Brittany Clay, an inspiring entrepreneur and advocate for love and relationships, opens up about her extraordinary journey in balancing family life, music, and business. Discover the heartwarming story behind her unexpected venture into the dessert world with "A Sweet Experience," which started from her unique graham cracker crusted sweet potato pie. Brittany's story is a testament to the power of community support and faith in navigating life's challenges. Her passion for nurturing love, both in her marriage and in her community, shines through in every note of music she creates with her husband, Rob.
Throughout this episode, Brittany shares invaluable lessons on mindset, trust, and discipline that have been pivotal in her entrepreneurial journey. From transitioning from music to desserts, she uncovers business strategies that have propelled her forward, including marketing, networking, and applying for grants. We also explore the power of showing up with intention and faith, illustrated through a captivating anecdote that serves as a metaphor for the potential within us all. As a life coach, Brittany encourages listeners to harness their power for the greatest good, celebrating life's journey with gratitude and love. This episode is a heartfelt celebration of growth, faith, and the beautiful dance of life's challenges and triumphs. A Sweet Experience on All Social Channels.
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Speaker 1 (00:13):
Are you ready to unlock your potential?
Tune in to Three Keys for yourJourney podcast, where business
owners share invaluable insightsand empowering strategies to
guide you towards success.
Based in Oklahoma City, ourhost, greg T Jones, will inspire
and motivate you every week.
Get ready to join ourconversation as we build
(00:36):
community together.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
All right, Hello, hello, hello, hello and welcome
Brittany Clay.
Speaker 3 (00:45):
Hello Welcome.
How are you?
How are you?
I'm doing very well.
How hello, hello, hello andwelcome Brittany Clay.
Hello Welcome.
How are you?
How are you?
I'm doing very well.
How are you?
Speaker 2 (00:49):
Brittany Guys, y'all don't understand we got Brittany
Clay in the house today.
Wow, this is a privilege to behere with you today.
Speaker 3 (00:58):
That's what I say.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
Thank you.
Thank you.
This is going to be an awesometime that we're going to have
together and, as you've heard,three Keys for your Journey
podcast.
I'm your host, but today isabout Brittany Clay Tell us for
our listening audience there'ssome people they're listening
from wherever they're listening,and they never don't know you
have never met you.
(01:21):
So for those people, tell us alittle bit about yourself.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
Okay, well, hello again.
Thank you for having me.
I am Brittany Clay, pronouncedBrittany Clay.
That is funny.
People used to tell me like allthe time you say Brittany, why
do you say it like that?
Well, that's how it'spronounced.
One and then two.
I just I love my name, you know, so you can love it too.
But yes, I am a believer.
(01:46):
I am a wife to a wonderful man,rob Clay.
I love that guy so much.
I have five children.
I don't know why I almost saidseven, maybe because I have one
grandchild and one on the way.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Okay, congratulations for that.
Speaker 3 (02:03):
Thank you so much.
So we're really heavilyinvolved with our family, our
kids.
We just love those people.
And what else, oh, we sing.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
That's right, okay, so when we say we sing, you got
to give more information becausemost of you don't know you are.
Speaker 3 (02:22):
I am Brittany, half of the duo love r&b yes we sing
music that inspires couples toremember why they fell in love,
grow to stay in love and learnto love again.
That's one of my passions.
And then relationships, likeeverything relationship when it
comes to when it's the struggleor when it's triumphant.
I love relationships becauseit's all about mindset and
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really how you show up, you know, and so that that is it for me.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
And I have to say this I feel like I heard your
husband, rob, saying and I don'tknow if it was on a Facebook
video, I don't remember what itwas, but he said as you all sing
, it's not just, it's not.
The message of what you'resinging is through real
relationships, ups and downs.
Speaker 3 (03:09):
Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
And through all of that, how you maintain
victorious because you stucktogether.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
Yeah, and because of God, that's our foundation, it's
always been our foundation.
It's always been our foundation.
I don't know where I would bewithout God one, but then
without my husband, and, likehis faith, because he always, no
matter what happens, redirectsme back to where my direction
should be, my focus should be,and that's in God, you know.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
Wow, I think that's incredible.
Okay, so the business that youhave is called A Sweet
Experience?
Tell us about that.
Speaker 3 (03:47):
A Sweet Experience.
I always laugh when people askabout A Sweet Experience because
to me it's a fluke.
It's one of those things thatGod just sets you up and then
you like obey and you just watchhim work.
So A Sweet Experience is ourdessert shop and I say our
because I really try to includemy husband in everything I do.
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So it is ours, we're partnersand we started making.
We started this business with agraham cracker crusted sweet
potato pie, which I held on tothat recipe for so long, because
in our community, you know,everybody can't bring sweet
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potato pie to Thanksgiving.
It's kind of like you got to bequalified, you got to fill out
the application to bring the macand cheese, to make the turkey
and especially the desserts.
You know you might be able toget away with bringing the
plates, you might be able to getaway with bringing the mashed
potatoes, but when it comes tosweet potato pies and those
specialty desserts, you have tohave the invitation.
And so I was about to sharethis in my dessert, my sweet
(04:51):
potato pie, with the communityand I was so nervous because I
just I didn't know it was agraham cracker crusted sweet
potato pie.
