August 11, 2025 • 20 mins
What if your breakthrough isn't about hustling harder, but getting crystal-clear on who you're becoming?
This episode cuts through the noise to reveal how creating a genuine vision transforms everything. Not a corporate mission statement or some vague affirmation, but a raw, specific picture of the man you're meant to be. When host Corey Baum wrote his own eulogy from his son's perspective, it became more than a writing exercise—it became a mirror forcing him to confront who he had been and choose who he would become.
The most powerful shift happens when you stop writing about the man you hope to be someday and start speaking as the man who's already here, just waiting for permission to lead. Your vision needs specific details that make it tangible: not "I want to be present" but "I sit on the floor building Legos with my kids before school, phone away, fully engaged." This specificity turns abstract wishes into a compass that guides your decisions when life feels chaotic.
Your vision already exists in the contrast between what drains you and what lights you up—those aren't just emotions, they're data points showing you the way forward. Identity isn't built through dreaming but through demonstration, taking one sentence from your vision and embodying it today. Because the truth is, the man you're becoming isn't waiting for more time—he's waiting for you to claim him as yours right now.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
You're listening to the Evolve Men Podcast, episode
number 11.
Most men drift through life,reacting, adjusting, tolerating,
but never actually deciding whothey want to be.
But what if the life thatyou're craving doesn't start
with hustle or productivity, butwith a clear vision of the man
(00:23):
that you're becoming?
Today, we're not talking aboutgoals.
We're talking about direction,about identity and finally
stepping into a life that feelslike yours.
I'm Corey Baum, founder of theEvolve Men Project and this
podcast.
I help men lead themselvesboldly, build real confidence
and live with purpose.
This show isn't about beingimpressive.
(00:45):
It's about being honest withyourself and with the life that
you're building, because youdon't need more motivation, you
need clarity, and when you'reclear on your vision, you stop
drifting and start leadingwhat's up.
Men?
Today we're talking about whatit means to lead yourself when
everything around you feelsuncertain, unstable or just out
(01:07):
of control.
When the world feels chaoticright.
Your vision becomes more thanjust an idea.
It becomes a weapon, a compass,a way to anchor yourself in who
you are and where you're going,even when the path ahead isn't
clear.
Right.
This episode is about how tocreate that vision and use it to
(01:29):
lead yourself forward when itwould be easier to shrink or to
react or to run right.
For a long time, I didn't have aclear vision for my life.
Right, I was chasing sparks,whatever lit me up in the moment
, but there was no realdirection, no destination, just
(01:49):
noise.
I wasn't guided by values, Iwasn't building something
lasting, I was just reactingmost of the time and, honestly,
I didn't even realize anythingwas missing until anything was
missing.
(02:09):
Until finally, kind of, one dayI did so a few years ago I sat
down and wrote something thatchanged everything for me.
I wrote my own eulogy from theperspective of my oldest son,
corbin, and I didn't hold back,right, I wrote it as if he were
standing up there talking aboutthe kind of father that I had
been right, the kind of man thatI had been to him and to the
(02:33):
world.
Right, but to him it was aboutconnection and integrity and
leadership and accountabilityand commitment.
It was full of details, right,bedtime talks, morning laughs,
the way that I handled mymistakes, the adventures that we
had chased, the lessons thatI'd left behind.
(02:57):
Right, some of it was who Ialready was right, but most of
it was who it was that I wantedto be.
But, reading it back.
Something really cracked openin me, right, because for the
first time, I wasn't justguessing at like a vague idea of
success.
I actually got to feel the kindof man that I wanted to become
(03:19):
and, more importantly, I saw howfar off I was from that man.
And that eulogy wasn't just awriting exercise for me, it was
a mirror, right, and it forcedme to confront who it was that I
had been up to that point andto choose who it was that I was
going to be from that dayforward, right, that I was going
(03:40):
to be from that date forward,right.
And that's what today is aboutNot not about writing you know,
a perfect sentence that you canpost on Instagram, but but
tapping into the truth of whoyou really want to be, you know,
(04:01):
and, and what it is that youwant your life to mean.
