takes like two
weeks to get back in the groove of like making
breakfast by yourself, you know, like getting back into your
exercise routine, like all this other stuff. So um, I
think it's just like the hot and cold of it
is like what makes it a little bit more challenging
of like they're here for the whole time and then
they're gone for the whole time. So I think like
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that's the most challenging part, is like that interim two
weeks of the change. Yeah, we've always um Actually until
COVID happened, we had two homes we had we lived
in Maryland during the season and then we lived in
Texas in the off season. But we sold our home
right before the twenty nineteen season in Texas and decided
to be full time Maryland people, which we absolutely love. UM.
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So for us, we actually haven't had a real off
season since we've lived here full time just because of
COVID we couldn't travel, um, but typically we try to
take a couple of trips. Our Sun is starting kindergarten
next week and so that's going to change things. Um.
I'm really excited about it. But it also just means
shared duties. Maybe I won't have to do all the
drop off and pickups and you know, all the runs.
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But it's really just a lot of family time for
us with our immediate family, UM, and a lot of traveling.
Like to be to said, like, we love to go
different places. We always love to get out when it's
cold because it gets pretty brutal. I feel like here
by February March, you're ready to get somewhere warm. Um.
But kind of just an adjustment. Lots of lots of fun,
dinners out, a lot of times with friends, just kind
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of normal. But like Nikki said, you get to the
point where you're like, can you just leave the house
a little bit? Dogs to walk don't right. And last season,
you know, everybody was in these intense lockdowns in the
spring and the football season came and I was like, okay, cool,
well I'll see you like be safe, wear your mask,
wash your hands like a mom. And then they went
(31:24):
fully virtual and I was he was home all the time,
and I'd be like, it's just constant talking in between meetings.
I'd be in the middle of workout in my basement
and he'd be like, what are you doing. I'm like
a plank, like can you can we talk in twenty minutes?
Like I'm just really I don't want to do this,
so I don't want to chat while we're doing it.
But um excited for this next year, but most excited
(31:45):
for this season. Kind of just getting back to normal.
And yeah, but that's like for everybody. For me, like,
I'm like I was having to cook breakfast, lunch, and
dinner or like meals like He's snacks are not like
an apple, it's like a whole sandwich. And I'm like
I could not wait for him. And I was in
the field because you are killing me. I'm doing grocery
(32:06):
store ones every day. It's like these big breakfasts and
I'm like this is a lot. Now I just have
dinner to worry about, you know. It's a lot of food. Yeah,
before it's a lot of food, a lot of food.
I said the same thing when I was coming down
to my jabas in the morning, and then they're on
team meeting and I'm like, back upstairs, I'm always like,
which way is that? Ever? Pointed? I think in a
(32:27):
couple of face masks a couple of times on accident,
and I'd be like, oh my gosh, like can you
can you turn the camera? Like there's so many other
places you can do this? Or they were texting him
like post post your volumes on and I'm like, I
asked you four times if you were on mute before
I asked you what happened yesterday? Oh man, good time.
It was a truly special year for everyone. You're like, um,
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so you touched on this a little bit earlier, like
kind of what Monday's like recovering after a game, especially
for Fee and Bradley when they're online, you know, and
it's just a physically demanding job. What are Mondays like
for you as they kind of try to recover from
a game on a Sunday. M Yeah, it's not just
Monday cassies ever, Like I was thinking about that the
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other day. I'm like even we're in training camp right now,
and after training camp, somebody is coming to the house.
It's never just us. So for us, it's either a
massage or it's like the stretching guy, or it's the
ivy lady or I mean, it's just always something. So
there's never really an off day, which is why I
go back to how off season it's very much needed
for us because Mondays is wake up, go to the facilities,
(33:35):
getting the tubs or whatever, and come back and like
it's about five people that come into the house to
work on his body. So I'm just kind of sitting
there just you know, doodling, like if I meet a dinner,
Can I got a dinner? Can we got a dinner tonight?
You know. So it's just it's pet recovery days are
very intense for them and very needed, even if it's
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not like last night, for example, the normal take, it's
like in the bed, recovery materials come into the bedroom. Oh,
it's recovery all the time, every day. Those things are
so fun because they're so big and I'm like, scoo,
your heavy legs ever, and he's like they're blowing up
and they don't obviously he can't lay straight. They blow
(34:17):
up like this and I'm like, go, I'm like, we're Kleiner, right,
You're not laying in the spend with this huge michelin
Man thing on. And then he's like, baby, can you
can you prop the pillars up? And I'm like, well,
I'm Brannan, can you prop the pillars up for me?
Like I'm not the proper enormalcy. He's like, can you
time together with the band? I'm like can you? Could
you have done this before or not? Yeah? It is
(34:41):
truly a full time job taking care of their bodies,
I'm sure. And that's always the Monday, it's like what
what's gonna hurt? You know, Like, you know, they get
through the game, it's all the adrenaline. They wake up
the next day and I'm always I look over and
I'm like, so you okay, he goes, well my hand
hurts or well, because when everything wears off, it's like
what actually really hurts? You know? And then it's always
(35:02):
watching them. And I always watched him come down the
stairs in the morning to see what hurts, and you know,
if it's back is stuff, he like waddles down the
stairs and I'm always like we were talking about how
it's hard because people always see like, oh they played
good or about on Sunday and I'm like, oh, yeah,
well he can't walk down the stairs, so that was
you know. I'm like, prepare for next Sunday. Right, So
(35:24):
much of your your lives as a family, as your spouse,
as you as his his spouse is in the public
eyes or any But is there anything like about your
family or your spouse that would surprise people to know? Um,
I'll say, for Justin, I know he has like a
big personality. Um, and that's what a lot of people see.
(35:44):
He's actually at home like really quiet. I don't know
if it's just because we are both very relaxed people
at home, but um, sometimes I'm like, hey, can you
talk to me? Like you like you aren't even talking
all day, but can you talk to me? Um? So
I would say maybe just not performing all the time.
Sometimes we laugh and fans will come up and they'll
(36:05):
just say that. They'll be like, don't give him his
coffee until he sings for it, and they just always
want this performance, and um, there's like an appropriate time.
And I think the guys are totally different in the
locker room with each other or when maybe like the
media is around than they are one on one. Um,
but that's all of us. So I don't know, I
guess just we're pretty chill. I don't know. Yeah, you're like,
(36:27):
we're not singing opera at home? You don't actually have
no singing rule in the house because it's very noisy
all the time. Um, I don't know, you know, I
think Sofie presents this like this violent persona on the
field right, Like he's like super aggressive and super loud
and like he has his dog energy. And sometimes when
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I'm watching the clips, I'm like, wow, who is the
guy at home? He is just start roulax, very chill.
Like you said, a man doesn't really talk much. You know,
he likes to just kind to sit on the balcony.