I had never seen anybody elsedo it.
But it was so delicious andwhen I finally felt like I
perfected it, I had to share it.
And when I did, it just wentcrazy.
It went viral, locally viral,and people just rallied behind
(05:15):
me and I made you know, maybe$250, $500.
And I was like, oh, the IRSmight come get me, so maybe I
should start a business.
And I ended up like the lady inthe E-Myth If you've ever read
that.
Now, that is a book forentrepreneurs any entrepreneurs.
So the E-Myth, revisitedthere's, the main character is a
(05:38):
lady who owns a bakery becauseher friends hyped her up, based
off of her desserts, to start abusiness and then she found
herself scrambling for help andnot knowing what to do, wanting
to close the doors to herbusiness, and she found her way
out, you know.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
Wow, okay, so wow, and I'm sure we'll get more into
some revelations around.
A sweet experience.
How did you?
I'm just curious, how did youcome up with the name?
Speaker 3 (06:06):
A sweet experience, okay, so again I have to give
credit to my husband, rob.
We are pretty creative.
Words are what we do.
We love to write, we write alot of music, we write poems, we
just write.
But he is just clever when itcomes to words.
And when we bit into that lastpie I made before we started
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sharing it with anyone else, wewere just like this is so good,
this is an experience, this issweet.
It's not too sweet, it's not,you know, too much.
It's a sweet experience.
It just kind of came like that.
But my husband kind of he's theone who came up with it and I
(06:51):
was like that's it, that's it.
And so he names all of ourdesserts and he just he has a
way with words, wow.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
That is.
That's awesome, a sweetexperience, because, as y'all
were taking that last bite, thisis an experience.
Speaker 3 (07:07):
It was.
Speaker 2 (07:08):
Okay, Wow, Well, it resonates.
It resonates A sweet experienceand I love the way you actually
say it A sweet experience andit almost sticks with your.
It kind of sticks in yourpsyche so I appreciate that
Amazing.
It kind of sticks in yourpsyche, so I appreciate that
Amazing.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
Now, when you think about you know, obviously the
goal of this podcast is to forthose that might be listening,
wherever they're listening, toreally get a chance to pick the
brains of entrepreneurs, kind ofwhere they there are keys I
call them keys that have beeninfluential throughout your
journey thus far.
Do you have some?
Yes?
Speaker 2 (07:58):
keys.
So key number one would be,trust God.
Speaker 3 (07:59):
So when I say that, is because I started when you
asked me about the introduction.
I started with music andsinging and I always thought
that by now I'll be on stagessinging to millions of people,
with everybody knowing the wordsto our songs.
And that's just not the caseyet.
Thousands of people maybe, butnot as many as I thought.
(08:22):
Like, I'm just not in the musicindustry in a way that I
thought I would be already, andthat's fine.
But God sometimes has a way ofteaching you things through
other avenues, and I believe asweet experience was is the
avenue for us.
And so what it taught mebecause with Love R&B, we were
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singers, we've written andrecorded albums and we can go to
the church, we can go to thelounges or anywhere there's a
stage we can pretty much set upand sing and entertain an
audience but the business behindit wasn't on point.
We weren't an LLC, we weren'tset up to do business, and so
(09:07):
when I set up a Sweet Experienceto do business, I gained the
relationships of business ownersand other entrepreneurs that
were able to give me more andmore insight and to just push me
along and say, okay, you can dothis, you can make it, Whereas
with Love R&B not that theydidn't take us seriously, but
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there wasn't any foundation forus to carry on as a business, if
that makes sense.
And so now I'm learning thatall of these other things that
you need in place is what?
Now I know how to market.
Nobody was teaching me how tomarket LoveR&B.
Nobody was teaching me to justnetwork for LoveR&B.
(09:53):
No one was teaching me to applyfor these grants, and I
wouldn't have been able to applybecause I didn't have the
structure in place.
And so just having those thingsin place is what God is
teaching me Like.
Get things in order.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
So I think if I picked up on a trust God was I
trust God and then allowing himto lead and guide and direct you
in those next steps that youactually need to take.
And then there comes obedienceto actually do it.
Speaker 3 (10:23):
You do have to have obedience and the discipline to
obey.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
Wow, just sit on that for a minute, I know.
Wow, just sit on that for aminute, I know, wow, okay.
So first and most important,trust God and allow him direct
your path.
Speaker 3 (10:42):
Yes, yes.
Speaker 2 (10:44):
Okay, what comes second?
Speaker 3 (10:46):
Mindset, mindset, and I'd say trust God first and
then mindset, because sometimesyou think you got your mindset
or from.
I'm gonna speak for myself.
I think I have my mindset inorder.
Ok, I'm thinking these thoughtsand I'm thinking right and I'm
believing right.
You know, the Bible tells us,you know, whatsoever things are
(11:08):
true, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are lovely,
whatsoever things are of goodreport, if there be any virtue,
if there be any praise, theremay be another one in there.
Think on these things and a lotof times I'll find myself
thinking on things that may notbe praiseworthy.
