October 6, 2025 • 36 mins
When he starts slacking, it’s time to start packing. In this raw and unfiltered episode of City Girls Decoded, Morgan Chanel breaks down the art of knowing when to walk away. From “situationships” that drag on too long to partners who love potential more than progress, this one’s for every woman who’s ever had to choose peace over proving a point.
We’re getting into:
💔 The signs it’s time to dip
💬 Street Love Diaries – real talk about leaving dead weight behind
👑 Hood Love & Healing – finding your power and peace after the exit
🌟 Celebrity dips that had the timeline talking
And yes—Morgan’s new single “How to Dip” drops right in sync with this episode. Same message, same energy: block the number, delete the chat, and move on like a queen in the mist.
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SPEAKER_02 (00:47):
What's up, City Girls?
It's your girl back on CityGirls Decoded, where we keep it
real raw and uncut.
Today we're talking about menwho ain't shit.
Yeah, I said it.
The ones who don't show up,don't contribute, and somehow
think you're gonna carryrelationship while they sit back
and watch Netflix.
(01:09):
And listen, I've been in asituation before.
I feel you.
That's exactly why I had towrite the new sequel, How to
Dip.
Dropping today, the sing thesong, excuse me, is literally
the anthem for texting yourgirls, planning your escape, and
leaving him stuck watching hisown tape, bitch.
Because sometimes you gotta dipbefore you lose yourself.
(01:31):
And real talk, there was a timeI stayed with a motherfucker
because I thought I could fixhim.
Spoiler alert.
I couldn't.
The experience inspired the hookof how to dip.
So yeah, this one right here.
This shit is fucking personal.
Like, no shade.
(01:51):
But anyway, y'all, it's aboutthat time.
You already know.
She love diaries, real stories.
You know when we get into realstories, sent them from
listeners on my personalstories.
And today I have a story from alistener.
My first listener wrote in abouther man who literally didn't do
shit, didn't pay pills, didn'thelp emotionally, didn't plan a
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damn thing.
She's out here handlingeverything while he sit back
like he's the king of laziness.
She said, Girl, I can't do thisno more.
Ladies, that's exactly the vibehow the dip is about.
Like, get the fuck up out ofthere.
It's time to go.
That nigga is a bum.
(02:36):
And it's time to zip on him.
Get the fuck up out of there,sis.
But um, I wanna play a littlesnippet of the song for y'all
and let me know how y'all likeit.
SPEAKER_00 (03:00):
Oh, other than that.
SPEAKER_02 (03:13):
How y'all like that?
Y'all like it?
If y'all like it, go downloadthat.
Yeah, go download that fromApple Music, Spotify,
everywhere.
You download music, play it onYouTube.
Stream it up, stream it up,stream it up.
Thank you so much.
If you like it, if you don't,fuck you.
And if you do, I love you.
I love you.
(03:33):
Yeah.
But anyway, on to a next storyfrom a listener.
Another listener says, um, herdude only calls when he wants
sex or money.
Ciao.
Meanwhile, she running herselfragged, making sure he eats,
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sleep, and look presentable.
That's not love.
Bitch, that's fuckingfreeloading.
Step three.
Text your girls, playing yourescape, leave them, and blast
how to dead while you doing thatshit.
Period.
Now I'm sure y'all that some ofy'all listeners are familiar
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with my story.
If not, the reason I dip isbecause I was fucking with a
nigga that was constant, I feellike he was constantly
criticizing me, but never couldcherry to him.
Like, that motherfucker, mindyou, he had a decent little job,
but he would never go to workbecause he was always fucking
drunk.
Like, you know, so I'm basicallypaying, I'm paying my bills
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because he lived with me.
Like, that nigga don't got shit,so he lived with me.
I'm paying my bills, you know.
And he swore up and down, he wasjust doing so much, and he was
really that that nigga.
And he wasn't.
And it irritated the fuck out ofmy soul.
And I finally had enough.
(05:05):
And I dipped on that nigga.
I put that nigga out, and Inever looked the fuck back in.
No shade.
Like, like, real talk.
I never felt better in my life.
Like, I literally never feltbetter I feel like I'm doing
things that I never thought Iwould do.
(05:28):
I always dreamt of justrecording music or you know, the
podcast, like just doing thingslike the writing.
Like, I that's things that Ilike to do.
And I could never do thatbecause I was always constantly
fighting with a drunkmotherfucker.
(05:49):
It gave very much 1960s, husbanddrinking all day, come home, he
wanna beat the wife.
Like, that's what the fuck itgave.
And I I'm like, yo, I'm notdoing that.
I'm not doing that.
Like, I'm too much of a fuckingbad bitch to be sitting around
pulling up with shit with fromfrom a nigga like you.
Like, are you dumb?
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Are you fucking dumb?
Yeah, so I dipped on that ass.
And sis, let me tell yousomething.
If that motherfucker ain'ttreating you like you the
fucking prize, because guesswhat?
You are a lot of thesemotherfuckers be uh a lot,
especially nowadays, theseniggas think that they the
fucking prize.
And I don't know it's because Idon't know if it's because they
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was raised by single mothers.
Y'all niggas ain't the fuckingprize.
Y'all niggas is fucking brokenand ain't doing shit, but giving
a bitch a fucking headache.
Like, get the fuck out of herewith that.
Yeah, I just had to say that,y'all.
I had to get that off my chest.
I felt real, real that I thinkthat was something that was
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really heavy on my chest thisnow.
Like, you know, like yeah, butanyway, so this next segment,
we're gonna talk about some redflags and some standards.
And I want you bitches who liketo ignore the red flags, I want
you hoes to listen the fuck up.
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Cause this one is definitely fory'all.
Like, if you find yourself zerowith a nigga, and he has any one
of these qualities, bitch, runfor the hills, don't look back,
don't come back, it's a rap.
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Girl, if he avoidsresponsibilities and leaves all
the work to you, that's a redflag.
That shit ain't normal.
That nigga is a fuckingfreeloader.
Push that nigga to the side.
And I rather you know what?
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I'm not even a 50-50 girlbecause I just like kinda I'm
like kind of old school likethat.
But I'd rather go 50-50 with amotherfucker than to just be
sitting here taking care of agrown ass man.
I can't, and I done that.
I'm not doing that shit no more.
Like, that shit is terrible.
That shit is terrible.
Like, I really want to knowwhere the fuck you new niggas
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get that from.
Where that shit come from.
