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Natalie Portman (00:45):
Hey there,
mama.
Whether you just saw thatpositive pregnancy test or
you're already a few months inand wondering if you're on the
right track, this episode is foryou.
Today we'll cover everythingfrom choosing the right provider
and picking a prenatal vitaminto nourishing your body, finding
spiritual rest, and building asupport system that honors your
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values.
And if you've been dealing withthings like nausea, exhaustion,
and even overwhelm.
I'm also sharing some gentlegrace-filled tips for managing
morning sickness and firsttrimester fatigue that can carry
you through the weeks ahead.
So again, whether you're brandnew to this journey or just
circling back for some peace andclarity, I'm so glad you're
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here.
Let's dive in.
The first thing I'll want to goover in our first trimester
checklist is first celebratingand just praying over this
precious baby that the Lord hasgiven you.
I know for many women, it's ahuge feat just to see that
positive pregnancy test, and ifthat's you, if it was a long
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journey to get to that point,give praise and thanks to the
Lord first and foremost, andthen start praying over this
baby, asking the Lord to blessthis baby as he or she is
growing in your womb, that youwould have the wisdom to know
how best to love and serve themand see it as worship to the
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Lord, not as something that youneed to walk in with fear and
like you need to be perfect atthis.
That is not what the Lord'sasking you to do.
If he wanted perfect parents, hewouldn't have blessed any of us
with these beautiful babies.
So you don't have to be aperfect parent, the more you
learn, the more you can care forthis precious baby.
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And then next you might want toconsider who to tell and when to
start telling people that you'repregnant.
I remember when we first foundout we were pregnant with Ellie,
I felt like I had to hold thatin for a long time.
I wanted my family to know rightaway.
That was my natural inclination,was wanting to tell them.
But for some reason I felt likeI needed to keep it hidden.
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I wanted to do the big surpriseand have our family all together
and we could tell them at thesame time.
And that's totally fine if youwanna go that way.
That is perfectly fine.
And then with Daniel, we didn'twait quite as long this second
time, and it's one of thosethings where I don't think there
is a hard line wait until theend of the first trimester or
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wait until this certain perfecttimeframe.
If you are just itching to tellsomebody that you are pregnant.
My kind of rule of thumb for ifI'm gonna tell somebody is, and
this sounds a little bit morbid,so I'm sorry if this is morbid,
but if I'm willing to tell themI'm pregnant, am I also willing
to share if we have amiscarriage?
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And that's just a way to kind ofprotect your own heart.
Say baby for some reason,doesn't make it past that first
trimester.
Do you want to have to post onsocial media again that you lost
your baby, or are you okay withsharing that?
Are you open to sharing what theLord is doing positive and
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negative in your life?
Again, that there's no hard andfast rules here.
It's just.
I think a good rule of thumb,whoever you're willing to share
with this news early on,especially make sure that it's
people that if you do share thenews, these are also the same
people that you would invite topray with you to just console
you if there is a loss.
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During this pregnancy and that'snothing to be ashamed of.
If there is a loss, there are somany women that lose babies in
that first trimester especially,and not to scare you because
again, we are not operating infear here, but that's just a
reality of nurturing a life soearly on, and the Lord is truly
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sovereign over all that happensthat he alone can give and take
away life.
And he is perfectly in his powerand we don't ever need an
explanation for why he does thethings that he does, but we can
truly trust in him that he isworking all things, including
miscarriage for our good and hisglory.
And so that's kind of my onlything that I suggest when you're
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deciding who to tell and when totell is.
Feel free to tell whoever youwant however far along you are
in your pregnancy, but just knowthat there is a chance that you
could also be sharing some sadnews and just being wise with
who all you're sharing, andbasically it just comes down to
you knowing yourself the best.
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Next up is choosing the rightprovider.
This is huge.
Honestly, this is one of thebiggest decisions you will make
in this first trimester.