Because the moment that youstart living with that kind of
clarity, because the moment thatyou start living with that kind
of clarity, everything startsto change.
So today we're talking aboutvision, and not just the kind
that you hang on a wall or youbury in some Google Doc on your
hard drive.
I'm talking about the kind ofvision that grabs you by the
chest, right.
That wakes something up in youand makes you want to move, to
(04:24):
get up into the morning, to bethe man that you're meant to be.
Because here's the truth thatmost men live reactively.
They let life decide who theybecome, one convenience, one
distraction, one choice at atime, and then they wake up one
day and wonder how the hell theygot there.
But when you're clear on yourvision, when you stop drifting
(04:50):
and you stop tolerating, youstart leading your life on
purpose, and that vision becomesyour compass.
And it doesn't have to beperfect, it doesn't have to be
polished, but it does have to bereal.
And when it's real, when it'sspecific and grounded and
(05:12):
emotionally charged, it changeseverything.
You move differently, you speakdifferently, you show up
differently.
Differently, you show updifferently.
And so that's what we're divinginto today, not as some
abstract idea, but as a powerful, concrete shift in identity,
(05:35):
because the man that you'rebecoming isn't found in your
goals, he's found in the clarityof your vision.
So let's start with the truth.
Right, most men never create avision for their life.
Right, they might have goals ordeadlines, to-do lists, but a
(05:55):
vision like a clear, emotionallyresonant picture of who it is
that they're becoming resonantpicture of who it is that
they're becoming.
That's rare and it shows right.
Without a vision, life justbecomes reactive.
You move from moment to moment,pulled by you know, whatever is
(06:19):
urgent instead of what'sactually meaningful for you.
You get stuck in survival mode.
You tolerate things that don'talign, you chase things that
aren't actually yours to beginwith.
And it's not because you'relazy, it's because you're
unclear.
And clarity you know I say thistime and time again that
clarity doesn't come from moreplanning.
It comes from getting honestabout what really matters to you
(06:44):
, what's important to you.
So if your life feelsfragmented or hollow, it's not
because you're broken, it'sbecause you're living without a
picture of who you're here tobecome.
But we can change that today.
(07:05):
So here's the mistake that a lotof men make they try to write
their vision like a corporatemission statement on some sort
of letterhead.
It's clean and safe and vague,something that sounds really
good.
Hr has gone over it like it'sperfect.
But a real vision is raw andit's specific and it's you.
Vision is raw and it's specificand it's you.
(07:30):
It only has to be a fewparagraphs that, when you read
them, make something in yourchest tighten right.
You feel it in your body, alittle scared, a little excited,
and you know that it's the maninside you trying to come
through.
So forget being impressive.
Forget what sounds right.
Write what feels right to you,right.
So, as an example, maybe it'slike I'm the kind of man who dot
(07:56):
dot dot right.
Or my days feel like my partnerand kids know me as such, right
?
So think about it like this Ifyour vision, if your vision,
wouldn't make sense to asix-year-old, then it's not
clear enough.
So, instead of saying I want tobe a present father, say
something more like you know,every morning I sit on the floor
(08:20):
with my kids and I build Legosbefore school.
I put my phone down, I connectwith them, I ask them questions
and I actually listen.
Instead of just sayingsomething like I want to be
successful, you can say you know, I run a business that helps
(08:41):
people solve real problems.
I work four hours a week.
I leave work feeling energized,not empty.
I take Fridays off to go hikingwith my dog.
Instead of saying something likeI want to be in great shape,
you can say something like Iwake up at 6 am, right, I
stretch while the coffee'sbrewing.
(09:03):
I lift heavy weights threetimes a week.
I look in the mirror and I likewhat I see, right, if your
vision is vague, then it won'tactually move you.
If it's generic, it won'tchallenge you, and if it sounds
like something that you read ina self-help book, it won't
belong to you.
The trick here is that it hasto be yours right.
(09:26):
So stiff or strip out all ofthe fluff, right, write it like
you're handing it to yoursix-year-old kid, right, and
you're saying like hey, look,this is what daddy's building,
this is who daddy wants tobecome, because that's how real
it should feel to you tangibleand lived in, and yours right.