If you want to tell me, dropdown in the motherfucking
comments and let me know wherethat shit come from.
Cause that shit is y'all gottastop.
If he is emotionally unavailableand only around when it's
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convenient for him, that niggausing you.
He don't fuck with you likethat.
SPEAKER_01 (08:50):
That's a red flag.
Cut that nigga over, sis.
It's time to go.
Bye bye.
SPEAKER_02 (09:02):
It should be no way that you are only coming around
when you need something fromlike like I thought a
relationship at best wassupposed to be 50-50, right?
So like what like what do youwhat what what are we doing
here?
What are we doing here?
Like, and honestly, if a niggathat's that's that's a major red
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flag right there.
If a motherfucker is doing someshit, girl, that's not your man.
That's your friend.
Bitch.
What's the bitch from baddies?
That's your friend?
That's your friend.
That's not your man.
None.
I'm sorry.
I'm sorry to have to be the oneto tell you.
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Number three, red flag.
Talk, but doesn't that words arefucking cheap.
Nigga, put some action behindthat shit that you talking, you
a grown ass man.
Like, like let me see something.
You know what I'm saying?
Like, let me see something.
You always talking about whatyou wanna do or what you gonna
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do when when when like when yougonna get up and do it.
All you do is sit on your assall day and talk shit.
Like you don't even like pay younot paying no bills.
You honestly you shouldn't haveto complain about nothing
because you're not paying nobills.
Right?
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I'm fucking you, I'm cooking,cleaning.
Like what do you like nigga?
Who the fuck is you complainingabout?
Bitch.
The audacity.
Honestly, all a lot of youniggas nowadays all y'all be
having is dick and fuckingaudacity, and it's a shame.
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It's a fucking shame.
Like, get it together.
Get it to f get it the fucktogether.
I'm tired of him.
Anyway, number four refusesgrowth.
If he won't level up with you,he's holding you back.
My ex that nigga, he it's likehe was scared.
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And let me tell you, so abouttwo years ago, I decided that I
wanted to, mind you, I've alwaysbeen like into music, singing.
I grew up in a church.
Like I know people said that,but I really grew up singing in
the church and the choir andthings like that, and I always
wanted to be like to make music.
I love music.
So I decided that I was going tostart doing music, and I had
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recorded a single couple ofyears ago called Loves Don't
Live Here.
And I was post I was supposed toperform the song, and he came
with me and and everything.
He actually, you know, I'm notgonna lie, he paid for me to get
my hair done and shit like that.
Like, we get there, Nigel.
He's drinking.
Before we get there, he we getthere, he's drinking more.
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You know, so it's about time forme to perform.
He wanna act that songs.
Oh, I'm going to the cars,what's coming on, hurry up from
just acting crazy, and it kindof threw my vibe off.
It was just like real hatervibes, and I couldn't believe he
was acting like that.
And that was a red flag that Iignored.
I I shouldn't have.
(12:24):
But now, you know what?
I kind of regret it because likeI feel like I was so I was
young, you know, like I was likenot young, but I was that was
like a couple of years ago,right?
Like if I would have beengrinding for those couple of
years and putting in the workthat I'm planning on putting in
now, like I probably would havebeen somewhere and doing
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something, you know what I'msaying?
Something like big and major.
But I let a bum ass nigga holdme back.
And that shit ain't cool.
I'll never do no shit like thatagain.
I like I swear to god, I I I I Inever will.
Let's move on.
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That motherfucker isdisrespectful, puts you down,
dismisses your feelings.
He a bitch ass nigga for one andfor two, bitch, leave that
nigga.
Get the fuck out of here.
Go on about your businessbecause what type of nigga
thrives off of putting his womandown.
My thing is this, why if youbeing why you being so
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disrespectful?
Like, why you trying to put medown?
If I'm such a this and that andthat and this, why you with that
type of bitch?
You know what I'm saying?
So what the fuck do I say aboutyou?
I always when a nigga startstalking that shit, I'm like my
nigga, but you sitting here withme.
So what type of nigga are you?
If I'm that type of bitch, whattype of nigga are you?
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Like, and what type of bitch isyour mother?
Cause she raised you and youwith this type of bitch.
Get the fuck out of here.
And let me tell you something.
The nigga I was with him and hismother was one and the same.
They was two ain't shit assmotherfuckers, like just bottom
of the barrel, like scraping,shut shucking and surviving to
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like to just just just to to toto live.
Like the the shit was it was itwas it was terrible.
But honestly, I'm so glad I'mout of that situation.
I'm so glad, like, I'm notturning back.
It's like like it's nothing elsefor me to I don't have no I
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don't need any closure.
I feel like the door is closed.
Honestly, it irritates me thatthat nigga still be having his
mail sent to my house.
And I told that motherfucker,yo, stop, change your address,
why the fuck you don't livehere?
That shit irritates me.
But you know what?
(14:54):
I don't even want to give himthe satisfaction of of of of
like texting them no more andasking them again.
Like, nigga, it's it's it'sfine.
Bitch.
I put that shit right in thereturn us in the um box every
time.
Eventually they'll get they'llthey'll get the picture.
This motherfucker don't livehere.
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So stop putting his mail in mymailbox.
I don't know who the fuck thisnigga is.
Like Mariah Carey said, I don'tknow that person.
I don't know who you are.
So please stop putting his mailhere because this person don't
live here.
So let's move on.
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Selfish pyarbizes his self overyou constantly.
Now, this might sound likeweird, but I've never like that
I like that would be so for me.
If a motherfucker is selfish, wecouldn't even, we wouldn't even,
I wouldn't even have to beworried about the other red
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flags because that's one thingfor me, it's a no
non-negotiable.
Like, cause I'm such a caringand giving person.
You have to give, like, like,even like you gotta give, even
if you ain't got it like that,you gotta be be willing to
share.
And that's one thing my ex, hewas, he, he was willing, like,
he he would share and he woulddo shit.
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Like, you know what I'm saying?
He would like like he like whenhe had it, he would give it to
me.
So I really gotta give him hispops on that.
But that nigga was a fuckingloser and everything else.
He completely failed in everyother aspect of the
relationship.
So please.
Anyway, number seven, lazy,literally lets nothing get done
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without you reminding thatmotherfucker.
Girl, Zip.
Go ahead.
Like I said, like go about yourbusiness, mama's like, that
nigga ain't he's not worth yourtime, like, especially if you
got kids.
Like, bitch, you just that'sjust an extra kid, no shade.
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Like, you gotta constantly tellthat nigga do this.