He loves to be outside, so he would he loves
fresh air, so he will sit on the balcony and
just kind of he says, he's like um meditating. But
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on the field, it's just so much aggression and it's
like Tom he walks into the house, it's like maybe
you want me to take the trashower, you need me
to wash these dishes? It's just he's so sensitive. He's
like a big teddy bear, but nobody would know that
because he's like super aggressive on the field. I think
maybe that's Bradley's but opposite. You know, he's such like
a teddy bear, and everyone sees that he's such a
(37:32):
teddy bear all the time. And then one time I
watched him miked up on the field and like, you
can't really hear because you know they're making play calls
and they're very like secretive on what you can listen
to for the on the Center's perspective, and not the
time he was marked up with the Ravens because he
was acting crazy, but the like in college he was
marked up and I'm like, who is that person? I'm like, oh,
(37:53):
that sounded very aggressive. I'm like, I'm not sure if
I liked that. He goes, wait, what do you mean?
And I'm like, I never get to hear like that,
like meanness. I guess you know what I mean, Like
that meanness of him, um, because it's so secretive of
everything that they say, especially is the Center, And so
when I heard it, I was like, that was weird.
I was like, I'm not sure if I like that.
But um, I guess maybe just like the being able
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to have that aggression on the field and then you know,
just being like super laid back, super chill. Yeah, like
flipping the switch. Like it's really two different, two different
personalities there. Okay, before we finish, we have a little
game that we're going to do. At the end of
all of our episodes were calling it the Purple Hot Seats,
a little this or that. So just rapid fire, five
questions will go around. I'll start with you, David, and
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then Nicki and Amanda. So the first one, I know
what your husbands do. But if you had to choose offense, defense,
or special teams, what would you play? M Um? Probably
the things. What would I play? Personally? What would I
want him to play? You play? Oh, defense, I think
I would do the fun that the same TVs look
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like they're having so much fun before they game. They're
like they're just vibing, and I'm like, that's where I
want to be. I'm like, I want to be just like,
I know, cornerbacks are like so much pressure, but like
I want to be like a marlin that just like
down just like flying around the field and getting interceptions.
I'm like, wow, that seems like so much fun. It
does seem when they have the best celebrations too, and
I feel like I love too when the wide receiver
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is like nowhere near them and they're still doing the
arms and like you had no part of that, but
they have overthrown ball. Still look in a catch. It's fine,
all right. The next one is your favor off day
activity between Orioles game or DC Monuments Orioles. Yeah, definitely Orioles.
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I think so too. We used to the monuments, but
now it's Orioles is fun. Okay. Crab cakes are picking
crabs crab cakes. I know I'm the odd ball, but
we love picking crabs. I know it's so weird, but
we love picking crabs. Crab Cake Brad he was really
good when we did the crab picking videos. So I
(40:03):
was watching and I was like, oh, come on. So
we we go down to the harbor and like get
crabs from the boatman and bring them back and we
do them ourselves with family, because like we like to
show people like, look this is the boat when you
got it from you buy a crate from him, and
then we bring him back and he steams them. He
had to get this like huge pot because you know
they're always so excessive and um, we like make our
(40:24):
steam them there and pick them and show people how
to do it. Our parents are always like this is
too much work. So we always buy crab cakes on
the side, but we don't like tell anyone. Were like
bake them and then we make them pick like two
or three and then we'll be like, all right, well
you can have crab kicks. It's a good like social
activity exactly, but the crab cakes are definitely more efficient. Right,
totally agree? All right, guilty Pleasure show that you watched together? Oh,
(40:49):
probably um got by the Parlor the Bachelorette. He tries
to play like he doesn't like it, and we were
like I started watching it probably four seasons ago, um
with what was the guy that jumped the fence? Um? Colton, Yeah,
Colton season and my mom like maybe watching on the
last episode, I'm like, well that was rude. So we
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I started watching it and then for so we went
to school with Hannah Brown um in Alabama, and one
of our friends dated her, so like I wouldn't say
knew her, but like we knew of her, um, and
so we watched it that season, and he would always
have his headphones half on. And then one day we
were in the car and I was like, I think
I was like hungary or something, and he's like, you're
(41:31):
being a Lukenus monster and you need a chill, Like
so you are watching and I was like, Sode, why
don't come on or just watch it? And so it
just now it started to be our thing. So we
started watching it. We don't watch Bachelor or The Bachelor,
but it's funny you brought it up because I guess
it was on our third year. Um, the guys would
get together and watch Bachelorette. It became like a huge thing.
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Dennis Ketto would host this huge like a Bachelorette watching party,
and it was always during spring all when like it
was only the guys here and they would all go
over there and be like Kelly check like Joe and
it would be a full sofa, like seven guys and
then it was their thing, and I would be at
home with the newborn to be like can you respond
(42:13):
Like he's like, I'm sorry, it's the bachelote I'll call
you when the episodes over, and all of us girls
would chat. We'd be like what is going on like
that they must be they must miss us if they're
doing that. Um but I don't know why guys like
it so much. I don't know. It's so funny, but
we just win me mad. But I do like background
Real Housewives, like never intensely watch it, but it's always
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like if we're getting like paperwork done or something, that
will be on in the background. And he knows every
single tagline every housewife. He knows all of their like
funny little things, and he has opinions. So that's probably
our reunions are the favorite. He will watch the reunions
because it's always so juicy, but I love that alright.
And the last one is your husband your pet peeve
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about your husband that drives you crazy. Oh, I would
probably say that my husband loves to eat and it's
too cool. So they drive me crazy too much. A
lot of food, um mine is like when so he
is already like sometimes struggles with hearing, and I think
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it's selective hearing. I don't. I think he struggles with hearing,
but um when I'm like halfway through a sentence and
he's like what and I'm like, okay, let me finish
the sentence and then if you didn't hear what I said,
ask what, don't go I'm like, hey, do you a lot?
I'm like, oh easy, I'm like do you want dinner?
And he's like, oh yeah, Like and you would have
heard do you want dinner if you wouldn't have yelled
(43:39):
what in the middle of my sentence. So that's definitely
my pet beet. Um. Let's see, Justin likes to do
a lot of projects around the house, which sometimes it's
very great that he loves to go to home depot
and lows, but sometimes it's easier just to have somebody
come in and do it. But um, sometimes he gets
a little ambitious and he'll decide to change every light
bulb in the entire house, and he does a great
(44:01):
job because I wouldn't want to do that. But then
he doesn't like actually clean up the messes, so he'll
do the dishes but then not rents out the sink.
It's like everything gets done and then it just stops.
So I usually have to be the one to like
complete all the things like shut the fridge door or
you know, do the last dishes. Um. But he is
really helpful, but just trying to work on getting it
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to completion all the projects. I would say that's definitely
another one because he's like so ambitious and then he
gets like half of it done. He's like, I gotta
go and I'm like, there's a ladder, like and we
have a child. You can't leave tools out. There's a
power drill like in the middle of the room, like
you've got to clean it up. Well, brobaby, like, we'll
get like halfway. So we like, did it do it
yourself for our house? So we literally did our house.
(44:42):
So we put a new floors, new h v A C,
new walls, new everything. I painted, um yeah it was.
