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Speaker 1 (00:04):
Are you ready to
break free from hesitation,
self-doubt and isolation?
Do you want to lead withconfidence, build powerful
connections and live boldly?
I'm Cory Baum and I'm here toshare the most impactful
strategies and mindsets thatI've learned through coaching,
leadership and real-worldexperience.
Together, we'll forgeunshakable confidence, master
social dynamics and create alife rooted in purpose,
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brotherhood and bold action.
Inside you'll get the tools andinsights to become the
strongest, most connectedversion of yourself.
Let's dive in.
What's up, man.
Lately I've been looking hard atwhere my energy is actually
going and realizing that thatit's not the big, like obvious
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sort of stuff that's that'sleaving me drained.
It's, it's all these littlesort of leaks that I let run on
autopilot.
So, for me, one of the biggestones that that came up was
mindless scrolling, right?
You know those moments whenyou're sitting in waiting rooms
or at a stoplight and just likesitting there and instinctively
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pulling out my phone and juststarting to scroll Facebook or
Instagram.
Right, and it doesn't feel likemuch, right, two minutes here
or five minutes there, but itadds up and, more than that, it
trains my brain to fill everysingle pause with noise instead
of actually being present.
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So another leak for me isrumination, which is that like
low-grade constant loop in myhead of trying to say something
the right way, right, especiallybefore a conversation that I
think I might be, that might besensitive.
I'll run through it over andover as if there's some like
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perfect sentence that'llmagically make it smooth.
But all that overthinking doesis burn mental bandwidth that I
could use for something else.
And then there's this, the likepeople pleasing sort of piece.
So recently I've had, I've hadmore opportunities, come my way
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right, collaborations, invites,coffees, and some of them I want
to genuinely say yes to, butothers not so much.
But in the past I'd say yesanyways, not because I wanted to
, but because I didn't wantanyone to be disappointed.
And the problem is that everytime that I do that, it's not
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just my time and energy that I'mgiving away, it's a little
piece of my self-respect too.
And the crazy part is, for thelongest time I thought I was
doing everything right, right,when it, when it came to energy,
I drank enough water, I I atewell, I got plenty of sleep, All
right, I made space forrecovery.
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But.
But here's the moment thatreally hit me Right.
It's it's eight o'clock atnight and I'm in bed with my
kids, I'm reading a story.
We do this every night and Ican barely keep my eyes open.
Not because I've been runningaround all day, or you know,
burning thousands of calories,not because I skipped a meal or
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I pulled an all-nighter thenight before, but because,
mentally, I had run a marathonthat day.
From the rumination to theunspoken resentments, to the
constant micro decisions ofwhether to say yes or to say no,
micro decisions of whether tosay yes or to say no, to the
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background noise of endlessscrolling All of it had been
slowly leaking my energy fromthe moment that I woke up that
morning.
And that's the thing that theseenergy leaks aren't always
physical.
Most of the time they're right.
They hide in habits that you'venormalized, choices that you
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make on autopilot andconversations that you replay
hundreds of times a day.
And unless you get brutallyhonest about where your energy
is going, you can do all of theright things for your body and
still feel completely drained.
So today's episode is about oneof the most overlooked parts of
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self-leadership, and that'sprotecting your energy.
Because you can have theperfect morning routine, you can
be dialed in with yournutrition and have a solid eight
hours of sleep and still yournutrition and have a solid eight
hours of sleep and still, inthe end, be completely wiped out
at the end of the day.
Why?
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Because your energy isn't justburned by what you do, it's
actually leaked by what youtolerate.
The scrolling that numbsinstead of restores that numbs
instead of restores theconversations that you keep
rehearsing in your head.
The yes when you say you know,when you say that every part of
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you, the yes when you wanted tosay really what you wanted to
say is no, and it's those small,unspoken resentments that you
carry around like this weight.
Most men don't realize the costof these leaks until it's too
late, until they're sitting atthe dinner table, distracted, or
putting their kids to bed, tooexhausted to be present.
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It's not just about feelingtired.
It's about what you're missing,because you've already spent
yourself on the things thatdon't matter.
Missing because you've alreadyspent yourself on the things
that don't matter.
Here's the shift If you want tolead yourself and others with
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clarity and strength, you haveto be intentional about where
your energy goes, because whenyou protect your energy, you
protect your focus, yourrelationships and your sense of
self.
So in this episode, we're goingto break down how to spot the
invisible energy leaks that aredraining you every day.
We're going to talk about whydoing the right things
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physically won't always fix theproblem, and we're going to talk
about some simple butactionable ways to plug the
biggest leaks, starting today.
Because the man who guards hisenergy, he guards his ability to
lead, and the man who leaks itwithout noticing it is always
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running on empty.
So leaks are, they're invisibleuntil you track them.
And most men try to fix theirenergy by adding more, more
coffee, more supplements right,we all do this, more you know
and taking more rest days orwhatever.
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But you can't out-sleep orout-caffeinate a leaky system,
right?
If your energy is quietlydripping out of you all day,
then you'll always feel depleted, no matter how much you try to
top it off.
So if you don't know where yourenergy is going, you can't
control it, right?
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And what you can't control willcontrol you.
So here's something I want youto think about For a week track
your day not just by time, butby how you actually feel in each
activity.
Where do you feel sharp andalive and engaged?
Where do you feel heavy ordistracted or drained?
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Because your time is measuredin hours, right, but your
leadership is measured in energy.
So one of the ones, right, ifwe were to talk about what are
the three biggest drains thatmost men ignore and, as I talked
about earlier, it's themindless input, the scrolling,
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the checking, notifications,filling every pause with
stimulation.
It's not just time that you'relosing, it's mental bandwidth.
