February 25, 2025 • 27 mins
Are you often left wondering why certain individuals feel the need to disrupt your peace? In this episode, we delve into the intricate dynamics of relationships that lead to emotional chaos and stress. From friends who intrude upon our tranquility to acquaintances who fail to respect our emotional boundaries, we uncover the common patterns that disturb our inner harmony.
Our conversation reflects on the motivations behind such disruptions, emphasizing that often, the intruder’s insecurities drive their actions. We also share personal stories that resonate with the listeners, allowing for a collective understanding of how interruptions can create emotional turmoil. The discussion encourages listeners to consider their own experiences and think critically about their relationship habits.
The value in identifying these toxic patterns cannot be overstated. This episode is packed with insights on how to recognize and mitigate the impact of external disturbances in your life. We recommend that listeners cultivate self-awareness, nurture their inner peace, and set firm boundaries to protect their mental health.
Join us as we probe these essential topics, and be empowered to take charge of your emotional well-being. Share your thoughts with us, engage in the conversation, and remember: protecting your peace may be the most vital step you take this year. Don’t forget to subscribe, share, and leave a review!
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DJ KORNBRED (00:02):
what's up?
Y'all?
It's your girl, Dj kornbredaka the empress for shit show,
the podcast.
Oh my god, welcome to the show.
It has been, uh oh, it has beenon my mind like really, really
strong, and I just wanted tocome in on this episode on some
(00:22):
like disturbing the peace.
This episode is going to becalled disturbing the peace
because I feel like if you'redoing any and everything and
you're on your toes, everythingis in your mind, going perfect,
you don't have any kind ofissues with anything.
(00:43):
Why do people feel like theyhave to come in and disturb your
peace?
So I like I mean, I don'tunderstand it.
Especially like with it can berelationships, it can be friends
, it can be anything to thataspect and I feel like even
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family.
If I'm having no problemswhatsoever, everything is good.
I feel like I, you know I'm ina great space, spiritually,
mentally, emotionally, you know,and you have somebody come and
they're just you know, they justmess up.
(01:24):
They just disturb your peace,like like ludicrous, like DTP
shout out to Luda um, it's justlike disturbing the peace.
Why must you come in anddisturb my peace?
Like don't leave me be, leaveme be.
Like I don't understand.
(01:46):
I don't understand it.
Please, please, leave me be.
It's like people these days youcome around for you know the
reason that you want to comearound for and I mean, I just
don't understand it.
So, like, if you know you don'twant to be around a person or
be in their space, honestly, butyou come around when you want
(02:09):
to or just to.
You know, make sure you letthis person know.
You know you there or you just,oh yeah, I'm around and this,
this and that, but you reallyknow you don't want to be there.
It's kind of a big thing for me, like I don't, I don't want to
be there.
It's kind of a big thing for me, like I don't.
I don't understand why certainpeople do certain things.
Then, as far as when it goes,as far as friends, like friends
(02:35):
that come around and disturbyour peace, if you know that you
are a person that you reallydon't want to be around somebody
, or you, low-key, do, or andyou know they're not really
doing what you want them to do,or I don't know, it can be
anything like stay away from,stay the fuck away from, leave
them alone.
Do you stay on your own?
(02:57):
You know ten toes down on yourown shit.
You got going on.
Let these people do what theywant to do, just like me too.
Let me be me.
Let me do what I want to do.
Don't come fucking with me.
Don't come fucking with myspace, my earth.
I want to breathe, all it is.
I just don't come messing withme, don't come doing nothing.
(03:20):
I just don't understand peoplethese days.
It's like people can say whatthey want to say and I just
don't understand people.
These days, people can say whatthey want to say and they do
what they want to do, but thenthey make sure that they do what
they want to do in their shit.
Then, when it comes time, theycome to you fucking with your
shit, disturbing your peace.
It's like leave me alone, leaveme alone, stay where you at.
(03:44):
Stay over there, little baby.
Like honestly, stay over there.
Like I just I really don'tunderstand it.
But yeah, this, this is like.
I have been thinking about thislike all week and I don't
understand why people you knowthey don't, they don't just stay
(04:05):
in their space why do you?
Why must you go disturbsomebody else's peace On top of
just like, even if you're likein a relationship or you're not
in a relationship or I don'tknow what these guys and girls
call themselves doing these days.
They can be talking to somebodyand then turn around and just
act like they doing some otherstuff.
Oh yeah, I'm not in arelationship or I'm not doing
(04:26):
this, this, and that it'scomplicated.
It's complicated.
No, no, it's not complicated,it's not complicated.
You, over there, where you'reat, and what's happening?
It's not going how you want itto go.
So since it's not going how youwant it to go over there, then
you want to go somewhere elseand try to talk to somebody else
or mess with them mess withthis woman, this man, whatever
(04:47):
the case may be and you want tointerrupt their peace and start
disturbing them.
Why do that?
Why do people do that like?
Why?
Why do y'all do that?
Why do people do that?
I don't understand it.
I don't understand it.
Like, let people stay in theirown space, especially if you're
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not ready to be in that person'sspace.
If you know you're not ready,don't act like you're ready.
Don't lie and act like you wantto be in that person's space,
knowing you don't want tohappens.