It was a great starting idea. And then by the
end of like I hate this, um but he would
like start a he paint like half a wall and
then be like, oh yeah, well I gotta go fix
the toilet and I'm like half the wall spain it,
toilet will still be there. That's I'll still be there.
(45:04):
I gotta go install new toilet seat. I'm like, okay,
can you finish the wall and then the toilet Like
when did that? These are classic men things for sure. Well,
thank you lady so much for joining me. This has
been so much fun. I really appreciate your time, and
it was great having all three of you here, so
I really appreciate it. Thanks for having us, Thank you
for having us, Thanks for joining us for this episode
(45:27):
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every other Tuesday. I'll catch you next time.
Welcome back to the Purple Chair Podcast. I'm your host,
Cassie Calvert. In each episode, we're giving you a peek
behind the curtain of the Ravens organization. I am so
excited for this episode as I welcome in three incredible
women whose last names you might recognize. Nicky Boseman, Davida McPhee,
and Amanda Tucker. Welcome to the Purple Chair Podcast. Thanks
(00:30):
for having us. So. Of course, your husband's all played
for the Ravens. We know that, and I love that
We've got all three phases of the game represented here.
But um, let's talk about how we got here originally.
How Davida, how did you and Purnell originally met. We'll
start with you. So, um Pernel and we call him
fee so I call him pe So. I refer to
him to be a lot of people call him by
his last name, Magpie. So Be and I made in
(00:52):
college UM in Mississippi State University. I'm from Jackson, Mississippi.
He's from um Palm Beach, Florida, a small town Copper Hockey, Florida.
So he attended Mississippi State. I was there as well.
So we actually met in college. I was an r
A A resident advisor in a dorm room and it
was a Koway dorman. He was living there. I was
(01:13):
sitting at the desk working. He came and checked in, UM,
he was moving in from junior college. We started to talk,
We became friends. Firs. We were friends, were about a
good year, and then we kind of started to date.
So you were his r A. I was his r A.
I was. Was he a good resident? He behave? You know,
(01:35):
with you know, football, they're never really there, so they're
never really in the building. He was always kind of gone,
and he kind of found his niche of UM football,
other football players that were living on on campus apartments.
So I was a junior and he was coming in
as a sophomore, going into his junior year. I was
a junior hidden into my senior year UM. So he
(01:56):
never was really there. He never was there. I remember
a funny story when it was time to check out. UM.
It was, you know, going into summer BREAKT was I'm
the check out and he didn't clean his room. And
we were seeing friends at this point, and I'm like,
I'm doing broom checks and I'm like, used to have
a T be in here, you know, closed like bedding,
and he was like, just um, just take it and
(02:17):
put it somewhere, you know when I'll come get it later.
And I'm like, no, it doesn't work like that. It
doesn't work. You need to come and clean your room
so we can do a you know, a nice checkout.
So that was that was. It was okay, But he
was never really near. She said, he was okay. I
loved that, Amanda. You two are college sweethearts as well. Right,
how did you and Justin originally meet? Yeah, we're both
(02:38):
from Texas. I'm from the Dallasford other area and then
Justin's from Austin, and we met at summer freshman orientation. Um,
Justin was already practicing football team and I just so
happened to have a girl in my orientation group that
went to high school with him. We walked by a
bus stop and we met and we kind of just
(02:58):
became friends sort of on Facebook because that was pree
Twitter pre Instagram and TikTok um. And then a few
months later we went and got ice cream and then
we've kind of been together since, which is really nice.
I guess that it all started on Facebook. It did
start on Facebook. I don't know if that happens anymore,
but Nikki, one of my favorite clips and it's probably
(03:19):
you guys are probably Internet things because of this is
when Bradley proposed to you at the National Championship. So
how did you get to that moment? And did you
have any idea that that was going to happen that day? Um?
So we met in college. I was the center on
the basketball team and he was a center on the
football team. So our friends were always like trying to
set us up together. Um, but I didn't really know
of him. Um. And I was tutoring a guy because
(03:41):
we were taking summer school, so I was tutoring another
offensive lineman in kon because he needed to pass econ
to uh play, and he was like, I'll just cheat
off you. I'm like, no, we don't do that. I
was like, if you want to learn econ, econ, but
we don't cheat on each other of each other. So
we had our econ final and we're on this bus
and his name is Isaa Gluatua and Isaac is typical boy.
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He's like, oh, this bus stop and oh the grass
is green. I'm like, we have a test, Like we
need to focus focus, okay, and he's like, oh, and
this is my friend Bradley, and I'm like, hey, al right,
so we need this test. So then I see him
in the dining hall later and my roommates like, oh,
that's the guy from the bus and he's staring at you,
and she's like you need some water, and she like
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pushes me up to go get water, and I'm like, fine,
I guess. So I walked up there and he was
like nicky. I'm like yeah, and I don't remember, like
I do not remember meeting him. I must have been
in like test mode or something. And so then we
went on a date and we've kind of been dating
from there. Um. And so for the National Championship, I
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had no idea. Well, I should have said, like, you know,
when you get to that point in like your dating
relationship where you're like, all right, it's Christmas, all right,
it's Valentine's Day, you know, you just like start like
thinking about things, and um, we have been together. We've
been together eight years. So we were together four years
I guess at the time. Um. And so but then
I was like, you know what, We're just not gonna
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do that, because then you could get your hopes up
and get upset, and so I'm like, we just need
to not do that. So the game was even if
I had like any inclination that it was gonna happen,
the way that that game ended like it was a
So we went into overtime. So back up, we were down,
like I don't know, we were down like sixteen a
halftime or something, and um Jalen Hurts was playing. So
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at halftime, Jalen Hurts got benched and they put in
Um two a tongue of voloa, and he brought us
all the way back to Tide. We were playing Georgia
and in Kate Cleveland, Ben Cleveland's fiance was at the game,
and so we talked about this all the time and
so um, so we brought all the way back to Tide,
went into overtime, they kicked the field goal, so we
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had to score a touchdown to win the game, and
two a through a touchdown on second and twenty six
um and so we were just like freaking out. Everyone
was scre aiming, you know, at all that. So and
then this is like a very long drawn on story,
but the President happened to be there at the game,
so there was secret service. Well, usually on the when
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they won the national championship two years ago, all the
girlfriends would jump into the field, you take pictures, you
go in the confetti like all that stuff. So that's
what like, that's what we're gonna do. Well, there was
secret service on the field. So I go to jump
and she pulls out a taser and she goes, if
you jump, I will taser you. And I'm like ha ha,
I'm like, you know whatever, You're not gonna taser me.