So the second is unfinishedconversations, right, actually
avoiding the talk that you knowthat you need to have, and what
it does is it runs this loop inyour head until you finally face
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it.
So the third thing ismisaligned, yes, right, which is
agreeing to things that aren'taligned with your priorities.
It's a hit to both yourcalendar and your self-respect.
So these, these drains don'tlook urgent, right.
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They're the the easy to ignoresort of things, but over time,
they're like a pinhole in yourfuel tank that, before you know
it, you're empty and you don'teven realize that it was ever
happening.
So something to take away fromthis is that small links can
sink great ships.
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So what is it going to take toplug the leaks, right?
So one of the first tools is tocreate white space in your day,
to give yourself small,intentional pockets with no
stimulation, no phone, no TV, nonoise, just breathing room.
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The second tool is to close theloop right.
If a conversation is weighingyou down, then schedule it right
.
The mental relief is worth morethan avoiding the discomfort.
The third tool is the alignedyes filter.
So, before saying yes toanything, I want you to ask
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yourself does this align withwho I'm becoming?
And if not, then it's a no.
And so the reason this mattersis that plugging these energy
leaks isn't about doing less forthe sake of it.
It's about protecting whatmatters most, so that you can
show up with strength and focus.
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Every no to the wrong sort ofthing is a yes to the right
thing.
So your leadership when yourenergy is scattered, it suffers,
right.
You get short with your kids,you lose patience in
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conversations, you react insteadof responding.
But when you're intentionalwith your energy, when you're
more precise, more decisive andmore resilient, you stop running
on fumes and you start leadingfrom overflow, right.
So if you think about this,energy is the currency of
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leadership, right?
And so spend it where itmatters and invest it in who
you're actually becoming.
So I want you to picture thisright.
Picture your day yesterday, fromthe time that you woke up to
the time that you went to bed.
Where did you feel your energydrop the fastest?
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Was it after that mid-morningmeeting that dragged on without
purpose?
Or maybe it was the moment thatyou sat down to catch your
breath?
You opened up your phone justfor a second and suddenly
realized that 20 minutes haddisappeared.
Maybe it's right after lunch,when you're forcing yourself
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through work and that you're noteven invested in.
If you can see the pattern, youcan start to change it.
Now.
Think about the habits thatyou've stopped noticing because
they've been there so long thatthey feel normal.
Maybe it's checking yournotifications every time you
hear the the slightest littlebuzz, right?
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Maybe it's agreeing to helpwith something that you don't
really want to do, because itfeels easier than saying no.
Maybe it's replaying aconversation in your head that
you had days ago, wishing thatyou'd worded something
differently, or whatever.
It might be right, these thingsaren't small.
The point is that they add upover time, that they have an
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impact.
And what about the thing thatyou've been avoiding?
Right?
You know the one, the, themessage that you've been meaning
to send, the talk that you'vebeen putting off, the task that
you keep pushing off untiltomorrow.
It sits in the back of yourmind all day, draining the
energy that you could be usingsomewhere else.
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What would it feel like to justhandle it?
And then there's this right howmuch of your energy is going to
things that have nothing to dowith your values or priorities?
It's a tough one to admit, butif you've been in the habit of
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people-pleasing, you might begiving away hours every week to
things that don't move youforward and wondering why you
never have the bandwidth forwhat matters most.
So here's the real question Ifyou plugged just one week this
leak, what would change?
Would you have more patiencewith your kids, more clarity for
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your work, more presence inyour relationships?
One shift can make the wholesystem run differently.
So here's the shift that I wantyou to see Protecting your
energy isn't about doing less.
It's about choosing what's worthdoing.
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The man who spends his days onautopilot, leaking energy into
mindless habits and misalignedcommitments, will always feel
tired, no matter how much sleephe gets right, no matter how
well he eats or how well howmuch he just tries to push
through.
But the man who takes ownershipof where his energy goes, he
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moves with clarity, he has morepatience and he's harder to
shake.
So here's your challenge forthe week Find one reoccurring
energy leak and plug it.
Just one.
Maybe you put your phone inanother room after dinner.
Maybe you finally have theconversation that you've been
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avoiding.
Maybe you practice saying no tosomething you don't actually
want to do, because when youstart protecting your energy,
when you're not just avoidingburnout, you're building the
capacity to lead to love and tolive life fully, and every time
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that you choose to protect it,you're telling yourself that my
energy is valuable.
I am valuable.
If this episode hit home, ifyou've been wondering why you
feel drained even when you'redoing all the right things, then
this is the exact work that Ido with Ben.
Every day, we get clear onwhere your energy is going, we
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plug the leaks and we redirectthat focus into the things that
actually move you forward.
If you want to see what thatcould look like for you, book a
free discovery call with me atevolvemenprojectcom.
No pressure, just a realconversation about where you are
and where you want to be, andhow to get there without running
on empty.
And if this episode gave yousomething to think about, share
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it with a friend who's beenfeeling the same way.
Follow the show, leave afive-star review and let's keep
this conversation going, one manat a time.
So here's what I want you toremember your energy is your
most valuable resource.
You can't replace it.
Once it's gone, you can't buymore of it and no one else will
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protect it for you.
It's not just about avoidingburnout.
It's about showing up as theman you want to be for your kids
, for your partner, for yourmission.
When you're intentional withyour energy, you lead with more
presence, more clarity and morestrength.
So this week, catch the leaks.
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Even one plugged leak can giveyou more focus, more patience
and more capacity than yourealize.
Protect your energy and protectthe life that you're building.
Thanks for listening to theEvolve Men podcast.
Lead with purpose, guard yourfuel and I'll see you next time.
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