January 29, 2025 • 17 mins
What if you could turn your greatest heartbreak into a source of strength and hope? Delve deep into the CORE framework, where I share personal stories about my daughters overcoming adversities like deafness and seizures, and how these challenges have shaped their formidable work ethic and self-advocacy. Discover how resilience isn’t an innate gift but a skill that can be cultivated, much like exercising to build core muscles, allowing us to face life’s challenges head-on.
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Tonya Shellnutt (00:12):
Welcome to Courageous Overcomers stories of
hope and healing.
I'm your host, Tonya Shellnutt.
Here.
We talk about hard stuff trauma, fear and pain but let's be
honest, so many of us hide fromour pain because it's just too
hard to face.
But here's the truth we can'theal what we're not willing to
(00:33):
face.
I hope last week you were soencouraged by Dr Betsy Guerrera
and the unbelievable journeythat she's been on after the
loss of her daughter Fofi, whopassed in an accidental drowning
about 12 years ago.
She really is a true reflectionof a courageous overcomer and I
wanted you all to hear from herand I hope that you'll go and
(00:58):
get a copy of her book Hurt toHope.
It's one of those books youknow, these books that you have
highlights on almost every page.
It's just so good with verypractical wisdom, so I want to
encourage you to pick that up.
She's a great example ofresilience and we've been
talking about resilience thelast few weeks and we've learned
(01:19):
a few things.
We've learned that apessimistic attitude counteracts
resilience.
We've learned that apessimistic attitude counteracts
resilience and a pessimist is aperson that lacks hope and
belief in change.
And Dr Betsy is actually anoptimist, if you didn't pick
that up from her last week.
And an optimist is a personwho's inclined to be more
(01:41):
hopeful and expect good outcomes.
And I want to say too, justbecause Dr Betsy is an optimist,
that doesn't mean that shedidn't go through a season of
life where she didn't experiencesome of that negativity.
But it's one of those thingsabout resilience.
We're going to talk about itand dive into it, because
(02:02):
optimism and resilience go handin hand.
I want to encourage you to goback and listen to those
episodes on pessimism andoptimism because, remember,
resilience is your ability torecover quickly from challenges
or setbacks, and it's not aboutavoiding the hardships, it's
about facing the pain andgrowing through it.
(02:25):
So today I want to teach you aframework that will help you
build resilience.
We know that when we'rebuilding core muscles, it's
essential, obviously, to workingout, but our core is everything
, and especially as we get olderand I'm not saying that I'm
super great about getting to thegym all the time and working on
(02:45):
my core, because I'm not, butit's definitely something that's
very important.
So this is true when we'retalking about resiliency.
And so today we're going totalk about rebuilding resilience
with the CORE framework, theC-O-R-E framework facing life
head on, growing throughchallenges and building inner
(03:06):
strength.
The Core Framework, the C-O-R-EFramework Facing Life Head-On,
growing Through Challenges andBuilding Inner Strength.
So I want to introduce this toyou all because I think it's
very helpful to have somepractical steps to help you work
through this.
Because, yes, we can talk aboutpessimism, yes, we can talk
about optimism, but what aresome practical steps to work
through resilience, and why doesresilience matter?
(03:26):
So we understand thatresilience is the ability to
bounce back from setbacks, adaptfrom change, emerge stronger.
This is what I want you to hear.
It is not a trait you're bornwith.
It's a skill you have todevelop, just like going to the
gym, just like building yourcore.
The same is true aboutresilience, and this is I said
(03:49):
this a couple weeks ago, threeweeks ago, I guess and that
resilience is one of thecharacteristics that's lacking
greatly in our culture.
Everybody wants to give up,it's too hard, I can't do it,
and they want to give up.
But if you give up, you have noidea what lies on the other
side of adversity.
Rich always says can't do itand they want to give up, but if
you give up, you have no ideawhat lies on the other side of
adversity.
Rich always says don't give upbefore the miracle happens.
(04:11):
And so I want to share a littlebit, as I have in the past,
about my oldest daughter, whowas diagnosed at five years old
as being completely deaf in oneear and she had to wear a
hearing aid all throughelementary school, junior, high
and high school.
And you can imagine the opticson that because, let's face it,
(04:33):
kids are mean.
And so we tried really hard toteach her to advocate for
herself and not be defined bythat handicap.