If you listen to podcast,episode 13, I go over the
different types of birthsettings, hospital, birth
center, and home birth, andgiving, you know, deep dive into
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the pros and cons of each ofthose birth settings as well as
a birth setting quiz that youcan take to kind of help you
start thinking through whatoption might be best for you
based on your values.
So this is the trimester whereyou really want to start locking
that in, although you can alwayschange at any point.
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I share in episode 13 how I havehad a handful of clients who
decided at the literal lastsecond, like two weeks before
they gave birth, that they weregoing to switch from a hospital
provider to a home birthprovider.
So if.
Just know that it's never toolate to switch, but it's much
easier to establish the careearlier on in your pregnancy.
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Especially if there's highdemand for certain providers.
There's a really great OBGYNhere in Jacksonville, and they
are pretty hard to get in with.
And so if you want to go withthem as the hospital provider,
you want to know very early onthat's who you wanna go with and
start getting in with thatpractice.
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And then same with birth centersand home birth providers.
Their schedules, depending onhow popular they are they might
fill up quickly and not have thespace for your due time.
Start thinking through thoseoptions now and just know it can
always change and that's okay.
My biggest piece of advice withthis decision is to seek the
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Lord's wisdom in it.
Another thing you can do is ifyou go into the Christian Mama
birth prep library, if you signup for access to that, which
I'll include the link in theshow notes, you can also
download a handout called.
The"top 10 questions to ask aprospective provider".
And this just can give you someinsights into kind of how to vet
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a provider and say you'realready with a practice and
you're like I like them so far.
Say it's an OBGYN, you can bringthese 10 questions and you don't
have to.
All of the questions, but youcan look through these 10
questions and pick out the onesthat are most important to you
to ask to kind of see if you'realigned with that provider and
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use that as a guide to get asense of, am I getting some red
flags here?
Am I getting some yellow flagshere?
What's going on with thisprovider?
Do I feel like we're aligned?
Do I feel like this is where theLord is calling us?
So check out those two things.
Podcast episode 13 to deep diveinto the birth setting options,
and then download that top 10questions to ask a prospective
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provider inside the ChristianMama birth prep library.
The next really important thingI would love to emphasize is
getting grounded in yournutrition.
This is huge, especially in thisfirst trimester.
Obviously, if you are dealingwith major food aversions or
even something as serious ashaving hyperemesis where you
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literally can't keep anythingdown.
You, everything you eat comesback up.
You're unable to toleratebasically anything, and you're
possibly even needing IV fluidsto keep you hydrated.
But if you are able to keep fooddown.
I highly recommend you checkingout the book, real Food for
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Pregnancy by Lily Nichols.
It's a phenomenal book where shegoes over all of the nutritional
needs that you have duringpregnancy, and even debunks some
of the common things we'resupposed to avoid, like raw fish
and kombucha, like just randomthings.
She goes into some of that and Ihave found it so helpful
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throughout my pregnancies tojust know how to nourish my body
the best.
She also goes into detail about.
Choosing a prenatal vitamin.
I remember with both of mypregnancies, I really was kind
of taken a stab in the dark.
Like I just would go to CVS andjust look at the labels and be
like this looks good.
I don't know.
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And I would highly encourage youto heed the advice that Lily
Nichols lays out in her book,and rather than boring you with
all of the nutrients that shementions in the book and kind of
that target range that sherecommends for pregnancy, I will
include all of that in theepisode show notes.
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And then she recommends aprenatal vitamin called FullWell
fertility.
And it is actually the one thatI took as well, and it's
fantastic.
The only thing I don't likeabout it is that it's eight
capsules.
I know that sounds a littleoverwhelming, but yes, it's
eight capsules that you take.
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You can space those out likefour in the morning, four in the
evening.
I have always found that it washelpful.
After eating breakfast and Iwould drink decaf coffee'cause I
love my coffee, even if it'sdecaf.
And I would take the eightcapsules with the, with coffee.
And that seemed to be fine forme.
I think you can even.
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Take the capsules like and breakthem open and pour them into
something and then you can justconsume it that way.
