Fatherhood is a journey—but raising a child on the autism spectrum adds layers of complexity, resilience, and growth that few understand. In this episode of Dads in Autismland, Mark de Grasse sits down with Patrick Hurley, a dedicated father balancing life with both a neurotypical and autistic son.
Patrick shares his raw and unfiltered experience—from the early signs of autism and the diagnosis process to navigating therapy, school transitions, and the emotional toll of meltdowns. He reflects on how shifting his mindset—from "fixing" his child to adapting his own approach—made all the difference.
This episode is for fathers who seek practical strategies, honest conversations, and a sense of solidarity in the autism parenting journey. Whether you're managing therapy decisions, advocating in the school system, or balancing your marriage and career with special needs parenting, this conversation offers insight, support, and real-world wisdom.
TOPICS COVERED
- The emotional journey of an autism dad: From diagnosis to acceptance
- How therapy, structure, & school choices shape progress
- Balancing attention between neurotypical & autistic children
- The reality of meltdowns and how to manage them effectively
- Why self-care is not a luxury, but a necessity for autism dads
QUOTES
"I spent many years thinking there was something I could do to fix him. It took a long time for me to accept that he doesn’t need to be fixed—I needed to fix my approach toward him."
"At the end of the day, they just didn’t have the resources. And they admitted that. They said, ‘We can’t provide him the level of support he needs.’ That was a hard pill to swallow as a father."
"My son knows he has autism, but I don’t think he sees himself as different. He just sees himself as Patrick. And I think there’s something really powerful in that."
DISCLAIMER
Every child's autism journey is unique. This video shares one family's personal experience and is meant for informational purposes only. Always consult with healthcare professionals for medical advice.
Host
Mark de Grasse
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