Didn't I come?
Didn't I tell you to do this?
Didn't I tell you to do that?
Didn't I did like yo, what's up?
You could be bad by yourself,you don't gotta keep constantly
repeating yourself and asking agrown ass man to do this, and
honestly, why should you bereminding any adult how to
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better themselves or what theyshould be doing as a fucking
adult?
Come on.
Moving on.
Lastly, that motherfucker is amanipulator, makes you feel
guilty for wanting your needsmet.
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That is a big red flag, and thatis something that a lot of these
motherfuckers do.
These narcissistic pieces ofshit, they love to prey on you
and do shit like that.
And that shit is like predatorybehavior because you when you
thinking like I feel like that'sa c you making a conscious
decision to make this personfeel bad when you know damn well
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what you should be doing or whatyou should not be doing in a
relationship.
So if if if it's something I'mnot gonna tolerate, like why are
you making me feel bad?
But let me violate you orviolate your or or uh or
overstep the boundaries with youin some type of way.
Oh baby, it's it's over.
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Excuse me, these niggas be sohurt, like it be over, they be
so mad because or because youtelling them how to treat you.
They want to treat you how thefuck they feel like they should
treat you.
Nah, nigga, you're gonna treatme how I deserve to be treated,
how I'm telling you how to behow to treat how to treat me.
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It's not my fault.
You may never dealt with a bitchlike me before, but you're not
gonna treat me like you do theseother bitches.
I'm not these other hoes.
Respect me, nigga.
Now y'all know I don't neverwant to talk shit about nobody
without giving them some advice.
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So I'm gonna leave y'all withthis.
Set boundaries immediately, keepcommunication clear and firm.
Surround yourself withsupportive people.
And every time you see these redflags, cue hearted.
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Play the song loud, feel thepower.
It's a reminder.
You did when you when he won'tstep up.
That's it.
No apologies, no overthinking.
Get the fuck out of thesituation.
Now we're gonna dive into herlove and healing.
And I want to get into thehealing part because listen,
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leaving it just walking out thedoor, it's reclaiming your
peace, your time, your life.
And yes, it's things at first,but pain is temporary.
Peace is forever.
Here's how to heal step by step,bitch.
Get it out your system, journal,scream in your car, cry in the
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shower, call your therapist.
That's a big one.
I know sometimes, especially inthe black community, we don't
like to talk to therapists andstuff like that, but that's
really important.
It's always important to talk tosomebody who's qualified to give
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advice.
You know, we talk to ourhomegirls and stuff like that,
but a therapist, you can'talways talk to your bestie about
everything, and that leads me tothe next to the next way to get
it out of your system.
Call your bestie, whatever ittakes, don't just leave it
bottled.
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Also, pour into yourself, workon your body, your mind, your
bag.
A man can leave, but yourgrowing up can't take from can't
be taken from you.
That's real.
What's meant for you is meantfor you.
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Can't nobody take that from you.
Stay surrounded by real ones.
The people who clap when youwin, the ones who check on you
without needing anything back,those are the tribe.
Those are your tribe.
Lean into them heavy, like noshade.
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I my tribe is too deep.
And my sister, Fatty, I call herwhatever.
And honestly, I don't even haveto call her.
She calls me.
Like, if I ain't if I ain'tcalling a couple of days, she
knows I'm you bitch, you good.
Yeah, Fatty, I'm just a littledown right now.
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But you know, I'll call you whenI'm feeling when I'm feeling
better.
Everything is okay.
Like, you know, just make sureand check on your strong
friends.
Check on your strong friends.
And while you doing all this,play the anthem.
Blast it.
How did it?
Every bar is a reminder that youare the prize.
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You don't need no nigga who'sstuck on bare minimums.
Philly beat, let it move throughyou.
And remember, your energy is tooexpensive to be wasting with
somebody who can't afford it.
Stop playing games with thesebum ass niggas.
These bum ass motherfuckers,bitches, period.
Like, real talk.
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So it's about that time I'll begetting to some Q ⁇ A for some
listeners.
I might have some listeners sendme in some questions, and you
know, I'm gonna give my honestresponses and try to help them
out as much as I can.
Okay, so the first questioncomes in from a listener, and
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she asks, he hasn't stepped upfinancially.
Should I leave?
Girl, what type of question isthis?
Baby, if you're pulling doubleshifts and he can't even pull
his weight, you're not in apartnership.
You're in a parenthood and youalready got one mama.
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You don't need another child.
Step three, text your girls,plan your exit, and play out of
it while you pack your bags.
Alright, child, so the nextquestion comes in from listen
number two.
And she asks, he always cancelsplans and expects me to adjust.
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What do I do?
Says, if he's canceling on you,he's showing you where you rank
on his priority list.
And trust me, you're not at thetop.
Stop making excuses fordisrespect.
Your time is gold.
Protect it, protect you.
Next time he cancels, tell ournigga not to even bother
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rescheduling.
Cause you're booked and busy.
Zip out.
Okay, our last question comes infrom a listener.
And she asks, I'm feeling guiltyfor leaving.
Bitch, what?
He does nothing, but he doesnothing.
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How do I handle that?
That guilt you feel, that's notlove.
That's manipulation, bitch.
Stop being fucking dumb.
Cause you know what?
One thing about it, that nigga,if you leave him today, bitch,
tomorrow he gonna find an evendumber bitch.
That's gonna do whatever he youwhat he need them to do.
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You know what I'm saying?
And all the shit you wouldn'tdo.
And guess what?
That bitch ain't gonna complainabout none of the shit that you
complained about.
So all that feeling bad, throwthat shit out the window.
He trained you to think stayingis loyalty.
Bitch, that shit that's dumb.
It's fucking stupid.
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Get the fuck up out of there.
Pack your bags, baby.
Dip out on that nigga.
But all you're really doing isholding yourself hostage.
Free yourself.
You don't owe nobody yourmisery.
Like, why would you stay in asituation that makes you
unhappy?
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And honestly, let me tell you,that's why I yo, that's why I
left because I every day I wouldsay, like, you know, such and
such years old.
I have so many years in front ofme.
I'm with this man.
You know what I'm saying?
Is this the is this the N or Bor Like it can't be?
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I can't be dealing with this forthe rest of my life, my 40s,
50s, 60s.
Like, who the fuck wanted medealing with that type of
bullshit at that age?
You know what I'm saying?
And I know Mima and Pop Pop,they went through some things
and and Mima stayed.
