I Needed Them to Say I Was Wronged

You ever keep replaying an old conversation in your head—just wishing someone would finally say, “You were right. That wasn’t okay”?

This episode is about the ache of being wronged… and the deeper ache of never hearing someone acknowledge it.

It’s about the moment I realised I kept outsourcing my healing—waiting for others to affirm my pain—when what I really needed was to validate it myself.

If you’ve ever been hurt, dismissed, or made to question your reality, this one’s for you.

🎙️ Welcome to Reflections & Realizations — a podcast where we explore emotional healing through faith, psychology, and deeply personal stories.

🛠️ Realignment Tool #4: The Validation Reset
A 3-step reset to help you stop looping, start processing, and find peace without needing closure from others.

✨ Acknowledge the hurt

Stop pretending you’re okay when you’re not.
 Journal it. Speak it. Name it.
 When pain is unprocessed, your brain keeps it in a mental “pending” folder. That’s why it loops.
Let it out — that’s how healing begins.

✨ Surrender it to something Higher

Now that it’s out, hand it over.
 To Allah. To your values. To your greater purpose.
 Your Lord saw what happened. He affirms you — even when others don’t.
 This is how bitterness turns into peace. And peace? That’s what sets you free.

✨ Rewire through repetition

The wound may reopen — and that’s okay.
 Each time it does, revisit this practice.
 Tell your brain:
 “Yes, I was hurt. It wasn’t okay. But I’m safe now. I’m healing. And I don’t need their permission to move on.”
This is how we rewire our minds — not overnight, but over and over again.

🎧 For anyone struggling with:
 – External validation
– Unprocessed emotional pain
– Seeking closure that never came
– Letting go of the need to be understood
– Healing from emotional neglect or gaslighting
– Learning self-validation through faith

💬 Let me know how this one lands — your healing matters here.
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Thank you for listening. If something in an episode touched you, made you think, or just hit different… I’d love to hear it. Alveena