What 85 years of research says is the real key to happiness | Robert Waldinger: Full Interview

“We can make ourselves more likely to be happy by building a life that includes the conditions that make for happiness.” What if the secret to lasting happiness has been hiding in plain sight? Harvard psychiatrist Robert Waldinger reveals insights from the world’s longest study on adult life, 85 years of data that challenge our assumptions about success, health, and fulfillment. Waldinger shares how our relationships and connections – not our wealth, fame, or success, directly boosts our minds, bodies, and longevity. 00:00:00 Part 1: Happiness. How did you get into psychiatry? 00:01:05 What is your research about? 00:05:35 How much control do we have over our happiness? 00:06:34 How do relationships affect happiness?   00:08:43 How do childhood experiences impact happiness? 00:11:44 How does evolutionary biology influence our happiness? 00:12:29 How do relationships impact physical health? 00:17:18 What is social fitness? 00:17:55 How do I maintain healthy relationships? 00:18:49 How can I evaluate my social fitness? 00:20:16 How does mapping my social universe contribute to my wellbeing? 00:22:11 If a relationship is depleting, what should I do? 00:23:42 How many close friends do I need? 00:24:43 What is your study's primary discovery? 00:29:16 What is your background with Zen? 00:29:52 How does Zen shape relationships? 00:31:30 What is the goal of Zen? 00:32:37 Why is impermanence helpful to consider? 00:34:53 How might the Four Noble Truths improve relationships? 00:37:51 How does understanding attachment help guide my relationships? 00:38:17 How does a "beginner's mind" benefit my relationships? 00:39:55 What is mindfulness and how do I cultivate it? 00:42:19 How does recognizing suffering improve relationships?  00:43:00 How does "metta" aid relationships? 00:44:31 What is enlightenment? 00:50:31 Do we have a loneliness epidemic? 00:53:26 What’s the difference between loneliness and isolation?  00:54:27 How does loneliness harm us physically?  00:56:12 What fundamental need do relationships satisfy? 00:58:27 Is our happiness only dictated by our close connections?  01:01:07 What can I do to lessen loneliness? ----------------------------------------------------------------- About Robert Waldinger: Robert Waldinger, MD is a Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, a practicing psychiatrist, psychoanalyst, and a Zen teacher and practitioner. For the last two decades, Waldinger has been the director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development. This study, conducted over more than 85 years, has analyzed the entire lives of 724 families to determine the activities, behaviors, and dynamics that enhance a person’s life-long well-being. Waldinger has dedicated his career to examining these elements and discovering what brings true fulfillment to human existence. He is the author of several books, including his most recent, The Good Life: Lessons from the World’s Longest Scientific Study of Happiness. Folllow this Podcast for daily Episodes ----------------- Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices