September 1, 2025 • 19 mins
Self-doubt and imposter syndrome don't wait for you to fail before they appear—they show up right when you're building something meaningful, even as others recognize your value. That inner critic questioning whether you deserve to be in the room can feel deafening.
What I've discovered through years of coaching men is counterintuitive: it's not about having everything figured out before you lead. It's about showing up while you're still growing and making that vulnerability part of your strength. The truth? If you wait until you feel 100% ready and doubt-free, you'll be waiting forever.
Most men mistakenly believe that confidence is a prerequisite for action, that one day they'll wake up feeling completely prepared. But the opposite is true—confidence is the result of taking action despite uncertainty. The men who appear most confident are still figuring things out too; they've just learned to act in alignment with their values even when doubt screams loudly.
Self-doubt isn't evidence you're failing—it's proof you're expanding beyond your comfort zone. The cost of letting it run your life is enormous: missed opportunities, stalled growth, and the constant feeling of holding back. Instead of seeing doubt as a stop sign, recognize it as a growth indicator, a green light showing you're leveling up.
Practical tools can help you move forward: the five-second rule (counting down and acting before your brain talks you out of it), acting "as if" you're already the leader you aspire to be, and stacking small wins that build evidence against your inner critic's narrative. You don't eliminate the voice of doubt—you prove to yourself that it's not in charge.
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Speaker 1 (00:04):
Are you ready to break free from hesitation,
self-doubt and isolation?
Do you want to lead withconfidence, build powerful
connections and live boldly?
I'm Cory Baum and I'm here toshare the most impactful
strategies and mindsets thatI've learned through coaching,
leadership and real-worldexperience.
Together, we'll forgeunshakable confidence, master
social dynamics and create alife rooted in purpose,
(00:27):
brotherhood and bold action.
Inside, you'll get the toolsand insights to become the
strongest, most connectedversion of yourself.
Let's dive in.
What's up, man?
Today we're talking aboutsomething that I've felt more
times than I can count,especially when I'm coaching or
(00:49):
leading with my giant, you know,white easel and my markers in
hand, looking around the roomfull of guys and thinking like
who, who am I to be standing uphere?
(01:09):
I had this loop running in myhead right Like I'm still
figuring this out.
I've got so much of my own lifethat I'm still working on.
I've still got habits that I'mworking on, blind spots that I
haven't uncovered, habits thatI'm working on blind spots that
I haven't uncovered, challengesthat I haven't fully overcome.
Am I even doing this right?
(01:30):
Did I prepare enough, do I knowenough to lead this group?
And it didn't just happen there.
Right Before that, I was leadinganother group called Confident
Social Skills, which was anothermeetup, and I felt the exact
same thing.
It was like this little voiceinside of me saying, like dude,
(01:51):
what are you, what are you doing?
Like you don't have all of thisperfected.
Who are you to be teaching this?
Who are you to be up here?
And that's, that's the thing.
That's self-doubt and impostersyndrome right there.
And they don't.
The thing is that they don'twait until you've failed to
actually show up.
They're right there, even evenwhen you're in the middle of
(02:14):
something, when you're buildingsomething, when you're working
on it, right even when otherpeople are showing up because
they believe in the value thatyou're offering.
It's like that inner criticcan't resist jumping in and
questioning whether you deserveto be there or your right to
(02:35):
even be in the room.
So what I've learned is thatit's not about having everything
figured out, not about havingall of the experience and all of
the answers.
It's about being the perfectexample of the thing that you're
leading.
It's about showing up whileyou're still growing, while
(02:55):
you're still learning andletting that part, letting that
be part of the leadership,because the truth is, if you
wait until you have no doubt,then you'll be waiting forever.
So today's episode is aboutself-doubt and imposter syndrome
, two forces that can quietlyrun your entire life if you
(03:19):
don't learn how to face them.
They can make you question yourvalue, second guess your
decisions and make you playsmaller than you need to, even
when you're totally capable ofmore.
So most men think that the goalis to get rid of self-doubt,
(03:41):
like one day they'll wake up andfeel 100% ready, right, and
then they'll start leading.
Then they'll start speaking upor going after what it is that
they want.
But that day never comes,because self-doubt doesn't
disappear with more success.
It often grows with it.
The more that you step into newterritory, the louder that that
(04:05):
voice can get.
So here's the shift.
It's not about waiting untilyou feel ready to do something.
It's about learning how toactually lead yourself in the
presence of doubt, because thecost of not doing that is huge.
