April 1, 2025 • 20 mins
EPISODE 14
Beyond Excuses: Why Some Parents Choose Self Over Their Children – Fashitsho The Podcast with DJ Kornbred
Podcast Intro Description:
In this eye-opening episode of Fashitsho The Podcast, DJ Kornbred goes deep into a topic that’s often avoided but incredibly important: why some parents choose to prioritize themselves over their children. This isn’t a conversation about judgment – it’s about understanding the complexities, the struggles, and the human side of parenthood that’s often glossed over.
DJ Kornbred, known for her unapologetic approach to life and music, opens up about the tough choices parents face when balancing self-care, dreams, and the responsibilities of raising children. In a world that demands so much from parents, Kornbred examines the emotional and societal pressures that lead some to make decisions that seem, on the surface, selfish. But are they really?
Through candid reflections, personal experiences, and tough conversations, Kornbred navigates the gray areas of parenting where self-care and personal ambition often collide with family needs. She explores how modern parenthood has evolved, how different factors — mental health, economic pressures, and personal goals — influence these choices, and what it means for those who may not fit the traditional mold of what a "good" parent should be.
Parental responsibility shouldn't be optional, yet somehow our society has normalized the concept of "deadbeat parents." Why? That's the burning question at the heart of this raw, unfiltered episode where I confront the reality of parents who choose to abandon their responsibilities toward their children.
The excuses are predictable: income disparity, relationship status, inconvenience. But children weren't asked to be brought into this world, and they deserve parents who step up regardless of circumstances. I explore the troubling phenomenon of adults who prioritize their social lives, personal comfort, and everything else above their own children's wellbeing.
Most disturbing are the lengths some parents go to avoid responsibility—having employers lie about employment status to dodge child support, making promises they never intend to keep, or simply disappearing for months or years at a time. This isn't just about money; it's about the psychological impact on children who grow up wondering why they weren't worth their parent's time, effort, or resources.
Child support gets a bad reputation, often because of misunderstandings about its purpose. I break down why it exists, when it's necessary, and why it shouldn't be seen as punishment but rather as ensuring children's basic needs are met. For parents carrying the entire burden alone, the stress, anxiety, and financial strain create ripple effects that impact everyone involved, especially the children.
What do you think about parents who neglect their responsibilities? Have you witnessed this in your own life? Share your thoughts and experiences, and let's continue this important conversation about what children deserve from the adults who brought them into this world.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
what's up y'all?
It's your girl, dj cornbread,aka the empress.
Y'all already know what it is.
Back with another one ep14motherfuckers that don't want to
take care of their kids and sayI, I don't understand, I don't
understand, I don't understand,I don't understand, I don't
(00:26):
understand, I don't understandwhy people feel like they
shouldn't help take care oftheir kids.
Or it always got something todo with the money situation.
It's always who make the mostmoney, who has the most money.
I don't think what y'all thinkabout that type of shit.
Do y'all feel like if oneparent makes more money than the
(00:53):
other parent, or they bring inmore money than the other parent
, then the opposite parentshouldn't help or do anything?
Because to me, that's somestupid shit.
I mean I don't how y'all feelabout that, because that shit is
really stupid.
To me that's some crazy, that'ssome stupid shit.
I mean I don't well how y'allfeel about that, because that
shit is really stupid to me.
I feel like if you know youhave a child and you have kids,
(01:15):
you know, whatever, whatever,you should be stepping up to
help out, no matter what the dad, the mom, and you know what
they going through.
You never know whether it'sgood, bad, that shit shouldn't
even matter when you have kids.
You're supposed to be takingcare of your kids.
You're supposed to be helpingtake care of your kids.
(01:35):
It's not a point finger.
Well, let me, uh, you, you,this, you chose this, or I chose
this, or I chose this.
We chose this accident, this.
You know it don't matter.
Kids weren't asked to bebrought here, so it's like you
have to take care of your kidsand then, if whoever has the
(02:01):
child they picking up, they'redoing mostly everything.
So do you not?
Why do men or women, vice versa,depending on who doesn't have
the child?
Why do they feel like they'renot obligated to help out or
they only will help out once ortwice a year?
(02:23):
Or some people don't help outat all, they don't do anything
for their kids.
Some people go years and don'thelp and don't do shit for their
kids and I?
I just don't understand why.
How, how can you have a childand feel okay, going day by day,
knowing that you have a seatthat you're not taking care of
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or that you're not even around,or trying to be around or trying
to go pick up or trying tospend time with or anything like
that?
Like, how can people live theirlives knowing that they have a
child and they don't want tohave anything to do with them or
they're not having anything todo with them?