And what you focus on reallygrows and I found that when I
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think the way that I have beeninstructed to think, according
to that verse, those thoughtsgrow as well and I find myself
in better relationships, inbetter situations, with better
opportunities, not necessarilywith all the answers, but in
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places that lead to peace andnot confusion, in places where,
okay, here are your next steps,like I found myself in, you know
, progress OKC.
Big shout out to Progress OKC.
But that cohort GenerationImpact, that was amazing.
But I feel like, just in thattrust in God, knowing if I'm
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thinking the right things andI'm thinking in the way that
he's told me to, that it's goingto lead me into somewhere
that's not chaotic, that's notconfusing, and even if it may be
a challenge or a decision thatneeds to be made, that may not
even be an easy decision, it'llalign.
You'll put yourself inalignment with those thoughts.
(12:39):
You take yourself out ofalignment when you're focused on
pessimistic things.
I'll just say that, becausethere's so many things you can
focus on that you don't have to.
Speaker 2 (12:50):
And our culture.
I'm not going to say it'sdesigned this way, but there's
so many things in our culturethat can get you off focus.
Speaker 3 (12:58):
We're conditioned to be off focus.
Yeah, we are, even when youtalk to friends.
Or I got a phone call.
I got a scam call not too longago and because I had a ticket
for speeding, I got called andthey told me I missed my court
date.
I had to stay on the phone withthem or I was going to get a
(13:21):
warrant and all things were bad.
They were telling me I need topay them $900 right then, at
that moment, or I need to turnmyself in and go to jail.
And so in that moment I waslike, well, let's just go to
jail, let's just do this.
And I realized, like I don'thave time to go to jail.
I got cookies to bake, I gotorders to fill, I got parties to
(13:42):
plan, I got things to do.
Can't go to jail today.
So I said, you know what?
Let me just I'm going to payyou, fine, fine, but if you have
to stay on the phone, you'regoing to have to stay on the
phone for about two hours whileI finish running my errands,
until I get to the bank, andbecause God doesn't rush me.
(14:08):
So who are you to rush me Overthe phone, to rush me?
And you know if you, if it wasreally that serious, you're
coming to my door, knocking onmy door, finding my people.
You know, I've been throughthat rodeo before.
That doesn't scare me, so tospeak, you know.
And so we haven't even gottento that part, but anyway.
So I wasn't afraid of going tojail, I wasn't afraid of paying
the money, but I did not likethe way that the call made me
(14:30):
feel.
Although it would have beensomething that I could have
resolved, it didn't feel good.
And so God doesn't operate likethat, and when you get to know
him, based off of how you think,how you move, the actions that
you take, you'll know what pathto take.
(14:50):
He leads our path and you knowhow to be led by him because of
the love that the path allowsyou to follow.
Yeah, Wow.
Speaker 2 (14:59):
So mindset, shifting our mindset, renewing our
mindset daily, moment by moment,to stay in line with the things
that you trust God for.
I'm putting this together asyou're giving it, trusting God.
Then I got to get my mind rightand I got to get my mind to
stay right and that's renewingthat mind on a daily basis,
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moment by moment.
Sometimes, because the worldhas conditioned us with so many
different kinds of things.
Speaker 3 (15:30):
So many different ways to think, because we have
the opportunity to choose everytime.
But the reason why I trustagain I always go back to
trusting God is because we canmake our thoughts our idols.
We can make our thoughts thething that we put our trust in,
and that's not where it shouldbe.
Our trust should always fallback in line with God, Because,
(15:53):
even if we thought that this wasthe right thing to do and it
turns out just so happens thatthat decision took you on a
route that you would not haveliked to take, you still got to
trust God to get off that route.
Speaker 2 (16:08):
It's kind of like the GPS.
Gps.
We've gotten so conditionedthis is me to our phones that if
I'm supposed to go from point Ato point B and I throw it in my
GPS and I make the wrong right,left, wrong turn, it redirects
me.
But when you don't have a GPS,I'm going back to what you said
you've got to trust God toredirect you.
(16:30):
It doesn't mean you can't stillget to the destination,
absolutely.
It just means that you mighttake a different direction.
But your mindset's got to beset on that.
Wow, is there a third?
Speaker 3 (16:39):
Ooh good, what would be my third Love man?
And not just love, but showingup in love.
Showing up in love Paint me apicture of what that looks like.
Okay, I was and this doesn'thave anything to do with
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business.
This time I don't know if I'veeven talked about business.
I just really reflect off ofjust life's moments.
But I was at Target one time.
No, I was at Walgreens and myhusband had pulled up to
Walgreens after the night beforeleaving because the line was so
long.
So we got there this next day.
(17:24):
He pulled in and he was likesecond person in line.
I was like look at you, youmade a decision to leave and now
we're back and it's not goingto take us that long.
And in that moment I saw thelights in the parking lot at
Target, which is right acrossthe street.
If you're in the drive-thru youcan see directly towards
Target's parking lot and theirlights flickered on and off.
And I saw it and I asked myhusband if he saw it.
(17:47):
He's like no and I said well,god has given us the power, you
know, to do all well we can do.
All things are possible withGod.
I got God with me.
I want my husband to see theselights flicker again, so I'm
just gonna channel my energytowards get turning these lights
on and off.
Right.