A lot of bad things happen whenpeople come around, or a person
comes around and they know thatthey're in a relationship with
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somebody or how they feelthemselves talking to somebody
and it actually does not go howthey want it to go.
So then they come trying tohurt somebody else it to go.
So then they come trying tohurt somebody else or do other
things to somebody else to thepoint where they'll try to use a
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person Like I've had someonecome around me and act like they
wanted to be with me, just touse me to get to where they
wanted to be in their career,get to where they want it to be
in their career.
But when it gets to the pointwhere you're dealing with abuse
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and mind manipulation and othertypes of things, it's just like
it's.
It goes to a totally differentlevel.
It's a totally different level,like you.
That's when it comes when policeare involved and it gets really
, really serious, to the pointyou like I don't even know what
to do anymore Like should I hurtthis person?
(06:32):
Should I do this to this person?
Should I go?
You know it's just a big, it'sa big issue, it's a big thing.
And this person the whole timethey came over here disturbing
your peace, when they could havestayed where they were at and
kept doing what they were doing,like they could have stayed
with the person they were with,and it put them through hell.
If that's what they decide todo, that's they wanted to do,
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let's put them through hell.
Let them put them through hell.
Stay over there and do what yougonna do.
Don't come over here.
You know, doing all that extraand having this, having me or
anybody, having a person, allriled up and stressed out
because you have what you going,you have what you have going on
over there and you know whatI'm not even going to say it's
(07:16):
bad.
It could be good.
You could have some good things, people will have some good
things and great things going onon one side, but then they'll
go mess up another home, a happyfamily, you know, you know side
, and you're just like, oh mygoodness, like you could have
stayed where you was at.
Why come over here messing withme and dramatizing this, having
(07:39):
all this stuff going on overhere?
You could have stayed where youwere at, and that that's really
, really stressful, because somepeople don't deserve a lot of
people don't deserve that.
Some people don't deserve thatLike.
And then you have other peoplethat will be.
They will be on the outsidelooking in, not even knowing
exactly what's going on andwhat's happening, but they'll be
on the outside looking in andjust look at it like, okay, well
(08:01):
, you shouldn't have beenmessing with this person or you
shouldn't have been talking tothis person, not knowing that
before you got in this situation, you was told something totally
different, totally differentpeople will finesse you.
People will finesse you andmake you feel and think you're
the only one they're talking to,you're the only one they're
trying to come at, or this, this, and that you are single.
(08:24):
You not with your baby mama,you not with your baby dad,
anything they can just be justtrying to.
Oh, I ain't got this, this neckgoing on, and that goes for
women and men.
I don't have this going on.
I'm not dealing with her, uh,I'm just.
I'm there for the kids.
You know that's what a lot ofpeople like to say.
A lot of men like to say that, alot of women, however you want
to put it, I'm just there forthe kids.
We only uh talking because thekids I'm not.
(08:46):
You know, we ain't together oranything like that.
It's, it's all about the kids.
I'm only there for the kids.
I just don't that.
That's not.
Um, no, I don't believe it.
I don't believe it.
Miss me with that, miss me withthat, and I will continue to say
miss me with that, because nowthere ain't no truth in it.
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Like you have a person all overthere, sad and they not know,
knowing what to do, what they'vegotten themselves into.
And you're sitting here justlike, oh, my God, I found this
man, he just loved me, he justyou know, he's this, he's that.
Or you saying that you foundthis woman, she's in love with
(09:27):
you and she doesn't haveanything going on.
She 100% for you, you 100% forher, but the whole time not
knowing this person got a wholenother life or relationship on
the back end that they're noteven telling you about.
And you sitting here thinkinglike everything is just peaches
and cream and this person isonly for you and this person
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ain't even just for you, baby,this person is for everybody.
But then what kills me is thatthey will sit there and let you
do any and everything for them,looking like a fool, knowing
that they're not going to getthe same thing in return and
(10:14):
they don't care.
And they could care less ifthey were going to get the same
thing in return and I mean it'sjust a big.
That's just a big, big issue tome.
I don't, like I said it's, it's, it's scary and it's it hurts.
You know a lot of people.
Because you don't know.
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You know a lot of people.
You don't know what people havebeen through.
You don't know what they havebeen through.
You don't know what they are.
You know they're stressed about.
You don't know.
You know what people have toldthem and promised them, because
there's a lot of women that arein relationships because they
can't get out or they can't movearound.
You never know what people havegoing on to the point where
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they want to move around, butthey're stuck in that space
because of because of a reason.
And some of the men that are inthat situation, they will sit
there and finesse everythingabout it, whether it's a baby
mama or a friend, or agirlfriend, or someone they call
themselves, you know talking toor whatever.
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They'll finesse the wholesituation to be using that
person and it can be a singlemom, it can be anything.
It just why disrupt, you know,someone's peace, knowing that
you're going to.
You're just going to mess it up, you're going to just stress
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them out.
You're going to damage theirmental you know, thinking and
ability to be able to functiondaily.
Cause I mean, y'all people needto understand when you have a
conversation with someone, itgoes a long way.
When you're in a relationshipwith someone, it goes a long way
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.
So, rather, if you're in arelationship with someone for a
week, two months, two years, 10years, the little time that you
guys spent together or that youwere around each other, it goes
a long way.
I don't care what happens intheir lifetime.