And that's good and great forMima, but I I'm not.
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I'm not.
And I do but don't get me wrong.
Now I do believe in because Ialways say it's it seems like
nowadays, like people don'treally want to fight for fight
for for what's right, or fightfor their relationships.
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I feel like everybody wants tobe everybody wants to be,
everybody wants a motherfuckerto fight for them, but don't
nobody want to fight to keep therelationship.
I feel like two things could betrue at the same time.
Like motherfuckers could not bewanting to fight no more how
they used to back in the day,but also at the same time, you
don't gotta put up with shitfrom a motherfucker that ain't
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doing shit.
Because you know one thing Papadid back in the day?
He paid the bills, he made sureme mom was able to go to the
beauty salon and you know sayingat least once a month or once a
week, or however they did itback in the day.
Like, he made sure the kids wasable to get new shoes for school
and it was food in therefrigerator and things like
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that.
Like, you noom niggas not doingnone of that.
All y'all doing is beingfreeloaders and bums.
Step three, let that guilt go.
Slide into your healing era andplay how to dip loud enough that
he hears you leaving.
Yeah.
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So y'all know my guilty pleasureis celebrity gossip.
So before we close out the show,I'm gonna talk about some
celebrities who dip.
Because the famous ones dip too.
Money, fame, spotlight, doesn'tmatter.
If he ain't stepping up, theexit door looks the same.
And sometimes celebrities giveus the blueprint for dipping.
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What's that?
Let's start with Sierra.
Sierra dip from future, realquick.
That man couldn't keep ittogether, and she said, nah, I'm
good.
What happened after?
She leveled up into a wholemarriage with Russell Wilson, a
man who shows up for her and herson.
That's what I call a successfuldip.
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Leaving the chaos and walkinginto peace.
That's all that matters.
Because you know what?
And the craziest, yo, Future tryto act like he was so
unbothered.
I know you was because one thingI know you was mad.
Because one thing you niggashate is for a bitch to level up.
When you especially, especially,I'm pretty sure Future looked
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like the type of nigga that wastelling her, Oh, you ain't gonna
never get a nigga like me.
You gonna never find no niggabetter than me.
T.
Fucked around and found out.
City girls, that's proof rightthere.
Sometimes the man you love ain'tthe man you can build with.
Dip out and watch how God andthe universe, or whoever you
believe in, drop somebody tentimes better into your lap.
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And that right there is realtalk.
Cuz whatever one motherfuckerwon't do, there are ten
motherfuckers that will.
Okay, so let me give y'allanother example.
Courtney Kardashian and ScottDissick.
She dipped onto Travis Barker.
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Remember?
Let's talk about Courtney.
Scott gave her.
Years a mess cheating, drinking,and being unfucking reliable.
Typical nigga.
Even though he ain't a nigga,but y'all know what I mean.
And she stuck it out longer thanshe should have, but eventually
she did.
And look at her now.
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Married to Travis Barker, beingadored publicly, treated like a
queen.
Sometimes a dip takes a while,but when you do it, your whole
world changes.
City girls.
Don't waste 10 years likeCourtney did.
But do know this.
When you finally dip, the globehits different.
I'm telling you.
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You it's like you feel like awhole different woman.
Like you could not.
And then when you look back onthe shit that you tolerated or
what you was going through, youjust be like, ew, who's that
girl?
Because that's how I feel now.
Baby, can't nobody tell menothing, bitch.
I look the fuck good.
I'm losing weight.
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Like I'm thriving at this pointin my life because I don't have
I'm not carrying that deadweight along with alongside me
anymore.
And it feels amazing.
Example number three.
Arianna Grande and Dalton Gomez.
Arianna just dipped on DaltonBaby.
Her real estate hubby.
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It wasn't working.
Different lifestyles, differentvalues, whatever.
She dipped out.
Got with Ether Slater and Baby,whether you agree with it or
not, Arianna said, My happinessmatters.
You may not approve of whosomeone dips into, but the
important part is that theydipped out of whatever wasn't
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serving them.
And that's all thatmotherfucking matters.
One thing about it, and twothings for sure, it's about your
happiness, no one else's.
Now I can keep going.
I can give you another example.
My girl Sweetie and Quavo.
Now, sweetie, my girl gave us aniconic tip.
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When Quavo got caught up withdisrespect and cheating rumors,
she didn't cry out on thetimeline, didn't beg.
She just tweeted, I'm single,and kept it moving.
That's how you dip.
Clean, public, and not lookingback.
A real icy girl.
Sometimes the dip doesn't needto be messy.
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It just needs action.
Now this next queen, she's theOG of how to dip.
And listen, we gotta give J-Loher flowers.
She's the queen of the dip.
Ben Affleck the first time.
Mark Anthony, A-Rod.
Sis will dip quick when it's notgiving what it needs to get.
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And whether you like her choicesor not, one thing J Lo don't do
is stay stuck.
Say what you want about her.
But J Lo don't waste her time,and neither should you.
Now y'all know I gotta bring upPorsche Williams, baby.
When I say dip, Portia is in theHall of Fame for this one.
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She dipped out of her engagementwith Dennis, the hot dog king,
and slipped right into a wholemarriage with Simon.
And let's be real, it wascontroversial.
People had a lot of say becauseSimon was still tied up with
another real housewife at thetime.
But Porsche said, Listen, I'mchoosing what works for me.
Now, whether you agree with howshe did it or not, she made a
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decision that fits her.
And that's what dipping isreally about.
Doing what feels right for youin the moment.
The difference between Porscheand a lot of women, she didn't
stay stuck in a situation thatwasn't given.
She made her own moveunapologetically.
City girls, keep it real.
Sometimes the dip is messy,sometimes it comes with
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headline, side eyes, but at theend of the day, only you live
your life.
Porsche dip for her ownhappiness.
And that's the message.
Don't let nobody shame you outof choosing what you want.
And with that being said, CityGirls, celebrities do it too.
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Regular people do it.
What matters is knowing yourworth and refusing to sit in a
situation where you're givingmore than you're getting.
Because at the end of the day,dipping isn't just about
leaving.
It's about choosing you.
And if the rich and the famouscan dip, bitch, so can you.
Alright, City Girls, before weclose out, here's your challenge
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for the week.
Identify one place in your lifewhere you're carrying all the
weight in a relationship.
Whether it be friendship, evenfamily, romantic, whatever.
Then ask yourself, if they ain'tstepping up, how do you step
three?
That's right.