And so I did like a weirdo andI'm like, okay, lights go off, I
(18:10):
can see, I can visualize them,like I'm doing all the technique
, all the worldly techniques, toget these lights to go on and
off and I, I see people on theroof, so I don't know if it was
an accident or anything likethat and I'm just really trying
to mess with target's power.
And um, and the lady comes tothe window.
She, you know, she had alreadybeen to the window and said
we'll be right back with youwith your stuff.
(18:32):
The lady comes back to thewindow after I'm doing all of
this and she says sir, no, letme tell you this.
I said, I said I need the, the,the, the lights that are right
by me to just power off, on andoff, with no harm and no
repercussions.
And the lady came to the windowalmost instantly, right after
that.
(18:52):
She said mr clay, I'm so sorry,I don't know what's going on,
but our power just went out.
And I was like I am so sorry,like she was like no, it's not
your fault, I can't tell her wow, yeah, really wow and in that
moment God said okay, you did it.
(19:16):
From now on, you get to choosehow you use your power.
And was I using that for loveor to prove a point at that?
You know, I said love andshowing up.
I was trying to show up in mypower, in my strength, with God.
Not in God, but with God, youknow like his sidekick.
Speaker 2 (19:43):
Right, I follow you in your own self.
Versus.
Versus on assignment for him.
Speaker 3 (19:49):
My husband.
He looked at me because Iwasted his time again.
I had wasted his time again,and that's not love.
And so we have the opportunityto do incredible things, amazing
things, powerful things, butthat doesn't mean that it's the
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right thing, it doesn't meanthat it's the right time, and it
does mean that we have toconsider always what is the
greatest good for all people.
What is the greatest good forall people?
And so when you show up, you'renot just showing up with you
know, just because you're thereand you're showing up and you're
(20:36):
, the way you show up is goingto always impact someone else,
always.
So how are we showing up?
Speaker 2 (20:48):
Yeah, ain't nothing else to say.
That's a great question to endwith how are we showing up?
How are we showing up every day?
You feel like now I mean thismay be just me.
It feels like I mean, have youever thought about life coaching
?
Speaker 3 (21:06):
You dropping dimes nuggets nickels quarters.
Speaker 2 (21:07):
Have you ever thought about life coaching?
Or you got you dropping dimesand nuggets nickels dot quarters
.
That have you ever thought?
Speaker 3 (21:11):
about that absolutely , um, what?
I am the miracle coach.
Um, that is one of the entitiesthat I have.
I am the miracle co and wereally focus on helping wives
show up in a way that theydesire to show up and live
fulfilling lives that in turn,offer fulfilling marriages.
(21:33):
Because for a long time, evenin the midst of me being a
self-proclaimed marriage I don'tknow what, even to call it like
a marriage guru I wasn't a guru.
I never said I was a guru, but Ican't even think of a word to
say but just in the marriagecommunity and really supporting
other marriages, I found myself,as a wife, just really
(21:58):
miserable and really wantingmore out of my relationship,
more from my husband, but what Ihad done was found myself, um
really, I had found myselftrusting in everything but what
I should have been trusting in,and so those keys that I I come
from, that I give, aredefinitely keys to a framework
(22:19):
God gave me for being miraclewife, life-minded, wow, and yeah
.
Speaker 2 (22:25):
Okay, multi-talented artist, business owner, mom,
wife Wow, I mean, and I'm justgiving kudos and flowers while I
can, I mean while we all gothrough the ups and downs of
life, but you are every time Isee you're smiling, you have a
(22:47):
good attitude, and I never, Inever say you always say
everything is perfect, but youbut but I get a glimpse of
there's more good than bad withthe keys you gave today.
There's always a path to getback, to be, um, peaceful with
where you are, uh, and whereyou're trying to go, the
(23:08):
aptitude to learn and want togrow, taking what God gives you
and taking that in like a garden, wanting to till that the right
way and then allow that to.
You know it's like plantingseeds and you know God has to
give the increase, but it feelslike you just you take what
you've been given and there'scontentment with that.
(23:28):
And then there's this, thisheart to want to strive to
continue to be better whileyou're on this assignment, while
we're all six feet up and notsix feet under.
Yeah, and I appreciate that.
Thank you, I really do so.
No, it wasn't all about today,a sweet experience, but I think
you gave us a part of your lifeand I really appreciate that as
(23:49):
well, where I can see where itis has been a sweet experience.
So thank you.
Now, okay, people are going toask.
They're going to ask me how canI get in contact with Brittany?
How can we get in contact withyou?
Whether it be the marriage code, whether it be a sweet
experience, whether it may justbe to talk to you, just to talk
(24:10):
to you, how can people get incontact with you?
Speaker 3 (24:12):
Since we all started here with a sweet experience,
let's just go that route.
It's the most consistent.
It's the brand that we'rebuilding.
So a sweet EXP is where theycan follow us on all our social
media platforms Facebook,instagram, tiktok.
A Sweet EXP.
And then our email is asuitexpat gmailcom.
(24:37):
The website is asuitexpcom.
So A Sweet EXP.
Speaker 2 (24:43):
And that website is.
I've been out there, man, it'sgot all your products.