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So I go to jump and she literally like the
thing like is like fire and she's like clicking it
like she is gonna tasteer me. And he looks at
her and he's like you cannot taste her her and
she's like, oh, yes, I can. And so he goes
and grabs his offensive line coach and tells him like
what he's gonna do because he's about to propose. And
at this point, the whole offensive line is standing there
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because he told them, and obviously I'm still clueless, and
they're like we need to figure something out, like they're
all panicking, and I'm like, guys, it's fine, it's okay,
Like it's not the end of the world just picked her,
and so he gave me his offensive line coach, gave
me his wife's credentials to get onto the field. Well,
that lady was just being a jerk and she's like, no,
those aren't the right credentials, and they're like, yes, yes
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they are. So they grabbed the producer of ESPN and
they go, this is what we're doing. And she's getting
on the field. So he like grabs me by the
arm out of the stance and I'm like walking by
this lady and I'm like, please don't days, Please don't
Dayseri and um So, anyway, then we get on the
field and he proposes, and after that it was like
there were so many events that led up to that.
When people are like, oh, did you know, I'm like no,
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I was just so scared of um one winning the
game too, being dased and three. I was like, that
was not that was the last thing I was thinking about.
That's wild. It's just crazy to me that he had
like the composure to go through that entire crazy game
and then like still pull off a proposal like I
would be a nervous wreck at that point. Well, and
even I asked him, I'm like, where did you put
this ring? I'm like, were you just throwing it away
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in your shoe? He said, Oh, it wasn't my backpack
in the locker room. I'm like, oh, that's a very
typical college boy answer. So someone had to like run back.
So the trainer grabbed it at halftime. But he also
he didn't tell anyone. So um, Jeff Allen was the
head athletic trainer and he didn't want to tell Saban
because everyone's afraid to Saban, and so he asked Jeff.
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He's like, do you think this would be a good idea?
And Jeff basically told him you're graduated at that point,
you can do whatever you want. And he was like,
that's a great answer. So he didn't tell anyone because
he didn't want people to think that was his motive
during the game or like he was anyway thinking about it.
So when they're on the podium and they're giving him
the trophy, he literally has a huddle. And when I
like watched the film back, you can see it. He
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has a huddle with all the offensive lineman and then
they literally all go like this and turn around and
look at me because he had just told him Hey, guys, like,
I'm going to propotes. So it was it was great.
It was a great night. Have one more question about
this because it's just two wild to me. How does
it feel to like know that millions of people watched
to be proposed to on national television? Um? It cool?
I mean I thought, like, um, I don't know. I
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thought it was cool. I did. I at the moment,
you're just like, so it's so surreal and you're so
like in it, um that you don't really think about it.
So like a bunch of my best friends, like obviously
I didn't know, so I didn't have done to warrant anyone.
They were all like in the bar watching it. So
they're sending me videos of them like hysterically crying in
the bar after at the game, and um, and I
had a lot of friends that were like there, So
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it was really cool. I mean, I probably goes, well,
we didn't have to like have an engagement party, Like,
I guess you're right, we've done it. People flew through
plenty of parties. We at that point winning the national championship,
I'm sure. Okay, So well, fast forward to now that
we're here, and I think a lot of people have
misconceptions about what it's like to have a spouse that's
in the NFL. Do you find that to be true? Like,
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what do you think the biggest misconceptions about this life
that you guys live are you go first? I don't know.
I think it kind of changes as as we've kind
of been in it longer. I think a lot of
people think that it is it's all positive, and I
think sometimes and it's also some people think that it's
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like super duper special, to the point that you can
be almost uncomfortable having those relationships with them. Um, I
don't know. It's it's every time I meet somebody, they
have lots of questions. They want to know maybe what's
Lamar like, or like what's Joe like? And sometimes it's
just hard to explain, like they're all we're all just
normal people. And I know people say that a lot,
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but it's true, Like you wouldn't see your dentist at
Target and just freak out and go over and bug them.
I love I love the dentist, but it's it's kind
of just that everybody just comes in, they do their job,
and it's very public, but it's also really fun and
everyone's just likes to be normal people. I don't know.
That's all I can really think about. I think, um,
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I think one of the biggest misconceptions for what I
kind of say going into your eleven. For some reason,
I feel like people think we're like so rich and
rolling in though, and we just have all of these
money and we spend very curiously, UM, and our guys
are financially irresponsible. I've noticed that a lot. UM, that's
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not the story for everybody. You know, everybody doesn't get
the hundred million dollar contract. Everybody is not just like
super rich, and those people there are, most of them
probably are very frugal. And I think that that's just
a misconception. UM. A lot of family friends, sometimes fans,
even UM ask for a lot more than what is
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kind of accommodating for for our lifestyles. And sometimes it
can be unfair that people treat you as if, um,
you're just so rich and you're just so care you
spend so curiously and I can ask, you know, for
a brand new car in the house, or if I
ask for something you, um, you should give it to
me because you have a whole lot of money, because
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you're play in the NFL, and that's just not a
true story or true statement. I feel like that goes
across the or two because I mean this is only
our fourth I say only, but it's our fourth year
and people are still like, oh, well, you make enough money,
you should do that. And I'm like, well, I don't
think there's that understanding. Like it's literally, like Devita said,
like they think you get drafted. In the second you
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get drafted, you all become billionaires and like that's it,
You're set for life. And like, you know, I agree,
like if you, um, if you invest it well and
do all that kind of stuff, you will be But
that's not to say that like I need to buy
you a car or I need to buy you like
all these things. You know, So I would agree that's
definitely something about it. And I think like that people
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um have the misconception that like you have all this money,
so your life is so easy. And I think like
that's the biggest thing that we've come across is like, oh,
well you have money, so that's not hard for you,
or you have money so you can do this or
do that, And I think like that's the biggest thing
is um, I tell people all the time. I'm like,
you watch my husband on Sunday and you see if
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he has a bad snap, or you see if he
has a bad play. I see if he gets up
and he's okay and he's not hurt. And I think,
like that's the biggest thing, is like the next day,
Like you don't see them when they can't walk, you
don't see them when there's things going on, and like
that's the hardest part of like the behind the curtain
stuff that no one gets to see and like and
then if you were to bring it up or you
were to talk about it, it's like, but you're fine
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because you're making millions of dollars. And so I think
like that's the hardest part of it all for at
least for us personally. I feel like that's and not
to say like it's all a bad it's great. There's
so many good things about it. But I think like
that's the one downside of the this business. I guess
you mentioned the public criticism, Like how do you guys
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handle that when your spouse is publicly criticized. I feel
like for me, it'd be really hard for me not
to like be in the comments, like arguing with people
like I still want to do that and that's like
literally my job. Like how do you like manage that? Yeah,
I think, um, go ahead to the comments, and it's
just kind of how you through it. Yeah, I um.
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Twitter was a big thing, especially in college, because you know,
you have all the Twitter trolls and everything that you
um you want to like look up and not look
up and and I get it. And taking everything with
a great assault our ours is mostly because like we
had to deal with it in college, and I would
say dealing with it at nineteen is a lot harder
than dealing with it at seven. So I think like
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dealing with it in college was hard. You know, he
went from Bradley was the starting guard. I think it
was right guard to losing his job the first game,
like he didn't even they ran out on the field
and they were like, oh, by the way, you're not playing,
So you know, like dealing with all that stuff from
Twitter at he was twenty at the time and I
was twenty one. Um, was a lot harder than now.
