A listener asks: “What exactly is narcissism and how can I tell if I’m dating someone with narcissistic traits?” In this episode, Gemma breaks narcissism down into plain English. You’ll learn why it’s best understood as a personality style on a spectrum, how narcissistic coping modes show up through self-absorption and poor tolerance for your subjectivity and the concrete signs to look for in the early dating stage. We also cover boundaries, reciprocity and practical ways to tune into - and trust - your internal radar.
What you’ll learn
- Narcissism 101: spectrum vs diagnosed NPD; why “narcissistic modes” matter
- The central feature: self-absorption (and why it erodes empathy & reciprocity)
- Early dating indicators: shallow interest, interrupting, image obsession, contempt/arrogance, running down exes, boundary-pushing
- Reality-checks for boundaries & differences: how they handle “no,” cancellations and disagreement
- Why narcissistic dynamics chip away at self-worth and how to protect yours
- A calm process for getting to know someone across contexts (and why to go slow)
Try this - self-check prompts on a date
- Do I feel seen, heard and not rushed?
- Can I say “no” or disagree without payback or sulking?
- Is attention reciprocal over time (not just in bursts)?
- Do their words match behaviour when it costs them something?
Resources & links
- Download: Dating With Insight - After-Date Reflection Guide (free)
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- Ask Gemma a question for the podcast: hello@drgemmagladstone.com
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