I mean, we talked about thesweet potato pie.
Yes, but it's them good buttercookies.
Them butter cookies, this goo, Imean this ooey goo goo.
I mean come on, there's morethings.
So go out to the website,Follow on the social channels.
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No worries that, as Brittanysaid those things, we're going
to put all that in the comments.
Um man, thank you so much forbeing here.
We've really been blessed tohave you and I can't wait to
have you back again.
Speaker 3 (25:19):
Thank you, I I enjoyed it.
It's been a pleasure and Ican't wait to come back.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
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Tune in next time for anotherepisode.
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Tune in to Three Keys for yourJourney podcast, where business
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and motivate you every week.
Get ready to join ourconversation as we build
(00:36):
community together.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
All right, Hello, hello, hello, hello and welcome
Brittany Clay.
Speaker 3 (00:45):
Hello Welcome.
How are you?
How are you?
I'm doing very well.
How hello, hello, hello andwelcome Brittany Clay.
Hello Welcome.
How are you?
How are you?
I'm doing very well.
How are you?
Speaker 2 (00:49):
Brittany Guys, y'all don't understand we got Brittany
Clay in the house today.
Wow, this is a privilege to behere with you today.
Speaker 3 (00:58):
That's what I say.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
Thank you.
Thank you.
This is going to be an awesometime that we're going to have
together and, as you've heard,three Keys for your Journey
podcast.
I'm your host, but today isabout Brittany Clay Tell us for
our listening audience there'ssome people they're listening
from wherever they're listening,and they never don't know you
have never met you.
(01:21):
So for those people, tell us alittle bit about yourself.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
Okay, well, hello again.
Thank you for having me.
I am Brittany Clay, pronouncedBrittany Clay.
That is funny.
People used to tell me like allthe time you say Brittany, why
do you say it like that?
Well, that's how it'spronounced.
One and then two.
I just I love my name, you know, so you can love it too.
But yes, I am a believer.
(01:46):
I am a wife to a wonderful man,rob Clay.
I love that guy so much.
I have five children.
I don't know why I almost saidseven, maybe because I have one
grandchild and one on the way.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Okay, congratulations for that.
Speaker 3 (02:03):
Thank you so much.
So we're really heavilyinvolved with our family, our
kids.
We just love those people.
And what else, oh, we sing.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
That's right, okay, so when we say we sing, you got
to give more information becausemost of you don't know you are.
Speaker 3 (02:22):
I am Brittany, half of the duo love r&b yes we sing
music that inspires couples toremember why they fell in love,
grow to stay in love and learnto love again.
That's one of my passions.
And then relationships, likeeverything relationship when it
comes to when it's the struggleor when it's triumphant.
I love relationships becauseit's all about mindset and
(02:45):
really how you show up, you know, and so that that is it for me.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
And I have to say this I feel like I heard your
husband, rob, saying and I don'tknow if it was on a Facebook
video, I don't remember what itwas, but he said as you all sing
, it's not just, it's not.
The message of what you'resinging is through real
relationships, ups and downs.
Speaker 3 (03:09):
Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
And through all of that, how you maintain
victorious because you stucktogether.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
Yeah, and because of God, that's our foundation, it's
always been our foundation.
It's always been our foundation.
I don't know where I would bewithout God one, but then
without my husband, and, likehis faith, because he always, no
matter what happens, redirectsme back to where my direction
should be, my focus should be,and that's in God, you know.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
Wow, I think that's incredible.
Okay, so the business that youhave is called A Sweet
Experience?
Tell us about that.
Speaker 3 (03:47):
A Sweet Experience.
I always laugh when people askabout A Sweet Experience because
to me it's a fluke.
It's one of those things thatGod just sets you up and then
you like obey and you just watchhim work.
So A Sweet Experience is ourdessert shop and I say our
because I really try to includemy husband in everything I do.
(04:07):
So it is ours, we're partnersand we started making.
We started this business with agraham cracker crusted sweet
potato pie, which I held on tothat recipe for so long, because
in our community, you know,everybody can't bring sweet
(04:27):
potato pie to Thanksgiving.
It's kind of like you got to bequalified, you got to fill out
the application to bring the macand cheese, to make the turkey
and especially the desserts.
You know you might be able toget away with bringing the
plates, you might be able to getaway with bringing the mashed
potatoes, but when it comes tosweet potato pies and those
specialty desserts, you have tohave the invitation.
And so I was about to sharethis in my dessert, my sweet
(04:51):
potato pie, with the communityand I was so nervous because I
just I didn't know it was agraham cracker crusted sweet
potato pie.
I had never seen anybody elsedo it.
But it was so delicious andwhen I finally felt like I
perfected it, I had to share it.
And when I did, it just wentcrazy.
It went viral, locally viral,and people just rallied behind
(05:15):
me and I made you know, maybe$250, $500.
And I was like, oh, the IRSmight come get me, so maybe I
should start a business.
And I ended up like the lady inthe E-Myth If you've ever read
that.
Now, that is a book forentrepreneurs any entrepreneurs.
