Repair is the Real Intimacy

Conflict isn’t the opposite of love—it’s the practice of it.

It’s not the big blowups that wear down intimacy—it’s the tiny paper cuts. The sharp tone. The missed text. The “we’re fine” energy when… we’re not.

In this episode, we unpack the secret life of micro-ruptures—those everyday disconnects that quietly shape relationships. We talk about why they matter so much to the nervous system, why repair is less about “fixing” and more about reconnecting, and how intimacy actually deepens when we choose to return to each other.

Expect stories, laughter, awkward examples, and practical tools—like repair phrases and embodied gestures—you can try in your own relationships.

Because intimacy isn’t about never drifting apart. It’s about the art (and sometimes the comedy) of coming back together.