July 21, 2025 • 13 mins
🎧 Episode Title: Stop Comparing Yourself! Focus on YOUR Journey 💯
Podcast: Daily Spoken English Tips
In this episode, we dive deep into a powerful reminder for every English learner: Stop comparing yourself to others! 💥 Everyone’s journey is different, and your progress matters more than perfection. 🚶♂️✨
You'll learn:
✅ Why comparison slows down your English improvement
✅ How to build confidence in your own pace
✅ Practical mindset tips to stay motivated and consistent Whether you're a beginner or intermediate learner, this episode will help you stay focused, positive, and on track with your English speaking goals. 🗣️🔥
🎙️ Listen now and remind yourself: You’re doing better than you think. Keep going!
Podcast: Daily Spoken English Tips
In this episode, we dive deep into a powerful reminder for every English learner: Stop comparing yourself to others! 💥 Everyone’s journey is different, and your progress matters more than perfection. 🚶♂️✨
You'll learn:
✅ Why comparison slows down your English improvement
✅ How to build confidence in your own pace
✅ Practical mindset tips to stay motivated and consistent Whether you're a beginner or intermediate learner, this episode will help you stay focused, positive, and on track with your English speaking goals. 🗣️🔥
🎙️ Listen now and remind yourself: You’re doing better than you think. Keep going!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
So do you ever feel like that I can do
nothing in my life? And it's not about a language.
It's about everything that you start and you feel like
I'm not having courage and I think it's not my
cup of tea I can't do And you're starting any task,
you're starting any skill to learn, and you feel like
(00:22):
giving up every moment. So why do you feel like this?
Why it happens. It's not about a language, it's not
about a skill. It's about everything that you start in
your life and you feel you're ending up like I
am not good enough. So from where these thoughts are coming,
let's discuss in this video yourself then every time you
(00:45):
feel like it's not my cup of tea, I can't
do it, and what are the root cases of this
kind of mentality and why you think so? So this
video is all about this topic today, So discuss in detail.
You know, from where these kind of the thought process
(01:06):
is coming. This is not something that is your fault
you're thinking like this. There is something which is more
deeper which you need to understand. You know, when we
see someone that is doing so good in their life,
in any of the particular skill they are doing in
the studies, in the sports, in the any content creation,
(01:28):
anything we see, we must feel like this, that this
person is perfect. This person is great of all time.
He is doing best every time, he can never make
a mistake. He's the super person's he's having some kind
of the power and some super magic that he is
(01:49):
able to do everything and we are not able to
do So we get this kind of thinking because we
compare ourselves. If you see, for example, if you see
someone that there is a content creator who is in
your niche or who is in your field or in
another field as well. So that person is doing well,
(02:11):
who having a lot of the subscriber, who has a
brand value, and he's doing so well in that life.
And then you feel like, oh, he is so great,
he's so perfect. He can do everything, but we can't
do it. We are not perfect like him or her.
She's so perfect. He's so perfect. He knows everything. They
(02:35):
have all the knowledge, they have all the skills, and
it's not our cup of tea. We can never be
compete and we can never be doing anything in our life.
We compare a lot ourselves with others. In the same
way we are comparing ourself to the English language. When
it comes to English language, we see other learners that
(02:56):
they are speaking so well, they're confident there, speaking so nice,
They're doing every day effort they're putting. Because of that,
they are getting a lot of the improvement every single day.
They are improvising themselves every single day, they are upgrading themselves.
And then we feel like, these are the peoples are
(03:17):
great at these skills.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
We are liking into it.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
We can never speak fluently, we can never become a
fluent Engli speaker, or we can never regain this language.
We can never gain this fluency as well. So this
is the thought processes. Keep on going the kind of
the comparison we are doing. But in this sense, is
(03:41):
it going to help you anymore? When you keep on
comparing yourself to others? Then is it any chance to
improving yourself? Instead of foxing to others and comparing to others,
you can be apply a positive mindset here.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Okay, these peoples are doing so well.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
In their life, in their niche, in their domains, So
I will get to know a lot of the knowledge.
