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A birthday fall didn’t seem like a life-changer—until weeks later when pain roared, the knee wouldn’t bend, and the ER’s answers didn’t match what the body was screaming. We walk you through the messy middle: canceled surgery, a psoas impingement label that didn’t fit, a rehab stint that hurt more than it helped, and the relentless push to be heard. When an orthopedic visit finally led to a CT scan, the truth landed with force: the hip had been 50% out of the socket since June.

From there, everything sharpened. We break down the three paths on the table—removing the femoral head, living with a barely functional leg, or committing to a total hip replacement—and why choosing the replacement is the only route back to stability, mobility, and independence. Because cerebral palsy adds muscle spasms that could threaten a new implant, we also share the cast-first plan designed to protect the hip during those crucial early weeks. Expect candid talk about pain management, realistic PT milestones, and a recovery arc that includes six weeks of healing and two weeks of focused rehab.

This conversation is part battle map, part field notes for anyone navigating complex care: why X-rays can miss what a CT reveals, how to advocate when you’re dismissed, and what it takes to align surgeons, insurance, and timing around the holidays. We also look ahead—standing with a walker, getting back to school on a smarter schedule, and releasing a special episode of the birthday speech recorded on day one of the injury. If you’ve ever felt lost in the system or needed a blueprint to push for the right care, this story offers clarity, courage, and a plan. Listen, share with someone who needs a nudge to advocate, and if it resonates, subscribe and leave a review so more listeners can find their footing too.

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SPEAKER_00 (00:00):
Good afternoon everyone.
Welcome to Unwinning Heart.
I have something to tell youthat's been on my heart that I
can't I couldn't tell you untilit was official.
It's still not official, butwe're working on it.

(00:23):
We're working on the end ofinsurance approving it.
So basically what is happeningis I went well let me back up
before I tell you what ishappening.
On June 22nd, which is mybirthday, I was feeling

(00:49):
perfectly fine and I fell offbed.
Me being the idiot that I am, Ifall off the bed.
Typical sample folding fog fallsoff the bed on my birthday.
Um and I thought I internallybruised my right hip.

(01:12):
Yeah, my right hip.
And so I don't do anything aboutit.
I go give my speech at my churchand I go celebrate my birthday.
My birthday.
All is good.
All is good.
Well July so that was the middleof June.

(01:36):
July sixteenth happened.
Oh my god.
The night of July sixteenth intoJuly seventeenth.
Oh my god, that was the worstnight of my life because owie

(01:58):
owie owie and my right hip.
So basically July seventh July16th, I um I can't bend my right
knee to I can't get my legs togo down to save my life.

(02:22):
And I'm thinking, uh oh.
So I tell my aide, we need toget dressed.
Get me dressed, try to get medressed, and I tell my aide, we
need to try and get me dressed.
My knee won't go down, we needto call.

(02:43):
So I press the SOS button on myphone, call emergency services,
go through all that.
I'm sitting here calming thecucumber on the outside,
freaking out on the inside.
I'm thinking, oh my god, whatdid I do?
So then I go to the hospital, Ikeep saying, my hip is out, my

(03:10):
hip is out, my hip is out, mescreaming in the emergency room,
well, um, me talking loudlyenough not to yell, but I keep
saying my hip is out.
So they do a CAT scan, they doMI.
They no, I'm sorry, they didn'tdo IMI.

(03:32):
They did a CAT scan and anX-ray.
Well, turns out, and this is inPhoenix, Arizona, we have Mayo
Clinic.
No, this was not at Mayo Clinic.
We have a Mayo Clinic fiveminutes away from my house.
If that we have, um, and forthose of you that don't know,

(03:58):
Mayo Clinic is one of the tophospitals in the country.
They have campuses in Florida,Chester, upstate New York, and
then Arizona.
So people fly in to Mayo Cliniclike there's no tomorrow.

(04:20):
And I happen to have Mayo Clinicfive minutes away from my house.
And so I go to the localhospital here, um, which is a
teaching hospital, they it metme thinking it's uh remember I

(04:42):
told you guys I have a psoas inhenchment.
Well, all they kept saying is wewell first of all, they canceled
hip surgery on me.
That was a good one.
They um put me supposedly forhip surgery and then they cancel

(05:08):
it and um say it's a psoasimpingement.
Well, I'm thinking okay, so I goto my orthopaedic surgeon and so

(05:29):
then um my orthopaedic surgeongoes, geez, I hope let's try
cont let's try physical therapy.
So we started that after rehab.

(05:51):
We started that after remember Itold you guys I spent two weeks
in the rehab center that wasn'tgood?
Well, the hospital made me dothat because they couldn't
figure out why.
So the hospital made me um go torehab.

