#7: How to balance self-reflection with self-compassion to avoid overanalyzing painful experiences

In this episode of At Your Best with Roselynn Onah, we're talking about something so many of us struggle with—how to self-reflect without falling into a shame spiral or becoming our own worst critic.

You know what I’m talking about—those moments when you're replaying a mistake over and over again, spiraling into "why did I do that" or "what’s wrong with me?" This episode is all about finding that balance between honest self-reflection and radical self-compassion.

Here’s what we dive into:

• The difference between healthy self-reflection and toxic over-analysis
• How to avoid "rabbit hole syndrome" when you're trying to grow
• Creating sustainable practices like five-minute reflection windows
• How to talk to yourself like you would your best friend (seriously—try it)
• Baby steps to overcome analysis paralysis when even a grocery list feels overwhelming

💬 Real Talk Moment: Over-analyzing is often a strength in disguise. You think deeply. You notice the details. You care. But it can also stop you from taking action. Let’s tweak the habit, not trash it.

Meet Our Guest

Once again, I’m joined by the incredible Tiffany Lee—communication and brand strategist, lupus warrior, and resilience coach. Tiffany’s ability to balance vulnerability and strength makes her the perfect voice for this conversation. Through her lived experience and coaching lens, she reminds us that reflection doesn't have to lead to guilt—and that taking one small step is enough.

📌 Where to Find Tiffany Lee

• Instagram & TikTok: @therealtifflee
• Website: thebehavioralfactor.com

Key Takeaways

• You can self-reflect without self-blame—start with just five minutes.
• Speak to yourself the way you’d speak to a friend who’s struggling.
• Overwhelm often stems from over analyzing—baby steps help break the cycle.
• Tools like gratitude journaling or breaking tasks into micro steps (hello, Goblin Tools!) can really help.
• You don’t have to do it all. You just need to do the next thing.

Note to Self

• Rest is productive. You don’t have to burn out to prove your worth.
• Being kind to yourself isn't a weakness—it’s emotional maturity.
• Even if your to-do list is long, you only need to tackle one thing today.

Resources & Next Steps

🛠️ Tech Tool: Goblin Tools – break big tasks into bite-sized wins.

🧘🏽 Try the five-minute morning and evening journaling practice shared in this episode.

🛒 Overwhelmed at the grocery store? Try delivery apps like Instacart to minimize sensory overload.

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🎙 Let’s keep the convo going:

How do YOU balance reflection with compassion? What helps you get out of your own head and back into grace? Share in the comments or tag us on IG!

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Until next time, keep loving yourself, growing gent