Right, there's missedopportunities, stalled growth,
right, and living a life thatfeels like you're constantly
(04:29):
holding back.
So in this episode today, we'regoing to break this open.
We're going to talk about whyself-doubt and imposter syndrome
show up even when you're doingwell, right, how to separate the
voice of the inner critic fromreality.
We're going to talk about somepractical ways to reframe and
(04:51):
move forward, regardless of howit is that you're feeling and
how action especially imperfectaction is the fastest way to
quiet that inner voice.
Action is the fastest way toquiet that inner voice, because
the man that you're becomingisn't built by avoiding doubt.
(05:12):
He's built by moving forward inspite of it.
So the first thing we're goingto talk about is that self-doubt
is actually a sign that you'regrowing.
Self-doubt isn't proof thatyou're failing.
It's proof that you're actuallystepping into something new.
When you launch the group, whenyou start the project or you
(05:36):
take the lead in a meeting,you're operating outside of your
comfort zone.
So, of course, your brainscrambles for certainty.
Right, it starts whisperinglike dude, you're not.
You're not ready for this.
Right, you're not the right guyfor this.
There's there's definitelysomeone that could be doing this
better.
Right?
(05:57):
And if you see self-doubt as astop sign, then you'll pull back
out every time that you'reabout to level up.
If you see it as a green light,though, as evidence that you're
expanding, then you can startto expect it and even welcome it
.
Right, doubt is a growthindicator, not a danger signal,
(06:22):
right, it's something that isshowing you like, hey, I'm
stepping into a place that isexciting that it's leveling up.
Right, it's not somethingthat's saying, beware, you know,
we shouldn't be doing this.
That warning, so.
(06:45):
So imposter syndrome, as we'retalking about, works because it
feels true.
It borrows details from yourreal insecurities and it mixes
them in with past mistakes andit presents them like these
undeniable facts, like it's thetruth, and most of the time,
(07:05):
it's really just an untrainedinner critic that's running the
show.
And this shows up in a lot ofdifferent places.
Right, if you focus on the 5%you don't know instead of the
95% that you do, right, you cancompare your behind the scenes
(07:28):
to someone else's highlight reel, right?
I mean, this comes up a lot ofcourse in social media and such.
I mean all that you see fromsomething that somebody posts is
like this this perfect picture.
Right, everything looks curated.
You know they've studied it athousand times, but you don't
see all of the things that wentinto making that post, into
(07:51):
making that course or whateverit might be.
So another way is that is ismistaking that being a work in
progress for being unqualified.
Right, that just because you'reworking at it doesn't mean that
you're not qualified to speakabout it.
(08:13):
So one of the tools that I usefor this is what I call the
three-column check-in.
Right, and what you would do is, in the first column, to
actually write the self-doubtout, right, whatever that might
be.
Maybe it's like I don't deserveto lead this group out out,
right, whatever that might be.
Maybe it's like I don't deserveto lead this group.
Now, in the second column,you're going to list the
(08:33):
evidence against it, right?
So maybe it's that you knowwhat I've?
I've created a space that menwant to show up for, week after
week and then, in the thirdcolumn, create, write a reframe
for it, right?
So something like I'm leaningand learning at the same time,
(08:55):
and that's part of my strength,because the thing thing is with
this is that the more that youwrite this out, right, if you,
if you write out what theself-doubt is, you write out the
evidence, right, and writingout what the reframe is like,
you only do this so many timesbefore you start to really
realize for yourself that thatit's not actually true.
Right, listing out more of the,the evidence against it, right,
(09:19):
that people are showing up,people are enjoying it, that I'm
getting really good feedback,that that you start to gather
evidence for why it's not true.
So here's the thing your innercritic isn't your identity,
right?
It's not who you are, it's justyour history talking right.
(09:42):
It's just as my mentor wouldsay it's just your safety police
.
Your inner critic would sayit's just your safety police,
your inner critic.
So the trap that most men fallinto is waiting until they feel
ready before they actually lead.
Right, they think thatleadership is like a reward for
mastery, but in reality,leadership is built through the
(10:06):
act of showing up and makingmistakes and adjusting as you go
, because if you wait to feelready, you'll never start.
And the men who look the mostconfident most of them are still
figuring it out too.
They've just learned to act inalignment with their values,
(10:26):
even when the doubt is screamingloudly.
You don't have to be the perfectman to lead.
You have to be the one willingto go to do it All right, so you
can't outthink self-doubt.
No amount of over-preparing ormentally rehearsing will make
(10:52):
you feel certain before you act.