When they do meet you, a personmight say, oh yeah, been there,
done that, met him, met her,talked to you know, there was
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nothing, don't you worry aboutit, that was trash or that was
garbage.
They can say that all day, butbest believe, one time in your
life a conversation is going tocome up or something.
Somebody is going to talk aboutsomething and it's going to
make you go back and think aboutthat person.
I don't care what it is Like Isaid, you can have known that
person and had a conversationwith them one or two times and
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you might not remember thatperson like on a hundred percent
level, but you, you're gonnaremember something out of that
conversation and if you don'tremember that conversation,
you're gonna remember somethingout for that person, the way
that person looked there, andremind you of something else, to
the point where, like I saidlater on, in the long run it's
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it will come back and you will.
You'll be thinking about it orthinking about the conversation
or, whatever the case may be,what was going on in that
situation.
But, like I'm saying, like the,I don't understand why people
they come mess with your peace,like leave people alone, let
them be where they're at, letthem deal with what they're
dealing with.
If you know you have nointentions of being with
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somebody, or you know trying tobe with them or trying to make
something work or even be intheir life period, and it's only
just like, oh, I just want tomake sure I'm still secure, type
thing.
No, don't do that.
Don't, don't do that.
Don't go disturbing a person'speace just to try to see if
you're still secure.
No, like it's okay to speak.
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And gone about your when itcomes to like other things.
You know you're not 100 percentin it for that and you're you
know that that's not somethingthat you want.
So I just feel like peopleshould not go.
You know, messing with otherpeople's peace and disturbing
them when they know that's notwhere their heart is peace and
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disturbing them when they knowthat's not where their heart is
and just causing like chaos.
You're causing all thisdisruptions and this energy,
this negative energy, especially, like I said, when you go and
you're not thinking about beingwith these people and it's just
like I don't understand it.
Like leave them alone.
Stop taking people, people on aride.
That's what I got to.
Don't ride me alone.
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What they used to say don'tstring me alone that's the old
folks used to say.
Don't string me alone, please,don't string me alone.
Leave me be.
That's why, at this point intime, I always say I'm like, I
don't want nobody to like me.
Don't like me, don't like me,don't love me, don't say I'm
cute.
None of that, I don't care whatit is.
Don't do, none of that, don't,mm-mm, I don't want none of that
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shit to rub off on me and rubme the wrong way.
Just leave me, be and where I'mat.
You see what I'm saying.
Leave me, because these days Imean people don't.
They don't know what's going on, they don't know what they want
to do.
They just want to come, mess upyour life, mess up your life
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and just I'm saying like thisit's just, yeah, it's.
I don't understand, I don'tunderstand people, I don't
understand people.
But another thing I have.
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I mean I wanted to say why docertain people, when they get in
relationships, they get in themknowing that's not where they
want to be?
You know that's not where youwant to be.
You know you don't want to haveanything to do with that
situation right now, or I knowany.
You know, whatever the case maybe, but you go poking around
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trying to make something happenor trying to do something, but
you know that's not really whereyou want to be.
Like I just don't understand it.
Like you know you don't want tobe there.
You know you don't want to bethere, but you go.
You go making noise.
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You go making noise and doingall types of stuff, like I don't
know.
That to me is just like a wholebig, another big ordeal.
Like don't do that.
And men, I always have had aquestion.
I just don't understand why mendo that all the time.
Men, they just you know youdon't want to be with a female,
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but you go disturbing her pieceand messing with her and trying
to talk to her and just act likeyou want that.
You want that, but you know youdon't want that.
That's not what it is.
Why do they do that?
And why can't a woman make acertain amount than a man, to
the point where he feels like hedoes not have to be obligated
to do anything in a relationship?
Where does that come in?
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I don't understand nothingabout that.
Like who, who made that shit up?
Who said that shit was what,what was up?
And who said that shit wasaccurate?
What happened to the 50, 50 oryou got some men.
They shit 70, 20, I mean 70, 30and stuff like that.
But like ain't no, 50, 50, nomore.
These days it's like guys belooking for women to get in
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relationship with, where, oh, itgotta be 100, zero like.
Or it could be 90, 10 and 10 ofthat is me acting like I love
you just so I can get that other90 percent.
Like no, who does that shit?
Who told people that shit wasokay?
Like no, that shit is not okay.
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Like who?
Who said that?
I just don't understand why.
I mean who who thinks likeyou're supposed to sit there,
sit back, okay, you want me tocome home, be here, you want me
to cook clean, make sure thekids is okay and and work too,
and you go to work too, and thenyou want me to do 90, and then
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10 is you come and give me sexor something like that.
Or you coming home and just,you know, eat it.
I mean, what are you giving me?
Because majority of the time, alot of men don't like to give
conversation, relationshipsperiod.
You have to make sure you, withsomebody that loves to talk and
that's going to stand on whatthey say, they're going to stand
on and not just talk just to betalking.
So like if you tell me okay,well, I'm going to make sure I
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do better.
When we have a conversation andsomething is going on and we
are having an argument or adisagreement, it should not be a
oh so, and so this is net.
Wow, yeah, I'm, I'm not wrong,but you right, you right, you
right, you always right.
No, that's not what a person issaying.
It's not that I'm always right,it's that I want you to
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understand the conversation.
I understand what I'm sayingand we're both going to
acknowledge if we were wrong orright or however we felt, and
then we're going to come to anagreement and fix the situation.