I'll get a lot of exposure of knowledge, and I'll
be able to learn a lot from them.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
These peoples are experienced.
Speaker 1 (04:16):
These peoples are doing so well in their field, so
something in else I am going to be adapt from
their personality, from their content, from their skills. So we
need to adapt a positive mindset towards the things. Negative
mindset is not going to help us. It is just
going to make us compare ourself to others. When you're
(04:39):
comparing yourself to any content creator or any speaker who
is very good at speaking, you need to focus that
this person who is today a content creator.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
You go and you check it out their first video.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
Did they so perfect like today in their first video,
or how long.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
It's been there working on their skills.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
When you see someone's first video and then you see
their recent video, you will see a huge changes in themselves.
So along with that process they have learned it. It
didn't happen overnight. They have met hundreds of the videos.
Then they gain a lot of experiences from them. Then
they get to know a lot of tools they used
(05:26):
them in their upcoming videos, and then they learned about it.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Now.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
When they created their first video, their thumbnails was not
that perfect.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
That is today they make their editing.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
The thumbnails was not up to mark, but today you
see their videos are going into the millions and lack
of the peoples are watching it. So somewhere they had
also a starting point. They also started from the Gero.
They also started from a Gero subscriber. They also started
from the Gero brand value. But they had a clear
(06:03):
goal in their mind that yes, I have to keep
on foxing on my goal and I have to keep
on going. So instead of comparing yourself, you can learn
something from them.
Speaker 2 (06:14):
You can wash their previous videos, you can learn from it. Keys.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
They were not also perfect at the time. They were
not such a confident today there seems today they have
become a confident because shuiting so many videos after putting a.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
Lot of effort.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
Today they are great at editing, they're great at making thumbnails,
they're great at their content, and they can express themselves
a better way. They can represent themselves in a good manner.
So you need to understand that they were not perfect
since the beginning. They also had some starting point and
from there they started themselves their journey. So this was
(06:53):
a continuous process they put every day, putting everyday effort
that made them lead to today's whatever they are. So
when it comes to English speaking, as well, so there
is the same thing you see someone like who says
(07:13):
learn English in three months or six month.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
Might be these.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
Peoples are fortunate enough to have a environment where the
peoples are speaking in this language. Or maybe these peoples
are fortunate enough to have resources and guidance at the
right time. But for them who are not having background,
who are not having any guidance, who started their journey
(07:41):
the one year back, two year back, they didn't have
that much options, they didn't have that much of the
knowledge and the guidance everything. The person who started from scratch,
who discovered himself for herself, all the challenges, all the problems,
(08:01):
who faced it. So there's a difference between both the peoples.
Nowadays you see a lot of the content is present
on the YouTube. People get easily advices, people get guidance
very easily. It's so very easy to them finding a
good content creator. They can learn from it, they can
(08:22):
get to know their levels. But from a person who
is starting from scratch, who is not having knowledge about
it how to learn this language, who have no guidance,
that person will.
Speaker 2 (08:38):
Have to struggle. And today you see.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
All this content creators who have this such kind of
amazing lessons they say and they tell about. They have
such a clarity. So once they had their beginning phase
as well, they started from scratch, they discovered by themselves everything.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
They started everything from scratch.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
They took a initiative when they had nothing to do,
they started their journey. Then they had to face they
must have had to face something a lot of the challenges.
So today those people who are able to speak fluently,
who are a good speaker, and who has a good
(09:20):
communications skills, once they were also a beginner, they had
to also go through a lot. They had to struggle
a lot, They had to do a lot of effort. Today,
whatever they are, it is a result an outcome of their.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
Thousands of the effort.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
They had to talk with the people they had to talk,
started to talking with the mirror, started talking with the camera.
They were not the same since the beginning. So ultimately,
I'm trying to say that it's a note about that everybody.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
Around you seems power. It is the perfect they.