Text your girls and plan yourescape and make how to dip your
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anthem while you do it.
Because Helen isn't just leavingsomebody, it's choosing you
every single time.
And then when you do that, baby,you never lose.
And that's real talk.
I want to thank you guys fortuning in tonight.
Also, I want to remind you tomake sure you stream how to dip
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on all platforms and follow uson social media, Instagram,
Twitter, YouTube, everywhere.
At City Girls Decoded.
And I love you guys so much.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.
What's up, City Girls?
It's your girl back on CityGirls Decoded, where we keep it
real raw and uncut.
Today we're talking about menwho ain't shit.
Yeah, I said it.
The ones who don't show up,don't contribute, and somehow
think you're gonna carryrelationship while they sit back
and watch Netflix.
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And listen, I've been in asituation before.
I feel you.
That's exactly why I had towrite the new sequel, How to
Dip.
Dropping today, the sing thesong, excuse me, is literally
the anthem for texting yourgirls, planning your escape, and
leaving him stuck watching hisown tape, bitch.
Because sometimes you gotta dipbefore you lose yourself.
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And real talk, there was a timeI stayed with a motherfucker
because I thought I could fixhim.
Spoiler alert.
I couldn't.
The experience inspired the hookof how to dip.
So yeah, this one right here.
This shit is fucking personal.
Like, no shade.
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But anyway, y'all, it's aboutthat time.
You already know.
She love diaries, real stories.
You know when we get into realstories, sent them from
listeners on my personalstories.
And today I have a story from alistener.
My first listener wrote in abouther man who literally didn't do
shit, didn't pay pills, didn'thelp emotionally, didn't plan a
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damn thing.
She's out here handlingeverything while he sit back
like he's the king of laziness.
She said, Girl, I can't do thisno more.
Ladies, that's exactly the vibehow the dip is about.
Like, get the fuck up out ofthere.
It's time to go.
That nigga is a bum.
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And it's time to zip on him.
Get the fuck up out of there,sis.
But um, I wanna play a littlesnippet of the song for y'all
and let me know how y'all likeit.
SPEAKER_00 (03:00):
Oh, other than that.
SPEAKER_02 (03:13):
How y'all like that?
Y'all like it?
If y'all like it, go downloadthat.
Yeah, go download that fromApple Music, Spotify,
everywhere.
You download music, play it onYouTube.
Stream it up, stream it up,stream it up.
Thank you so much.
If you like it, if you don't,fuck you.
And if you do, I love you.
I love you.
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Yeah.
But anyway, on to a next storyfrom a listener.
Another listener says, um, herdude only calls when he wants
sex or money.
Ciao.
Meanwhile, she running herselfragged, making sure he eats,
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sleep, and look presentable.
That's not love.
Bitch, that's fuckingfreeloading.
Step three.
Text your girls, playing yourescape, leave them, and blast
how to dead while you doing thatshit.
Period.
Now I'm sure y'all that some ofy'all listeners are familiar
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with my story.
If not, the reason I dip isbecause I was fucking with a
nigga that was constant, I feellike he was constantly
criticizing me, but never couldcherry to him.
Like, that motherfucker, mindyou, he had a decent little job,
but he would never go to workbecause he was always fucking
drunk.
Like, you know, so I'm basicallypaying, I'm paying my bills
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because he lived with me.
Like, that nigga don't got shit,so he lived with me.
I'm paying my bills, you know.
And he swore up and down, he wasjust doing so much, and he was
really that that nigga.
And he wasn't.
And it irritated the fuck out ofmy soul.
And I finally had enough.
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And I dipped on that nigga.
I put that nigga out, and Inever looked the fuck back in.
No shade.
Like, like, real talk.
I never felt better in my life.
Like, I literally never feltbetter I feel like I'm doing
things that I never thought Iwould do.
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I always dreamt of justrecording music or you know, the
podcast, like just doing thingslike the writing.
Like, I that's things that Ilike to do.
And I could never do thatbecause I was always constantly
fighting with a drunkmotherfucker.
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It gave very much 1960s, husbanddrinking all day, come home, he
wanna beat the wife.
Like, that's what the fuck itgave.
And I I'm like, yo, I'm notdoing that.
I'm not doing that.
Like, I'm too much of a fuckingbad bitch to be sitting around
pulling up with shit with fromfrom a nigga like you.
Like, are you dumb?
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Are you fucking dumb?
Yeah, so I dipped on that ass.
And sis, let me tell yousomething.
If that motherfucker ain'ttreating you like you the
fucking prize, because guesswhat?
You are a lot of thesemotherfuckers be uh a lot,
especially nowadays, theseniggas think that they the
fucking prize.
And I don't know it's because Idon't know if it's because they
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was raised by single mothers.
Y'all niggas ain't the fuckingprize.
Y'all niggas is fucking brokenand ain't doing shit, but giving
a bitch a fucking headache.
Like, get the fuck out of herewith that.
Yeah, I just had to say that,y'all.
I had to get that off my chest.
I felt real, real that I thinkthat was something that was
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really heavy on my chest thisnow.
Like, you know, like yeah, butanyway, so this next segment,
we're gonna talk about some redflags and some standards.
And I want you bitches who liketo ignore the red flags, I want
you hoes to listen the fuck up.
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Cause this one is definitely fory'all.
Like, if you find yourself zerowith a nigga, and he has any one
of these qualities, bitch, runfor the hills, don't look back,
don't come back, it's a rap.
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Girl, if he avoidsresponsibilities and leaves all
the work to you, that's a redflag.
That shit ain't normal.
That nigga is a fuckingfreeloader.
Push that nigga to the side.
And I rather you know what?
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I'm not even a 50-50 girlbecause I just like kinda I'm
like kind of old school likethat.
But I'd rather go 50-50 with amotherfucker than to just be
sitting here taking care of agrown ass man.
I can't, and I done that.
I'm not doing that shit no more.
Like, that shit is terrible.
That shit is terrible.
Like, I really want to knowwhere the fuck you new niggas
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get that from.
Where that shit come from.
If you want to tell me, dropdown in the motherfucking
comments and let me know wherethat shit come from.
Cause that shit is y'all gottastop.
If he is emotionally unavailableand only around when it's
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convenient for him, that niggausing you.
He don't fuck with you likethat.
SPEAKER_01 (08:50):
That's a red flag.
Cut that nigga over, sis.
It's time to go.
Bye bye.
SPEAKER_02 (09:02):
It should be no way that you are only coming around
when you need something fromlike like I thought a
relationship at best wassupposed to be 50-50, right?