So that prenatal, I will linkalso in the show notes if you're
interested in checking out that.
And I think on Amazon you caneven subscribe to it, so it will
send automatically to you andyou get a little bit of a
discount when you subscribe.
But yeah that prenatal isphenomenal, really covers all of
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the bases of what she lays outin her book, and it really is
astounding how lacking theprenatal vitamins are that are
available for the most part.
And really, if you're taking aone capsule, vitamin prenatal
every day, you're likely notmeeting anywhere close to the
nutrients that your body isneeding.
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And especially if you did notget the opportunity to take a
prenatal ahead of actuallybecoming pregnant, like a lot of
providers will say, start aprenatal three months before you
plan to conceive, so you didn'teven get that timeframe.
This is a great way to kind ofwhat she calls like insurance.
Like it's Nutritional insurancefor your baby and you so that
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you're not depleting yourself ofthe nutrient stores that your
body needs to create this baby.
And to do it without harmingyourself.
So yeah, check out that FullWellfertility, prenatal vitamin.
And like I said, if you'recurious to compare the prenatal
vitamin that you're currentlytaking you can look on the show
notes to look through, like eachof the nutrients she recommends
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and the range, and then see howyour prenatal vitamin compares.
And then one thing that I wouldhighly suggest on a more
spiritual note.
Is start journaling.
I definitely did a little bitmore of that with Ellie than I
have been able to do, you know,since having a child, because
obviously you're much busieronce you have kids.
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But if especially this is yourfirst baby or you know, that is
a way that the Lord reallyspeaks to you.
Going to the Lord in prayer andjournaling and putting on some
worship music and just likesitting in his presence.
I also created a 30 daydevotional called Not By My
Strength, and that's a greatdevotional to also start in this
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first trimester.
And you can even,, do thedevotional over and over again.
It's a PDF, so you can, workthrough it through the first
trimester and then do it againin the second and just grounds
you again and again into God'sword and just going to him in
prayer.
There are prayers and questionprompts in that devotional to
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just help you process all that'shappening during this beautiful,
and like I say, challengingseason.
And then you can even startpreparing for the birth itself.
I know it seems a little bitpremature, but I think that
reading the Real Food forPregnancy Book, and there's
another book that I recommendcalled The Birth Partner, and
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this is by Penny Simkin and itreally helps like dads, or you
are, it's gonna be your momthat's gonna be your birth
partner or your best friend.
This is a great way for yourpartner and you to prepare for
this upcoming birth.
She goes over just some of theemotional signposts of what the
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different stages of labor are,but even just practical ways
ahead of time for how to prepareand support somebody through
this pregnancy journey.
So check out that book that isalso gonna be linked in the show
notes.
And I really just like toemphasize early education.
I don't want you to realizelater in the game oh man, if I
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had known that, I probablywould've done this a little bit
differently.
And so not that you should feellike you need to have all of the
answers and everything figuredout now, but the more you can
educate yourself on the frontend, you're gonna make decisions
that align more with whereyou're headed and where you feel
like the Lord is leading you.
So definitely check out thatbook.
That's a really good one.
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I think it's.
Even available as an audiobook,which I am a huge audiobook
person, I don't really have timeto sit and read.
And so audio books and podcastsare like one of my favorite ways
to, or two of my favorite waysto consume information and start
to just meditate on that andabsorb that wisdom and
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knowledge.
Another thing I would love topoint out for this first
trimester checklist is startreally listening to your body
and rest often.
I know that's really hard,especially if you already have
children and it is much harderto rest when you're chasing
around your kids and haveschedules and maybe you're still
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working and just all the things.
But I want you to give yourselfpermission to rest during this
time.
If it means having to canceldates with friends and going to
bed really early, I rememberthat was a huge thing in the
first trimester both times was.
I would go to bed sometimes atseven o'clock, like I, literally
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couldn't make it past seveno'clock.
And so that's okay.
If you are going to bed reallyearly, that is totally fine.