We taught her to press onregardless of the challenges.
We didn't let setbacks defineher and I would say, maybe even
to a fault.
To this day she has anincredible work ethic because
(04:55):
she wasn't willing to be definedby that handicap, she leaned
into it, she worked hard, shedidn't let roadblocks stop her,
she would go around them.
And the same is true, actually,for our other daughter, who
started having seizures and bigones, the big mall, grand mal
ones at 13 months old and shewas having so many.
(05:16):
They went on to progress to thepetty mal and she was having so
many seizures we're talkinglike thousands of seizures.
When she was in school she wasmissing some of those building
blocks, and so she had to gointo special ed because we
couldn't get the seizures undercontrol long enough for her to
(05:37):
learn each of those necessarybuilding blocks to go on to the
next thing.
She was also teased and feltvery insecure about being in
special ed.
Rich shared a little bit aboutthat If you want to listen to
that episode.
He talked a little bit aboutthat insecurity, but what she
did do was she leaned into theadversity, with some amazing
(05:59):
teachers and a support groupthat helped her, and she worked
very hard.
She was very intentional andended up graduating from special
ed, and she, too, has anincredible work ethic and
advocates for herself and othersbecause of how she grew up and
what she learned and endured inschool.
(06:19):
And so I want you to hear thiswe're never, ever limited by our
handicaps or by our adversity.
It's what we do with them thatmatters, and that's why it's
important to learn theresilience framework.
Resilience matters because itaffects every part of your life
(06:39):
your ability to handle stress,build relationships, grow from
pain and pursue your goals.
Without resilience, it's easyto get stuck, overwhelmed and
discouraged.
So when you embrace resilience,you unlock the power to handle
life's unpredictability, turnchallenges into growth
(07:02):
opportunities and find purposein the pain and meaning in the
hardship.
So what is the core framework?
The C stands for confront, theO stands for own, the R stands
for reframe and the E stands forengage.
And we're going to go throughthese and I'm going to give you
(07:25):
some tips and some action stepsto work through this.
So the first one confront is toconfront the challenge.
So avoidance doesn't solveproblems.
Facing them is the first stepto growth.
This is one I am so passionateabout You've heard me talk about
, because growing up, we swepteverything under the rug.
(07:49):
We didn't talk about thedysfunction that was there.
You knew it was there, but wedidn't talk about it.
So the first thing is you haveto confront the challenge and
know that courage is not theabsence of fear, but taking
action despite it.
We talked about courage in thefirst few sessions of our
podcast.
You can go back and listen tothose.
(08:09):
So I want you to.
Your action prompt is toidentify one challenge you're
avoiding and brainstorm smallsteps to address it.
We all have a challenge thatwe're avoiding, whether it's a
financial situation, whetherit's a family relationship,
whether it's a work situation,whatever it might be, I want you
(08:32):
to identify what that challengeis and why you're avoiding it,
and brainstorm how you can faceit.
Okay, the other thing I wantyou to do which this is the
overcomer action item is I wantyou to do a fear inventory.
So I want you to list all ofyour fears and challenges and
then determine what steps youcan start to take to work
(08:55):
through them.
Now, this is this isn't easy.
This can be hard because, firstoff, sometimes you're like,
well, what am I really afraid of?
And you know, maybe you can'tthink of something, but the
reality is, is we're all afraidof something?
You know, maybe you can't thinkof something, but the reality
is, is we're all afraid ofsomething.
And so I want you to go throughand do that inventory and
identify what are those fears,what is keeping me held back,
(09:17):
and then determine what you cando to begin to work through
those.
Very important because, again,you can't heal what you don't
face.
Very important because, again,you can't heal what you don't
face.
So confronting the challengesis so important.
And that is the first step inbuilding resilience in this
framework.
The second one is to own yourreactions.
(09:39):
All right, so, while we can'tcontrol life circumstances, we
can control how we respond, andresilience grows when we focus
on what's within our control.
So I want you, on the action,to reflect during challenging
moments and ask yourself whatcan I control here?
(10:01):
I guarantee you that is not thefirst response.
When we're, you know, gettingour feelings hurt or somebody
has said something, we don'tjust sit there and go hmm.
So that leads to the actualovercomer action item, and that
is to practice the five-secondrule when you're receiving
criticism or you're facingfailure.