So like what like what do youwhat what what are we doing
here?
What are we doing here?
Like, and honestly, if a niggathat's that's that's a major red
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flag right there.
If a motherfucker is doing someshit, girl, that's not your man.
That's your friend.
Bitch.
What's the bitch from baddies?
That's your friend?
That's your friend.
That's not your man.
None.
I'm sorry.
I'm sorry to have to be the oneto tell you.
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Number three, red flag.
Talk, but doesn't that words arefucking cheap.
Nigga, put some action behindthat shit that you talking, you
a grown ass man.
Like, like let me see something.
You know what I'm saying?
Like, let me see something.
You always talking about whatyou wanna do or what you gonna
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do when when when like when yougonna get up and do it.
All you do is sit on your assall day and talk shit.
Like you don't even like pay younot paying no bills.
You honestly you shouldn't haveto complain about nothing
because you're not paying nobills.
Right?
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I'm fucking you, I'm cooking,cleaning.
Like what do you like nigga?
Who the fuck is you complainingabout?
Bitch.
The audacity.
Honestly, all a lot of youniggas nowadays all y'all be
having is dick and fuckingaudacity, and it's a shame.
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It's a fucking shame.
Like, get it together.
Get it to f get it the fucktogether.
I'm tired of him.
Anyway, number four refusesgrowth.
If he won't level up with you,he's holding you back.
My ex that nigga, he it's likehe was scared.
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And let me tell you, so abouttwo years ago, I decided that I
wanted to, mind you, I've alwaysbeen like into music, singing.
I grew up in a church.
Like I know people said that,but I really grew up singing in
the church and the choir andthings like that, and I always
wanted to be like to make music.
I love music.
So I decided that I was going tostart doing music, and I had
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recorded a single couple ofyears ago called Loves Don't
Live Here.
And I was post I was supposed toperform the song, and he came
with me and and everything.
He actually, you know, I'm notgonna lie, he paid for me to get
my hair done and shit like that.
Like, we get there, Nigel.
He's drinking.
Before we get there, he we getthere, he's drinking more.
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You know, so it's about time forme to perform.
He wanna act that songs.
Oh, I'm going to the cars,what's coming on, hurry up from
just acting crazy, and it kindof threw my vibe off.
It was just like real hatervibes, and I couldn't believe he
was acting like that.
And that was a red flag that Iignored.
I I shouldn't have.
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But now, you know what?
I kind of regret it because likeI feel like I was so I was
young, you know, like I was likenot young, but I was that was
like a couple of years ago,right?
Like if I would have beengrinding for those couple of
years and putting in the workthat I'm planning on putting in
now, like I probably would havebeen somewhere and doing
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something, you know what I'msaying?
Something like big and major.
But I let a bum ass nigga holdme back.
And that shit ain't cool.
I'll never do no shit like thatagain.
I like I swear to god, I I I I Inever will.
Let's move on.
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That motherfucker isdisrespectful, puts you down,
dismisses your feelings.
He a bitch ass nigga for one andfor two, bitch, leave that
nigga.
Get the fuck out of here.
Go on about your businessbecause what type of nigga
thrives off of putting his womandown.
My thing is this, why if youbeing why you being so
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disrespectful?
Like, why you trying to put medown?
If I'm such a this and that andthat and this, why you with that
type of bitch?
You know what I'm saying?
So what the fuck do I say aboutyou?
I always when a nigga startstalking that shit, I'm like my
nigga, but you sitting here withme.
So what type of nigga are you?
If I'm that type of bitch, whattype of nigga are you?
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Like, and what type of bitch isyour mother?
Cause she raised you and youwith this type of bitch.
Get the fuck out of here.
And let me tell you something.
The nigga I was with him and hismother was one and the same.
They was two ain't shit assmotherfuckers, like just bottom
of the barrel, like scraping,shut shucking and surviving to
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like to just just just to to toto live.
Like the the shit was it was itwas it was terrible.
But honestly, I'm so glad I'mout of that situation.
I'm so glad, like, I'm notturning back.
It's like like it's nothing elsefor me to I don't have no I
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don't need any closure.
I feel like the door is closed.
Honestly, it irritates me thatthat nigga still be having his
mail sent to my house.
And I told that motherfucker,yo, stop, change your address,
why the fuck you don't livehere?
That shit irritates me.
But you know what?
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I don't even want to give himthe satisfaction of of of of
like texting them no more andasking them again.
Like, nigga, it's it's it'sfine.
Bitch.
I put that shit right in thereturn us in the um box every
time.
Eventually they'll get they'llthey'll get the picture.
This motherfucker don't livehere.
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So stop putting his mail in mymailbox.
I don't know who the fuck thisnigga is.
Like Mariah Carey said, I don'tknow that person.
I don't know who you are.
So please stop putting his mailhere because this person don't
live here.
So let's move on.
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Selfish pyarbizes his self overyou constantly.
Now, this might sound likeweird, but I've never like that
I like that would be so for me.
If a motherfucker is selfish, wecouldn't even, we wouldn't even,
I wouldn't even have to beworried about the other red
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flags because that's one thingfor me, it's a no
non-negotiable.
Like, cause I'm such a caringand giving person.
You have to give, like, like,even like you gotta give, even
if you ain't got it like that,you gotta be be willing to
share.
And that's one thing my ex, hewas, he, he was willing, like,
he he would share and he woulddo shit.
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Like, you know what I'm saying?
He would like like he like whenhe had it, he would give it to
me.
So I really gotta give him hispops on that.
But that nigga was a fuckingloser and everything else.
He completely failed in everyother aspect of the
relationship.
So please.
Anyway, number seven, lazy,literally lets nothing get done
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without you reminding thatmotherfucker.
Girl, Zip.
Go ahead.
Like I said, like go about yourbusiness, mama's like, that
nigga ain't he's not worth yourtime, like, especially if you
got kids.
Like, bitch, you just that'sjust an extra kid, no shade.
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Like, you gotta constantly tellthat nigga do this.
Didn't I come?
Didn't I tell you to do this?
Didn't I tell you to do that?
Didn't I did like yo, what's up?
You could be bad by yourself,you don't gotta keep constantly
repeating yourself and asking agrown ass man to do this, and
honestly, why should you bereminding any adult how to
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better themselves or what theyshould be doing as a fucking
adult?
Come on.
Moving on.
Lastly, that motherfucker is amanipulator, makes you feel
guilty for wanting your needsmet.