Because some people prioritiesbe really fucked up, like people
make sure they going out toclubs or they make sure they
(03:10):
doing everything, anything elsethey gonna check in and make
sure they be at the next eventon the weekend, but when they
come to their kids it's like, uh, I think about it, uh, if I
feel like it one of these months, one of these years, shit like
that, that shit is just stupid.
(03:32):
That shit don't make no type ofsense at all.
And then what's crazy is thatwhen these people, when you,
when the person, when the mom orthe dad, whoever it is,
whoever's, not doing their jobor taking care of the kid, the
child, when somebody sayssomething about child support or
they put them on child support,then it's an issue.
And then everybody wants to beon some oh not cool type shit or
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mad and pissed off or somethinglike that For people that do go
through that and do that typeof shit.
I mean, I bet you that thesepeople have given these people
chances and chances to try toshow or help out and be there
for their child, and it ain'tjust no.
Oh well, yeah, I just thoughtI'm just gonna do this just to
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be an asshole, even though Iknow it is some women out there
or some men like whateverwhoever, even though I know it
is some women out there or somemen by whatever whoever, like I
said, whoever going through it,who's on the opposite side, I be
just fucking money hungry andthey just feel like I want it
out, oh, everything you knowshit.
So they don't, they don't care.
They might not, you know, andbut to me still, at that point,
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it's not really like a moneyhungry thing.
I feel like it's uh, as long asyou taking care of your child or
helping out I mean, that'smainly what it all boils down to
but a person that's taking careof their kids, and then they
get put on child support, I kindof feel like that's fucked up,
(05:01):
like I feel like, unless theyask to be put on child support,
if a person asks to be put onchild support, then I mean
that's that's one thing, becausethey ask to be put on child
support.
But if, uh, you know, but if aperson is taking her.
They their business.
They come to see their child.
They're picking their child upevery good chance they get, or
what time, or you know this isnext.
They shouldn't.
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I mean I hate when women or youknow men put people the other,
significant other person onchild support when they're doing
their part.
That shit right there is justlike that's fucked up and that's
why a lot of I think that's whychild support is it's like a
bad name.
When people hear like childsupport is just like oh, oh, my
god, because some people arebeing put on child support and
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they are helping and taking careof their kids and helping out
the mom or the dad, you know,and stuff like that.
But for these people thatthey're not, yes, you deserve to
be on it that shit happen.
That shit needs to happen.
If you're not trying to help doshit, especially if it's going
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months and months at a time andyour ass ain't giving a shit, or
trying to call or at least likesend the uh significant other,
any kind of anything to makesure, okay, I'll make sure
you're good for the next twomonths and I ain't gonna fuck
for another two.
But anything like that, like ifyou're gonna do some shit like
that.
Just make sure you're handlingup your business or that person
is handled and good.
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Your family I'm not family, butyour child is good for clothes
for two months or that month,for food, for diapers, pull-ups,
wipes, whatever the fuck needessential other types of stuff,
medicine, all that type of shit.
All that shit is not, you know,comes out of pocket.
That shit is not free and Ithink you know these days people
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just look at it as, oh, it'schild support, this motherfucker
just want my money.
Nah, that's not what it is.
People be wanting you to stepup and take care of your
responsibility or and help out,instead of just worried about
yourself like that.
That shit there is just isdraining to a person that's
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doing everything on their ownand they don't have no help.
And then when you try toconfront someone about it or you
talk to them about it, theykind of like a pat on the back,
type shit, I pray for you.
Type stuff, uh, that's no,ain't no.
I mean, that's okay to pray forsomebody, but no, that person
need help.
Your actions show everything,but soon as somebody else you
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need help, or that you know some.
If somebody comes through aclutch, in a clutch for you.
Oh, it's cool because they comethrough in a clutch for you.
Oh, it's cool because they comethrough in a clutch for you.
Then I don't be understandinghow people be not taking care of
their kids but then be asking asignificant other to buy them
stuff.
I mean how does that shit work?
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You're not taking care of yourresponsibility, but then you ask
the other person that has theresponsibility to buy you
something Like how does thatshit even work?
I mean people.
I mean I don't know.
I don't know if it's, I don'tknow about the world these days.
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I mean back in the day I wastaught and what I was around my,
you know you take care of yourkids.
My dad has always taken care ofhis kids.
When I was younger, he alwaystook care of me, so he's always
going to make sure I'm good.
My mom and they was alwaysgoing to make sure I'm good.
So who?
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I mean?
I don't understand like thiswhole deadbeat dad type shit
like where, who started that,like when, who?
I mean, somebody started thatshit and they felt like, oh,
this, this is some good shit,this, this.
We keep this shit rolling, keepit ball rolling.