It's not always an argument oralways saying that this person
is right and this person iswrong.
Nobody's saying that.
Just say, okay, you know what,I was wrong, I was wrong, I was
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right and you know, I understand, you know this and that, but
don't, I don't know, just don't.
It's always when you're in arelationship, you can't be
pointing fingers.
Don't point fingers.
That's so old, back in the day,kid, kiddie, shit.
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No, because I stopped talking toyou because you did this, or I
didn't respond because you didthis or I did that.
I don't really got over that.
I mean I'm, you did this.
So I just said I don't reallygot over that.
I mean I'm not gonna say I'mnot petty.
I ain't gonna say I used to bepetty, but um, but I, you know,
say I was like you said, likelike I would sit there and I'm
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just like okay, well, okay,that's that's what we doing.
That's what we doing.
Okay, well, no calls for me orno, nothing for me, or it's just
like you know, I'm just overhere.
Okay, forget about it, it iswhat it is mute block, you know
something like that, somethingto that extent where it's like
nothing is going on.
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Nothing is going on.
Don't call me, don't text.
You see me in the street, don'tspeak to me.
You know I was on stuff likethat.
But once you get older, it's,like you realize I mean
especially spiritually, likewhen you get connected with God
and you have.
So you know it's so much thathe has for you that he's worse.
Especially he's working on youbecause he's working on me still
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, and it's like you just havehave to understand, like you
know, what Life is too shortthese days.
It's like so much going on,there's so much going on in the
world.
So it's like at this point intime in my life I don't even
have time to sit in, stress andargue with a significant other
or argue with a partner orwhatever you want to call it.
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Who has time for it?
There's so much going on.
People we have kids.
I mean, even if you don't havekids, there's just a lot going
on to the point where nobody hastime to just sit here and worry
about arguing and stressing and, you know, trying to see who
can have the most women and whocan have the most men and who
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talking to this girl and who'stalking to this man and I mean
who nobody has time to do that,like that is so stressful.
Even cheating and stuff likethat, like who wants to do that?
Who still cheats that shit isso boring.
Who still cheats?
Like I don't, I really don'tunderstand it.
Who sits there and just like,okay, it's time to cheat, yes,
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it's just like, it's just a lot.
I mean I don't understand man,it's a lot.
It's just a lot.
I mean I don't understand man,it's a lot.
I just wish that people wouldjust take what they have and
just enjoy life and theirsignificant others and people
and just try to understand, like, where people are coming from.
Sometimes you have to just sitand listen and I had to learn
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that sometimes you know it's.
I mean I do want people to hearme and you do want people to
hear what you have to say.
But you also have to sit thereand listen to others and see
what you know where they, wheretheir mind is, like what, what
are they thinking about?
Because some people they won't,some people won't listen.
You know they.
They just want you to hear themand think everything they're
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saying is right and it is justyour way, or the highway, as
they used to say back in the day, it's my way, or the highway.
You know what I'm saying, it'smy way.
But, um, yeah, it's not.
I mean, yeah, you have to justlisten, listen to people and
just make sure you're in a spacewhere everything you you know
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everything is is okay, just praywhen you need to pray.
I'm not even going to say whenyou need to pray.
You need to be praying everyday and I mean I know sometimes
I don't pray every day, but yeah, you need to just make sure
you're.
You're in a space.
If you know you're not readyfor something like that or ready
to be in somebody's space, justdon't don't go disturbing their
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peace, like, let them, let themdo what they need to do, let
them be where they're, you know,be where they're at and just
you know, leave them.
Leave them, be like, leave themthere, let them, don't do
nothing extra.
A lot of people sometimes thatstuff stresses them out when
people try to come, be aroundand you might, you never know
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what that person is goingthrough or what.
You know what, what they wantat that time, or what they had
just been through or gonethrough, and then you turn
around and try to talk to themor act like you want to be
around them and they're thinking, oh okay, I finally found this
person and they really areshowing me that they're for me
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or that they want to be aroundme.
And then you go do some weirdstuff, knowing good and well
your intentions are bad in thefirst place, or your intentions
might not be bad, but you aren'ttrying to be around them for
the reason that they thought youwere trying to be around them
and that there itself, you know,scares people like it, scares
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people to the point where itsometimes it makes people not
even want to be around otherpeople.
And I mean, that's why somepeople, you just have to stay,
stay to yourself and just knowlike, if you're not ready to be
be around anyone, just stay inyour own space, stay in your own
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space and leave them.
Leave them where they're at andjust let them be them.
Like you can love a person froma distance, you can love a
person from a distance, you canbe around a person, just you
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know, just love them from, froma distance, and just make sure
you don't disturb their peace.
We're gonna have some call-insnext time, um, and I just want
to want to know where y'all siton the situation, where y'all.
Where do you guys think youknow?
What do you think about thewhole disturbing the peace thing
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?
Do you think it's okay forpeople to disturb your peace?
Or you feel like, no, maybe godthey send people around you,
you know, to disturb your peacefor a certain reason, which
sometimes that might be true godwill send people around you or
send storms there, or sendaround you to destroy certain
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things, because he might feellike that you're doing too much
or you're in an area that youdon't need to be in, or you're
trying to take people with youthat don't need to be with you.