Listen to your body and ifyou're dealing with some really
intense morning sickness, whichis totally a misnomer.
It is not always in the morning.
I kind of relate it to feelinglike I'm hungover for six weeks,
which don't ask me how I knowthat.
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So it can be totally differentfor how you're experiencing that
kind of icky, nauseous likedrained feeling.
But I wanted to give you somepractical tips on how to kind of
manage that morning sickness andthe pregnancy fatigue.
So Lily Nichols again, love, herbook and what all she lays out.
But she has a whole section onhow to manage morning sickness
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and these are some of the thingsthat she lays out.
So first you want to eat veryregularly when you are not
feeling super great in thisfirst trimester.
If you can eat every two tothree hours, that's really gonna
help your blood sugar so thatyou're not having big blood
sugar swings, which canabsolutely make nausea more
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noticeable.
She says, never eat a nakedcarb.
And what she means by that isjust a carb without any protein.
So say you're eating some fruit,like a banana or an apple, eat
that with some nut butter,peanut butter, almond butter,
cashew nut butter, somethinglike that to where it's pairing
a carb with a protein, andagain, balancing your blood
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sugar.
Same with if you're just eatinga piece of toast or some
crackers, if you can pair thatwith a protein.
So if it's crackers or toast,put some nut butter on there.
Or an egg on top of a piece oftoast.
Something where you areintroducing protein, and carbs,
not just carbohydrates by itself'cause again, that will really
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swing the blood sugar out ofregulation and make you feel
possibly worse.
The other thing is she tries toemphasize giving herself a ton
of grace during this time,especially if you are having a
really hard time wanting to eatanything other than carbs or you
can't keep anything down.
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Our bodies are super resilient.
The Lord obviously knew what hewas doing when he created our
bodies and.
Although it's not ideal, ifyou're not able to keep anything
down, our body is able tosustain itself if that's the
case.
And so give yourself heapingamounts of grace if you are not
eating as healthy as you want toor that your body is used to.
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Eat what you're able to tolerateand if you are able to eat
things and you're not having aton of aversions, continue
eating as healthy as you can.
And not really giving into a tonof those like, oh, well, I'm.
Craving ice cream and pickles.
So I'm just gonna eat a ton ofthat.
You don't wanna fall to eitherside of the pendulum too far.
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And then the other thing thatshe recommends is trying B6 and
magnesium, and so B6, I thinkit's if you're taking 50
milligrams or less over severaltimes a day, if you're taking
any more, if you're taking ahundred milligram B6 vitamin
that probably is gonna be toomuch.
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So try and pair that down.
You can even split tabs, butI'll put a link in the show
notes for a B6 supplement.
That's 50 milligrams so that youcan take it at a lesser dose
that's more appropriate formorning sickness.
And then magnesium, she alsorecommends a certain type of
magnesium.
I'll put that in episode shownotes as well, the type of
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magnesium that she recommendsfor morning sickness.
And then I kind of mentionedthis earlier, if you are having
an issue, keeping things downbut it's important to keep
taking your prenatal.
If that looks like you end uptaking it at night when maybe
you're a little bit lessnauseous or just taking it at a
time of day where you're lessnauseous that can be really
helpful.
Or splitting up the doses thatFullWell fertility prenatal that
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I mentioned is fantastic.
Only downside is that you haveto take eight capsules to get
the full dosage.
And so if that looks like youtaking four in the morning, four
in the evening, or splittingopen the capsules, pouring it
into something like a smoothieso that you can stomach it
literally absolutely do that.
Yeah.
And then when it comes tofatigue, like the soul sucking,
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pregnancy fatigue, like that'swhat I had with both my
pregnancies as well, is trynapping for 20 to 30 minutes at
a time.
Like little power naps.
It helps you not get such deepsleep that when you wake up you
feel so much more groggy.
If you're working, go get inyour car, and make it
comfortable and just take alittle power nap.
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If your kids are still napping,see if you can grab a nap while
they're napping.
