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July 26, 2025 10 mins

Hey friends… today’s episode is going to be a little different. I want to open my heart in a way I haven’t before. 

Recently, life dealt me a few heavy blows. I’ve gone through some losses—real, painful ones that shook me at my core. The kind that stop you in your tracks and make you question things you thought you understood. 

I thought about keeping this private. About just carrying on with my usual content, smiling through the pain, and pretending everything’s fine. But then I realized something: this, right here, this is life. Messy, uncertain, heartbreakingly beautiful life. And pretending we’re untouched by grief or change robs us of connection. So I chose to share. 

Because as much as these losses broke something inside me, they also gifted me something unexpected—a sense of clarity. It came from realizing how precious time really is. 

I don’t know how much time I have left. None of us do. But I do know this: I want to live it fully. Fiercely. Honestly. 

And today, I want to talk to you about what that means to me. 

🎙️ The Wake-Up Call  

You know, when you go through something deeply painful—whether it’s the loss of someone you love, the ending of a chapter you didn’t want to close, or even facing the fragility of your own health—your brain doesn’t just process grief. It rewires. Suddenly, you're awake in a way you weren’t before. 

That’s what happened to me. 

I began asking questions I’d never asked before. Am I really living the way I want to? Do the little things I stress about even matter? When was the last time I felt truly alive? 

I realized how much of my time was spent on autopilot—scrolling, worrying about the future, regretting the past, people-pleasing, overthinking.  So I made a choice: to stop waiting for the “perfect moment” to start living the life I want. 

🎙️ Creating Balance with Intention 

Here’s something I’ve come to believe deeply: balance isn’t something you stumble into—it’s something you build, moment by moment. And it’s not about perfection or rigid rules; it’s about listening to yourself, knowing your needs, and honoring both discipline and delight. 

I take care of myself—I do. I move my body regularly. I choose food that nourishes me. I make sleep a priority, even when everything else feels more urgent. 

But I’ve also realized something equally important: life is not a checklist. You’re allowed to live with intention without being intense. You can enjoy the heck out of a piece of chocolate cake once a week and still be someone who values wellbeing. 

Honestly? That cake is part of my wellness plan. Not just because it tastes amazing, but because it represents something bigger—freedom, pleasure, self-kindness. 

So now, every choice I make is filtered through a simple question: Is this helping me feel more alive? If the answer is yes—even if it’s a slice of cake—I’m in. 

🎙️ Closing Thoughts  

So… here we are. 

If you’ve listened all the way through, thank you from the bottom of my heart. Truly. You’ve shared this space with me in a way that’s deeply personal, and I don’t take that lightly. Opening up about loss, clarity, joy, balance—it’s vulnerable. But also deeply freeing. 

I don’t know what tomorrow holds. None of us do. But what I do know is that today—this moment right here—is mine. It’s ours. And we get to choose how we spend it. Not perfectly, not fearlessly, but intentionally. Boldly. Lovingly. 


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