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So I feel like you get like more mature and
you get kind of more used to it. I feel
like it's still just like corralling our moms, like, you
cannot reply to this person, and if you try to
call them out, regardless of how much you think that
you're right, they're just going to say something else. So
let's just not. Can we just not? You need to it,
like just press the leat. We call it eating the
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trash in our house. Um. Usually after the game, justin
I was always like, let me just eat the trash
for a minute, and he usually like does like a
quick look over and he's like, okay, but I mean
early on, I mean, this is gonna be your ten
for us. Um. People could be very vicious. Also at
times they're really nice. Um. And then I always feel
like fantasy football puts this whole twist on it where
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you can do everything right and somebody is still mad
because you they lost their fantasy football game because you
did your job well, yeah exactly, like you kind of
can't win. And um, it's the criticism can be hard,
but it also it goes away after you know, six
days later, somebody's onto something else or you know, the
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next game, and it just you have to kind of
not put too much stock in it because it isn't
gonna last forever. But like you said, the families can
be hard because they still love to read it, and
then they love to bring it up and they love
to respond, and they love to ask you about this
article that some nobody wrote. And I'm like, grandpa could
be a grandma. And I'm like, you guys have the
same last name. Please don't respond like you don't know anything.
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I'm like, you this random reporter. I'm like, don't you
think Bradley would have known about his job before this
random person? Yeah, Amanda, I have a question for you
because you mentioned like kind of the spectrum that Justin sees.
And after the Saints game with the missed extra point,
he got up on podium. This is this moment always
stuck with me when I read his quote. He was like,
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but more than anything, I just wanted to be here
at the podium if I was ever going to teach
my son or any young person about accountability, I felt
like it was really important that I stand up here
and answer whatever questions you guys have. And he said
there and he took questions after a really tough moment
for him, And that just always impressed me, Like, how
proud does that make you feel? That he's like setting
that kind of example for your son. Oh, I think
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for sure, and I think it's important for any young
person because nobody's ever going to be perfect. I mean,
it's clear by the meme that went viral he was
just as shocked as everybody else that that bald didn't
go through. And um, it was a big deal. But
at hindsight, like looking back, it really didn't have a
huge effect. But still it's important because it's so easy
in that moment to kind of just hide or wait.
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Maybe for the players, although they have required media when
it's required. Um, he could have waited until Monday to
answer those questions. But it did make me really proud,
and um, I think it really changed it. Um, And
that's not why he did it, but I think it
helped maybe make people realize that he wasn't going to
blame it on like whatever reason it could have been. Um,
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it's funny with that kick, that was probably one of
the hardest. We've been really lucky, I'll just point it
that way. We've been really lucky. We've always had such
great support from the fans. But that was the game
where I was waiting in a lot usually like wait
in this very crowded family room waiting for the guys
to come off the elevators and I went straight to
the lot and we had really good friends in town
who um we didn't get to see very often, and
they came out there like, oh, should we get an
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uber back to our hotel? And I'm like, I don't know.
Let's see how this goes. Like if we make it
to dinner, then we're going to be okay. And so
I waited and I'm like sitting in the car and like, hey,
we're in the car when you get out here. And
he came out and I was like, so, no pressure.
Do you want to go to dinner? Do you want
to go to home? And he's like no, let's go eat.
And I was like, okay, we're fine. Like if you
would have said, like I think I just want to
go home and not go to dinner, I would have
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been a little worried. And we sat at a restaurant
that's in downtom Baltimore, and they had this huge window
and all these fans were coming by and I was
like this could be kind of brutal, and every single
person was so nice that came by, like it was
just they were like thumbs up like you got it,
it's okay. And that was almost the most shocking, Like
he was like, all right, I'm ready to get rassed
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a little bit by like a fan, and like people
were so kind that it it was it was nice.
It was just a really nice reassuring moment that it's okay.
Like and like you said, I think that that might
have helped. I think it helped him process it. And um, ultimately,
for any of these guys, like whether it's Bradley or
it's you guys, anything that happens like it doesn't it
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can't linger like it can't linger with the players. It
may linger with the fans, it may linger with the
coaches a little bit, um, the media anything like that,
but the guys have to be ready to just move
on to the next one. Like one bad snap, Well,
if it's in the first quarter, what are you gonna
do for the other three quarters? You're gonna like be
down about it, Like there might be another game, maybe
there's a short turnaround, maybe the games on Sunday and
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they have to play on Thursday. You kind of just
have to move on. And that's really hard, um for
a lot of guys to do and It's really hard
for a lot of maybe the fan base to do
or UM coaches or media, but the guys don't kind
of have a choice. They just have to go on
to the next. We talked about all the time this
game is like eighty percent mental, and you know, you
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come to a clean slate when you make it to
the league and that's your you know, your of your
athleticism got you here and you're eighty percent of what's
between your ears is what's going to carry you to
be a Hall of Famer and what's going to carry
you to be the greatest kicker of all time. You
know what's going to carry you to be that stuff.
So I think, um, we talked about that all the
time because like center is a huge mental game. You know,
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it's a huge like, uh, specialists is pretty much one
of the hardest ones mentally, UM, and then I think
centers right behind it. You know, being able to have
a consistency of snaps and you know you can if
you have one bad snap in your head goes hey, whire,
You'll have five more. And so like, I think that's
the biggest thing we talked about is just like one
play at a time, One play doesn't affect the next,
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and one game doesn't affect the next. I love. One
thing that's always sentiment seems really special to me is
the camaraderie that you guys have as like a broad
group of spouses. And does that help you kind of
get through those moments like not having these other people
who kind of are going through the same experience as you. Yes,
I think so a lot. I think that, Um, when
the guys are on the tame, the spouses a significant others,
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we become like family. So when you know, our spouse
gets hurt or is out for the remainder of the
seeds and always out for one or two games, it's
so important and feel so good for that person to
be there to kind of talk you through away because
we've all kind of been there, or to give you
that encourage me, or to you know, sin food by
the house, you know. And I think that the Writings
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Organization we do a great job with that encouraging each other,
communicating with one another and just helping each other out,
so that it's like a blessing to have that when
you're kind of going through And I talked to talked
to a lot of other UM, friends that we have
across the league, and there's like mixed reviews, but I
can definitely attest that we have some of the best
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like um, like camaraderie and just knowing each other and
just being open to new people. And there doesn't really
seem to be any like, oh, this is the star
wide receivers, you know what, you know what I mean,
there just doesn't seem to be any of that like
I'm too good for someone else. UM. So I think
that's really cool. And I think that's like an attest
to the team and what kind of guys they choose
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to be in that locker room, and then what kind
of women the guys choose, um to be their spouses.
So I think, UM, at least for as my point
of view, I think it's it's a great team, great
organization and a great group. I totally agree, and it's
some of our most fun years have been the years
where it's been really fun off the field too, and
that's a direct reflection of maybe the personalities in the
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locker room and then how it translates to off the field. UM.