(10:24):
Now, I don't think that there'ssome people can practice the
five second rule, but for me,I'm the 30 second rule girl,
because I have a hothead andfive seconds doesn't work for me
and I literally have tophysically walk away or my mouth
will get me in trouble.
I have to pray and ask God tohelp me because my fear gets in
(10:46):
the way of trying to control theoutcomes and I have to step
back and remind myself thatGod's got this.
And we're going to have another.
One of the future podcasts isgoing to be about control,
because, ultimately, control isreally rooted in fear.
And so for me taking, you know,30 seconds, whatever it might
(11:11):
be, to reflect and go okay, whatcan I really control here?
And asking God to help methrough it because, again, five
seconds doesn't work for me, butmaybe it works for you.
It doesn't work for me, butmaybe it worked for you.
So the third step in this coreframework is R, which stands for
(11:33):
reframe.
You have to reframe yourmindset.
Resilient people reframechallenges as opportunities for
growth.
Okay, romans 8, 28 says thisthat God uses all things for
good.
And that has been such animportant verse in my life is
(11:53):
just knowing that I can'tcontrol the outcomes.
God's going to use it and I'vejust got to let him have it.
And I have to say, ok, what canI learn from this and what do I
need to do with this?
What is my response to thissituation?
So I would say one of the thingsthat you can do on the action
(12:14):
item is to write down threepotential benefits from a
current struggle.
So let's just say you're goingthrough a financial struggle.
What are three positive thingsthat you can take away from that
financial struggle?
Maybe it's just learning how tolive without, maybe it's
learning how to be better on abudget.
(12:36):
But reframing that difficultyinto what are some positives,
that's a really hard thing to do, and this goes back to that
pessimistic mindset versusoptimistic mindset.
It is so important to have apositive attitude.
Again, I'm not negating thefact that we go through seasons
(12:57):
where we are down and out and wehave a negative attitude, but
I'm telling you, as much as youpossibly can reframe your mind
to go okay, I've got to find thegood in this, and so I want you
to take a moment and reflect ona recent challenge that you've
had and journal about it.
What was the difficulty youfaced?
(13:18):
How did you initially view it?
Was it bad?
Is that how you looked at itfrom the beginning?
And then, what's a morepositive way you could reframe
that challenge as an opportunityfor growth?
That's your action item on theR for core, as we're moving
through the resilience framework, and then the last one, which
(13:41):
is the E, which is engage,engage in growth.
Resilience isn't just enduring.
It's about learning andimproving through the hardship.
You can just survive, but whynot thrive?
(14:02):
I mean, we have everyopportunity to change our
mindset, to lean into it.
It's up to us, and so why notengage in that growth?
Growth has to be intentional,and you've got to reflect on the
lessons learned and apply them.
If you don't do this, you willjust stay a victim to your
circumstances and then you'llbegin that cycle of negative
thinking and pessimisticthinking.
(14:24):
So I want to encourage you totake a look at after one of,
after one of your setbacks.
You know what happened, whatdid you learn?
And again, how can you apply alesson to that in your journal?
And again, maybe you don'tjournal but maybe you can do
voice memos.
My friend, missy, was tellingme about this cool new gadget
(14:46):
that you can like.
Actually and I'm sotechnologically challenged so
you're probably laughing at mebut you can like write your
notes on this tablet and ittranscribes it.
I'm going to ask for that forChristmas next year, but however
it works for you.
Just start getting yourthoughts down on paper or doing
voice recorders, whatever it is.
And then I want you to identifyone small habit or practice that
(15:09):
you can start today thatreflects the lessons you've
learned from that recentchallenge, and commit to
practicing it daily for a weekand track how it impacts your
mindset and your growth.
So I shared I don't rememberwhich podcast it was, but I
shared about the boss that I hadand how my AA sponsor in my
(15:34):
early days of getting sober waslike you need to take him a
juice and I didn't want to and Ijust showed kindness and I
ended up learning that heactually had a wife who was very
ill, and it changed my mindsetand it changed how I interact.
I mean, we just don't alwaysknow what people are going
through.
So I want to encourage you thisweek to use the core framework
(15:58):
for your next challenge.
In order to gain muscle, youhave to work out, and the same
is true for building resilience.
So, as we wrap up today, I wantyou to go back in those four
items the core and begin to workon those and put those in place
this week.
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Welcome to Courageous Overcomers stories of
hope and healing.