So the E-Myth, revisitedthere's, the main character is a
(05:38):
lady who owns a bakery becauseher friends hyped her up, based
off of her desserts, to start abusiness and then she found
herself scrambling for help andnot knowing what to do, wanting
to close the doors to herbusiness, and she found her way
out, you know.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
Wow, okay, so wow, and I'm sure we'll get more into
some revelations around.
A sweet experience.
How did you?
I'm just curious, how did youcome up with the name?
Speaker 3 (06:06):
A sweet experience, okay, so again I have to give
credit to my husband, rob.
We are pretty creative.
Words are what we do.
We love to write, we write alot of music, we write poems, we
just write.
But he is just clever when itcomes to words.
And when we bit into that lastpie I made before we started
(06:30):
sharing it with anyone else, wewere just like this is so good,
this is an experience, this issweet.
It's not too sweet, it's not,you know, too much.
It's a sweet experience.
It just kind of came like that.
But my husband kind of he's theone who came up with it and I
(06:51):
was like that's it, that's it.
And so he names all of ourdesserts and he just he has a
way with words, wow.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
That is.
That's awesome, a sweetexperience, because, as y'all
were taking that last bite, thisis an experience.
Speaker 3 (07:07):
It was.
Speaker 2 (07:08):
Okay, Wow, Well, it resonates.
It resonates A sweet experienceand I love the way you actually
say it A sweet experience andit almost sticks with your.
It kind of sticks in yourpsyche so I appreciate that
Amazing.
It kind of sticks in yourpsyche, so I appreciate that
Amazing.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
Now, when you think about you know, obviously the
goal of this podcast is to forthose that might be listening,
wherever they're listening, toreally get a chance to pick the
brains of entrepreneurs, kind ofwhere they there are keys I
call them keys that have beeninfluential throughout your
journey thus far.
Do you have some?
Yes?
Speaker 2 (07:58):
keys.
So key number one would be,trust God.
Speaker 3 (07:59):
So when I say that, is because I started when you
asked me about the introduction.
I started with music andsinging and I always thought
that by now I'll be on stagessinging to millions of people,
with everybody knowing the wordsto our songs.
And that's just not the caseyet.
Thousands of people maybe, butnot as many as I thought.
(08:22):
Like, I'm just not in the musicindustry in a way that I
thought I would be already, andthat's fine.
But God sometimes has a way ofteaching you things through
other avenues, and I believe asweet experience was is the
avenue for us.
And so what it taught mebecause with Love R&B, we were
(08:45):
singers, we've written andrecorded albums and we can go to
the church, we can go to thelounges or anywhere there's a
stage we can pretty much set upand sing and entertain an
audience but the business behindit wasn't on point.
We weren't an LLC, we weren'tset up to do business, and so
(09:07):
when I set up a Sweet Experienceto do business, I gained the
relationships of business ownersand other entrepreneurs that
were able to give me more andmore insight and to just push me
along and say, okay, you can dothis, you can make it, Whereas
with Love R&B not that theydidn't take us seriously, but
(09:32):
there wasn't any foundation forus to carry on as a business, if
that makes sense.
And so now I'm learning thatall of these other things that
you need in place is what?
Now I know how to market.
Nobody was teaching me how tomarket LoveR&B.
Nobody was teaching me to justnetwork for LoveR&B.
(09:53):
No one was teaching me to applyfor these grants, and I
wouldn't have been able to applybecause I didn't have the
structure in place.
And so just having those thingsin place is what God is
teaching me Like.
Get things in order.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
So I think if I picked up on a trust God was I
trust God and then allowing himto lead and guide and direct you
in those next steps that youactually need to take.
And then there comes obedienceto actually do it.
Speaker 3 (10:23):
You do have to have obedience and the discipline to
obey.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
Wow, just sit on that for a minute, I know.
Wow, just sit on that for aminute, I know, wow, okay.
So first and most important,trust God and allow him direct
your path.
Speaker 3 (10:42):
Yes, yes.
Speaker 2 (10:44):
Okay, what comes second?
Speaker 3 (10:46):
Mindset, mindset, and I'd say trust God first and
then mindset, because sometimesyou think you got your mindset
or from.
I'm gonna speak for myself.
I think I have my mindset inorder.
Ok, I'm thinking these thoughtsand I'm thinking right and I'm
believing right.
You know, the Bible tells us,you know, whatsoever things are
(11:08):
true, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are lovely,
whatsoever things are of goodreport, if there be any virtue,
if there be any praise, theremay be another one in there.
Think on these things and a lotof times I'll find myself
thinking on things that may notbe praiseworthy.
And what you focus on reallygrows and I found that when I
(11:30):
think the way that I have beeninstructed to think, according
to that verse, those thoughtsgrow as well and I find myself
in better relationships, inbetter situations, with better
opportunities, not necessarilywith all the answers, but in
(11:54):
places that lead to peace andnot confusion, in places where,
okay, here are your next steps,like I found myself in, you know
, progress OKC.
Big shout out to Progress OKC.
But that cohort GenerationImpact, that was amazing.
But I feel like, just in thattrust in God, knowing if I'm
(12:17):
thinking the right things andI'm thinking in the way that
he's told me to, that it's goingto lead me into somewhere
that's not chaotic, that's notconfusing, and even if it may be
a challenge or a decision thatneeds to be made, that may not
even be an easy decision, it'llalign.
