Developing A Menopause Support System

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey everybody, and welcome back to all Things women's health
and more specifically our discussion about menopause and perimenopause. Last time,
we talked about recognizing warning signs of things that are
not normal in menopause and peri peri menopause. And before

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we get started, I just want to apologize for my voice.
I am recovering from the flu and as I feel great,
but my voice doesn't want to recover, so please bear
with me. I might have to clear my voice or
coll or something like that, but hopefully we can make
it through this episode. And today we are going to

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talk about leaning on loved ones. We've tackled the medical
and lifestyle aspects of menopause, and I think it's important
that we talk about something that's equally crucial, and that
is your support system, because navigating menopause is definitely not

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a sprint. It's a marathon, and having a strong team
cheering you on, a team that understands that it's not
a weakness, is crucial and it's a smart strategy. So
think of it like this. Even the most experienced marathon

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runner needs a support crew, water, encouragement, and maybe a
little bribery with chocolate or wine at mile twenty. Your
support system during menopause can be as varied as your symptoms.
It might include your partner, your best friend in s kindergarten,

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your mother, a supportive sister, a menopause support group, or
even a well meaning neighbor who always has a pot
of tea brewing. But the key is to actively nurture
and cultivate these relationships, because, let's face it, some days
you need more than a pot of tea. You'll need

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a whole lot of tea, and, like I said before,
maybe some wine. Let's start with the most important relationship
in your life, your partner. Menopause can significantly impact your libido,
your energy levels, and your overall mood. These changes might

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not affect intimacy and communication, they are going to affect
intimacy and communication. Be open and honest with your partner.
Don't expect them to read your mind, especially if your
mind is a swirling vortex of hot flashes, brain fog,
and an unexpected craving for pickled flavor ice cream and

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the occasional outburst. Explain what you're going through in a
calm and clear manner. Manner, consider using phrases like, honey,
I'm experiencing some changes related to menopause, and I'm finding
that specific symptoms, like my sleep is really disrupted, I'm

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feeling more irritable than usual, my libido is lower. Can
we talk about this? Avoid blaming your partner for your
fluctuating emotions. Menopause is a physiological process, not a reflection
of your relationships strength, although sometimes it's going to feel
like that. Instead, approach the conversation as a team effort.

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Maybe you can explore new ways to connect, new ways
to express press intimacy, or even just new ways to
unwind together. It's important to also provide some resources for
your partner. Give them a book, have them listen to
a podcast, but educate them. I'm telling you right now

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that most men know nothing about the subject. Talking to
your partner about menopause isn't just about your symptoms. It's
about your emotional well being too. This is a significant
life change, and having your partner understand and support can
make a world of difference. Remember it's a partnership. Open

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communication should be a two way street. Listen to their
concerns and perspectives and frustrations. Make sure they feel heard
and understood. Menopause might change you, but it doesn't have
to change your relationship. Next, let's talk about family and friends.

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Often we hesitate to share the realities of the menopause
with our loved ones for fear of seeming whiny or dramatic.
Let's dispel that myth. Now, your friends and family are
likely to be more understanding and supportive than you realize.
They might even have their own experiences to share, helping

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you feel less isolated and alone. There might even be
some humor in it when you share stuff. When reaching
out to friends and family, be specific about your needs.
Instead of saying I'm going through menopause, try saying I'm
struggling with sleep lately due to hot flashes. Would you

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mind keeping the noise down a bit in the evenings?
Or I'm feeling really overwhelmed today. Could we reschedule our
coffee date for a later in the week. This will
allow your support system to assist you more effectively. It's
okay to ask for help, whether it's someone to run
errands for you, lend an ear, or just be there

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for support for a laugh. Don't hesitate to reach out.
Lean on your support network. Let them know what kind
of support you need, emotional, physical, or practical. You might
be surprised by how willing your loved ones are to
lend a helping hand. Don't miss this opportunity to talk

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to your kids about what is going on with you.
Too often. You know, in history, moms didn't talk about
this with their kids, and as a result a result,
daughters don't know what's coming. Sons don't know what to
expect with their wives. So grab onto this opportunity to

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make their future a little bit easier than yours. Building
a robust support system isn't just about telling people what's happening.
It's about actively cultivating those relationships. Make time for your
friends and family. Schedule regular phone calls, coffee dates, or
even movie nights. In the whirlwind of everyday life. It's

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easy to let these connections slip. Don't let them. These
relationships will prove invaluable during the roller coaster ride that
is menopause. If you find that your usual support system
isn't cutting it, don't be afraid to expand your circle.
Consider joining a menopause support group. These groups offer a

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safe and supportive environment where you can connect with other
women going through the same thing, go online, find somebody
that jokes about it. On Instagram. It's a funny menopause page.
You can share experience chances, learn copy mechanisms, and discover
that you're not alone. Knowing you're not the only one

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experiencing hot flashes, brain fog, or mood swings can be
immensely comforting and funny. Embrace it again. Online communities can
always also be a valuable source of support. Many online
forums and social media groups are dedicated to menopause. These

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spaces allow you to connect with women from all walks
of life, sharing tips and tricks, offering encouragement and even
a healthy dose of humor. Remember though, to approach online
forums with a discerning eye. Not all information you find
online will be accurate, so cross reference with reliable sources

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like your doctor and reputable health websites. Sorry, I wasn't.
I had to say that, sometimes, even with a strong
support system, professional help might be needed. You might feel
like you're going crazy. This is completely normal. This isn't
a sign of failure. It's a sign of self care.

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If you're struggling with depression, anxiety, or severe menopausal symptoms,
don't hesitate to reach out to a therapist or counselor.
They can offer guidance and support as you navigate this
life change. Build a strong support system is an ongoing process.
It requires communication, vulnerability, and a willingness to accept help.

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It's about nurturing the relationships you already have and proactively
building new ones. Remember this stage of your life is
a transition, not an ending. With the right support, you
can navigate this chapter with grace, resilience and embrace the adventure.
And remember you're not alone. The right support system can

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turn this ruler coster into a smoother or more enjoyable ride.
And who knows, maybe you'll even find that you enjoy
the view from the top of the hill. Remember the
beauty of a support system lies in its diversity. You
might find solace in one on one conversations with a
close friend, the camaraderie of support group, or the practical

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help from a family member. There's no one size fits
all approach. Experiment, discover what works best for you, and
build your network accordingly. You deserve to feel supported, understood,
and empowered throughout the significant life transition. Don't under underestimate
the power of connection. It's a potent antidote to the

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challenges of menopause. Finally, don't forget to extend the sad
support to other women navigating menopause. Share your experiences, offering
a listening ear, or simply being present can make a
world of difference. Pay it forward creates a ripple effect
of kindness and understanding, making the journey easier for everyone involved.

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So go forth and build your team, celebrate your strength, laugh,
and embrace the next chapter of your life with confidence
and a whole lot of support because you deserve it.
And remember, even superheroes need sidekicks. Until next time, ladies,

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when we talk about fueling your well being, we're going
to talk about food, take care,