So certain stuff like that willhappen and sometimes your peace
will get disturbed.
But I just honestly feel like,if you honestly know that that's
something that you don't wantto do, and you know that you're
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going to disturb somebody'speace, and you're intentionally
doing it and it's not for a goodreason, and I just feel like
you just need to stay whereyou're at.
So that's my take on the wholesituation.
I just feel like, stay in yourspace because, believe me, I'm
going to stay in mine.
I'm not going to come over tomess with you and doing anything
If I know that I'm not in theright mindset to be dating or
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right minds to be having friends.
I don't have my share of liarswhen it comes to friends and
liars when it comes torelationships and it's like at
this point in time they donemade it hard for any and
everybody and that's hard andthat's messed up to say because
you might have somebody thatcomes around and they really are
on that type of level, they ownthat, like they really might be
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a good person and, you know,really want some some real stuff
or whatever, but from thepeople that have been around you
or the baby daddies, the babymamas and anything like that you
know or fake friends and people, friends that have tried to use
you or set you up and thingslike that it make you not even
want to have any friends andmake you not want to have any
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relationships.
It make you not want to haveany associates or any of that.
So when all this stuff starthappening, it's like you don't
even know.
Disturbing a piece just to bedisturbing the peace.
Stay where you at and leavepeople alone.
That's all I'm going to saystay where you at and leave
people alone.
No more dtp in.
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That's what we should have got.
Dtp it no more disturbing thepeace.
That's what we should havecalled it.
Dtp it no more disturbing thepeace.
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Y'all?
It's your girl, Dj kornbredaka the empress for shit show,
the podcast.
Oh my god, welcome to the show.
It has been, uh oh, it has beenon my mind like really, really
strong, and I just wanted tocome in on this episode on some
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like disturbing the peace.
This episode is going to becalled disturbing the peace
because I feel like if you'redoing any and everything and
you're on your toes, everythingis in your mind, going perfect,
you don't have any kind ofissues with anything.
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Why do people feel like theyhave to come in and disturb your
peace?
So I like I mean, I don'tunderstand it.
Especially like with it can berelationships, it can be friends
, it can be anything to thataspect and I feel like even
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family.
If I'm having no problemswhatsoever, everything is good.
I feel like I, you know I'm ina great space, spiritually,
mentally, emotionally, you know,and you have somebody come and
they're just you know, they justmess up.
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They just disturb your peace,like like ludicrous, like DTP
shout out to Luda um, it's justlike disturbing the peace.
Why must you come in anddisturb my peace?
Like don't leave me be, leaveme be.
Like I don't understand.
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I don't understand it.
Please, please, leave me be.
It's like people these days youcome around for you know the
reason that you want to comearound for and I mean, I just
don't understand it.
So, like, if you know you don'twant to be around a person or
be in their space, honestly, butyou come around when you want
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to or just to.
You know, make sure you letthis person know.
You know you there or you just,oh yeah, I'm around and this,
this and that, but you reallyknow you don't want to be there.
It's kind of a big thing for me, like I don't, I don't want to
be there.
It's kind of a big thing for me, like I don't.
I don't understand why certainpeople do certain things.
Then, as far as when it goes,as far as friends, like friends
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that come around and disturbyour peace, if you know that you
are a person that you reallydon't want to be around somebody
, or you, low-key, do, or andyou know they're not really
doing what you want them to do,or I don't know, it can be
anything like stay away from,stay the fuck away from, leave
them alone.
Do you stay on your own?
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You know ten toes down on yourown shit.
You got going on.
Let these people do what theywant to do, just like me too.
Let me be me.
Let me do what I want to do.
Don't come fucking with me.
Don't come fucking with myspace, my earth.
I want to breathe, all it is.
I just don't come messing withme, don't come doing nothing.
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I just don't understand peoplethese days.
It's like people can say whatthey want to say and I just
don't understand people.
These days, people can say whatthey want to say and they do
what they want to do, but thenthey make sure that they do what
they want to do in their shit.
Then, when it comes time, theycome to you fucking with your
shit, disturbing your peace.
It's like leave me alone, leaveme alone, stay where you at.
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Stay over there, little baby.
Like honestly, stay over there.
Like I just I really don'tunderstand it.
But yeah, this, this is like.
I have been thinking about thislike all week and I don't
understand why people you knowthey don't, they don't just stay
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in their space why do you?
Why must you go disturbsomebody else's peace On top of
just like, even if you're likein a relationship or you're not
in a relationship or I don'tknow what these guys and girls
call themselves doing these days.
They can be talking to somebodyand then turn around and just
act like they doing some otherstuff.
Oh yeah, I'm not in arelationship or I'm not doing
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this, this, and that it'scomplicated.
It's complicated.
No, no, it's not complicated,it's not complicated.
You, over there, where you'reat, and what's happening?
It's not going how you want itto go.
So since it's not going how youwant it to go over there, then
you want to go somewhere elseand try to talk to somebody else
or mess with them mess withthis woman, this man, whatever
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the case may be and you want tointerrupt their peace and start
disturbing them.
Why do that?
Why do people do that like?
Why?
Why do y'all do that?
Why do people do that?
I don't understand it.
I don't understand it.
Like, let people stay in theirown space, especially if you're
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not ready to be in that person'sspace.