(09:51):
So your vision doesn't have tocome out of nowhere, right, it's
already hiding in plain sightin the things that drain you, in
the things that light you up,in the parts of your life where
something just feels off and inthe moments where you feel fully
you right.
You don't need to start fromscratch.
You've already been collectingevidence along the way.
(10:13):
Every time that you've feltmisaligned or resentful or
disconnected, that was a clue.
Every time that you felt proudor grounded or just fully alive
in yourself, that was also aclue, right.
In those moments, that contrast, it's not just emotion, it's
(10:33):
data.
Right, you've been livinginside this feedback loop and
the only question is whetheryou've been listening, right?
So this is where patternrecognition meets
self-leadership.
When you start noticing whatfeels aligned and what doesn't,
(10:53):
you begin training your nervoussystem to recognize truth, right
, you begin building yourcompass, right.
So I want you to grab a pen andwrite something down, right,
write, write down what's onearea of your life that energizes
you right now.
What's one thing that you keepputting up with that drains you?
(11:16):
Where are you already showingsigns of the man that that you
want to become?
Right?
And these aren't just journalprompts, they're breadcrumbs
breadcrumbs to follow, right.
And your vision starts to writeitself when you start following
them, right.
(11:38):
So write it like as if it'salready true, because the most
powerful shift comes when youstop writing about the man that
you hope to be one day and youstart speaking from the man
who's already here right now,right Underneath the noise and
the fear and the hesitation.
(12:00):
Right, this isn't, this isn't afantasy, right, this is actual,
real identity work, right.
So write your vision in thepresent tense.
So, not like I want to orsomeday, but instead, like I am
(12:29):
subtle shift grammatically is amassive shift neurologically.
Your brain responds todeclaration and your body
responds to embodiment, and inyour life it begins to organize
itself around the identity that,the identity that you're
willing to own.
Right, this isn't about lying toyourself.
This is about choosing to livein alignment with who you're
(12:49):
becoming, starting now.
So, as an example, right, acouple of them could be that you
know I am a present and playfulfather.
I wake up feeling grounded andclear, I lead with integrity,
even when it's uncomfortable,and I move through life on
(13:14):
purpose.
So let these words stretch you.
Right?
They should feel like both amix of truth and challenge.
Right, like you're steppinginto a larger frame and you
don't have to be perfect at it.
Challenge, right, like you'restepping into a larger frame and
you don't have to be perfect atit yet.
Right, you don't have to embodyall of it yet.
Right, but you need to see itclearly enough that you know
(13:38):
what direction to move in.
So speak it like it's alreadyyours, because it is that truth
isn't some distant stranger,right?
He's just waiting for you tostop hesitating and actually let
him lead, right?
So this is your first draft,right.
It's not supposed to bepolished, it's supposed to be
(14:00):
honest, right?
If your vision doesn't makeyour voice catch just a little
bit when you read it out loud,if it doesn't feel vulnerable,
if it doesn't light a fire andpoke at your fear at the same
time, then go deeper.
The right vision won't justinspire you, it'll call you
(14:22):
forward.
So here are a few coachingquestions to sit with, right,
and you can journal them, youcan speak them into a voice note
, if that's your thing, or justhold them quietly and really let
the answers come when they'reready.
Right?
And the first one is this whois the man that I'm becoming?
(14:45):
Right If I stop waiting?
Right, not someday, if not ifeverything goes perfectly right,
but right now, today.
Who am I ready to step into?
The next question is what doesmy life actually look like when
(15:07):
I live from that version of me?
How do I move?
How do I speak?
How do I show up inrelationships?
How do my mornings feel?
What does my presence create inthe world around me?
What does my presence create inthe world around me?
And the next one is where am Istill being vague, because
(15:35):
clarity would require change.
What am I afraid to claim,because it would mean letting go
of comfort or disappointingsomething else.
So question number four is ifmy six-year-old self read my
vision, would he understand it?