Speaker 1 (10:01):
Have over time developed these skills. No one is just
like doing it like a magic. It's not a magic.
It's a constant effort, constant hard work. They have put
in and every day, even if they were feeling demotivated,
they showed up and showing up every single day. That
(10:22):
made them reach to this level they are speaking today,
so better. So stop comparing yourself. Don't compare yourself. If
somebody who has started their journey two years back, who
learned all.
Speaker 2 (10:36):
The things from scratch, who started their journey.
Speaker 1 (10:41):
From discovering every single thing by their own struggled a lot,
made a lot of mistake, sometimes hit the plate to condition.
So they have took themselves out of it by the
making a lot of mistake, finding them out and working
on it.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
And today they are.
Speaker 1 (11:01):
Able to be providing the knowledge what they have gained
from their journey. It is because of they lived that journey.
It is because they have put effort on it. They
have put a lot of effort on it. You cannot
compare and you should not be compared, because comparison is
(11:22):
not a good thing. You can learn from the peoples,
but comparing yourself it is not going.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
To help in any way.
Speaker 1 (11:29):
Somebody who has been started the channel one year back,
two year back, they have made hundreds of the videos
and their videos are getting viral. You cannot compare yourself
to that person. Somebody at the top, and you just started.
What is the point of even comparing. So all I
(11:52):
want to say is that comparison is not going to
help you in any way. Just believe in yourself and
what they were, the skills that you want to discover.
Whatever you want to do, you're gonna do it eventually.
You want to make it. Yes, it will take time.
And who says exceptions are always here? Who says that
(12:15):
we can we learned English in just three months or
six months? And for them, I would say it, I
think you are fortunate enough to having I think you
have the environment or you got a guidance at the time,
that's why, and you are a fast learner.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
Maybe.
Speaker 1 (12:32):
But for those who are not having background and who
are basically from the rural background, they face a lot
of issues. They face a lot of difficulties. For them,
I'm telling you don't compare.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
Just please.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
You're seeing someone somebody's conversation. If you're seeing the are
the two peoples are communicating to each other, they're speaking
so well, their communication is so everything is up to mark.
So and you just started your journey. You can't even
gather the courage to speak in front of mirror camera,
(13:12):
and that person has faced hundreds of the times the camera,
who has talked thender to Hndred five hundred times to
the peoples. And then that person is representing themselves and
you're seeing that person's video after the making the four
hundred five hundred videos and two three years of hard
work reading the plenty of books, you're comparing yourself.
Speaker 2 (13:37):
There's no comparison. It's not to be.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
Good for your health, it's not be good for your growth.
So be focused. Just work on yourself and believe in yourself.
And if you are feeling such issues, so let me
know in the comment box.
So do you ever feel like that I can do
nothing in my life? And it's not about a language.
It's about everything that you start and you feel like
I'm not having courage and I think it's not my
cup of tea I can't do And you're starting any task,
you're starting any skill to learn, and you feel like
(00:22):
giving up every moment. So why do you feel like this?
Why it happens. It's not about a language, it's not
about a skill. It's about everything that you start in
your life and you feel you're ending up like I
am not good enough. So from where these thoughts are coming,
let's discuss in this video yourself then every time you
(00:45):
feel like it's not my cup of tea, I can't
do it, and what are the root cases of this
kind of mentality and why you think so? So this
video is all about this topic today, So discuss in detail.
You know, from where these kind of the thought process
(01:06):
is coming. This is not something that is your fault
you're thinking like this. There is something which is more
deeper which you need to understand. You know, when we
see someone that is doing so good in their life,
in any of the particular skill they are doing in
the studies, in the sports, in the any content creation,
(01:28):
anything we see, we must feel like this, that this
person is perfect. This person is great of all time.
He is doing best every time, he can never make
a mistake. He's the super person's he's having some kind
of the power and some super magic that he is
(01:49):
able to do everything and we are not able to
do So we get this kind of thinking because we
compare ourselves. If you see, for example, if you see
someone that there is a content creator who is in
your niche or who is in your field or in
another field as well. So that person is doing well,
(02:11):
who having a lot of the subscriber, who has a
brand value, and he's doing so well in that life.