If you know you're not ready,don't act like you're ready.
Don't lie and act like you wantto be in that person's space,
knowing you don't want tohappens.
A lot of bad things happen whenpeople come around, or a person
comes around and they know thatthey're in a relationship with
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somebody or how they feelthemselves talking to somebody
and it actually does not go howthey want it to go.
So then they come trying tohurt somebody else it to go.
So then they come trying tohurt somebody else or do other
things to somebody else to thepoint where they'll try to use a
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person Like I've had someonecome around me and act like they
wanted to be with me, just touse me to get to where they
wanted to be in their career,get to where they want it to be
in their career.
But when it gets to the pointwhere you're dealing with abuse
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and mind manipulation and othertypes of things, it's just like
it's.
It goes to a totally differentlevel.
It's a totally different level,like you.
That's when it comes when policeare involved and it gets really
, really serious, to the pointyou like I don't even know what
to do anymore Like should I hurtthis person?
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Should I do this to this person?
Should I go?
You know it's just a big, it'sa big issue, it's a big thing.
And this person the whole timethey came over here disturbing
your peace, when they could havestayed where they were at and
kept doing what they were doing,like they could have stayed
with the person they were with,and it put them through hell.
If that's what they decide todo, that's they wanted to do,
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let's put them through hell.
Let them put them through hell.
Stay over there and do what yougonna do.
Don't come over here.
You know, doing all that extraand having this, having me or
anybody, having a person, allriled up and stressed out
because you have what you going,you have what you have going on
over there and you know whatI'm not even going to say it's
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bad.
It could be good.
You could have some good things, people will have some good
things and great things going onon one side, but then they'll
go mess up another home, a happyfamily, you know, you know side
, and you're just like, oh mygoodness, like you could have
stayed where you was at.
Why come over here messing withme and dramatizing this, having
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all this stuff going on overhere?
You could have stayed where youwere at, and that that's really
, really stressful, because somepeople don't deserve a lot of
people don't deserve that.
Some people don't deserve thatLike.
And then you have other peoplethat will be.
They will be on the outsidelooking in, not even knowing
exactly what's going on andwhat's happening, but they'll be
on the outside looking in andjust look at it like, okay, well
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, you shouldn't have beenmessing with this person or you
shouldn't have been talking tothis person, not knowing that
before you got in this situation, you was told something totally
different, totally differentpeople will finesse you.
People will finesse you andmake you feel and think you're
the only one they're talking to,you're the only one they're
trying to come at, or this, this, and that you are single.
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You not with your baby mama,you not with your baby dad,
anything they can just be justtrying to.
Oh, I ain't got this, this neckgoing on, and that goes for
women and men.
I don't have this going on.
I'm not dealing with her, uh,I'm just.
I'm there for the kids.
You know that's what a lot ofpeople like to say.
A lot of men like to say that, alot of women, however you want
to put it, I'm just there forthe kids.
We only uh talking because thekids I'm not.
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You know, we ain't together oranything like that.
It's, it's all about the kids.
I'm only there for the kids.
I just don't that.
That's not.
Um, no, I don't believe it.
I don't believe it.
Miss me with that, miss me withthat, and I will continue to say
miss me with that, because nowthere ain't no truth in it.
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Like you have a person all overthere, sad and they not know,
knowing what to do, what they'vegotten themselves into.
And you're sitting here justlike, oh, my God, I found this
man, he just loved me, he justyou know, he's this, he's that.
Or you saying that you foundthis woman, she's in love with
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you and she doesn't haveanything going on.
She 100% for you, you 100% forher, but the whole time not
knowing this person got a wholenother life or relationship on
the back end that they're noteven telling you about.
And you sitting here thinkinglike everything is just peaches
and cream and this person isonly for you and this person
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ain't even just for you, baby,this person is for everybody.
But then what kills me is thatthey will sit there and let you
do any and everything for them,looking like a fool, knowing
that they're not going to getthe same thing in return and
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they don't care.
And they could care less ifthey were going to get the same
thing in return and I mean it'sjust a big.
That's just a big, big issue tome.
I don't, like I said it's, it's, it's scary and it's it hurts.
You know a lot of people.
Because you don't know.
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You know a lot of people.
You don't know what people havebeen through.
You don't know what they havebeen through.
You don't know what they are.
You know they're stressed about.
You don't know.
You know what people have toldthem and promised them, because
there's a lot of women that arein relationships because they
can't get out or they can't movearound.
You never know what people havegoing on to the point where
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they want to move around, butthey're stuck in that space
because of because of a reason.
And some of the men that are inthat situation, they will sit
there and finesse everythingabout it, whether it's a baby
mama or a friend, or agirlfriend, or someone they call
themselves, you know talking toor whatever.
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They'll finesse the wholesituation to be using that
person and it can be a singlemom, it can be anything.
It just why disrupt, you know,someone's peace, knowing that
you're going to.
You're just going to mess it up, you're going to just stress
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them out.
You're going to damage theirmental you know, thinking and
ability to be able to functiondaily.
Cause I mean, y'all people needto understand when you have a
conversation with someone, itgoes a long way.
When you're in a relationshipwith someone, it goes a long way
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.
So, rather, if you're in arelationship with someone for a
week, two months, two years, 10years, the little time that you
guys spent together or that youwere around each other, it goes
a long way.