Would he feel proud of it?
Would he believe that I meantit?
(16:00):
And the last question is what'sone sentence that I could write
today that feels bold, clear andcompletely mine?
Just one sentence that saysthis is who I am now.
And you don't have to answerall of these at once, but just
(16:22):
one honest answer, one truththat you're willing to write
down and own can changeeverything, right?
So let's reframe somethingthat's held a lot of men back
for a long time, and that's thatyou don't need more time, you
need more truth.
You don't need to figure it allout, you just need to decide
(16:44):
who it is that you're willing tobecome and start moving like
you mean it.
Too many men keep waiting forthe perfect moment to step into
their vision, but the perfectmoment never comes.
I mean, we all know that.
And the longer that you wait,the more that you reinforce the
identity of a man who waits,right.
(17:06):
But here's the truth youalready know what kind of man
that you want to be, right.
You've felt him, you'veimagined him, you've written him
in, you know, you've writtenpieces of him down and now it's
time to start acting like him.
You've written pieces of himdown and now it's time to start
acting like him, even if it'sjust small ways, because
identity isn't built throughdreaming.
(17:27):
It's built throughdemonstration, right?
So here's your challenge for theweek, right?
Write your vision today.
Not the polished version, notthe someday version, the real
one, the one that makes yourheart race a little bit, the one
that you'd be proud to hand toyour son, and then read it out
(17:52):
loud, feel what it stirs in youand pick one sentence from that
vision.
And I want you to live it thisweek, because vision without
action is just a fantasy, butvision tied to embodiment,
that's leadership and that's howyou become the man that you're
(18:13):
meant to be.
One sentence, one decision, onebold act at a time.
All right, guys.
So if this stirred something inyou today, if you're ready to
stop drifting and actually startliving with direction, then
let's talk.
This is the kind of work that Ido with men every day, helping
(18:34):
them and get honest, get clearand lead themselves with
intention.
If you want support creatingyour vision and living it out
day by day.
Book a free discovery call withme at wwwevolvemenprojectcom.
There's no pitch, no pressure,just a real conversation about
what's possible when you stopwaiting for clarity and start
(18:58):
creating it.
And if this episode resonatedwith you, share it with someone.
Leave a five-star review,follow the show.
That's how this message spreads, one man at a time.
So I want you to remember thisright your life isn't shaped by
what you wish for.
It's shaped by what you claim.
Not next year, not when thingssettle down, but now.
(19:22):
The man that you're becoming isalready inside you and he's not
waiting for more time.
He's waiting for yourpermission, right.
So write your vision right,speak it out loud and start
living like the kind of man wholeads, not just reacts.
You've got this.
Thanks for listening to theEvolve Men podcast.
(19:44):
I'll see you next time.
You're listening to the Evolve Men Podcast, episode
number 11.
Most men drift through life,reacting, adjusting, tolerating,
but never actually deciding whothey want to be.
But what if the life thatyou're craving doesn't start
with hustle or productivity, butwith a clear vision of the man
(00:23):
that you're becoming?
Today, we're not talking aboutgoals.
We're talking about direction,about identity and finally
stepping into a life that feelslike yours.
I'm Corey Baum, founder of theEvolve Men Project and this
podcast.
I help men lead themselvesboldly, build real confidence
and live with purpose.
This show isn't about beingimpressive.
(00:45):
It's about being honest withyourself and with the life that
you're building, because youdon't need more motivation, you
need clarity, and when you'reclear on your vision, you stop
drifting and start leadingwhat's up.
Men?
Today we're talking about whatit means to lead yourself when
everything around you feelsuncertain, unstable or just out
(01:07):
of control.
When the world feels chaoticright.
Your vision becomes more thanjust an idea.
It becomes a weapon, a compass,a way to anchor yourself in who
you are and where you're going,even when the path ahead isn't
clear.
Right.
This episode is about how tocreate that vision and use it to
(01:29):
lead yourself forward when itwould be easier to shrink or to
react or to run right.
For a long time, I didn't have aclear vision for my life.