And then you feel like, oh, he is so great,
he's so perfect. He can do everything, but we can't
do it. We are not perfect like him or her.
She's so perfect. He's so perfect. He knows everything. They
(02:35):
have all the knowledge, they have all the skills, and
it's not our cup of tea. We can never be
compete and we can never be doing anything in our life.
We compare a lot ourselves with others. In the same
way we are comparing ourself to the English language. When
it comes to English language, we see other learners that
(02:56):
they are speaking so well, they're confident there, speaking so nice,
They're doing every day effort they're putting. Because of that,
they are getting a lot of the improvement every single day.
They are improvising themselves every single day, they are upgrading themselves.
And then we feel like, these are the peoples are
(03:17):
great at these skills.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
We are liking into it.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
We can never speak fluently, we can never become a
fluent Engli speaker, or we can never regain this language.
We can never gain this fluency as well. So this
is the thought processes. Keep on going the kind of
the comparison we are doing. But in this sense, is
(03:41):
it going to help you anymore? When you keep on
comparing yourself to others? Then is it any chance to
improving yourself? Instead of foxing to others and comparing to others,
you can be apply a positive mindset here.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Okay, these peoples are doing so well.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
In their life, in their niche, in their domains, So
I will get to know a lot of the knowledge.
I'll get a lot of exposure of knowledge, and I'll
be able to learn a lot from them.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
These peoples are experienced.
Speaker 1 (04:16):
These peoples are doing so well in their field, so
something in else I am going to be adapt from
their personality, from their content, from their skills. So we
need to adapt a positive mindset towards the things. Negative
mindset is not going to help us. It is just
going to make us compare ourself to others. When you're
(04:39):
comparing yourself to any content creator or any speaker who
is very good at speaking, you need to focus that
this person who is today a content creator.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
You go and you check it out their first video.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
Did they so perfect like today in their first video,
or how long.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
It's been there working on their skills.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
When you see someone's first video and then you see
their recent video, you will see a huge changes in themselves.
So along with that process they have learned it. It
didn't happen overnight. They have met hundreds of the videos.
Then they gain a lot of experiences from them. Then
they get to know a lot of tools they used
(05:26):
them in their upcoming videos, and then they learned about it.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Now.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
When they created their first video, their thumbnails was not
that perfect.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
That is today they make their editing.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
The thumbnails was not up to mark, but today you
see their videos are going into the millions and lack
of the peoples are watching it. So somewhere they had
also a starting point. They also started from the Gero.
They also started from a Gero subscriber. They also started
from the Gero brand value. But they had a clear
(06:03):
goal in their mind that yes, I have to keep
on foxing on my goal and I have to keep
on going. So instead of comparing yourself, you can learn
something from them.
Speaker 2 (06:14):
You can wash their previous videos, you can learn from it. Keys.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
They were not also perfect at the time. They were
not such a confident today there seems today they have
become a confident because shuiting so many videos after putting a.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
Lot of effort.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
Today they are great at editing, they're great at making thumbnails,
they're great at their content, and they can express themselves
a better way. They can represent themselves in a good manner.
So you need to understand that they were not perfect
since the beginning. They also had some starting point and
from there they started themselves their journey. So this was
(06:53):
a continuous process they put every day, putting everyday effort
that made them lead to today's whatever they are. So
when it comes to English speaking, as well, so there
is the same thing you see someone like who says
(07:13):
learn English in three months or six month.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
Might be these.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
Peoples are fortunate enough to have a environment where the
peoples are speaking in this language. Or maybe these peoples
are fortunate enough to have resources and guidance at the
right time. But for them who are not having background,
who are not having any guidance, who started their journey
(07:41):
the one year back, two year back, they didn't have
that much options, they didn't have that much of the
knowledge and the guidance everything. The person who started from scratch,
who discovered himself for herself, all the challenges, all the problems,
(08:01):
who faced it. So there's a difference between both the peoples.