So all the deadbeats just feltlike, oh yeah, I'm just gonna
tag along, we're gonna jump onthat bandwagon like who, who,
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who thought of that shit?
Who who said that shit was okay?
Like like that's a new littleclick or some shit.
The deadbeat dad click ordeadbeat mom click, or I ain't
gonna do shit like fuck themkids, literally.
That's kind of how.
That's kind of how I feel.
Like when people, when that shitbe happening, it's kind of like
some old fuck them kids typeshit, because then when you look
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at it you never know if peoplemight be stressing or whatever
they going through, because thatshit can play a big toll on
like anxiety, depression andstuff like that too.
If a person is sitting theredoing everything on their own
and they not get no type of helpfrom the other significant
other, that shit can stress them, stress somebody out too, like
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some people be on the outsidelooking in and they just feel
like, oh well, since I can'tjust literally see or physically
see any hurt, he heard himstressing or this isn't it.
Everything must be a one.
No, that ain't, that's not thethat.
You shouldn't even have thattype of shit in your mind frame.
That shouldn't even be in yourhead.
You should be like always 100,like I don't care what the other
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person is going through, ifit's on level shit like that.
Long as I take care of myresponsibility and I help out
with my child, that's all I'mgonna do, especially if y'all
not together.
But you have motherfuckers thesedays they don't think like that
, they just they just take careof themselves, especially if
they have other kids.
They take care of the kids theywant to take care of and they
basically fuck the others andthat shit is not cool at all and
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that shit is not right.
I don't, yeah, I don'tunderstand.
I don't know who started thatwhole.
Like I said, deadbeat dad, shit, that shit there is not.
That shit there is not cool at.
And then when othermotherfuckers find out what's
going on family members and thisand this and that then you find
out other information and bemad and be wanting all that.
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You can't see this person.
Or you can't see this personnow, it ain't that you don't
want them to see the child oranything like that Shit.
The person that the othersignificant other don't want to
pick the child up or come seethe child or bring the child to
you and some people be trying tomake it like it's the other
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parent and they don't be theother parent a lot of times they
be the parent that don't wantto have anything to do with the
child.
That's why nobody is seeing thechild because of their parents,
their parents decision to nothave that child around other
people or family members andstuff like that, because they
really don't give a fuck, youknow, but they try to play it
like they do.
But then the other people youknow that are family members
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that really want to be on someseeing the child and having
spending time with them, andthis isn't it they don't.
You know, on the outside, likeI'm just I don't know what the
hell going on, I'm justbasically on.
Sometimes they be on some shit.
Like I was told she don't evenwant to see the baby or see the
child, or you don't want her tocome over here.
I want him to come over hereand it don't be none of that
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type of shit.
You talk people, you be findingout all type of shit.
Be like what, what, what?
Who said that?
She said that?
He said that?
No, that ain't what it is atall.
You, just you people, you menand women that they have that
feel like this shit is okay.
You just need to step up to theplate and do what the fuck you
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need to do.
Rather, if you want to be in arelationship with the person or
not, or if you like the personor not, it don't have anything
to do with the woman or the man,the parent, other parent,
whatever, it doesn't haveanything to do.
It's about the child.
So you should just be makingsure you're the child is taking
care of, or for your portion forthat month, or whatever you
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want to do, and then anythingelse that that shit is for the
birds especially.
Like instead of y'all ain'ttrying to push nothing and being
no panel family type issuegoing on or nothing like that,
but these days you can't.
I mean, like I said, it's, it'speople done, got at, put this
shit together like it's fuckingclick, uh, uh.
I mean they feel like that shitis just cool.
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Where in the bible or whereanywhere, what did they say?
That it's okay to not take careof your kids?
Like you know, a hundredpercent score for some shit like
that.
Like I don't understandmotherfuckers crazy out here for
real.
And then people wonder whycertain parents act the way they
act with other parents.
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Because of the way they arewith their kids, they can play a
big part on how other parentstreat other parents.
Because that shit is not cooland it frustrates people and
stresses them out and they feellike you need to be doing way
more than what you're doing.
And that's why, like I said,that's why they tend to go to
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child support and be saying I'mdo this, I'm do that, or people
end up fighting, bad things endup happening, people end up hurt
, all that type of shit.
All because that person, justyou know, should have just
stepped up to the plate and tookcare of their responsibility
and did what they needed to do.
But now people these days, theyjust so fucking selfish and they
just worry about they still andmaking sure they good or they
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just feel like shit, I'm gonnado shit when I want to do shit.
So I choose to go six, seven,eight months and I do shit.
Then I'm.
That's when I'm.
I mean, that's just me, that'show I feel, that's that when I
want to do by one of some things.
And who the fuck?
