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Summary: In this episode, Gemma and Justine explore how the Abandonment Schema impacts dating and relationships. They discuss the core beliefs tied to this schema, such as the fear of being left or replaced, and how it can cause anxiety and insecurity even in the early stages of dating. They dive into how the schema is often triggered by ambiguity in communication, delayed responses, or inconsistent behavior from partners, and how these triggers can lead to overthinking and self-doubt.

They also share practical tips for dating more mindfully with an Abandonment Schema, including identifying red flags early, managing emotional triggers, and setting healthy boundaries to avoid staying in unfulfilling relationships for too long.

Key Takeaways:

  • The Abandonment Schema can make dating feel unstable and trigger fears of rejection or being left behind, even when it's not warranted.
  • It’s essential to recognize early signs of emotional unavailability and avoid getting stuck in relationships that reinforce old patterns.
  • Learn to manage triggers and address abandonment fears

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