Nowadays you see a lot of the content is present
on the YouTube. People get easily advices, people get guidance
very easily. It's so very easy to them finding a
good content creator. They can learn from it, they can
(08:22):
get to know their levels. But from a person who
is starting from scratch, who is not having knowledge about
it how to learn this language, who have no guidance,
that person will.
Speaker 2 (08:38):
Have to struggle. And today you see.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
All this content creators who have this such kind of
amazing lessons they say and they tell about. They have
such a clarity. So once they had their beginning phase
as well, they started from scratch, they discovered by themselves everything.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
They started everything from scratch.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
They took a initiative when they had nothing to do,
they started their journey. Then they had to face they
must have had to face something a lot of the challenges.
So today those people who are able to speak fluently,
who are a good speaker, and who has a good
(09:20):
communications skills, once they were also a beginner, they had
to also go through a lot. They had to struggle
a lot, They had to do a lot of effort. Today,
whatever they are, it is a result an outcome of their.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
Thousands of the effort.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
They had to talk with the people they had to talk,
started to talking with the mirror, started talking with the camera.
They were not the same since the beginning. So ultimately,
I'm trying to say that it's a note about that everybody.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
Around you seems power. It is the perfect they.
Speaker 1 (10:01):
Have over time developed these skills. No one is just
like doing it like a magic. It's not a magic.
It's a constant effort, constant hard work. They have put
in and every day, even if they were feeling demotivated,
they showed up and showing up every single day. That
(10:22):
made them reach to this level they are speaking today,
so better. So stop comparing yourself. Don't compare yourself. If
somebody who has started their journey two years back, who
learned all.
Speaker 2 (10:36):
The things from scratch, who started their journey.
Speaker 1 (10:41):
From discovering every single thing by their own struggled a lot,
made a lot of mistake, sometimes hit the plate to condition.
So they have took themselves out of it by the
making a lot of mistake, finding them out and working
on it.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
And today they are.
Speaker 1 (11:01):
Able to be providing the knowledge what they have gained
from their journey. It is because of they lived that journey.
It is because they have put effort on it. They
have put a lot of effort on it. You cannot
compare and you should not be compared, because comparison is
(11:22):
not a good thing. You can learn from the peoples,
but comparing yourself it is not going.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
To help in any way.
Speaker 1 (11:29):
Somebody who has been started the channel one year back,
two year back, they have made hundreds of the videos
and their videos are getting viral. You cannot compare yourself
to that person. Somebody at the top, and you just started.
What is the point of even comparing. So all I
(11:52):
want to say is that comparison is not going to
help you in any way. Just believe in yourself and
what they were, the skills that you want to discover.
Whatever you want to do, you're gonna do it eventually.
You want to make it. Yes, it will take time.
And who says exceptions are always here? Who says that
(12:15):
we can we learned English in just three months or
six months? And for them, I would say it, I
think you are fortunate enough to having I think you
have the environment or you got a guidance at the time,
that's why, and you are a fast learner.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
Maybe.
Speaker 1 (12:32):
But for those who are not having background and who
are basically from the rural background, they face a lot
of issues. They face a lot of difficulties. For them,
I'm telling you don't compare.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
Just please.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
You're seeing someone somebody's conversation. If you're seeing the are
the two peoples are communicating to each other, they're speaking
so well, their communication is so everything is up to mark.
So and you just started your journey. You can't even
gather the courage to speak in front of mirror camera,
(13:12):
and that person has faced hundreds of the times the camera,
who has talked thender to Hndred five hundred times to
the peoples. And then that person is representing themselves and
you're seeing that person's video after the making the four
hundred five hundred videos and two three years of hard
work reading the plenty of books, you're comparing yourself.
Speaker 2 (13:37):
There's no comparison. It's not to be.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
Good for your health, it's not be good for your growth.
So be focused. Just work on yourself and believe in yourself.
And if you are feeling such issues, so let me
know in the comment box.
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