I'm your host, Tonya Shellnutt.
Here.
We talk about hard stuff trauma, fear and pain but let's be
honest, so many of us hide fromour pain because it's just too
hard to face.
But here's the truth we can'theal what we're not willing to
(00:33):
face.
I hope last week you were soencouraged by Dr Betsy Guerrera
and the unbelievable journeythat she's been on after the
loss of her daughter Fofi, whopassed in an accidental drowning
about 12 years ago.
She really is a true reflectionof a courageous overcomer and I
wanted you all to hear from herand I hope that you'll go and
(00:58):
get a copy of her book Hurt toHope.
It's one of those books youknow, these books that you have
highlights on almost every page.
It's just so good with verypractical wisdom, so I want to
encourage you to pick that up.
She's a great example ofresilience and we've been
talking about resilience thelast few weeks and we've learned
(01:19):
a few things.
We've learned that apessimistic attitude counteracts
resilience.
We've learned that apessimistic attitude counteracts
resilience and a pessimist is aperson that lacks hope and
belief in change.
And Dr Betsy is actually anoptimist, if you didn't pick
that up from her last week.
And an optimist is a personwho's inclined to be more
(01:41):
hopeful and expect good outcomes.
And I want to say too, justbecause Dr Betsy is an optimist,
that doesn't mean that shedidn't go through a season of
life where she didn't experiencesome of that negativity.
But it's one of those thingsabout resilience.
We're going to talk about itand dive into it, because
(02:02):
optimism and resilience go handin hand.
I want to encourage you to goback and listen to those
episodes on pessimism andoptimism because, remember,
resilience is your ability torecover quickly from challenges
or setbacks, and it's not aboutavoiding the hardships, it's
about facing the pain andgrowing through it.
(02:25):
So today I want to teach you aframework that will help you
build resilience.
We know that when we'rebuilding core muscles, it's
essential, obviously, to workingout, but our core is everything
, and especially as we get olderand I'm not saying that I'm
super great about getting to thegym all the time and working on
(02:45):
my core, because I'm not, butit's definitely something that's
very important.
So this is true when we'retalking about resiliency.
And so today we're going totalk about rebuilding resilience
with the CORE framework, theC-O-R-E framework facing life
head on, growing throughchallenges and building inner
(03:06):
strength.
The Core Framework, the C-O-R-EFramework Facing Life Head-On,
growing Through Challenges andBuilding Inner Strength.
So I want to introduce this toyou all because I think it's
very helpful to have somepractical steps to help you work
through this.
Because, yes, we can talk aboutpessimism, yes, we can talk
about optimism, but what aresome practical steps to work
through resilience, and why doesresilience matter?
(03:26):
So we understand thatresilience is the ability to
bounce back from setbacks, adaptfrom change, emerge stronger.
This is what I want you to hear.
It is not a trait you're bornwith.
It's a skill you have todevelop, just like going to the
gym, just like building yourcore.
The same is true aboutresilience, and this is I said
(03:49):
this a couple weeks ago, threeweeks ago, I guess and that
resilience is one of thecharacteristics that's lacking
greatly in our culture.
Everybody wants to give up,it's too hard, I can't do it,
and they want to give up.
But if you give up, you have noidea what lies on the other
side of adversity.
Rich always says can't do itand they want to give up, but if
you give up, you have no ideawhat lies on the other side of
adversity.
Rich always says don't give upbefore the miracle happens.
(04:11):
And so I want to share a littlebit, as I have in the past,
about my oldest daughter, whowas diagnosed at five years old
as being completely deaf in oneear and she had to wear a
hearing aid all throughelementary school, junior, high
and high school.
And you can imagine the opticson that because, let's face it,
(04:33):
kids are mean.
And so we tried really hard toteach her to advocate for
herself and not be defined bythat handicap.
We taught her to press onregardless of the challenges.
We didn't let setbacks defineher and I would say, maybe even
to a fault.
To this day she has anincredible work ethic because
(04:55):
she wasn't willing to be definedby that handicap, she leaned
into it, she worked hard, shedidn't let roadblocks stop her,
she would go around them.
And the same is true, actually,for our other daughter, who
started having seizures and bigones, the big mall, grand mal
ones at 13 months old and shewas having so many.
(05:16):
They went on to progress to thepetty mal and she was having so
many seizures we're talkinglike thousands of seizures.