(06:15):
I'm like, what what?
I have nothing with me at thispoint.
And so you're making me gowhere?
To rehab to try and manipulatethis leg.
Well rehab was a disaster in thehalf.
Owie, owie, owie, owie, owie.

(06:36):
Owie still.
And so um rehab said, well, whydon't you go to outpatient PT?
Yeah, with one bent leg and onestraight leg.

(06:58):
So yeah, that and my medicalliaison is looking at the rehab
like I can't do this.
She can not move.
She can not move.
So um fine, we hook up with uhat-home PT.

(07:23):
They're doing what they can tobring the leg down.
I even remember I told you guysI even rented a dyno splint from
insurance, and I didn't buy thatthing out, right?
I had it on a couple times.

(07:44):
That thing is huge.
So fast forward, we're notdealing with the dyno splint.
I made the fatal mistake.
Well, um, I made the mistake ofannouncing something on Facebook

(08:06):
last night because I was sofreaked out that this is
actually happening.
So for those of you that don'tlisten to the podcast, you might
have read it on Facebook.
And so I am now in the midst ofas if I don't have enough going

(08:32):
on, waiting for a total hip.
Because my hip, um my doctorsaid continue physical therapy.
Second visit, he said, geez, Iwish you were better now.
Third still continue physicaltherapy.

(08:56):
Third visit, he says, well mymedical liaison's assistant
mentions x-rays.
Doctor doesn't think of x-raysto begin with, and with x-rays
you can only get uh oneviewpoint.
So my doctor literally says, Ineed Wyn to go get a CT scan.

(09:25):
If Wyn can get in the CT scan atthis point, and my aide is
sitting there, and I'm thinking,yes, I can get in the CT scan.
They did a CT scan for the bloodclot, the mysterious blood clot
they thought I had when I hadpneumonia.

(09:48):
So I'm like, I'll go get a CTscan.
So on Halloween, I went and gota CT scan.
Well, the results are in.
Basically, my hip since June isout of the socket.

(10:11):
And I knew this going in.
The hospital didn't seeanything.
Always have a medical advocatewith you, or always advocate for
your body and scream it at thetop of your lungs like I did.
Apparently they don't listen tome.
Um, which I'll get to in aminute why.

(10:32):
And then um so my hip is out ofthe socket 50%, which means
every time I move it hurts.
It hurts like hell.
So basically, he gave me mydoctor, my orthopedic surgeon

(10:57):
gave me three options.

(11:39):
He said we can either take theball out of the hip and just
leave it, and that would leaveyou with a fairly floppy leg,
which wouldn't um wouldn't helpyou in standing.

(12:03):
And I'm like, no, it wouldn't.
Who does that leaves with afairly floppy leg?
Um so um and the third option isa total hip.
So I said, I will go with atotal hip.
Now, in my case, with typicallythey don't do this.

(12:27):
Um typically they they don't dothis.
In my case, they are um doing acast after the total hip.
The reason why they're doing thecast, and the reason why they're

(12:47):
not leaving it alone, like atypical total hip is, um, is it
to calm CP down because musclespasms will pull the dang thing
out if they don't cast it.
So we have that.

(13:10):
We have six weeks of recovery.
We spend I spend two of thoseweeks in the rehab center, yes,
working on PT daily.
Um, yes, because in my rehabcenter, I get treated like a

(13:36):
VIP.
I've been up there twice.
I didn't go up there for theinitial diagnosis of getting leg
down, but because the initialdiagnosis of getting leg down
was such an emergent emergencysituation that I couldn't.

(14:00):
So basically what happened, whatis going to happen, I'll have
the surgery, I'll have a totalhip on my right side.
Now, for those of you who arethinking, what what a total hip?

(14:21):
Yes, you heard me right.
A total hip, which means theytake my hip out and put
mechanics around it, or theyleave my hip and then put
mechanics around it.
I believe they take my hip outand put mechanics around it.

(14:45):
No, my hip is not bone on bone.
It's not I'm not at the agewhere it could be bone on bone,
but they want to do it becauseit's a high rate of success.

(15:06):
And it will bring my mobile mymobility back.
So basically, you will see mestanding again with a walker
with my support crew behind me,and you might see videos of me

(15:29):
walking because yeah, for thoseof you that know me personally,
for those of you that know me inpublic, like um, you know that I
like to keep keep my intended,and you know that bed bound is

(15:51):
driving me absolutely crazy.
Being bed bound, eating threemeals a day in this bedroom is
driving ups is driving me up sowall.
So what do I do in the umfunction of weighing for total

(16:13):
hip?
I go to church number one,because church is my same space,
so tomorrow I'm spiting everyoneup there, and when I say
everyone, they have no idea thatI'm coming.
And so I have friends up thereand they have no idea that I'm

(16:34):
coming.
So that should be interesting,and then I, as I said, I will
announce the date of my hipsurgery.
They're also linked to name themuscles in my um tendons to keep

(16:57):
my tendons happy while they dothe turtle hip.
Yeah, so it's a lot.
It's a lot.
So I'm going to church.
Busted hip should be fun, shouldbe interesting.
But yeah.

