In this episode, we explore the “Heroic Woman” relationship pattern—one where love is earned through struggle, sacrifice, and saving others. Behind her strength, resilience, and endless capacity to hold others together, there’s often a childhood marked by emotional distance from a father figure.
We talk about the origins of this script, how it plays out in adult relationships with unavailable or troubled partners, and why peaceful, healthy love can feel unfamiliar or even boring. You’ll learn:
- Why strong, capable women often feel drawn to partners who need saving
- How this dynamic connects to early emotional experiences with a distant or unavailable father
- The psychological cost of always being the rescuer
- What healing looks like when a woman finally starts choosing herself
This episode is for every woman who’s ever asked:
“Why do I always have to be the strong one?”
and
“What would it look like to live for me, not just for others?”
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