The total person that a childand is good for six, seven,
eight months a year, two years,three, or whatever you know what
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.
You're not helping out, doinganything.
And some people not even buyingshit, of course are helping or
whatever.
But or, like, damn, you goingto see your child could help out
, even if you're not able to doanything.
If you're a person that don'thave no kind of income or
something like that, you have to, you know, stay with somebody
or anything like that, andyou're not working, then damn,
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just try to show some type oflove and be like, okay, well,
well, since I can't do this, Ican't do that, then I'm, I'm at
least gonna pick my child up,you know, and and give the other
parents some time to they stillto function, to have a day me
time or this, this, and thatpeople ain't like that.
Yeah, people, I mean you, they,they rather you go pay somebody
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to wash them or a daycare orsomething like that, on a day
that you're not, they're notdoing shit, you know, just for
you to have like some me timeand you're the one that has the
parent, I mean, has a childevery day.
Like this shit does not makeany type of fucking sense to me
at all, and that's why I'msaying, if people want to watch
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parents and kids, it's alwaysall these back and forth, back
and forth, with families andkids not liking the dad or
growing up being mad and pissedoff at the dad or pissed off at
the mom or you know, or the youknow, with the parents having
the issues all these years andstressed out because of this
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happening years before.
So then they really don't evenfucking like each other.
It's like a lot of that shitcan be, you know, cut out, like
a lot of this stuff can be fixed.
But, like I said, motherfuckers, they don't be current.
They don't be current aboutshit and nothing, but they damn
soon and nothing but they damnsoon.
And that shit there is not coolat all.
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Some of you men and women thatthink that shit is cool, I mean,
I don't know what the issue iswith that, but y'all really need
to sit down.
That's like another type ofthird position that y'all need
to sit down with somebody andsee.
So y'all can even understandy'all selves why.
I mean, why do you think thisshit is okay for you to not do
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anything for your kids?
Like y'all really need to sitdown and have some type of
therapy session with somebodythat actually does that type of
shit and see so you canunderstand why this shit is not
cool.
Because these people like I,these motherfuckers around here,
they crazy, they doing alltypes of shit and thinking
everything is A1 school, like,no, no, that shit is not cool at
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all.
My boy or my girl, hell, no.
So yeah, y'all, I mean.
So, like I said, how y'all feelabout this child support,
deadbeat dad, deadbeat mom, assshit or whatever for parents
that ain't even don't even takecare of their kids.
You mean man like I'm, I meanthat shit there needs to be
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talked about.
Especially, you know, you gotpeople that's taking care of
other people's kids, men andwomen, like they get into new
relationships and with peopleand they like, damn, he don't
come see his child, she don'tcome see her child, she don't
see her daughter, he don't seehis daughter.
He don't come see his son, shedon't see his son, her son.
Oh, no, damn, they don't come.
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And then, like these men actualgrown men, I'm gonna say or
these grown women, they look atme like, damn, if I had a child,
like I can't see myself.
They're saying stuff like Ihear things, like I can't see
myself going days and days andmonths and months and months and
knowing I have another seed oranother child somewhere and I'm
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not even talking to them or noteven going to see them or not
trying to help out or like thatthat type of fuck shit in their
mind they said that's fuck niggashit.
Like they, that shit is noteven cool to them.
Like they say, like that'sagainst my entire hell.
Now I don't even do no wholeshit like this, like this, that
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that's a, that's a nothing assnigga.
Or a dude that call itself to bea man or a woman, like people
don't be cool with it and thatshould be so embarrassing,
especially when the person knowswho the other parent is and
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they see, know that they're notdoing anything for their child
and they just be sitting therelike damn that dude bad, that's
wrong as fuck.
Or that girl, she wrong as hell.
Like that shit ain't cool.
But in their eyes, that shitcool and that shit is not cool
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at all.
So y'all need to tighten thatshit up and get that shit
together, because that's like Isaid that shit ain't cool, that
shit ain't.
It's for the birds or your assgonna end up on child support,
pissed off, argue with the whiteman and mad because they in
your business, especially thesemotherfuckers, if you're trying
to get away, get out over andact like they not act, like they
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not doing this and they notdoing that or whatever.
Um, oh, I'm not working, Ican't pay no child support or
I'm not working, I can't help.
How the fuck?
What do you?
What do you mean?
Like these motherfuckers, theybe working and they be having
managers lie and say that theynot working so they ain't gotta
help out for their kids.
Who does that whole ass shit?
Like that?
Shit is not cool, that shit isstupid as fuck.
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Like who, literally?
Who goes to work and makesmoney and know they have a child
to take care of and don't wantto take her, a child?
That bad, where they sit thereand have their.
