In this episode, Dr Gemma takes a deep dive into one of the most common and persistent life patterns—people-pleasing. If you've ever found yourself constantly prioritizing others' needs over your own, struggling to say no, or feeling exhausted from always trying to keep the peace, this episode is for you.
She explores:
✅ What people-pleasing really is and why it’s not just one behavior but a collection of patterns
✅ The three main schemas that drive people-pleasing
✅ How early experiences and conditioning shape this pattern and why it can be hard to break
✅ Six powerful self-reflection questions to help you tune into yourself, your needs and your emotions
These six foundational questions are designed to help you:
🔹 Reconnect with who you really are beneath years of learned behaviours
🔹 Identify what you truly want, need, and believe—instead of looking outward for validation
🔹 Start making decisions from a place of self-awareness and confidence
If you’ve been a chronic people-pleaser and you’re ready to start shifting this pattern, this episode will give you practical first steps to create real change.
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