Certainty comes as a result oftaking action.
So here's some tools to moveforward the next time this shows
up for you.
The first one is thefive-second rule, and it's
really just as simple as thiscounting down from five and act
(11:15):
before your brain has anopportunity to talk you out of
it.
So if you've got something youknow, a moment, like hey, you
know, I want to go over thereand talk to that person, five,
four, three, two, one.
Go and do it.
Right, because that time inbetween there, the longer that
gets, the less likely it is thatyou're actually going to go
over there and do that.
So the second tool is to act asif.
(11:39):
Right, and it's showing up asthe man that you want to be not
the one necessarily that youfeel like the moment in the
moment, the one that you feellike today, right, so act as if
you're that person or that manthat goes and does those things.
Right, we've written out who itis, that we want to be, right,
(12:00):
we've given that someconsideration now.
So walk around and act as ifyou're that person.
And so the third thing isstacking small wins right.
A lot of times I feel likepeople have this all or nothing
sort of mentality that theyeither have to be out there like
crushing the biggest goals anddoing these things, otherwise it
(12:22):
doesn't matter, right, but thereality is that it's stacking
these small, consistent actionsthat really prove to yourself
that I can do this, I can betrusted, that I'm worthy of this
title, of this position.
So confidence isn't aprerequisite.
(12:43):
You don't have to haveconfidence to step into this
part of your life.
You don't have to haveconfidence to step into this
part of your life.
It's actually a byproduct orcomes as a result of you taking
the action.
So here's a few questions that Iwant you to sit with this week.
You don't need to answer themall at once.
I want you to just pick one ortwo that hit hardest.
(13:05):
I want you to give them somespace, whether you journal them,
take a voice note or you carrythem with you throughout the
week just thinking about them.
So the first question is thiswhere in your life are you
currently holding back becauseyou don't feel ready, are
qualified?
(13:29):
The next question is what's onerecent win or success I've
dismissed as luck instead ofowning my role in creating it?
The next question is when myinner critic speaks, whose voice
does it sound like?
The next question is when, whenmy inner critic speaks, whose
(13:50):
voice does it sound like?
Where do I where?
Where do you think that it camefrom?
Right, was it your, yourparents or your family or the
kids at school?
Like who does that sound like?
And so the next question is whatwould leading while you're
still learning look like for you?
(14:11):
What would leading like you'restill learning look like for you
?
And the last question is if youacted as if you already
belonged in the room, what wouldyou do differently today?
What would you do differentlytoday, right, if you showed up,
(14:32):
what would that look and feellike?
If you showed up to that event,to that meeting, and you
stepped into it like you ownedit, how would that?
How would you show updifferently?
And you might be surprised howmuch clarity these questions
give you, not because they eraseself-doubt, but because they
help you see it for what it is.
It's a sign that you're in theright place, that you're doing
(14:56):
the right work.
So let's flip the script onself-doubt a little bit.
It's not the enemy, it's theevidence.
It means that you're playing abigger game that your comfort
zone can handle.
So the man who waits to feelcompletely ready before he leads
will wait his entire life, butthe man who's willing to lead
(15:21):
while he's still learning.
He builds trust in himselffaster than anyone else.
So here's your challenge thisweek.
I want you to pick onesituation where you've been
holding back because you didn'tfeel enough.
It could be speaking up in ameeting, leading a conversation,
taking the first step on aproject, or maybe like making an
(15:46):
ask that you've been avoiding.
I want you to step into itwithout waiting for permission
and when that self-doubt hits,say this to yourself this is
what growth feels like.
I belong here.
You don't have to silence theself-doubt.
It's not about killing thatinner critic.
(16:08):
You just have to prove toyourself that it's not the one
who's in charge.
All right, guys.
So if this episode hit home, ifyou've been holding back because
of self-doubt or impostersyndrome, again, this is the
work that I do every day withmen who are ready to step into
leadership while they're stillgrowing.
(16:29):
You don't have to wait untilyou feel ready.
You just have to start.
If you want a space where youcan get clear on your next steps
, you can challenge the voice ofyour inner critic and take
action with support.
Book a free discovery call withme at wwwevolvedmenprojectcom.
No pressure, just a realconversation about where you are
(16:53):
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Follow the show, leave afive-star review and help us get
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Here's what I want you to takewith you today.
(17:14):
The self-doubt doesn't mean thatyou're in the wrong place.
It means that you're in theexact place where growth happens
.
Every man that you admire hasfelt like an imposter at some
point, and most of them still do.