Right, I was chasing sparks,whatever lit me up in the moment
, but there was no realdirection, no destination, just
(01:49):
noise.
I wasn't guided by values, Iwasn't building something
lasting, I was just reactingmost of the time and, honestly,
I didn't even realize anythingwas missing until anything was
missing.
(02:09):
Until finally, kind of, one dayI did so a few years ago I sat
down and wrote something thatchanged everything for me.
I wrote my own eulogy from theperspective of my oldest son,
corbin, and I didn't hold back,right, I wrote it as if he were
standing up there talking aboutthe kind of father that I had
been right, the kind of man thatI had been to him and to the
(02:33):
world.
Right, but to him it was aboutconnection and integrity and
leadership and accountabilityand commitment.
It was full of details, right,bedtime talks, morning laughs,
the way that I handled mymistakes, the adventures that we
had chased, the lessons thatI'd left behind.
(02:57):
Right, some of it was who Ialready was right, but most of
it was who it was that I wantedto be.
But, reading it back.
Something really cracked openin me, right, because for the
first time, I wasn't justguessing at like a vague idea of
success.
I actually got to feel the kindof man that I wanted to become
(03:19):
and, more importantly, I saw howfar off I was from that man.
And that eulogy wasn't just awriting exercise for me, it was
a mirror, right, and it forcedme to confront who it was that I
had been up to that point andto choose who it was that I was
going to be from that dayforward, right, that I was going
(03:40):
to be from that date forward,right.
And that's what today is aboutNot not about writing you know,
a perfect sentence that you canpost on Instagram, but but
tapping into the truth of whoyou really want to be, you know,
(04:01):
and, and what it is that youwant your life to mean.
Because the moment that youstart living with that kind of
clarity, because the moment thatyou start living with that kind
of clarity, everything startsto change.
So today we're talking aboutvision, and not just the kind
that you hang on a wall or youbury in some Google Doc on your
hard drive.
I'm talking about the kind ofvision that grabs you by the
chest, right.
That wakes something up in youand makes you want to move, to
(04:24):
get up into the morning, to bethe man that you're meant to be.
Because here's the truth thatmost men live reactively.
They let life decide who theybecome, one convenience, one
distraction, one choice at atime, and then they wake up one
day and wonder how the hell theygot there.
But when you're clear on yourvision, when you stop drifting
(04:50):
and you stop tolerating, youstart leading your life on
purpose, and that vision becomesyour compass.
And it doesn't have to beperfect, it doesn't have to be
polished, but it does have to bereal.
And when it's real, when it'sspecific and grounded and
(05:12):
emotionally charged, it changeseverything.
You move differently, you speakdifferently, you show up
differently.
Differently, you show updifferently.
And so that's what we're divinginto today, not as some
abstract idea, but as a powerful, concrete shift in identity,
(05:35):
because the man that you'rebecoming isn't found in your
goals, he's found in the clarityof your vision.
So let's start with the truth.
Right, most men never create avision for their life.
Right, they might have goals ordeadlines, to-do lists, but a
(05:55):
vision like a clear, emotionallyresonant picture of who it is
that they're becoming resonantpicture of who it is that
they're becoming.
That's rare and it shows right.
Without a vision, life justbecomes reactive.
You move from moment to moment,pulled by you know, whatever is
(06:19):
urgent instead of what'sactually meaningful for you.
You get stuck in survival mode.
You tolerate things that don'talign, you chase things that
aren't actually yours to beginwith.
And it's not because you'relazy, it's because you're
unclear.
And clarity you know I say thistime and time again that
clarity doesn't come from moreplanning.
It comes from getting honestabout what really matters to you
(06:44):
, what's important to you.
So if your life feelsfragmented or hollow, it's not
because you're broken, it'sbecause you're living without a
picture of who you're here tobecome.
But we can change that today.
(07:05):
So here's the mistake that a lotof men make they try to write
their vision like a corporatemission statement on some sort
of letterhead.
It's clean and safe and vague,something that sounds really
good.
Hr has gone over it like it'sperfect.
But a real vision is raw andit's specific and it's you.