Don't feel guilty though if youdo need a longer nap.
If you are finding yourself.
Absolutely wiped out still.
Even with the little power nap,and you have the ability to
sleep for longer, go for it.
Just listen to your body andrest with intention.
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If you know you're not able totruly actually fall asleep, then
just take that time to throw insome worship music, pray
journal, just do something whereyou can wind down and rest, even
if it doesn't mean actuallysleeping.
I love to also point out thateven Jesus, had to take times to
nap, like the story of Jesus inthe storm and he there he was
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like napping in the middle of acrazy storm.
And maybe that's what it feelslike for you right now if,
especially if you have olderkids and you're like.
Yeah, I feel like if I were tofall asleep, it would be like me
falling asleep in a storm andsometimes that is what's needed.
I remember feeling so guiltywhen I was pregnant with Daniel,
when I would have to put on likea movie or something for Ellie
just to sit there for a littlebit so I could nap.
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Mama, do what you need to do.
Obviously, everything can comein a season and if it looks like
for a season.
You're eating out more becauseyou can only stomach certain
things you can't even cookanymore.
If that looks like your childwatching more TV as you rest,
give yourself that, that gracethat you are not failing, if
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that's what it's taking for youto actually survive throughout
the day.
And then that kind of leads meinto building a support system.
So if you have family nearby, ifyou have friends that could come
and help, this is a greatopportunity to ask for help.
I love to point out the versewhere it talks about you have
not because you ask not.
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And that really has struck achord with me because I feel
like I get myself all bent outof shape when I feel like I'm
overwhelmed by all the things Ihave to do, but I'm like, wait,
did I even ask anybody to helpme?
Or am I just heaping all of thisresponsibility on myself and
then throwing myself a pityparty that I have all these
things to do.
So if you, not to say you'rethrowing yourself a pity party,
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but if there is help availableto you.
Get the help, and don't see itas failure.
See it as a way to honor thisseason that you're in and that
other people can be invited intothis space to love and serve
you.
And same goes with my services.
I love supporting families inthis season of pregnancy.
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Hence why I became a doula andjust seeing the Lord, just grow
this ministry is kind of how Isee it.
Ministry and business as a birthdoula and just as a fellow mama
myself going through this.
So I have virtual birthcoaching, and virtual birth
doula support.
So if you're interested in that,I would love to connect with
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you.
I have a free 15 minute call adiscovery call if you're
interested in that option.
I would love to see if we wouldbe a good fit for each other.
And I also offer onlineChristian childbirth education.
This is a take it your own pace.
Own it for life.
So say this is your first child,or maybe it's not, and you just
want a refresher, and you cantake that course again and again
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and just get all of the wisdomand information you need to
navigate this pregnancy andbirth experience in a way that,
honors the Lord.
And then I mention it manytimes, but the Christian Mama
birth prep library, there are aton of free resources in there
that would be helpful to youduring this season.
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So sign up for that.
And I would love to see you justusing those resources to gain
the knowledge, to make the rightchoices choices that are just
honoring to the Lord.
And then wanna close out thisfirst trimester checklist with
just encouraging you to trustthe Lord in this season.
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You're gonna hear me say it.
It's gonna go in one ear out theother.
Let me say it again.
I want you to trust the Lord inthis season.
He is not at all surprised bythis baby, by anything that
you're feeling or experiencing.
He knows exactly what is goingto happen.
This baby's birth plan and thispregnancy and everything has
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already been written.
He knows exactly what's gonnahappen, and I think fear starts
to arise in us when we feel likewe need to have everything
figured out.
And that is such a lie, and it'sveiled as wisdom or it's veiled
as concern and care and wantingto do the right thing.
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But if you really look under thehood, I know for me, I'll speak
for me.
I know that whenever I startgetting really anxious about the
plans and all those things, it'sreally coming from a place that
I don't trust the Lord, that Idon't really think that he has
the best for me and.
I want you to root that out.
I want you to go to him and say,Lord, I'm really scared about
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these things.