You'll put yourself inalignment with those thoughts.
(12:39):
You take yourself out ofalignment when you're focused on
pessimistic things.
I'll just say that, becausethere's so many things you can
focus on that you don't have to.
Speaker 2 (12:50):
And our culture.
I'm not going to say it'sdesigned this way, but there's
so many things in our culturethat can get you off focus.
Speaker 3 (12:58):
We're conditioned to be off focus.
Yeah, we are, even when youtalk to friends.
Or I got a phone call.
I got a scam call not too longago and because I had a ticket
for speeding, I got called andthey told me I missed my court
date.
I had to stay on the phone withthem or I was going to get a
(13:21):
warrant and all things were bad.
They were telling me I need topay them $900 right then, at
that moment, or I need to turnmyself in and go to jail.
And so in that moment I waslike, well, let's just go to
jail, let's just do this.
And I realized, like I don'thave time to go to jail.
I got cookies to bake, I gotorders to fill, I got parties to
(13:42):
plan, I got things to do.
Can't go to jail today.
So I said, you know what?
Let me just I'm going to payyou, fine, fine, but if you have
to stay on the phone, you'regoing to have to stay on the
phone for about two hours whileI finish running my errands,
until I get to the bank, andbecause God doesn't rush me.
(14:08):
So who are you to rush me Overthe phone, to rush me?
And you know if you, if it wasreally that serious, you're
coming to my door, knocking onmy door, finding my people.
You know, I've been throughthat rodeo before.
That doesn't scare me, so tospeak, you know.
And so we haven't even gottento that part, but anyway.
So I wasn't afraid of going tojail, I wasn't afraid of paying
the money, but I did not likethe way that the call made me
(14:30):
feel.
Although it would have beensomething that I could have
resolved, it didn't feel good.
And so God doesn't operate likethat, and when you get to know
him, based off of how you think,how you move, the actions that
you take, you'll know what pathto take.
(14:50):
He leads our path and you knowhow to be led by him because of
the love that the path allowsyou to follow.
Yeah, Wow.
Speaker 2 (14:59):
So mindset, shifting our mindset, renewing our
mindset daily, moment by moment,to stay in line with the things
that you trust God for.
I'm putting this together asyou're giving it, trusting God.
Then I got to get my mind rightand I got to get my mind to
stay right and that's renewingthat mind on a daily basis,
(15:22):
moment by moment.
Sometimes, because the worldhas conditioned us with so many
different kinds of things.
Speaker 3 (15:30):
So many different ways to think, because we have
the opportunity to choose everytime.
But the reason why I trustagain I always go back to
trusting God is because we canmake our thoughts our idols.
We can make our thoughts thething that we put our trust in,
and that's not where it shouldbe.
Our trust should always fallback in line with God, Because,
(15:53):
even if we thought that this wasthe right thing to do and it
turns out just so happens thatthat decision took you on a
route that you would not haveliked to take, you still got to
trust God to get off that route.
Speaker 2 (16:08):
It's kind of like the GPS.
Gps.
We've gotten so conditionedthis is me to our phones that if
I'm supposed to go from point Ato point B and I throw it in my
GPS and I make the wrong right,left, wrong turn, it redirects
me.
But when you don't have a GPS,I'm going back to what you said
you've got to trust God toredirect you.
(16:30):
It doesn't mean you can't stillget to the destination,
absolutely.
It just means that you mighttake a different direction.
But your mindset's got to beset on that.
Wow, is there a third?
Speaker 3 (16:39):
Ooh good, what would be my third Love man?
And not just love, but showingup in love.
Showing up in love Paint me apicture of what that looks like.
Okay, I was and this doesn'thave anything to do with
(17:04):
business.
This time I don't know if I'veeven talked about business.
I just really reflect off ofjust life's moments.
But I was at Target one time.
No, I was at Walgreens and myhusband had pulled up to
Walgreens after the night beforeleaving because the line was so
long.
So we got there this next day.
(17:24):
He pulled in and he was likesecond person in line.
I was like look at you, youmade a decision to leave and now
we're back and it's not goingto take us that long.
And in that moment I saw thelights in the parking lot at
Target, which is right acrossthe street.
If you're in the drive-thru youcan see directly towards
Target's parking lot and theirlights flickered on and off.
And I saw it and I asked myhusband if he saw it.
(17:47):
He's like no and I said well,god has given us the power, you
know, to do all well we can do.
All things are possible withGod.
I got God with me.
I want my husband to see theselights flicker again, so I'm
just gonna channel my energytowards get turning these lights
on and off.
Right.
And so I did like a weirdo andI'm like, okay, lights go off, I
(18:10):
can see, I can visualize them,like I'm doing all the technique
, all the worldly techniques, toget these lights to go on and
off and I, I see people on theroof, so I don't know if it was
an accident or anything likethat and I'm just really trying
to mess with target's power.
And um, and the lady comes tothe window.
She, you know, she had alreadybeen to the window and said
we'll be right back with youwith your stuff.
(18:32):
The lady comes back to thewindow after I'm doing all of
this and she says sir, no, letme tell you this.