I will add that sometimes the the relationships that can
be one of the hardest parts of the NFL is
actually making those relationships and then seeing those people go, um,
we're on Like I said, we're in your tent. So
it was really hard for a while for the last
few years because I had such a good group. We
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had a good friendship group. Um. And then slowly, you know,
they start moving. That's part of the business, whether it's
they get cut from the team, they get they go
to a new team, or they retire. Like we're at
the age where many of my good friends have retired,
and I'm like, Okay, I have fun in Iowa or
have fun in Arizona, Like I'll see you when I
see you. And these are people that you you've shared,
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like some of the highest moments of your life with
you shared some of the hardest moments. Um you shared honestly,
like all your holidays with the good ones. You know,
they were there when you had your children, or when
you got engaged or when gosh, you just need somebody
in the middle of the night to come and like
jump your car, and then all of a sudden they're gone.
And it's kind of like every season, I kind of
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feel like it's like a new you kind of have
to like reset and then re prioritize and kind of
get to new get to kind of figure out where
you want to go and who wants to be a
part of that in the personalities that go. But aside
from that, it's so it is really great, like even
like I said, the busy little family room after the game,
it's it's kind of like a really nice like homecoming
every home game. We didn't have it of course last year,
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but you get to like see everybody, like maybe you
didn't get to see them in the stands or you
haven't seen them in a couple of weeks because they
haven't been here, but it's always great to see the
friendly faces. And then you get to know the extended
families too. You get to know be like Bradley's parents
come in for every game and or whatever it is,
and you get to it's really nice having that as
a nice like home base of UM like a community, Davida.
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You're the one who here who your family has moved
to other teams. So what is it like when you
go into a new organization and kind of having to
rEFInd that community as you move from team to team. Yeah,
it can be challenging. Like Amanda said, you um you
find your niche in your team, and if you've been
there two or three years and you get close to
the ladies and then if they're gone or you're gone.
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So we've been in situations where we're you know, we
started with the Ravens and then we went to Chicago
and then Washington and we're back. Um I'm going to
say that there's no no place like the Ravens when
it comes to their family support and just you know,
the organization taking care of the guys and the family. UM.
So for me, what makes it easier for me, I
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um Fee and are are very faith based. People were
strong in our faith, so I always try to find
the people that are similar and most teams have have
a Bible study or organization where um, the ladies get
together and kind of um, I guess come together with
their faith and UM read the Bible, pray that kind
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of support system. So for me, once I have attended
those scenes, it's the first thing that I reach out
for to try to figure out who was over the
Bible study, what you know, how can I be a
part of it? And that just kind of helps me
to situate myself in the community in the in the
circle of new ladies that I'm in, and I always
like that it's good to have something in common with
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people and that you can kind of get through those
seasons with Definitely, Nikki, you're very involved switching gears a
little bit um and running you and Bradley's foundation. He
said numerous times that truly wouldn't go without you, and
I know he's a big part of that too. So
what really like day to day kind of goes into
running a player's foundation. Um, it's a lot so um,
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I'm mean when you're an organization. So one of the
reasons that we wanted to start something is because Bradley
and I were both passionate about it younger, whether it
was bullying or food and security that we've kind of
switched into now. Um. But a lot of the reasons
was when we would give money, we would be like,
I have no idea where this is going, you know,
I have no idea who this is going to. I
have no idea if it actually goes to help kids,
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like you know, we just didn't know. So our biggest
priority is taking the most amount of that money and
giving it straight back to the community. But the flip
side of that is we don't have a lot of
we don't have a lot of hired staff because then
that cuts down on what you can give back. Well. Um,
the other I guess flips out of that would bean
that I am. You know, so many hats in the organization,
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which is great and I love it. Um. It's a
you know, fifty sixty hour week job when you know
you're planning events, you're planning all these things, you're gathering
backpacks for back to school, You're scheduling food deliveries, you're
you know, trying to talk to a sponsor or go
out to dinner with a donor or whatever it is.
There's so many things go with that. Um. But it's
I wouldn't trade it for the world. UM. And it
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was hard during COVID because we really thrived off like
getting to talk to kids and getting to hug them
and getting to give them food and getting to talk
to them. UM. And I think COVID was hard because
like you just didn't get that interaction as many zooms
as you would go on. It just wasn't the same. UM.
So we were able to get back in person this year, UM,
and it's been really awesome. So it's a. It's a
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full time job, but I wouldn't trade it for the world.
That's awesome, And I know that in the off season,
you guys are able to do a lot more of that.
Hands up, what is the off season kind of like
for all three of you? I know during the season,
you guys have to carry a lot of the loads.
What is it like in the off season when your
spouse is just there a lot more and you guys
are able to have more of that family time. The
off season can be pretty farm for it's our off
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season home is in fort latter day of Florida. Um,
so we're in Florida where the weather is perfect. It's
like right in time before it gets extremely hot in Florida.
So we're bait like February March. Um, isn't it just
made because of that's not on the schedule, which makes
me not really have a schedule as well. Um, So
like when they're getting up, it's easier for me to
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get up and kind of schedule my day. But when
they're just kind of you're not relaxing and to join
the off season, Um, it can kind of you know,
make me do the sime. But it's it's when this
the season is so so strenuous and it takes so
much out of them that it feels so good to
just go home. Um, you know, leave where we are
lead Baltimore, go into our home in Florida and just relax,
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be with family. You know. Of course COVID last season
prevented us from traveling, but we usually traveled during the
off season and that is our time. So just kind
of traveling and get back to us rekindle and um
just show each other a little bit of moral attention
that we don't really get during the season. Yeah. I
think for us, UM, it's you know a lot of
(28:51):
uh community work stuff like that. UM, and travel too.
I think you go through like two seasons. And I
was actually talking to um on about this and it
was like, so during the season you go and we
don't have kids yet, so I'm like, God bless everyone
that does because when he leaves, I'm like, these dogs
are getting them the nerves. And he's like, okay, well
you don't have toddlers, so you Um, but you go
(29:14):
through like you know, I'm a single dog mom for
however long that time is. You know, if something goes wrong,
I'm missed his Sandy, I am, you know, taking care
of the dogs whatever, working, um, and then but then
you go to this other season where like literally overnight
you're with them twenty four hours. So it's like you're
with them twenty four hours a day for you know,
six months out of the year, and then there's a
(29:35):
hard clock where like you don't see them at all.
So it's just like and it always takes like two
weeks to get back in the groove of like making
breakfast by yourself, you know, like getting back into your
exercise routine, like all this other stuff. So um, I
think it's just like the hot and cold of it
is like what makes it a little bit more challenging
of like they're here for the whole time and then
they're gone for the whole time. So I think like
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that's the most challenging part, is like that interim two
weeks of the change. Yeah, we've always um Actually until
COVID happened, we had two homes we had we lived
in Maryland during the season and then we lived in
Texas in the off season. But we sold our home
right before the twenty nineteen season in Texas and decided
to be full time Maryland people, which we absolutely love. UM.
(30:21):
So for us, we actually haven't had a real off
season since we've lived here full time just because of
COVID we couldn't travel, um, but typically we try to
take a couple of trips. Our Sun is starting kindergarten
next week and so that's going to change things. Um.