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That is a big red flag, and thatis something that a lot of these
motherfuckers do.
These narcissistic pieces ofshit, they love to prey on you
and do shit like that.
And that shit is like predatorybehavior because you when you
thinking like I feel like that'sa c you making a conscious
decision to make this personfeel bad when you know damn well
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what you should be doing or whatyou should not be doing in a
relationship.
So if if if it's something I'mnot gonna tolerate, like why are
you making me feel bad?
But let me violate you orviolate your or or uh or
overstep the boundaries with youin some type of way.
Oh baby, it's it's over.
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Excuse me, these niggas be sohurt, like it be over, they be
so mad because or because youtelling them how to treat you.
They want to treat you how thefuck they feel like they should
treat you.
Nah, nigga, you're gonna treatme how I deserve to be treated,
how I'm telling you how to behow to treat how to treat me.
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It's not my fault.
You may never dealt with a bitchlike me before, but you're not
gonna treat me like you do theseother bitches.
I'm not these other hoes.
Respect me, nigga.
Now y'all know I don't neverwant to talk shit about nobody
without giving them some advice.
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So I'm gonna leave y'all withthis.
Set boundaries immediately, keepcommunication clear and firm.
Surround yourself withsupportive people.
And every time you see these redflags, cue hearted.
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Play the song loud, feel thepower.
It's a reminder.
You did when you when he won'tstep up.
That's it.
No apologies, no overthinking.
Get the fuck out of thesituation.
Now we're gonna dive into herlove and healing.
And I want to get into thehealing part because listen,
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leaving it just walking out thedoor, it's reclaiming your
peace, your time, your life.
And yes, it's things at first,but pain is temporary.
Peace is forever.
Here's how to heal step by step,bitch.
Get it out your system, journal,scream in your car, cry in the
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shower, call your therapist.
That's a big one.
I know sometimes, especially inthe black community, we don't
like to talk to therapists andstuff like that, but that's
really important.
It's always important to talk tosomebody who's qualified to give
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advice.
You know, we talk to ourhomegirls and stuff like that,
but a therapist, you can'talways talk to your bestie about
everything, and that leads me tothe next to the next way to get
it out of your system.
Call your bestie, whatever ittakes, don't just leave it
bottled.
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Also, pour into yourself, workon your body, your mind, your
bag.
A man can leave, but yourgrowing up can't take from can't
be taken from you.
That's real.
What's meant for you is meantfor you.
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Can't nobody take that from you.
Stay surrounded by real ones.
The people who clap when youwin, the ones who check on you
without needing anything back,those are the tribe.
Those are your tribe.
Lean into them heavy, like noshade.
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I my tribe is too deep.
And my sister, Fatty, I call herwhatever.
And honestly, I don't even haveto call her.
She calls me.
Like, if I ain't if I ain'tcalling a couple of days, she
knows I'm you bitch, you good.
Yeah, Fatty, I'm just a littledown right now.
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But you know, I'll call you whenI'm feeling when I'm feeling
better.
Everything is okay.
Like, you know, just make sureand check on your strong
friends.
Check on your strong friends.
And while you doing all this,play the anthem.
Blast it.
How did it?
Every bar is a reminder that youare the prize.
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You don't need no nigga who'sstuck on bare minimums.
Philly beat, let it move throughyou.
And remember, your energy is tooexpensive to be wasting with
somebody who can't afford it.
Stop playing games with thesebum ass niggas.
These bum ass motherfuckers,bitches, period.
Like, real talk.
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So it's about that time I'll begetting to some Q ⁇ A for some
listeners.
I might have some listeners sendme in some questions, and you
know, I'm gonna give my honestresponses and try to help them
out as much as I can.
Okay, so the first questioncomes in from a listener, and
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she asks, he hasn't stepped upfinancially.
Should I leave?
Girl, what type of question isthis?
Baby, if you're pulling doubleshifts and he can't even pull
his weight, you're not in apartnership.
You're in a parenthood and youalready got one mama.
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You don't need another child.
Step three, text your girls,plan your exit, and play out of
it while you pack your bags.
Alright, child, so the nextquestion comes in from listen
number two.
And she asks, he always cancelsplans and expects me to adjust.
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What do I do?
Says, if he's canceling on you,he's showing you where you rank
on his priority list.
And trust me, you're not at thetop.
Stop making excuses fordisrespect.
Your time is gold.
Protect it, protect you.
Next time he cancels, tell ournigga not to even bother
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rescheduling.
Cause you're booked and busy.
Zip out.
Okay, our last question comes infrom a listener.
And she asks, I'm feeling guiltyfor leaving.
Bitch, what?
He does nothing, but he doesnothing.
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How do I handle that?
That guilt you feel, that's notlove.
That's manipulation, bitch.
Stop being fucking dumb.
Cause you know what?
One thing about it, that nigga,if you leave him today, bitch,
tomorrow he gonna find an evendumber bitch.
That's gonna do whatever he youwhat he need them to do.
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You know what I'm saying?
And all the shit you wouldn'tdo.
And guess what?
That bitch ain't gonna complainabout none of the shit that you
complained about.
So all that feeling bad, throwthat shit out the window.
He trained you to think stayingis loyalty.
Bitch, that shit that's dumb.
It's fucking stupid.
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Get the fuck up out of there.
Pack your bags, baby.
Dip out on that nigga.
But all you're really doing isholding yourself hostage.
Free yourself.
You don't owe nobody yourmisery.
Like, why would you stay in asituation that makes you
unhappy?
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And honestly, let me tell you,that's why I yo, that's why I
left because I every day I wouldsay, like, you know, such and
such years old.
I have so many years in front ofme.
I'm with this man.
You know what I'm saying?
Is this the is this the N or Bor Like it can't be?
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I can't be dealing with this forthe rest of my life, my 40s,
50s, 60s.
Like, who the fuck wanted medealing with that type of
bullshit at that age?
You know what I'm saying?
And I know Mima and Pop Pop,they went through some things
and and Mima stayed.
And that's good and great forMima, but I I'm not.
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I'm not.
And I do but don't get me wrong.
Now I do believe in because Ialways say it's it seems like
nowadays, like people don'treally want to fight for fight
for for what's right, or fightfor their relationships.
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I feel like everybody wants tobe everybody wants to be,
everybody wants a motherfuckerto fight for them, but don't
nobody want to fight to keep therelationship.
I feel like two things could betrue at the same time.
