🔞 18+ Listener Warning: This episode contains open discussions about sexual assault, misconduct, and boundary violations in the lifestyle. Please listen with care, and skip this one if it may be triggering for you.
Episode 14: When Boundaries Are Crossed – Talking About Assault & Misconduct in the Lifestyle
Today’s episode is a more serious one, but one we feel is so important.
We’re talking openly about sexual assault, misconduct, and inappropriate behaviour within the swinging lifestyle,
This includes stories from all four of us, including the boys, because we believe it’s time we stop ignoring how these issues affect everyone, not just women.
You’ll hear:
⚠️ Our personal stories and experiences
⚠️ A powerful story from our friend Bella, shared with her permission
⚠️ Why misconduct toward men is often overlooked
⚠️ The cultural differences in etiquette between countries
⚠️ Why boundaries and consent must always come first — no matter where you are
We know the lifestyle can be one of the most supportive, loving, empowering communities — but that doesn’t mean it’s perfect. And when things do go wrong, it’s crucial that we talk about it.
If anything in this episode resonates with you, know that you're not alone, and it wasn’t your fault. Our DMs and inbox are always open if you need to talk.
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Lots of love
Amy, Emily, Ben & Darren x
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