I said, I said I need the, the,the, the lights that are right
by me to just power off, on andoff, with no harm and no
repercussions.
And the lady came to the windowalmost instantly, right after
that.
(18:52):
She said mr clay, I'm so sorry,I don't know what's going on,
but our power just went out.
And I was like I am so sorry,like she was like no, it's not
your fault, I can't tell her wow, yeah, really wow and in that
moment God said okay, you did it.
(19:16):
From now on, you get to choosehow you use your power.
And was I using that for loveor to prove a point at that?
You know, I said love andshowing up.
I was trying to show up in mypower, in my strength, with God.
Not in God, but with God, youknow like his sidekick.
Speaker 2 (19:43):
Right, I follow you in your own self.
Versus.
Versus on assignment for him.
Speaker 3 (19:49):
My husband.
He looked at me because Iwasted his time again.
I had wasted his time again,and that's not love.
And so we have the opportunityto do incredible things, amazing
things, powerful things, butthat doesn't mean that it's the
(20:13):
right thing, it doesn't meanthat it's the right time, and it
does mean that we have toconsider always what is the
greatest good for all people.
What is the greatest good forall people?
And so when you show up, you'renot just showing up with you
know, just because you're thereand you're showing up and you're
(20:36):
, the way you show up is goingto always impact someone else,
always.
So how are we showing up?
Speaker 2 (20:48):
Yeah, ain't nothing else to say.
That's a great question to endwith how are we showing up?
How are we showing up every day?
You feel like now I mean thismay be just me.
It feels like I mean, have youever thought about life coaching
?
Speaker 3 (21:06):
You dropping dimes nuggets nickels quarters.
Speaker 2 (21:07):
Have you ever thought about life coaching?
Or you got you dropping dimesand nuggets nickels dot quarters
.
That have you ever thought?
Speaker 3 (21:11):
about that absolutely , um, what?
I am the miracle coach.
Um, that is one of the entitiesthat I have.
I am the miracle co and wereally focus on helping wives
show up in a way that theydesire to show up and live
fulfilling lives that in turn,offer fulfilling marriages.
(21:33):
Because for a long time, evenin the midst of me being a
self-proclaimed marriage I don'tknow what, even to call it like
a marriage guru I wasn't a guru.
I never said I was a guru, but Ican't even think of a word to
say but just in the marriagecommunity and really supporting
other marriages, I found myself,as a wife, just really
(21:58):
miserable and really wantingmore out of my relationship,
more from my husband, but what Ihad done was found myself, um
really, I had found myselftrusting in everything but what
I should have been trusting in,and so those keys that I I come
from, that I give, aredefinitely keys to a framework
(22:19):
God gave me for being miraclewife, life-minded, wow, and yeah
.
Speaker 2 (22:25):
Okay, multi-talented artist, business owner, mom,
wife Wow, I mean, and I'm justgiving kudos and flowers while I
can, I mean while we all gothrough the ups and downs of
life, but you are every time Isee you're smiling, you have a
(22:47):
good attitude, and I never, Inever say you always say
everything is perfect, but youbut but I get a glimpse of
there's more good than bad withthe keys you gave today.
There's always a path to getback, to be, um, peaceful with
where you are, uh, and whereyou're trying to go, the
(23:08):
aptitude to learn and want togrow, taking what God gives you
and taking that in like a garden, wanting to till that the right
way and then allow that to.
You know it's like plantingseeds and you know God has to
give the increase, but it feelslike you just you take what
you've been given and there'scontentment with that.
(23:28):
And then there's this, thisheart to want to strive to
continue to be better whileyou're on this assignment, while
we're all six feet up and notsix feet under.
Yeah, and I appreciate that.
Thank you, I really do so.
No, it wasn't all about today,a sweet experience, but I think
you gave us a part of your lifeand I really appreciate that as
(23:49):
well, where I can see where itis has been a sweet experience.
So thank you.
Now, okay, people are going toask.
They're going to ask me how canI get in contact with Brittany?
How can we get in contact withyou?
Whether it be the marriage code, whether it be a sweet
experience, whether it may justbe to talk to you, just to talk
(24:10):
to you, how can people get incontact with you?
Speaker 3 (24:12):
Since we all started here with a sweet experience,
let's just go that route.
It's the most consistent.
It's the brand that we'rebuilding.
So a sweet EXP is where theycan follow us on all our social
media platforms Facebook,instagram, tiktok.
A Sweet EXP.
And then our email is asuitexpat gmailcom.
(24:37):
The website is asuitexpcom.
So A Sweet EXP.
Speaker 2 (24:43):
And that website is.
I've been out there, man, it'sgot all your products.
I mean, we talked about thesweet potato pie.
Yes, but it's them good buttercookies.
Them butter cookies, this goo, Imean this ooey goo goo.
I mean come on, there's morethings.
So go out to the website,Follow on the social channels.
(25:05):
No worries that, as Brittanysaid those things, we're going
to put all that in the comments.
Um man, thank you so much forbeing here.
We've really been blessed tohave you and I can't wait to
have you back again.
Speaker 3 (25:19):
Thank you, I I enjoyed it.
It's been a pleasure and Ican't wait to come back.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
Thanks for joining Three Keys for your Journey.
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