I Stopped Taking the Blame for Her Pain (In Honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month)

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(In Honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month)

What happens when love turns into blame?
When “I love you” starts sounding more like “you made me do this”?

In this honest and vulnerable entry, Jasmine opens up about how emotional abuse and gaslighting can quietly unfold in queer relationships — and how easy it is to start carrying someone else’s pain as your own.

She shares what it looked like to lose herself trying to save someone who didn’t want healing, the role therapy played in helping her see the truth, and what it really means to stop apologizing for someone else’s behavior.

This episode isn’t just about surviving emotional abuse — it’s about reclaiming your voice, your power, and your peace.

🧘🏾‍♀️ Guided Meditation: “Forgiving Myself for What I Didn’t Know”

A grounded and empowering meditation designed to help you release blame, reclaim your peace, and return to your own energy.
 Through rhythmic affirmations like “I forgive myself for what I didn’t know” and “I am my own healing,” Jasmine guides you to soften your heart, silence shame, and remember that forgiveness is freedom.

📜 Lessons & Reflections:

• Silence is not peace — it’s survival disguised as stillness.
• Therapy can’t fix what someone refuses to face.
• Apologies lose meaning when they become payment for peace.
• Boundaries are acts of self-love, not punishment.
• Healing begins when you stop internalizing someone else’s pain and start honoring your own.

💫 Call to Action

If this episode spoke to your spirit, please:
 🌿 Follow, comment, like, and share Healing Like a Motha with someone who needs to hear it.
📖 Grab your copy of the Healing Like a Motha Journal to keep writing, reflecting, and rebuilding your peace — one page at a time.

Because healing doesn’t end when the episode fades out…
 it continues every time you choose yourself again.

📞 If you or someone you love is experiencing abuse, you are not alone.
National Domestic Violence Hotline: [phone] | thehotline.org

🎧 Listen. Reflect. Share. And keep healing like a motha.