I don't care what happens intheir lifetime.
When they do meet you, a personmight say, oh yeah, been there,
done that, met him, met her,talked to you know, there was
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nothing, don't you worry aboutit, that was trash or that was
garbage.
They can say that all day, butbest believe, one time in your
life a conversation is going tocome up or something.
Somebody is going to talk aboutsomething and it's going to
make you go back and think aboutthat person.
I don't care what it is Like Isaid, you can have known that
person and had a conversationwith them one or two times and
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you might not remember thatperson like on a hundred percent
level, but you, you're gonnaremember something out of that
conversation and if you don'tremember that conversation,
you're gonna remember somethingout for that person, the way
that person looked there, andremind you of something else, to
the point where, like I saidlater on, in the long run it's
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it will come back and you will.
You'll be thinking about it orthinking about the conversation
or, whatever the case may be,what was going on in that
situation.
But, like I'm saying, like the,I don't understand why people
they come mess with your peace,like leave people alone, let
them be where they're at, letthem deal with what they're
dealing with.
If you know you have nointentions of being with
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somebody, or you know trying tobe with them or trying to make
something work or even be intheir life period, and it's only
just like, oh, I just want tomake sure I'm still secure, type
thing.
No, don't do that.
Don't, don't do that.
Don't go disturbing a person'speace just to try to see if
you're still secure.
No, like it's okay to speak.
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And gone about your when itcomes to like other things.
You know you're not 100 percentin it for that and you're you
know that that's not somethingthat you want.
So I just feel like peopleshould not go.
You know, messing with otherpeople's peace and disturbing
them when they know that's notwhere their heart is peace and
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disturbing them when they knowthat's not where their heart is
and just causing like chaos.
You're causing all thisdisruptions and this energy,
this negative energy, especially, like I said, when you go and
you're not thinking about beingwith these people and it's just
like I don't understand it.
Like leave them alone.
Stop taking people, people on aride.
That's what I got to.
Don't ride me alone.
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What they used to say don'tstring me alone that's the old
folks used to say.
Don't string me alone, please,don't string me alone.
Leave me be.
That's why, at this point intime, I always say I'm like, I
don't want nobody to like me.
Don't like me, don't like me,don't love me, don't say I'm
cute.
None of that, I don't care whatit is.
Don't do, none of that, don't,mm-mm, I don't want none of that
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shit to rub off on me and rubme the wrong way.
Just leave me, be and where I'mat.
You see what I'm saying.
Leave me, because these days Imean people don't.
They don't know what's going on, they don't know what they want
to do.
They just want to come, mess upyour life, mess up your life
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and just I'm saying like thisit's just, yeah, it's.
I don't understand, I don'tunderstand people, I don't
understand people.
But another thing I have.
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I mean I wanted to say why docertain people, when they get in
relationships, they get in themknowing that's not where they
want to be?
You know that's not where youwant to be.
You know you don't want to haveanything to do with that
situation right now, or I knowany.
You know, whatever the case maybe, but you go poking around
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trying to make something happenor trying to do something, but
you know that's not really whereyou want to be.
Like I just don't understand it.
Like you know you don't want tobe there.
You know you don't want to bethere, but you go.
You go making noise.
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You go making noise and doingall types of stuff, like I don't
know.
That to me is just like a wholebig, another big ordeal.
Like don't do that.
And men, I always have had aquestion.
I just don't understand why mendo that all the time.
Men, they just you know youdon't want to be with a female,
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but you go disturbing her pieceand messing with her and trying
to talk to her and just act likeyou want that.
You want that, but you know youdon't want that.
That's not what it is.
Why do they do that?
And why can't a woman make acertain amount than a man, to
the point where he feels like hedoes not have to be obligated
to do anything in a relationship?
Where does that come in?
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I don't understand nothingabout that.
Like who, who made that shit up?
Who said that shit was what,what was up?
And who said that shit wasaccurate?
What happened to the 50, 50 oryou got some men.
They shit 70, 20, I mean 70, 30and stuff like that.
But like ain't no, 50, 50, nomore.
These days it's like guys belooking for women to get in
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relationship with, where, oh, itgotta be 100, zero like.
Or it could be 90, 10 and 10 ofthat is me acting like I love
you just so I can get that other90 percent.
Like no, who does that shit?
Who told people that shit wasokay?
Like no, that shit is not okay.
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Like who?
Who said that?
I just don't understand why.
I mean who who thinks likeyou're supposed to sit there,
sit back, okay, you want me tocome home, be here, you want me
to cook clean, make sure thekids is okay and and work too,
and you go to work too, and thenyou want me to do 90, and then
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10 is you come and give me sexor something like that.
Or you coming home and just,you know, eat it.
I mean, what are you giving me?
Because majority of the time, alot of men don't like to give
conversation, relationshipsperiod.
You have to make sure you, withsomebody that loves to talk and
that's going to stand on whatthey say, they're going to stand
on and not just talk just to betalking.
So like if you tell me okay,well, I'm going to make sure I
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do better.
When we have a conversation andsomething is going on and we
are having an argument or adisagreement, it should not be a
oh so, and so this is net.
Wow, yeah, I'm, I'm not wrong,but you right, you right, you
right, you always right.
No, that's not what a person issaying.
It's not that I'm always right,it's that I want you to
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understand the conversation.