I'm really excited about it. But it also just means
shared duties. Maybe I won't have to do all the
drop off and pickups and you know, all the runs.
(30:42):
But it's really just a lot of family time for
us with our immediate family, UM, and a lot of traveling.
Like to be to said, like, we love to go
different places. We always love to get out when it's
cold because it gets pretty brutal. I feel like here
by February March, you're ready to get somewhere warm. Um.
But kind of just an adjustment. Lots of lots of fun,
dinners out, a lot of times with friends, just kind
(31:04):
of normal. But like Nikki said, you get to the
point where you're like, can you just leave the house
a little bit? Dogs to walk don't right. And last season,
you know, everybody was in these intense lockdowns in the
spring and the football season came and I was like, okay, cool,
well I'll see you like be safe, wear your mask,
wash your hands like a mom. And then they went
(31:24):
fully virtual and I was he was home all the time,
and I'd be like, it's just constant talking in between meetings.
I'd be in the middle of workout in my basement
and he'd be like, what are you doing. I'm like
a plank, like can you can we talk in twenty minutes?
Like I'm just really I don't want to do this,
so I don't want to chat while we're doing it.
But um excited for this next year, but most excited
(31:45):
for this season. Kind of just getting back to normal.
And yeah, but that's like for everybody. For me, like,
I'm like I was having to cook breakfast, lunch, and
dinner or like meals like He's snacks are not like
an apple, it's like a whole sandwich. And I'm like
I could not wait for him. And I was in
the field because you are killing me. I'm doing grocery
(32:06):
store ones every day. It's like these big breakfasts and
I'm like this is a lot. Now I just have
dinner to worry about, you know. It's a lot of food. Yeah,
before it's a lot of food, a lot of food.
I said the same thing when I was coming down
to my jabas in the morning, and then they're on
team meeting and I'm like, back upstairs, I'm always like,
which way is that? Ever? Pointed? I think in a
(32:27):
couple of face masks a couple of times on accident,
and I'd be like, oh my gosh, like can you
can you turn the camera? Like there's so many other
places you can do this? Or they were texting him
like post post your volumes on and I'm like, I
asked you four times if you were on mute before
I asked you what happened yesterday? Oh man, good time.
It was a truly special year for everyone. You're like, um,
(32:48):
so you touched on this a little bit earlier, like
kind of what Monday's like recovering after a game, especially
for Fee and Bradley when they're online, you know, and
it's just a physically demanding job. What are Mondays like
for you as they kind of try to recover from
a game on a Sunday. M Yeah, it's not just
Monday cassies ever, Like I was thinking about that the
(33:12):
other day. I'm like even we're in training camp right now,
and after training camp, somebody is coming to the house.
It's never just us. So for us, it's either a
massage or it's like the stretching guy, or it's the
ivy lady or I mean, it's just always something. So
there's never really an off day, which is why I
go back to how off season it's very much needed
for us because Mondays is wake up, go to the facilities,
(33:35):
getting the tubs or whatever, and come back and like
it's about five people that come into the house to
work on his body. So I'm just kind of sitting
there just you know, doodling, like if I meet a dinner,
Can I got a dinner? Can we got a dinner tonight?
You know. So it's just it's pet recovery days are
very intense for them and very needed, even if it's
(33:55):
not like last night, for example, the normal take, it's
like in the bed, recovery materials come into the bedroom. Oh,
it's recovery all the time, every day. Those things are
so fun because they're so big and I'm like, scoo,
your heavy legs ever, and he's like they're blowing up
and they don't obviously he can't lay straight. They blow
(34:17):
up like this and I'm like, go, I'm like, we're Kleiner, right,
You're not laying in the spend with this huge michelin
Man thing on. And then he's like, baby, can you
can you prop the pillars up? And I'm like, well,
I'm Brannan, can you prop the pillars up for me?
Like I'm not the proper enormalcy. He's like, can you
time together with the band? I'm like can you? Could
you have done this before or not? Yeah? It is
(34:41):
truly a full time job taking care of their bodies,
I'm sure. And that's always the Monday, it's like what
what's gonna hurt? You know, Like, you know, they get
through the game, it's all the adrenaline. They wake up
the next day and I'm always I look over and
I'm like, so you okay, he goes, well my hand
hurts or well, because when everything wears off, it's like
what actually really hurts? You know? And then it's always
(35:02):
watching them. And I always watched him come down the
stairs in the morning to see what hurts, and you know,
if it's back is stuff, he like waddles down the
stairs and I'm always like we were talking about how
it's hard because people always see like, oh they played
good or about on Sunday and I'm like, oh, yeah,
well he can't walk down the stairs, so that was
you know. I'm like, prepare for next Sunday. Right, So
(35:24):
much of your your lives as a family, as your spouse,
as you as his his spouse is in the public
eyes or any But is there anything like about your
family or your spouse that would surprise people to know? Um,
I'll say, for Justin, I know he has like a
big personality. Um, and that's what a lot of people see.
(35:44):
He's actually at home like really quiet. I don't know
if it's just because we are both very relaxed people
at home, but um, sometimes I'm like, hey, can you
talk to me? Like you like you aren't even talking
all day, but can you talk to me? Um? So
I would say maybe just not performing all the time.
Sometimes we laugh and fans will come up and they'll
(36:05):
just say that. They'll be like, don't give him his
coffee until he sings for it, and they just always
want this performance, and um, there's like an appropriate time.
And I think the guys are totally different in the
locker room with each other or when maybe like the
media is around than they are one on one. Um,
but that's all of us. So I don't know, I
guess just we're pretty chill. I don't know. Yeah, you're like,
(36:27):
we're not singing opera at home? You don't actually have
no singing rule in the house because it's very noisy
all the time. Um, I don't know, you know, I
think Sofie presents this like this violent persona on the
field right, Like he's like super aggressive and super loud
and like he has his dog energy. And sometimes when
(36:48):
I'm watching the clips, I'm like, wow, who is the
guy at home? He is just start roulax, very chill.
Like you said, a man doesn't really talk much. You know,
he likes to just kind to sit on the balcony.
He loves to be outside, so he would he loves
fresh air, so he will sit on the balcony and
just kind of he says, he's like um meditating. But
(37:11):
on the field, it's just so much aggression and it's
like Tom he walks into the house, it's like maybe
you want me to take the trashower, you need me
to wash these dishes? It's just he's so sensitive. He's
like a big teddy bear, but nobody would know that
because he's like super aggressive on the field. I think
maybe that's Bradley's but opposite. You know, he's such like
a teddy bear, and everyone sees that he's such a
(37:32):
teddy bear all the time. And then one time I
watched him miked up on the field and like, you
can't really hear because you know they're making play calls
and they're very like secretive on what you can listen
to for the on the Center's perspective, and not the
time he was marked up with the Ravens because he
was acting crazy, but the like in college he was
marked up and I'm like, who is that person? I'm like, oh,
(37:53):
that sounded very aggressive. I'm like, I'm not sure if
I liked that. He goes, wait, what do you mean?