The difference is that theydidn't let that feeling make
their decisions for them.
(17:35):
You don't have to wait to feelworthy to start leading.
You lead by showing up whilethe doubt is still there and
proving over and over again thatyou belong in the room.
So this week, remember thatyou're not an imposter.
You're a man in the making onpurpose, intentionally.
(18:01):
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Lead boldly, act like you feelready, all right, and I'll see
you next time.
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podcast.
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(18:21):
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(18:42):
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Thank you.
Are you ready to break free from hesitation,
self-doubt and isolation?
Do you want to lead withconfidence, build powerful
connections and live boldly?
I'm Cory Baum and I'm here toshare the most impactful
strategies and mindsets thatI've learned through coaching,
leadership and real-worldexperience.
Together, we'll forgeunshakable confidence, master
social dynamics and create alife rooted in purpose,
(00:27):
brotherhood and bold action.
Inside, you'll get the toolsand insights to become the
strongest, most connectedversion of yourself.
Let's dive in.
What's up, man?
Today we're talking aboutsomething that I've felt more
times than I can count,especially when I'm coaching or
(00:49):
leading with my giant, you know,white easel and my markers in
hand, looking around the roomfull of guys and thinking like
who, who am I to be standing uphere?
(01:09):
I had this loop running in myhead right Like I'm still
figuring this out.
I've got so much of my own lifethat I'm still working on.
I've still got habits that I'mworking on, blind spots that I
haven't uncovered, habits thatI'm working on blind spots that
I haven't uncovered, challengesthat I haven't fully overcome.
Am I even doing this right?
(01:30):
Did I prepare enough, do I knowenough to lead this group?
And it didn't just happen there.
Right Before that, I was leadinganother group called Confident
Social Skills, which was anothermeetup, and I felt the exact
same thing.
It was like this little voiceinside of me saying, like dude,
(01:51):
what are you, what are you doing?
Like you don't have all of thisperfected.
Who are you to be teaching this?
Who are you to be up here?
And that's, that's the thing.
That's self-doubt and impostersyndrome right there.
And they don't.
The thing is that they don'twait until you've failed to
actually show up.
They're right there, even evenwhen you're in the middle of
(02:14):
something, when you're buildingsomething, when you're working
on it, right even when otherpeople are showing up because
they believe in the value thatyou're offering.
It's like that inner criticcan't resist jumping in and
questioning whether you deserveto be there or your right to
(02:35):
even be in the room.
So what I've learned is thatit's not about having everything
figured out, not about havingall of the experience and all of
the answers.
It's about being the perfectexample of the thing that you're
leading.
It's about showing up whileyou're still growing, while
(02:55):
you're still learning andletting that part, letting that
be part of the leadership,because the truth is, if you
wait until you have no doubt,then you'll be waiting forever.
So today's episode is aboutself-doubt and imposter syndrome
, two forces that can quietlyrun your entire life if you
(03:19):
don't learn how to face them.
They can make you question yourvalue, second guess your
decisions and make you playsmaller than you need to, even
when you're totally capable ofmore.
So most men think that the goalis to get rid of self-doubt,
(03:41):
like one day they'll wake up andfeel 100% ready, right, and
then they'll start leading.
Then they'll start speaking upor going after what it is that
they want.
But that day never comes,because self-doubt doesn't
disappear with more success.
It often grows with it.
The more that you step into newterritory, the louder that that
(04:05):
voice can get.
So here's the shift.
It's not about waiting untilyou feel ready to do something.
It's about learning how toactually lead yourself in the
presence of doubt, because thecost of not doing that is huge.
Right, there's missedopportunities, stalled growth,
right, and living a life thatfeels like you're constantly
(04:29):
holding back.
So in this episode today, we'regoing to break this open.
We're going to talk about whyself-doubt and imposter syndrome
show up even when you're doingwell, right, how to separate the
voice of the inner critic fromreality.
We're going to talk about somepractical ways to reframe and
(04:51):
move forward, regardless of howit is that you're feeling and
how action especially imperfectaction is the fastest way to
quiet that inner voice.
Action is the fastest way toquiet that inner voice, because
the man that you're becomingisn't built by avoiding doubt.
(05:12):
He's built by moving forward inspite of it.
So the first thing we're goingto talk about is that self-doubt
is actually a sign that you'regrowing.
Self-doubt isn't proof thatyou're failing.
It's proof that you're actuallystepping into something new.
When you launch the group, whenyou start the project or you
(05:36):
take the lead in a meeting,you're operating outside of your
comfort zone.