When she was in school she wasmissing some of those building
blocks, and so she had to gointo special ed because we
couldn't get the seizures undercontrol long enough for her to
(05:37):
learn each of those necessarybuilding blocks to go on to the
next thing.
She was also teased and feltvery insecure about being in
special ed.
Rich shared a little bit aboutthat If you want to listen to
that episode.
He talked a little bit aboutthat insecurity, but what she
did do was she leaned into theadversity, with some amazing
(05:59):
teachers and a support groupthat helped her, and she worked
very hard.
She was very intentional andended up graduating from special
ed, and she, too, has anincredible work ethic and
advocates for herself and othersbecause of how she grew up and
what she learned and endured inschool.
(06:19):
And so I want you to hear thiswe're never, ever limited by our
handicaps or by our adversity.
It's what we do with them thatmatters, and that's why it's
important to learn theresilience framework.
Resilience matters because itaffects every part of your life
(06:39):
your ability to handle stress,build relationships, grow from
pain and pursue your goals.
Without resilience, it's easyto get stuck, overwhelmed and
discouraged.
So when you embrace resilience,you unlock the power to handle
life's unpredictability, turnchallenges into growth
(07:02):
opportunities and find purposein the pain and meaning in the
hardship.
So what is the core framework?
The C stands for confront, theO stands for own, the R stands
for reframe and the E stands forengage.
And we're going to go throughthese and I'm going to give you
(07:25):
some tips and some action stepsto work through this.
So the first one confront is toconfront the challenge.
So avoidance doesn't solveproblems.
Facing them is the first stepto growth.
This is one I am so passionateabout You've heard me talk about
, because growing up, we swepteverything under the rug.
(07:49):
We didn't talk about thedysfunction that was there.
You knew it was there, but wedidn't talk about it.
So the first thing is you haveto confront the challenge and
know that courage is not theabsence of fear, but taking
action despite it.
We talked about courage in thefirst few sessions of our
podcast.
You can go back and listen tothose.
(08:09):
So I want you to.
Your action prompt is toidentify one challenge you're
avoiding and brainstorm smallsteps to address it.
We all have a challenge thatwe're avoiding, whether it's a
financial situation, whetherit's a family relationship,
whether it's a work situation,whatever it might be, I want you
(08:32):
to identify what that challengeis and why you're avoiding it,
and brainstorm how you can faceit.
Okay, the other thing I wantyou to do which this is the
overcomer action item is I wantyou to do a fear inventory.
So I want you to list all ofyour fears and challenges and
then determine what steps youcan start to take to work
(08:55):
through them.
Now, this is this isn't easy.
This can be hard because, firstoff, sometimes you're like,
well, what am I really afraid of?
And you know, maybe you can'tthink of something, but the
reality is, is we're all afraidof something?
You know, maybe you can't thinkof something, but the reality
is, is we're all afraid ofsomething.
And so I want you to go throughand do that inventory and
identify what are those fears,what is keeping me held back,
(09:17):
and then determine what you cando to begin to work through
those.
Very important because, again,you can't heal what you don't
face.
Very important because, again,you can't heal what you don't
face.
So confronting the challengesis so important.
And that is the first step inbuilding resilience in this
framework.
The second one is to own yourreactions.
(09:39):
All right, so, while we can'tcontrol life circumstances, we
can control how we respond, andresilience grows when we focus
on what's within our control.
So I want you, on the action,to reflect during challenging
moments and ask yourself whatcan I control here?
(10:01):
I guarantee you that is not thefirst response.
When we're, you know, gettingour feelings hurt or somebody
has said something, we don'tjust sit there and go hmm.
So that leads to the actualovercomer action item, and that
is to practice the five-secondrule when you're receiving
criticism or you're facingfailure.
(10:24):
Now, I don't think that there'ssome people can practice the
five second rule, but for me,I'm the 30 second rule girl,
because I have a hothead andfive seconds doesn't work for me
and I literally have tophysically walk away or my mouth
will get me in trouble.
I have to pray and ask God tohelp me because my fear gets in
(10:46):
the way of trying to control theoutcomes and I have to step
back and remind myself thatGod's got this.
And we're going to have another.
One of the future podcasts isgoing to be about control,
because, ultimately, control isreally rooted in fear.