Make sure they find a job wherethey're cool with the managers
or they can keep quitting orthis, this and that, just so
they don't find out if they areon child support, uh, so they
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won't be able to have the help.
And at least I mean, if you'regonna do that shit, because some
people feel like that they taketoo much money from them, if
you feel like they take too muchmoney for you.
First of all you can go tocourt or you can talk to
somebody about that yourattorney or whatever.
And if that shit don't work andyou're doing some whole ass
shit like that or whatever andyou think that that's cool, okay
, do that.
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But if you're doing that andpaying, helping out on your kids
and going to give them themoney directly or keep a like
paper trail of what you'regiving this, this and that and
that and help Some people ain'teven doing that shit.
They not even helping.
Do that.
Like I don't fucking understand.
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That shit is not cool at all.
What part of the game is thatman?
So I mean, I don't know.
Like I said, I'm about to getout of here'all.
Y'all already know what it is.
Dj cornbread aka the empressfor shit show the podcast.
what's up y'all?
It's your girl, dj cornbread,aka the empress.
Y'all already know what it is.
Back with another one ep14motherfuckers that don't want to
take care of their kids and sayI, I don't understand, I don't
understand, I don't understand,I don't understand, I don't
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understand, I don't understandwhy people feel like they
shouldn't help take care oftheir kids.
Or it always got something todo with the money situation.
It's always who make the mostmoney, who has the most money.
I don't think what y'all thinkabout that type of shit.
Do y'all feel like if oneparent makes more money than the
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other parent, or they bring inmore money than the other parent
, then the opposite parentshouldn't help or do anything?
Because to me, that's somestupid shit.
I mean I don't how y'all feelabout that, because that shit is
really stupid.
To me that's some crazy, that'ssome stupid shit.
I mean I don't well how y'allfeel about that, because that
shit is really stupid to me.
I feel like if you know youhave a child and you have kids,
(01:15):
you know, whatever, whatever,you should be stepping up to
help out, no matter what the dad, the mom, and you know what
they going through.
You never know whether it'sgood, bad, that shit shouldn't
even matter when you have kids.
You're supposed to be takingcare of your kids.
You're supposed to be helpingtake care of your kids.
(01:35):
It's not a point finger.
Well, let me, uh, you, you,this, you chose this, or I chose
this, or I chose this.
We chose this accident, this.
You know it don't matter.
Kids weren't asked to bebrought here, so it's like you
have to take care of your kidsand then, if whoever has the
(02:01):
child they picking up, they'redoing mostly everything.
So do you not?
Why do men or women, vice versa,depending on who doesn't have
the child?
Why do they feel like they'renot obligated to help out or
they only will help out once ortwice a year?
(02:23):
Or some people don't help outat all, they don't do anything
for their kids.
Some people go years and don'thelp and don't do shit for their
kids and I?
I just don't understand why.
How, how can you have a childand feel okay, going day by day,
knowing that you have a seatthat you're not taking care of
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or that you're not even around,or trying to be around or trying
to go pick up or trying tospend time with or anything like
that?
Like, how can people live theirlives knowing that they have a
child and they don't want tohave anything to do with them or
they're not having anything todo with them?
Because some people prioritiesbe really fucked up, like people
make sure they going out toclubs or they make sure they
(03:10):
doing everything, anything elsethey gonna check in and make
sure they be at the next eventon the weekend, but when they
come to their kids it's like, uh, I think about it, uh, if I
feel like it one of these months, one of these years, shit like
that, that shit is just stupid.
(03:32):
That shit don't make no type ofsense at all.
And then what's crazy is thatwhen these people, when you,
when the person, when the mom orthe dad, whoever it is,
whoever's, not doing their jobor taking care of the kid, the
child, when somebody sayssomething about child support or
they put them on child support,then it's an issue.
And then everybody wants to beon some oh not cool type shit or
(03:56):
mad and pissed off or somethinglike that For people that do go
through that and do that typeof shit.
I mean, I bet you that thesepeople have given these people
chances and chances to try toshow or help out and be there
for their child, and it ain'tjust no.
Oh well, yeah, I just thoughtI'm just gonna do this just to
(04:19):
be an asshole, even though Iknow it is some women out there
or some men like whateverwhoever, even though I know it
is some women out there or somemen by whatever whoever, like I
said, whoever going through it,who's on the opposite side, I be
just fucking money hungry andthey just feel like I want it
out, oh, everything you knowshit.
So they don't, they don't care.
They might not, you know, andbut to me still, at that point,
(04:40):
it's not really like a moneyhungry thing.