So, of course, your brainscrambles for certainty.
Right, it starts whisperinglike dude, you're not.
You're not ready for this.
Right, you're not the right guyfor this.
There's there's definitelysomeone that could be doing this
better.
Right?
(05:57):
And if you see self-doubt as astop sign, then you'll pull back
out every time that you'reabout to level up.
If you see it as a green light,though, as evidence that you're
expanding, then you can startto expect it and even welcome it
.
Right, doubt is a growthindicator, not a danger signal,
(06:22):
right, it's something that isshowing you like, hey, I'm
stepping into a place that isexciting that it's leveling up.
Right, it's not somethingthat's saying, beware, you know,
we shouldn't be doing this.
That warning, so.
(06:45):
So imposter syndrome, as we'retalking about, works because it
feels true.
It borrows details from yourreal insecurities and it mixes
them in with past mistakes andit presents them like these
undeniable facts, like it's thetruth, and most of the time,
(07:05):
it's really just an untrainedinner critic that's running the
show.
And this shows up in a lot ofdifferent places.
Right, if you focus on the 5%you don't know instead of the
95% that you do, right, you cancompare your behind the scenes
(07:28):
to someone else's highlight reel, right?
I mean, this comes up a lot ofcourse in social media and such.
I mean all that you see fromsomething that somebody posts is
like this this perfect picture.
Right, everything looks curated.
You know they've studied it athousand times, but you don't
see all of the things that wentinto making that post, into
(07:51):
making that course or whateverit might be.
So another way is that is ismistaking that being a work in
progress for being unqualified.
Right, that just because you'reworking at it doesn't mean that
you're not qualified to speakabout it.
(08:13):
So one of the tools that I usefor this is what I call the
three-column check-in.
Right, and what you would do is, in the first column, to
actually write the self-doubtout, right, whatever that might
be.
Maybe it's like I don't deserveto lead this group out out,
right, whatever that might be.
Maybe it's like I don't deserveto lead this group.
Now, in the second column,you're going to list the
(08:33):
evidence against it, right?
So maybe it's that you knowwhat I've?
I've created a space that menwant to show up for, week after
week and then, in the thirdcolumn, create, write a reframe
for it, right?
So something like I'm leaningand learning at the same time,
(08:55):
and that's part of my strength,because the thing thing is with
this is that the more that youwrite this out, right, if you,
if you write out what theself-doubt is, you write out the
evidence, right, and writingout what the reframe is like,
you only do this so many timesbefore you start to really
realize for yourself that thatit's not actually true.
Right, listing out more of the,the evidence against it, right,
(09:19):
that people are showing up,people are enjoying it, that I'm
getting really good feedback,that that you start to gather
evidence for why it's not true.
So here's the thing your innercritic isn't your identity,
right?
It's not who you are, it's justyour history talking right.
(09:42):
It's just as my mentor wouldsay it's just your safety police
.
Your inner critic would sayit's just your safety police,
your inner critic.
So the trap that most men fallinto is waiting until they feel
ready before they actually lead.
Right, they think thatleadership is like a reward for
mastery, but in reality,leadership is built through the
(10:06):
act of showing up and makingmistakes and adjusting as you go
, because if you wait to feelready, you'll never start.
And the men who look the mostconfident most of them are still
figuring it out too.
They've just learned to act inalignment with their values,
(10:26):
even when the doubt is screamingloudly.
You don't have to be the perfectman to lead.
You have to be the one willingto go to do it All right, so you
can't outthink self-doubt.
No amount of over-preparing ormentally rehearsing will make
(10:52):
you feel certain before you act.
Certainty comes as a result oftaking action.
So here's some tools to moveforward the next time this shows
up for you.
The first one is thefive-second rule, and it's
really just as simple as thiscounting down from five and act
(11:15):
before your brain has anopportunity to talk you out of
it.
So if you've got something youknow, a moment, like hey, you
know, I want to go over thereand talk to that person, five,
four, three, two, one.
Go and do it.
Right, because that time inbetween there, the longer that
gets, the less likely it is thatyou're actually going to go
over there and do that.
So the second tool is to act asif.
(11:39):
Right, and it's showing up asthe man that you want to be not
the one necessarily that youfeel like the moment in the
moment, the one that you feellike today, right, so act as if
you're that person or that manthat goes and does those things.
Right, we've written out who itis, that we want to be, right,
(12:00):
we've given that someconsideration now.
So walk around and act as ifyou're that person.
And so the third thing isstacking small wins right.
