Why do so many male survivors of childhood trauma and sexual abuse stay silent? In this deeply personal and eye-opening conversation, Pat Tenneriello sits down with Mason Shell, Executive Director and Education Coordinator at the British Columbia Society for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse (BCSMSSA). Together, they explore the cultural barriers that keep men from seeking help, the impact of trauma on masculinity and relationships, and the transformative journey of healing and its impact on personal growth and finding purpose. Drawing from both professional expertise and personal experience, this episode sheds light on the invisible struggles many men face—and the pathways to reclaiming their lives.
What You'll Learn:
- Why so many men stay silent about childhood trauma and sexual abuse
- How trauma impacts masculinity, relationships, and personal growth
- The concept of “The Talons of Trauma” and how it keeps survivors stuck
- The difference between guilt and shame—and why shame is so difficult to overcome
- How structured therapy programs help men with healing and personal growth
- Why many survivors struggle with commitment, intimacy, and self-worth
- How to find the right therapist or support system for your healing journey
- The power of group therapy and connecting with other survivors
- How childhood trauma shapes personal identity and decision-making
- The role of self-awareness, integrity, and “love for future self” in personal growth
Referenced Resources:
- British Columbia Society for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse
- Website 1in6.org
- Powerful video that highlights the barriers of male sexual abuse
- Men in Healing Psychotherapy program that Pat references
Social Media:
- After Peter Pan Podcast:
- Mason Shell:
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