I feel like it's uh, as long asyou taking care of your child or
helping out I mean, that'smainly what it all boils down to
but a person that's taking careof their kids, and then they
get put on child support, I kindof feel like that's fucked up,
(05:01):
like I feel like, unless theyask to be put on child support,
if a person asks to be put onchild support, then I mean
that's that's one thing, becausethey ask to be put on child
support.
But if, uh, you know, but if aperson is taking her.
They their business.
They come to see their child.
They're picking their child upevery good chance they get, or
what time, or you know this isnext.
They shouldn't.
(05:23):
I mean I hate when women or youknow men put people the other,
significant other person onchild support when they're doing
their part.
That shit right there is justlike that's fucked up and that's
why a lot of I think that's whychild support is it's like a
bad name.
When people hear like childsupport is just like oh, oh, my
god, because some people arebeing put on child support and
(05:46):
they are helping and taking careof their kids and helping out
the mom or the dad, you know,and stuff like that.
But for these people thatthey're not, yes, you deserve to
be on it that shit happen.
That shit needs to happen.
If you're not trying to help doshit, especially if it's going
(06:06):
months and months at a time andyour ass ain't giving a shit, or
trying to call or at least likesend the uh significant other,
any kind of anything to makesure, okay, I'll make sure
you're good for the next twomonths and I ain't gonna fuck
for another two.
But anything like that, like ifyou're gonna do some shit like
that.
Just make sure you're handlingup your business or that person
is handled and good.
(06:27):
Your family I'm not family, butyour child is good for clothes
for two months or that month,for food, for diapers, pull-ups,
wipes, whatever the fuck needessential other types of stuff,
medicine, all that type of shit.
All that shit is not, you know,comes out of pocket.
That shit is not free and Ithink you know these days people
(06:51):
just look at it as, oh, it'schild support, this motherfucker
just want my money.
Nah, that's not what it is.
People be wanting you to stepup and take care of your
responsibility or and help out,instead of just worried about
yourself like that.
That shit there is just isdraining to a person that's
(07:13):
doing everything on their ownand they don't have no help.
And then when you try toconfront someone about it or you
talk to them about it, theykind of like a pat on the back,
type shit, I pray for you.
Type stuff, uh, that's no,ain't no.
I mean, that's okay to pray forsomebody, but no, that person
need help.
Your actions show everything,but soon as somebody else you
(07:36):
need help, or that you know some.
If somebody comes through aclutch, in a clutch for you.
Oh, it's cool because they comethrough in a clutch for you.
Oh, it's cool because they comethrough in a clutch for you.
Then I don't be understandinghow people be not taking care of
their kids but then be asking asignificant other to buy them
stuff.
I mean how does that shit work?
(07:58):
You're not taking care of yourresponsibility, but then you ask
the other person that has theresponsibility to buy you
something Like how does thatshit even work?
I mean people.
I mean I don't know.
I don't know if it's, I don'tknow about the world these days.
(08:19):
I mean back in the day I wastaught and what I was around my,
you know you take care of yourkids.
My dad has always taken care ofhis kids.
When I was younger, he alwaystook care of me, so he's always
going to make sure I'm good.
My mom and they was alwaysgoing to make sure I'm good.
So who?
(08:41):
I mean?
I don't understand like thiswhole deadbeat dad type shit
like where, who started that,like when, who?
I mean, somebody started thatshit and they felt like, oh,
this, this is some good shit,this, this.
We keep this shit rolling, keepit ball rolling.
So all the deadbeats just feltlike, oh yeah, I'm just gonna
tag along, we're gonna jump onthat bandwagon like who, who,
(09:04):
who thought of that shit?
Who who said that shit was okay?
Like like that's a new littleclick or some shit.
The deadbeat dad click ordeadbeat mom click, or I ain't
gonna do shit like fuck themkids, literally.
That's kind of how.
That's kind of how I feel.
Like when people, when that shitbe happening, it's kind of like
some old fuck them kids typeshit, because then when you look
(09:27):
at it you never know if peoplemight be stressing or whatever
they going through, because thatshit can play a big toll on
like anxiety, depression andstuff like that too.
If a person is sitting theredoing everything on their own
and they not get no type of helpfrom the other significant
other, that shit can stress them, stress somebody out too, like
(09:47):
some people be on the outsidelooking in and they just feel
like, oh well, since I can'tjust literally see or physically
see any hurt, he heard himstressing or this isn't it.
Everything must be a one.
No, that ain't, that's not thethat.
You shouldn't even have thattype of shit in your mind frame.
That shouldn't even be in yourhead.
You should be like always 100,like I don't care what the other
(10:09):
person is going through, ifit's on level shit like that.
Long as I take care of myresponsibility and I help out
with my child, that's all I'mgonna do, especially if y'all
not together.
But you have motherfuckers thesedays they don't think like that
, they just they just take careof themselves, especially if
they have other kids.