A lot of times I feel likepeople have this all or nothing
sort of mentality that theyeither have to be out there like
crushing the biggest goals anddoing these things, otherwise it
(12:22):
doesn't matter, right, but thereality is that it's stacking
these small, consistent actionsthat really prove to yourself
that I can do this, I can betrusted, that I'm worthy of this
title, of this position.
So confidence isn't aprerequisite.
(12:43):
You don't have to haveconfidence to step into this
part of your life.
You don't have to haveconfidence to step into this
part of your life.
It's actually a byproduct orcomes as a result of you taking
the action.
So here's a few questions that Iwant you to sit with this week.
You don't need to answer themall at once.
I want you to just pick one ortwo that hit hardest.
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I want you to give them somespace, whether you journal them,
take a voice note or you carrythem with you throughout the
week just thinking about them.
So the first question is thiswhere in your life are you
currently holding back becauseyou don't feel ready, are
qualified?
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The next question is what's onerecent win or success I've
dismissed as luck instead ofowning my role in creating it?
The next question is when myinner critic speaks, whose voice
does it sound like?
The next question is when, whenmy inner critic speaks, whose
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voice does it sound like?
Where do I where?
Where do you think that it camefrom?
Right, was it your, yourparents or your family or the
kids at school?
Like who does that sound like?
And so the next question is whatwould leading while you're
still learning look like for you?
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What would leading like you'restill learning look like for you
?
And the last question is if youacted as if you already
belonged in the room, what wouldyou do differently today?
What would you do differentlytoday, right, if you showed up,
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what would that look and feellike?
If you showed up to that event,to that meeting, and you
stepped into it like you ownedit, how would that?
How would you show updifferently?
And you might be surprised howmuch clarity these questions
give you, not because they eraseself-doubt, but because they
help you see it for what it is.
It's a sign that you're in theright place, that you're doing
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the right work.
So let's flip the script onself-doubt a little bit.
It's not the enemy, it's theevidence.
It means that you're playing abigger game that your comfort
zone can handle.
So the man who waits to feelcompletely ready before he leads
will wait his entire life, butthe man who's willing to lead
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while he's still learning.
He builds trust in himselffaster than anyone else.
So here's your challenge thisweek.
I want you to pick onesituation where you've been
holding back because you didn'tfeel enough.
It could be speaking up in ameeting, leading a conversation,
taking the first step on aproject, or maybe like making an
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ask that you've been avoiding.
I want you to step into itwithout waiting for permission
and when that self-doubt hits,say this to yourself this is
what growth feels like.
I belong here.
You don't have to silence theself-doubt.
It's not about killing thatinner critic.
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You just have to prove toyourself that it's not the one
who's in charge.
All right, guys.
So if this episode hit home, ifyou've been holding back because
of self-doubt or impostersyndrome, again, this is the
work that I do every day withmen who are ready to step into
leadership while they're stillgrowing.
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You don't have to wait untilyou feel ready.
You just have to start.
If you want a space where youcan get clear on your next steps
, you can challenge the voice ofyour inner critic and take
action with support.
Book a free discovery call withme at wwwevolvedmenprojectcom.
No pressure, just a realconversation about where you are
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where you want to go and how toget there.
And if this episode spoke toyou, share it with someone who
needs to hear it.
Follow the show, leave afive-star review and help us get
this message into the hands ofmore men who are ready to lead
themselves with purpose.
Here's what I want you to takewith you today.
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The self-doubt doesn't mean thatyou're in the wrong place.
It means that you're in theexact place where growth happens
.
Every man that you admire hasfelt like an imposter at some
point, and most of them still do.
The difference is that theydidn't let that feeling make
their decisions for them.
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You don't have to wait to feelworthy to start leading.
You lead by showing up whilethe doubt is still there and
proving over and over again thatyou belong in the room.
So this week, remember thatyou're not an imposter.
You're a man in the making onpurpose, intentionally.
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Thanks for listening to theEvolve Men podcast.
Lead boldly, act like you feelready, all right, and I'll see
you next time.
Thanks for tuning in to thisepisode of the Evolve Men
podcast.
If today's episode challengedyou, inspired you or gave you
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something to think about, don'tstop here.
Keep building, keep evolving,head over to
wwwevolvemenprojectcom, whereyou'll find free resources on
confidence, leadership,relationships, communication and
personal power Everything youneed to start applying what
you've learned here and takeyour growth to the next level.
The tools are there.
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The next move is yours.
Until the next time, men, staystrong, lead powerfully and live
boldly.
Thank you.
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