Like motherfuckers could not bewanting to fight no more how
they used to back in the day,but also at the same time, you
don't gotta put up with shitfrom a motherfucker that ain't
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doing shit.
Because you know one thing Papadid back in the day?
He paid the bills, he made sureme mom was able to go to the
beauty salon and you know sayingat least once a month or once a
week, or however they did itback in the day.
Like, he made sure the kids wasable to get new shoes for school
and it was food in therefrigerator and things like
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that.
Like, you noom niggas not doingnone of that.
All y'all doing is beingfreeloaders and bums.
Step three, let that guilt go.
Slide into your healing era andplay how to dip loud enough that
he hears you leaving.
Yeah.
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So y'all know my guilty pleasureis celebrity gossip.
So before we close out the show,I'm gonna talk about some
celebrities who dip.
Because the famous ones dip too.
Money, fame, spotlight, doesn'tmatter.
If he ain't stepping up, theexit door looks the same.
And sometimes celebrities giveus the blueprint for dipping.
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What's that?
Let's start with Sierra.
Sierra dip from future, realquick.
That man couldn't keep ittogether, and she said, nah, I'm
good.
What happened after?
She leveled up into a wholemarriage with Russell Wilson, a
man who shows up for her and herson.
That's what I call a successfuldip.
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Leaving the chaos and walkinginto peace.
That's all that matters.
Because you know what?
And the craziest, yo, Future tryto act like he was so
unbothered.
I know you was because one thingI know you was mad.
Because one thing you niggashate is for a bitch to level up.
When you especially, especially,I'm pretty sure Future looked
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like the type of nigga that wastelling her, Oh, you ain't gonna
never get a nigga like me.
You gonna never find no niggabetter than me.
T.
Fucked around and found out.
City girls, that's proof rightthere.
Sometimes the man you love ain'tthe man you can build with.
Dip out and watch how God andthe universe, or whoever you
believe in, drop somebody tentimes better into your lap.
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And that right there is realtalk.
Cuz whatever one motherfuckerwon't do, there are ten
motherfuckers that will.
Okay, so let me give y'allanother example.
Courtney Kardashian and ScottDissick.
She dipped onto Travis Barker.
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Remember?
Let's talk about Courtney.
Scott gave her.
Years a mess cheating, drinking,and being unfucking reliable.
Typical nigga.
Even though he ain't a nigga,but y'all know what I mean.
And she stuck it out longer thanshe should have, but eventually
she did.
And look at her now.
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Married to Travis Barker, beingadored publicly, treated like a
queen.
Sometimes a dip takes a while,but when you do it, your whole
world changes.
City girls.
Don't waste 10 years likeCourtney did.
But do know this.
When you finally dip, the globehits different.
I'm telling you.
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You it's like you feel like awhole different woman.
Like you could not.
And then when you look back onthe shit that you tolerated or
what you was going through, youjust be like, ew, who's that
girl?
Because that's how I feel now.
Baby, can't nobody tell menothing, bitch.
I look the fuck good.
I'm losing weight.
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Like I'm thriving at this pointin my life because I don't have
I'm not carrying that deadweight along with alongside me
anymore.
And it feels amazing.
Example number three.
Arianna Grande and Dalton Gomez.
Arianna just dipped on DaltonBaby.
Her real estate hubby.
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It wasn't working.
Different lifestyles, differentvalues, whatever.
She dipped out.
Got with Ether Slater and Baby,whether you agree with it or
not, Arianna said, My happinessmatters.
You may not approve of whosomeone dips into, but the
important part is that theydipped out of whatever wasn't
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serving them.
And that's all thatmotherfucking matters.
One thing about it, and twothings for sure, it's about your
happiness, no one else's.
Now I can keep going.
I can give you another example.
My girl Sweetie and Quavo.
Now, sweetie, my girl gave us aniconic tip.
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When Quavo got caught up withdisrespect and cheating rumors,
she didn't cry out on thetimeline, didn't beg.
She just tweeted, I'm single,and kept it moving.
That's how you dip.
Clean, public, and not lookingback.
A real icy girl.
Sometimes the dip doesn't needto be messy.
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It just needs action.
Now this next queen, she's theOG of how to dip.
And listen, we gotta give J-Loher flowers.
She's the queen of the dip.
Ben Affleck the first time.
Mark Anthony, A-Rod.
Sis will dip quick when it's notgiving what it needs to get.
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And whether you like her choicesor not, one thing J Lo don't do
is stay stuck.
Say what you want about her.
But J Lo don't waste her time,and neither should you.
Now y'all know I gotta bring upPorsche Williams, baby.
When I say dip, Portia is in theHall of Fame for this one.
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She dipped out of her engagementwith Dennis, the hot dog king,
and slipped right into a wholemarriage with Simon.
And let's be real, it wascontroversial.
People had a lot of say becauseSimon was still tied up with
another real housewife at thetime.
But Porsche said, Listen, I'mchoosing what works for me.
Now, whether you agree with howshe did it or not, she made a
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decision that fits her.
And that's what dipping isreally about.
Doing what feels right for youin the moment.
The difference between Porscheand a lot of women, she didn't
stay stuck in a situation thatwasn't given.
She made her own moveunapologetically.
City girls, keep it real.
Sometimes the dip is messy,sometimes it comes with
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headline, side eyes, but at theend of the day, only you live
your life.
Porsche dip for her ownhappiness.
And that's the message.
Don't let nobody shame you outof choosing what you want.
And with that being said, CityGirls, celebrities do it too.
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Regular people do it.
What matters is knowing yourworth and refusing to sit in a
situation where you're givingmore than you're getting.
Because at the end of the day,dipping isn't just about
leaving.
It's about choosing you.
And if the rich and the famouscan dip, bitch, so can you.
Alright, City Girls, before weclose out, here's your challenge
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for the week.
Identify one place in your lifewhere you're carrying all the
weight in a relationship.
Whether it be friendship, evenfamily, romantic, whatever.
Then ask yourself, if they ain'tstepping up, how do you step
three?
That's right.
Text your girls and plan yourescape and make how to dip your
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anthem while you do it.
Because Helen isn't just leavingsomebody, it's choosing you
every single time.
And then when you do that, baby,you never lose.
And that's real talk.
I want to thank you guys fortuning in tonight.
Also, I want to remind you tomake sure you stream how to dip
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on all platforms and follow uson social media, Instagram,
Twitter, YouTube, everywhere.
At City Girls Decoded.
And I love you guys so much.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.
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