And I'm like, I never get to hear like that,
like meanness. I guess you know what I mean, Like
that meanness of him, um, because it's so secretive of
everything that they say, especially is the Center, And so
when I heard it, I was like, that was weird.
I was like, I'm not sure if I like that.
But um, I guess maybe just like the being able
(38:16):
to have that aggression on the field and then you know,
just being like super laid back, super chill. Yeah, like
flipping the switch. Like it's really two different, two different
personalities there. Okay, before we finish, we have a little
game that we're going to do. At the end of
all of our episodes were calling it the Purple Hot Seats,
a little this or that. So just rapid fire, five
questions will go around. I'll start with you, David, and
(38:39):
then Nicki and Amanda. So the first one, I know
what your husbands do. But if you had to choose offense, defense,
or special teams, what would you play? M Um? Probably
the things. What would I play? Personally? What would I
want him to play? You play? Oh, defense, I think
I would do the fun that the same TVs look
(39:01):
like they're having so much fun before they game. They're
like they're just vibing, and I'm like, that's where I
want to be. I'm like, I want to be just like,
I know, cornerbacks are like so much pressure, but like
I want to be like a marlin that just like
down just like flying around the field and getting interceptions.
I'm like, wow, that seems like so much fun. It
does seem when they have the best celebrations too, and
I feel like I love too when the wide receiver
(39:22):
is like nowhere near them and they're still doing the
arms and like you had no part of that, but
they have overthrown ball. Still look in a catch. It's fine,
all right. The next one is your favor off day
activity between Orioles game or DC Monuments Orioles. Yeah, definitely Orioles.
(39:42):
I think so too. We used to the monuments, but
now it's Orioles is fun. Okay. Crab cakes are picking
crabs crab cakes. I know I'm the odd ball, but
we love picking crabs. I know it's so weird, but
we love picking crabs. Crab Cake Brad he was really
good when we did the crab picking videos. So I
(40:03):
was watching and I was like, oh, come on. So
we we go down to the harbor and like get
crabs from the boatman and bring them back and we
do them ourselves with family, because like we like to
show people like, look this is the boat when you
got it from you buy a crate from him, and
then we bring him back and he steams them. He
had to get this like huge pot because you know
they're always so excessive and um, we like make our
(40:24):
steam them there and pick them and show people how
to do it. Our parents are always like this is
too much work. So we always buy crab cakes on
the side, but we don't like tell anyone. Were like
bake them and then we make them pick like two
or three and then we'll be like, all right, well
you can have crab kicks. It's a good like social
activity exactly, but the crab cakes are definitely more efficient. Right,
totally agree? All right, guilty Pleasure show that you watched together? Oh,
(40:49):
probably um got by the Parlor the Bachelorette. He tries
to play like he doesn't like it, and we were
like I started watching it probably four seasons ago, um
with what was the guy that jumped the fence? Um? Colton, Yeah,
Colton season and my mom like maybe watching on the
last episode, I'm like, well that was rude. So we
(41:10):
I started watching it and then for so we went
to school with Hannah Brown um in Alabama, and one
of our friends dated her, so like I wouldn't say
knew her, but like we knew of her, um, and
so we watched it that season, and he would always
have his headphones half on. And then one day we
were in the car and I was like, I think
I was like hungary or something, and he's like, you're
(41:31):
being a Lukenus monster and you need a chill, Like
so you are watching and I was like, Sode, why
don't come on or just watch it? And so it
just now it started to be our thing. So we
started watching it. We don't watch Bachelor or The Bachelor,
but it's funny you brought it up because I guess
it was on our third year. Um, the guys would
get together and watch Bachelorette. It became like a huge thing.
(41:53):
Dennis Ketto would host this huge like a Bachelorette watching party,
and it was always during spring all when like it
was only the guys here and they would all go
over there and be like Kelly check like Joe and
it would be a full sofa, like seven guys and
then it was their thing, and I would be at
home with the newborn to be like can you respond
(42:13):
Like he's like, I'm sorry, it's the bachelote I'll call
you when the episodes over, and all of us girls
would chat. We'd be like what is going on like
that they must be they must miss us if they're
doing that. Um but I don't know why guys like
it so much. I don't know. It's so funny, but
we just win me mad. But I do like background
Real Housewives, like never intensely watch it, but it's always
(42:34):
like if we're getting like paperwork done or something, that
will be on in the background. And he knows every
single tagline every housewife. He knows all of their like
funny little things, and he has opinions. So that's probably
our reunions are the favorite. He will watch the reunions
because it's always so juicy, but I love that alright.
And the last one is your husband your pet peeve
(42:56):
about your husband that drives you crazy. Oh, I would
probably say that my husband loves to eat and it's
too cool. So they drive me crazy too much. A
lot of food, um mine is like when so he
is already like sometimes struggles with hearing, and I think
(43:18):
it's selective hearing. I don't. I think he struggles with hearing,
but um when I'm like halfway through a sentence and
he's like what and I'm like, okay, let me finish
the sentence and then if you didn't hear what I said,
ask what, don't go I'm like, hey, do you a lot?
I'm like, oh easy, I'm like do you want dinner?
And he's like, oh yeah, Like and you would have
heard do you want dinner if you wouldn't have yelled
(43:39):
what in the middle of my sentence. So that's definitely
my pet beet. Um. Let's see, Justin likes to do
a lot of projects around the house, which sometimes it's
very great that he loves to go to home depot
and lows, but sometimes it's easier just to have somebody
come in and do it. But um, sometimes he gets
a little ambitious and he'll decide to change every light
bulb in the entire house, and he does a great
(44:01):
job because I wouldn't want to do that. But then
he doesn't like actually clean up the messes, so he'll
do the dishes but then not rents out the sink.
It's like everything gets done and then it just stops.
So I usually have to be the one to like
complete all the things like shut the fridge door or
you know, do the last dishes. Um. But he is
really helpful, but just trying to work on getting it
(44:21):
to completion all the projects. I would say that's definitely
another one because he's like so ambitious and then he
gets like half of it done. He's like, I gotta
go and I'm like, there's a ladder, like and we
have a child. You can't leave tools out. There's a
power drill like in the middle of the room, like
you've got to clean it up. Well, brobaby, like, we'll
get like halfway. So we like, did it do it
yourself for our house? So we literally did our house.
(44:42):
So we put a new floors, new h v A C,
new walls, new everything. I painted, um yeah it was.
It was a great starting idea. And then by the
end of like I hate this, um but he would
like start a he paint like half a wall and
then be like, oh yeah, well I gotta go fix
the toilet and I'm like half the wall spain it,
toilet will still be there. That's I'll still be there.
(45:04):
I gotta go install new toilet seat. I'm like, okay,
can you finish the wall and then the toilet Like
when did that? These are classic men things for sure. Well,
thank you lady so much for joining me. This has
been so much fun. I really appreciate your time, and
it was great having all three of you here, so
I really appreciate it. Thanks for having us, Thank you
for having us, Thanks for joining us for this episode
(45:27):
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