They take care of the kids theywant to take care of and they
basically fuck the others andthat shit is not cool at all and
(10:32):
that shit is not right.
I don't, yeah, I don'tunderstand.
I don't know who started thatwhole.
Like I said, deadbeat dad, shit, that shit there is not.
That shit there is not cool at.
And then when othermotherfuckers find out what's
going on family members and thisand this and that then you find
out other information and bemad and be wanting all that.
(10:55):
You can't see this person.
Or you can't see this personnow, it ain't that you don't
want them to see the child oranything like that Shit.
The person that the othersignificant other don't want to
pick the child up or come seethe child or bring the child to
you and some people be trying tomake it like it's the other
(11:15):
parent and they don't be theother parent a lot of times they
be the parent that don't wantto have anything to do with the
child.
That's why nobody is seeing thechild because of their parents,
their parents decision to nothave that child around other
people or family members andstuff like that, because they
really don't give a fuck, youknow, but they try to play it
like they do.
But then the other people youknow that are family members
(11:40):
that really want to be on someseeing the child and having
spending time with them, andthis isn't it they don't.
You know, on the outside, likeI'm just I don't know what the
hell going on, I'm justbasically on.
Sometimes they be on some shit.
Like I was told she don't evenwant to see the baby or see the
child, or you don't want her tocome over here.
I want him to come over hereand it don't be none of that
(12:01):
type of shit.
You talk people, you be findingout all type of shit.
Be like what, what, what?
Who said that?
She said that?
He said that?
No, that ain't what it is atall.
You, just you people, you menand women that they have that
feel like this shit is okay.
You just need to step up to theplate and do what the fuck you
(12:24):
need to do.
Rather, if you want to be in arelationship with the person or
not, or if you like the personor not, it don't have anything
to do with the woman or the man,the parent, other parent,
whatever, it doesn't haveanything to do.
It's about the child.
So you should just be makingsure you're the child is taking
care of, or for your portion forthat month, or whatever you
(12:46):
want to do, and then anythingelse that that shit is for the
birds especially.
Like instead of y'all ain'ttrying to push nothing and being
no panel family type issuegoing on or nothing like that,
but these days you can't.
I mean, like I said, it's, it'speople done, got at, put this
shit together like it's fuckingclick, uh, uh.
I mean they feel like that shitis just cool.
(13:08):
Where in the bible or whereanywhere, what did they say?
That it's okay to not take careof your kids?
Like you know, a hundredpercent score for some shit like
that.
Like I don't understandmotherfuckers crazy out here for
real.
And then people wonder whycertain parents act the way they
act with other parents.
(13:29):
Because of the way they arewith their kids, they can play a
big part on how other parentstreat other parents.
Because that shit is not cooland it frustrates people and
stresses them out and they feellike you need to be doing way
more than what you're doing.
And that's why, like I said,that's why they tend to go to
(13:53):
child support and be saying I'mdo this, I'm do that, or people
end up fighting, bad things endup happening, people end up hurt
, all that type of shit.
All because that person, justyou know, should have just
stepped up to the plate and tookcare of their responsibility
and did what they needed to do.
But now people these days, theyjust so fucking selfish and they
just worry about they still andmaking sure they good or they
(14:14):
just feel like shit, I'm gonnado shit when I want to do shit.
So I choose to go six, seven,eight months and I do shit.
Then I'm.
That's when I'm.
I mean, that's just me, that'show I feel, that's that when I
want to do by one of some things.
And who the fuck?
The total person that a childand is good for six, seven,
eight months a year, two years,three, or whatever you know what
(14:37):
.
You're not helping out, doinganything.
And some people not even buyingshit, of course are helping or
whatever.
But or, like, damn, you goingto see your child could help out
, even if you're not able to doanything.
If you're a person that don'thave no kind of income or
something like that, you have to, you know, stay with somebody
or anything like that, andyou're not working, then damn,
(15:01):
just try to show some type oflove and be like, okay, well,
well, since I can't do this, Ican't do that, then I'm, I'm at
least gonna pick my child up,you know, and and give the other
parents some time to they stillto function, to have a day me
time or this, this, and thatpeople ain't like that.
Yeah, people, I mean you, they,they rather you go pay somebody
(15:24):
to wash them or a daycare orsomething like that, on a day
that you're not, they're notdoing shit, you know, just for
you to have like some me timeand you're the one that has the
parent, I mean, has a childevery day.
Like this shit does not makeany type of fucking sense to me
at all, and that's why I'msaying, if people want to watch
(15:48):
parents and kids, it's alwaysall these back and forth, back
and forth, with families andkids not liking the dad or
growing up being mad and pissedoff at the dad or pissed off at
the mom or you know, or the youknow, with the parents having
the issues all these years andstressed out because of this
(16:10):
happening years before.