Vision is raw and it's specificand it's you.
(07:30):
It only has to be a fewparagraphs that, when you read
them, make something in yourchest tighten right.
You feel it in your body, alittle scared, a little excited,
and you know that it's the maninside you trying to come
through.
So forget being impressive.
Forget what sounds right.
Write what feels right to you,right.
So, as an example, maybe it'slike I'm the kind of man who dot
(07:56):
dot dot right.
Or my days feel like my partnerand kids know me as such, right
?
So think about it like this Ifyour vision, if your vision,
wouldn't make sense to asix-year-old, then it's not
clear enough.
So, instead of saying I want tobe a present father, say
something more like you know,every morning I sit on the floor
(08:20):
with my kids and I build Legosbefore school.
I put my phone down, I connectwith them, I ask them questions
and I actually listen.
Instead of just sayingsomething like I want to be
successful, you can say you know, I run a business that helps
(08:41):
people solve real problems.
I work four hours a week.
I leave work feeling energized,not empty.
I take Fridays off to go hikingwith my dog.
Instead of saying something likeI want to be in great shape,
you can say something like Iwake up at 6 am, right, I
stretch while the coffee'sbrewing.
(09:03):
I lift heavy weights threetimes a week.
I look in the mirror and I likewhat I see, right, if your
vision is vague, then it won'tactually move you.
If it's generic, it won'tchallenge you, and if it sounds
like something that you read ina self-help book, it won't
belong to you.
The trick here is that it hasto be yours right.
(09:26):
So stiff or strip out all ofthe fluff, right, write it like
you're handing it to yoursix-year-old kid, right, and
you're saying like hey, look,this is what daddy's building,
this is who daddy wants tobecome, because that's how real
it should feel to you tangibleand lived in, and yours right.
(09:51):
So your vision doesn't have tocome out of nowhere, right, it's
already hiding in plain sightin the things that drain you, in
the things that light you up,in the parts of your life where
something just feels off and inthe moments where you feel fully
you right.
You don't need to start fromscratch.
You've already been collectingevidence along the way.
(10:13):
Every time that you've feltmisaligned or resentful or
disconnected, that was a clue.
Every time that you felt proudor grounded or just fully alive
in yourself, that was also aclue, right.
In those moments, that contrast, it's not just emotion, it's
(10:33):
data.
Right, you've been livinginside this feedback loop and
the only question is whetheryou've been listening, right?
So this is where patternrecognition meets
self-leadership.
When you start noticing whatfeels aligned and what doesn't,
(10:53):
you begin training your nervoussystem to recognize truth, right
, you begin building yourcompass, right.
So I want you to grab a pen andwrite something down, right,
write, write down what's onearea of your life that energizes
you right now.
What's one thing that you keepputting up with that drains you?
(11:16):
Where are you already showingsigns of the man that that you
want to become?
Right?
And these aren't just journalprompts, they're breadcrumbs
breadcrumbs to follow, right.
And your vision starts to writeitself when you start following
them, right.
(11:38):
So write it like as if it'salready true, because the most
powerful shift comes when youstop writing about the man that
you hope to be one day and youstart speaking from the man
who's already here right now,right Underneath the noise and
the fear and the hesitation.
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Right, this isn't, this isn't afantasy, right, this is actual,
real identity work, right.
So write your vision in thepresent tense.
So, not like I want to orsomeday, but instead, like I am
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subtle shift grammatically is amassive shift neurologically.
Your brain responds todeclaration and your body
responds to embodiment, and inyour life it begins to organize
itself around the identity that,the identity that you're
willing to own.
Right, this isn't about lying toyourself.
This is about choosing to livein alignment with who you're
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becoming, starting now.
So, as an example, right, acouple of them could be that you
know I am a present and playfulfather.
I wake up feeling grounded andclear, I lead with integrity,
even when it's uncomfortable,and I move through life on
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purpose.
So let these words stretch you.
Right?
They should feel like both amix of truth and challenge.
Right, like you're steppinginto a larger frame and you
don't have to be perfect at it.