I am dreading this thing.
I hate that i'm feeling sonauseous.
I don't like that.
I'm so tired all the time.
He can take all of that.
And so go to him and just askhim, Lord, help me surrender
this to you.
I have all these concerns andthese concerns are valid, but
ultimately, if I'm not layingthis at your feet, I'm not
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honoring you in this season.
I am saying that I honor youwith my lips, but my heart and
my mind and the decisions I'mmaking and the reason why I'm
making these decisions, I wantthem to truly honor you.
So just seek the Lord in thatand just really trust that he
the maker of everything with aword of his mouth.
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He spoke everything intoexistence and with the breath of
life that only he can give, hebreathed life into your womb.
That is so miraculous.
Who do we think we are that wecan make life happen and that we
can sustain this child and knowwhen exactly, certain body parts
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to form for our baby or allthese things, like who do we
think we are?
Absolutely not.
It is so humbling when werealize that the Lord is using
us to grow life, to nurture lifeand to bring life into this
world.
So I pray that that's anencouragement to you, but I also
want you to really look deeplyinto your heart behind your
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motives and why you're doing thethings that you're doing.
Because I really want you tocome to a place of true
surrender and rest in the Lordso that you can just enjoy this
season, not because you feellike you're doing everything
perfectly, because you will notdo all of this perfectly, but
that he is perfect and he isworthy of our worship, and he is
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so good even when things don'tgo the way that we want them to.
So that's my encouragementthere.
I would love to also point outthis scripture from Isaiah.
It's Isaiah 43:19 and it says,"Behold, I am doing a new thing.
I will make a way in thewilderness and rivers in the
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desert." So this pregnancy, thisbaby, it's all a part of a new
thing that God is doing in yourlife.
And even when the path feelsunclear, he is making a way.
So again, it's not saying,behold, you are doing a new
thing, and so you need to figureout a way to make all this work,
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and you need to find all theways to support yourself in this
season.
That's not at all what the versesays.
It says God is doing a newthing.
He is making a way.
He is making rivers in a desert.
And so again, take that pressureoff of yourself, sister, do not
feel like this is all on you tomake all of these things work.
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So now I would just love to prayover you as we're closing out
today's episode.
Lord Jesus, I lift this preciousmama listening right now.
I lift her up to you, and I justthank you so much for the life
that you're forming in her forthis miraculous new thing that
you're doing in her womb and inher heart and soul.
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I thank you so much that beforeshe ever even saw a positive
pregnancy test.
You already saw this child andyou have a plan for this baby.
Lord, I just pray that you wouldhelp her recognize and embrace
this new thing that you're doingin her life, even in the midst
of nausea and exhaustion andanxiety and uncertainty.
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I pray that she would experienceyour presence and that you would
help her see that you are makinga way even when her path seems
uncertain.
Lord Jesus, I pray that youwould surround her with the
right people, with providersthat are encouraging her and
providing her with wisdom and anuplifting community.
I pray that you would speaktruth in the moments of quiet or
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the moments that she's hearinglies from the enemy.
And I pray that you would justhelp her find joy in the small
and beautiful things happeningin her life right now.
I pray, Lord Jesus, that youwould just continue to knit this
baby perfectly in her womb andthat she would just prepare for
this journey ahead, not justwith information cognitively,
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but just also a spiritualtransformation that you wanna
draw her closer to you.
Lord Jesus.
I ask this in your holy name.
Amen.
So that's it, mama.
I would love for you to checkout all of the resources I
mentioned in the episode shownotes, and sign up for that
Christian mama birth preplibrary, where there's gonna be
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those questions to ask theprovider and so many other
resources for just preparing forthis season.
And.
Again, I want you to just bereminded that you are not alone
in this.
If you feel like the Lord iscalling you to get extra support
I would love to walk alongsideyou in that.
So check out my website ifyou're interested in working
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with me one-on-one, and justpraying for you as you are
walking faithfully in thisbeautiful new season.