So then they really don't evenfucking like each other.
It's like a lot of that shitcan be, you know, cut out, like
a lot of this stuff can be fixed.
But, like I said, motherfuckers, they don't be current.
They don't be current aboutshit and nothing, but they damn
soon and nothing but they damnsoon.
And that shit there is not coolat all.
(16:34):
Some of you men and women thatthink that shit is cool, I mean,
I don't know what the issue iswith that, but y'all really need
to sit down.
That's like another type ofthird position that y'all need
to sit down with somebody andsee.
So y'all can even understandy'all selves why.
I mean, why do you think thisshit is okay for you to not do
(16:57):
anything for your kids?
Like y'all really need to sitdown and have some type of
therapy session with somebodythat actually does that type of
shit and see so you canunderstand why this shit is not
cool.
Because these people like I,these motherfuckers around here,
they crazy, they doing alltypes of shit and thinking
everything is A1 school, like,no, no, that shit is not cool at
(17:22):
all.
My boy or my girl, hell, no.
So yeah, y'all, I mean.
So, like I said, how y'all feelabout this child support,
deadbeat dad, deadbeat mom, assshit or whatever for parents
that ain't even don't even takecare of their kids.
You mean man like I'm, I meanthat shit there needs to be
(17:42):
talked about.
Especially, you know, you gotpeople that's taking care of
other people's kids, men andwomen, like they get into new
relationships and with peopleand they like, damn, he don't
come see his child, she don'tcome see her child, she don't
see her daughter, he don't seehis daughter.
He don't come see his son, shedon't see his son, her son.
Oh, no, damn, they don't come.
(18:04):
And then, like these men actualgrown men, I'm gonna say or
these grown women, they look atme like, damn, if I had a child,
like I can't see myself.
They're saying stuff like Ihear things, like I can't see
myself going days and days andmonths and months and months and
knowing I have another seed oranother child somewhere and I'm
(18:26):
not even talking to them or noteven going to see them or not
trying to help out or like thatthat type of fuck shit in their
mind they said that's fuck niggashit.
Like they, that shit is noteven cool to them.
Like they say, like that'sagainst my entire hell.
Now I don't even do no wholeshit like this, like this, that
(18:46):
that's a, that's a nothing assnigga.
Or a dude that call itself to bea man or a woman, like people
don't be cool with it and thatshould be so embarrassing,
especially when the person knowswho the other parent is and
(19:07):
they see, know that they're notdoing anything for their child
and they just be sitting therelike damn that dude bad, that's
wrong as fuck.
Or that girl, she wrong as hell.
Like that shit ain't cool.
But in their eyes, that shitcool and that shit is not cool
(19:29):
at all.
So y'all need to tighten thatshit up and get that shit
together, because that's like Isaid that shit ain't cool, that
shit ain't.
It's for the birds or your assgonna end up on child support,
pissed off, argue with the whiteman and mad because they in
your business, especially thesemotherfuckers, if you're trying
to get away, get out over andact like they not act, like they
(19:53):
not doing this and they notdoing that or whatever.
Um, oh, I'm not working, Ican't pay no child support or
I'm not working, I can't help.
How the fuck?
What do you?
What do you mean?
Like these motherfuckers, theybe working and they be having
managers lie and say that theynot working so they ain't gotta
help out for their kids.
Who does that whole ass shit?
Like that?
Shit is not cool, that shit isstupid as fuck.
(20:15):
Like who, literally?
Who goes to work and makesmoney and know they have a child
to take care of and don't wantto take her, a child?
That bad, where they sit thereand have their.
Make sure they find a job wherethey're cool with the managers
or they can keep quitting orthis, this and that, just so
they don't find out if they areon child support, uh, so they
(20:39):
won't be able to have the help.
And at least I mean, if you'regonna do that shit, because some
people feel like that they taketoo much money from them, if
you feel like they take too muchmoney for you.
First of all you can go tocourt or you can talk to
somebody about that yourattorney or whatever.
And if that shit don't work andyou're doing some whole ass
shit like that or whatever andyou think that that's cool, okay
, do that.
(21:00):
But if you're doing that andpaying, helping out on your kids
and going to give them themoney directly or keep a like
paper trail of what you'regiving this, this and that and
that and help Some people ain'teven doing that shit.
They not even helping.
Do that.
Like I don't fucking understand.
(21:20):
That shit is not cool at all.
What part of the game is thatman?
So I mean, I don't know.
Like I said, I'm about to getout of here'all.
Y'all already know what it is.
Dj cornbread aka the empressfor shit show the podcast.
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