Challenge, right, like you'restepping into a larger frame and
you don't have to be perfect atit yet.
Right, you don't have to embodyall of it yet.
Right, but you need to see itclearly enough that you know
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what direction to move in.
So speak it like it's alreadyyours, because it is that truth
isn't some distant stranger,right?
He's just waiting for you tostop hesitating and actually let
him lead, right?
So this is your first draft,right.
It's not supposed to bepolished, it's supposed to be
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honest, right?
If your vision doesn't makeyour voice catch just a little
bit when you read it out loud,if it doesn't feel vulnerable,
if it doesn't light a fire andpoke at your fear at the same
time, then go deeper.
The right vision won't justinspire you, it'll call you
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forward.
So here are a few coachingquestions to sit with, right,
and you can journal them, youcan speak them into a voice note
, if that's your thing, or justhold them quietly and really let
the answers come when they'reready.
Right?
And the first one is this whois the man that I'm becoming?
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Right If I stop waiting?
Right, not someday, if not ifeverything goes perfectly right,
but right now, today.
Who am I ready to step into?
The next question is what doesmy life actually look like when
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I live from that version of me?
How do I move?
How do I speak?
How do I show up inrelationships?
How do my mornings feel?
What does my presence create inthe world around me?
What does my presence create inthe world around me?
And the next one is where am Istill being vague, because
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clarity would require change.
What am I afraid to claim,because it would mean letting go
of comfort or disappointingsomething else.
So question number four is ifmy six-year-old self read my
vision, would he understand it?
Would he feel proud of it?
Would he believe that I meantit?
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And the last question is what'sone sentence that I could write
today that feels bold, clear andcompletely mine?
Just one sentence that saysthis is who I am now.
And you don't have to answerall of these at once, but just
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one honest answer, one truththat you're willing to write
down and own can changeeverything, right?
So let's reframe somethingthat's held a lot of men back
for a long time, and that's thatyou don't need more time, you
need more truth.
You don't need to figure it allout, you just need to decide
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who it is that you're willing tobecome and start moving like
you mean it.
Too many men keep waiting forthe perfect moment to step into
their vision, but the perfectmoment never comes.
I mean, we all know that.
And the longer that you wait,the more that you reinforce the
identity of a man who waits,right.
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But here's the truth youalready know what kind of man
that you want to be, right.
You've felt him, you'veimagined him, you've written him
in, you know, you've writtenpieces of him down and now it's
time to start acting like him.
You've written pieces of himdown and now it's time to start
acting like him, even if it'sjust small ways, because
identity isn't built throughdreaming.
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It's built throughdemonstration, right?
So here's your challenge for theweek, right?
Write your vision today.
Not the polished version, notthe someday version, the real
one, the one that makes yourheart race a little bit, the one
that you'd be proud to hand toyour son, and then read it out
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loud, feel what it stirs in youand pick one sentence from that
vision.
And I want you to live it thisweek, because vision without
action is just a fantasy, butvision tied to embodiment,
that's leadership and that's howyou become the man that you're
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meant to be.
One sentence, one decision, onebold act at a time.
All right, guys.
So if this stirred something inyou today, if you're ready to
stop drifting and actually startliving with direction, then
let's talk.
This is the kind of work that Ido with men every day, helping
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them and get honest, get clearand lead themselves with
intention.
If you want support creatingyour vision and living it out
day by day.
Book a free discovery call withme at wwwevolvemenprojectcom.
There's no pitch, no pressure,just a real conversation about
what's possible when you stopwaiting for clarity and start
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creating it.
And if this episode resonatedwith you, share it with someone.
Leave a five-star review,follow the show.
That's how this message spreads, one man at a time.
So I want you to remember thisright your life isn't shaped by
what you wish for.
It's shaped by what you claim.
Not next year, not when thingssettle down, but now.
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The man that you're becoming isalready inside you and he's not
waiting for more time.
He's waiting for yourpermission, right.
So write your vision right,speak it out loud and start
living like the kind of man wholeads, not just reacts.
You've got this.
Thanks for listening to theEvolve Men podcast.
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I'll see you next time.
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