And so for me taking, you know,30 seconds, whatever it might
(11:11):
be, to reflect and go okay, whatcan I really control here?
And asking God to help methrough it because, again, five
seconds doesn't work for me, butmaybe it works for you.
It doesn't work for me, butmaybe it worked for you.
So the third step in this coreframework is R, which stands for
(11:33):
reframe.
You have to reframe yourmindset.
Resilient people reframechallenges as opportunities for
growth.
Okay, romans 8, 28 says thisthat God uses all things for
good.
And that has been such animportant verse in my life is
(11:53):
just knowing that I can'tcontrol the outcomes.
God's going to use it and I'vejust got to let him have it.
And I have to say, ok, what canI learn from this and what do I
need to do with this?
What is my response to thissituation?
So I would say one of the thingsthat you can do on the action
(12:14):
item is to write down threepotential benefits from a
current struggle.
So let's just say you're goingthrough a financial struggle.
What are three positive thingsthat you can take away from that
financial struggle?
Maybe it's just learning how tolive without, maybe it's
learning how to be better on abudget.
(12:36):
But reframing that difficultyinto what are some positives,
that's a really hard thing to do, and this goes back to that
pessimistic mindset versusoptimistic mindset.
It is so important to have apositive attitude.
Again, I'm not negating thefact that we go through seasons
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where we are down and out and wehave a negative attitude, but
I'm telling you, as much as youpossibly can reframe your mind
to go okay, I've got to find thegood in this, and so I want you
to take a moment and reflect ona recent challenge that you've
had and journal about it.
What was the difficulty youfaced?
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How did you initially view it?
Was it bad?
Is that how you looked at itfrom the beginning?
And then, what's a morepositive way you could reframe
that challenge as an opportunityfor growth?
That's your action item on theR for core, as we're moving
through the resilience framework, and then the last one, which
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is the E, which is engage,engage in growth.
Resilience isn't just enduring.
It's about learning andimproving through the hardship.
You can just survive, but whynot thrive?
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I mean, we have everyopportunity to change our
mindset, to lean into it.
It's up to us, and so why notengage in that growth?
Growth has to be intentional,and you've got to reflect on the
lessons learned and apply them.
If you don't do this, you willjust stay a victim to your
circumstances and then you'llbegin that cycle of negative
thinking and pessimisticthinking.
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So I want to encourage you totake a look at after one of,
after one of your setbacks.
You know what happened, whatdid you learn?
And again, how can you apply alesson to that in your journal?
And again, maybe you don'tjournal but maybe you can do
voice memos.
My friend, missy, was tellingme about this cool new gadget
(14:46):
that you can like.
Actually and I'm sotechnologically challenged so
you're probably laughing at mebut you can like write your
notes on this tablet and ittranscribes it.
I'm going to ask for that forChristmas next year, but however
it works for you.
Just start getting yourthoughts down on paper or doing
voice recorders, whatever it is.
And then I want you to identifyone small habit or practice that
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you can start today thatreflects the lessons you've
learned from that recentchallenge, and commit to
practicing it daily for a weekand track how it impacts your
mindset and your growth.
So I shared I don't rememberwhich podcast it was, but I
shared about the boss that I hadand how my AA sponsor in my
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early days of getting sober waslike you need to take him a
juice and I didn't want to and Ijust showed kindness and I
ended up learning that heactually had a wife who was very
ill, and it changed my mindsetand it changed how I interact.
I mean, we just don't alwaysknow what people are going
through.
So I want to encourage you thisweek to use the core framework
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for your next challenge.
In order to gain muscle, youhave to work out, and the same
is true for building resilience.
So, as we wrap up today, I wantyou to go back in those four
items the core and begin to workon those and put those in place
this week.
I also want to encourage you tosubscribe to Courageous
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Overcomers and join ourcommunity.
You can leave a five-starreview and that helps us get
hope out faster.
Please share this episode withsomeone who might need to be
encouraged today and then, ifyou know someone who would be a
great guest for the show, pleaseemail me at tonya, at
tonyashellnutt.
com.
I love to interview overcomersand I've got an incredible guest
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for next week, so I want you totune in next Wednesday same
time, same place, and I hopeeveryone has an excellent week.
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Wednesday same time, same place, and I hope everyone
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Thank you for joining us hereon Courageous Overcomers with
Tonya Shellnutt.
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