(17:17):
I can't um I can't be in thishouse anymore.
I won't be.
Um this is gonna be a crazymonth and I'm supposed to go
back to school and I'm like dowe play it after hip surgery and
then start once recovery isgoing or do we pick it up um in

(17:42):
recovery?
I think I think once I um figureout the hip what date my hip
surgery is, I'll call them, I'llcall them on Monday and ask them

(18:03):
to start it in January.
So if so if that yeah, I'llprobably do that.
So if my hip surgery is inDecember, which I shouldn't get
to call in five to seven days,to schedule hip surgery.

(18:24):
Yeah, um so unfortunately I'mgonna be down for the count for
six weeks.
Oh, when they told me that.
Two big huge braces later and uhbeyond the camera.
I'm like, great, fun, but it'sbetter than having I want my hip

(18:49):
in socket, of course, but it'sbetter than having a hip that's
50% out of socket and screamingat me every time I move, exce
for the exception of lying down.
Although it sometimes screams atme even when I'm lying down.
So I'm like, great hip.

(19:10):
Yeah, yeah, winning thisChristmas, you're winning this
new year, it's gonna be aChristmas present, and uh maybe
a new year's present.
I don't know when insurance hasdecided to approve it.
So I don't know.

(19:31):
Busted hip.
Here we come to fix it.
Bionic woman, here we come.
So it's like really MerryChristmas to me, a total hip.
And I just thought of that.
Merry Christmas to me a totalhip.
Uh uh expensive Christmas atthat, but thank God insurance is

(19:56):
coming up for it.
So we'll see when my date is andI'll be dancing down always
after this.
And so yeah, either I'm down forthe count around Christmas, or I
am up for the count aroundChristmas and down for the count

(20:21):
in 2026.
But I think it's gonna be downfor the count around Christmas
and start the new year with abrand new hip.
I think that's gonna be thegoal.
Or I don't know, now I'm waitingfor insurance to approve it.

(20:43):
So yeah, that's my story, andI'm sticking to it.
And yeah, so fun.
Sometimes hip replacement herewe come, and I'm gonna let you
guys go, and then next weekwe're going to go on the lighter

(21:06):
note now that you um know aboutmy hip.
And I will set up the day of mysurgery, no matter uh what day
it is, I will release a specialpodcast of the speech I did on

(21:28):
my birthday.
I have it recorded, and so youcan hear me.
I don't wince wince in pain, youcan hear me speak while having
the first day of having a brokenhip.
So that's gonna be fun.
You can hear me speak while I'mgetting my hip fixed, you guys.

(21:53):
So I'll release that the day ofmy surgery.
But we're gonna let you guys go,and next week we're gonna talk
about cruising and other funwith Mickey and Minnie Mouse and
um The Disney Cruise by DannyGolden Not Mind Me because I

(22:13):
haven't looked at four months.
Yippee, I'm so excited for uh2026.
I um I don't know if as I said,I don't know if this surgery is
going to be the end of 2025 orthe beginning of 2026.

(22:35):
But either way, I'm excited for2026 to be up and moving finally
and have the appropriatediagnosis.
So I want you guys to tune innext week and we'll have fun,
and it's gonna be uh a pillbattle from here.

(22:56):
And yes, I'll be recordingTikTok and possibly we be
recording podcasts either in thehospital or on um in rehab
talking about uh hip replacementas a study seven year old slash

(23:24):
study eight year old and so beon the lookout for that and
talking about a hip replacementwith cerebral palsy, and so I'll
be doing it all via myself, andit's gonna be interesting.
So you're gonna come along withon this amazing journey with me,

(23:47):
and we're gonna let you guys go,and you have a lot to think
about, you guys.
So how you can help me is justsend players and good wishes,
and I'm not asking for anymonetary donations because I've
got health insurance, I've gotit all covered, and so it's

(24:13):
perfectly fine.
We just need to wait for thegreen light, and as I said, I'm
waiting for to approve it, andthen we can get the green light.
And so we're gonna let you guysgo.
But Danielle, do you wanna leaveus out?

(24:34):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, so uh thanksfor following us, you guys,
what's the cute funny set on theother side?
Oh, and this is being recordedvia my phone because I was
afraid that Zoom would kick usout.
So this is being recorded via myphone.

(24:57):
So that's how I would be doingit in the hospital and in the
rehab too.
I would be well in the rehab Iwould be using the Wi Fi, but in
the hospital when I feel up toit, I'll be using the phone
because hospital Wi Fi is icky.
So we will catch you guys nextweek.

(25:19):
Bye you guys.
Bye.
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