In this episode of we dive deep into the "martyr mode," a coping style often discussed in schema therapy. We explore what it means to have a martyr complex or mode, how it shows up in relationships, and the emotional dynamics that fuel this behaviour.
Key topics covered include:
- The defining traits of the martyr mode and how it may stem from deeper emotional wounds, unmet needs and emotional deprivation.
- The guilt-inducing and manipulative aspects of martyr behaviour, and its impact on relationships with children, partners, and others.
- How this mode can flip between seeking validation, playing the victim, and striving for indispensability.
- Insights into the covert ways martyrs seek emotional control and validation, often leaving others feeling resentful or guilty.
- Practical advice for recognizing and addressing martyr tendencies in yourself or dealing with someone exhibiting this behavior.
Whether you're navigating a relationship with someone in this mode or noticing these patterns within yourself, this episode offers valuable insights and strategies for creating healthier dynamics.
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