Beauty in the Breakup

After a breakup, sometimes years later, when you suddenly remember the good parts of your relationship, or maybe your ex has found a new partner, what does that bring up for you? Do you go to doubting your choice? Do you have second thoughts about trying to make it work again? What if you didn't need to make each other wrong in order to leave the relationship? Although we have been told that stying together at all costs is "right"...

Why do we keep choosing to go into relationships with people with Narcissistic personality disorder, and how can you move beyond it? We need to look at our conclusions that keep us from fully seeing what we are choosing. What is actually going on? What is the need to constantly justify their behavior? We don't want to be judgmental, so we disregard our awareness. We start to doubt ourselves, which is actually gaslighting ourselve...

What is the space of Allowance?

When you take a fixed point of view you can't see other possibilities. Then we gather evidence to justify the rightness of our point of view. The way to be free is to have the ability to see all points of view, not just the ones we defend. This is what is called being in allowance.

Allowance is everything is an interesting point of view.

Begin to use the tool Interesting Point of View to create spa...

When you begin to realize that you have outgrown the container that holds you a relationship, what choices do you have?

Many think you have no choice, or that it must lead to a break up. But what else might be possible if you were to look at your choices, and really get clear on what you’d like your future to be?

Step 3 of my book Beauty in the Breakup illuminates how to gain clarity for yourself.

What choices can you make to mov...

When Plan A doesn't work out, for whatever reasons, it is possible to choose again, often from a place of more awareness. What might be possible with this, instead of making it wrong, making yourself a failure, etc.?

This episode features my special guest Laleh Hancock, who speaks about being married twice and divorced twice, yet has a very different perspective and outlook. She sees both relationships as some of the greatest g...

Where are you in your relationship? Contemplating a breakup is not something we tend to talk about. It starts with a foreboding sense deep within, which bubbles up more and more the longer you avoid it.

What if avoiding what you know, avoiding your inner voice, your knowing of what is true for you, makes the boat sink deeper, faster?

Avoiding what you know is the beginning of what is called "divorcing You"! In actuality, ...

This episode features a special guest, founder and creator of the worldwide personal development system, Gary Douglas! Gary encouraged/asked/told me to write my book, Beauty in the Breakup, and I'm grateful for it has been a useful tool for many many people around the world, (including me!) Relationships can run their course, so what if it's not wrong to part ways when it's over? "You don't stop loving..." when it's over, so why g...

What if you're not wrong? And what if you're also not right? How to untangle from your judgments and points of view that are limiting your ability to choose...

Trying to choose what's right, and trying not to feel wrong, often leaves you in a place of no choice.

What if, instead of using the lens of judgment of right/wrong, you chose what felt light or expansive?

More about learning to navigate your life in Step 3 of m...

There’s an awful lot of anger around relationships and breakups, and I would like to see that change. Anger, rage, fury, and hate are some of the most toxic energies in the world. It’s toxic to our bodies. It’s toxic to our relationships and it’s toxic to our planet. 

One of the difficulties in diffusing anger is assuming it’s just one thing. But it’s actually a number of different energies galumped together.

Let’s shine some light...

Contemplating a breakup isn’t something most people can talk about. I’d like to shine the light of new possibilities in this area. 
What if no choice were wrong and no choices were right?  Might you be able to look at what choices would be correct for you? What if you had more awareness of what you truly desired, without the fear of making the wrong choice looming over your head?

The tools I’ll be introducing in this podcast are...

Whatever the status of your current relationship, holding on and trying to force it to work is not going to make it better. Rather, when you are willing to let go, is when you can have more ease. Are you willing to let go of what’s not working, start fresh, or create something new? How much more beauty would be possible in your future? Welcome to Beauty in the Breakup podcast, tools for moving beyond what you’re currently living, a...