I understand what I'm sayingand we're both going to
acknowledge if we were wrong orright or however we felt, and
then we're going to come to anagreement and fix the situation.
It's not always an argument oralways saying that this person
is right and this person iswrong.
Nobody's saying that.
Just say, okay, you know what,I was wrong, I was wrong, I was
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right and you know, I understand, you know this and that, but
don't, I don't know, just don't.
It's always when you're in arelationship, you can't be
pointing fingers.
Don't point fingers.
That's so old, back in the day,kid, kiddie, shit.
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No, because I stopped talking toyou because you did this, or I
didn't respond because you didthis or I did that.
I don't really got over that.
I mean I'm, you did this.
So I just said I don't reallygot over that.
I mean I'm not gonna say I'mnot petty.
I ain't gonna say I used to bepetty, but um, but I, you know,
say I was like you said, likelike I would sit there and I'm
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just like okay, well, okay,that's that's what we doing.
That's what we doing.
Okay, well, no calls for me orno, nothing for me, or it's just
like you know, I'm just overhere.
Okay, forget about it, it iswhat it is mute block, you know
something like that, somethingto that extent where it's like
nothing is going on.
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Nothing is going on.
Don't call me, don't text.
You see me in the street, don'tspeak to me.
You know I was on stuff likethat.
But once you get older, it's,like you realize I mean
especially spiritually, likewhen you get connected with God
and you have.
So you know it's so much thathe has for you that he's worse.
Especially he's working on youbecause he's working on me still
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, and it's like you just havehave to understand, like you
know, what Life is too shortthese days.
It's like so much going on,there's so much going on in the
world.
So it's like at this point intime in my life I don't even
have time to sit in, stress andargue with a significant other
or argue with a partner orwhatever you want to call it.
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Who has time for it?
There's so much going on.
People we have kids.
I mean, even if you don't havekids, there's just a lot going
on to the point where nobody hastime to just sit here and worry
about arguing and stressing and, you know, trying to see who
can have the most women and whocan have the most men and who
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talking to this girl and who'stalking to this man and I mean
who nobody has time to do that,like that is so stressful.
Even cheating and stuff likethat, like who wants to do that?
Who still cheats that shit isso boring.
Who still cheats?
Like I don't, I really don'tunderstand it.
Who sits there and just like,okay, it's time to cheat, yes,
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it's just like, it's just a lot.
I mean I don't understand man,it's a lot.
It's just a lot.
I mean I don't understand man,it's a lot.
I just wish that people wouldjust take what they have and
just enjoy life and theirsignificant others and people
and just try to understand, like, where people are coming from.
Sometimes you have to just sitand listen and I had to learn
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that sometimes you know it's.
I mean I do want people to hearme and you do want people to
hear what you have to say.
But you also have to sit thereand listen to others and see
what you know where they, wheretheir mind is, like what, what
are they thinking about?
Because some people they won't,some people won't listen.
You know they.
They just want you to hear themand think everything they're
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saying is right and it is justyour way, or the highway, as
they used to say back in the day, it's my way, or the highway.
You know what I'm saying, it'smy way.
But, um, yeah, it's not.
I mean, yeah, you have to justlisten, listen to people and
just make sure you're in a spacewhere everything you you know
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everything is is okay, just praywhen you need to pray.
I'm not even going to say whenyou need to pray.
You need to be praying everyday and I mean I know sometimes
I don't pray every day, but yeah, you need to just make sure
you're.
You're in a space.
If you know you're not readyfor something like that or ready
to be in somebody's space, justdon't don't go disturbing their
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peace, like, let them, let themdo what they need to do, let
them be where they're, you know,be where they're at and just
you know, leave them.
Leave them, be like, leave themthere, let them, don't do
nothing extra.
A lot of people sometimes thatstuff stresses them out when
people try to come, be aroundand you might, you never know
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what that person is goingthrough or what.
You know what, what they wantat that time, or what they had
just been through or gonethrough, and then you turn
around and try to talk to themor act like you want to be
around them and they're thinking, oh okay, I finally found this
person and they really areshowing me that they're for me
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or that they want to be aroundme.
And then you go do some weirdstuff, knowing good and well
your intentions are bad in thefirst place, or your intentions
might not be bad, but you aren'ttrying to be around them for
the reason that they thought youwere trying to be around them
and that there itself, you know,scares people like it, scares
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people to the point where itsometimes it makes people not
even want to be around otherpeople.
And I mean, that's why somepeople, you just have to stay,
stay to yourself and just knowlike, if you're not ready to be
be around anyone, just stay inyour own space, stay in your own
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space and leave them.
Leave them where they're at andjust let them be them.
Like you can love a person froma distance, you can love a
person from a distance, you canbe around a person, just you
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know, just love them from, froma distance, and just make sure
you don't disturb their peace.
We're gonna have some call-insnext time, um, and I just want
to want to know where y'all siton the situation, where y'all.
Where do you guys think youknow?
What do you think about thewhole disturbing the peace thing
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?
Do you think it's okay forpeople to disturb your peace?
Or you feel like, no, maybe godthey send people around you,
you know, to disturb your peacefor a certain reason, which
sometimes that might be true godwill send people around you or
send storms there, or sendaround you to destroy certain
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things, because he might feellike that you're doing too much
or you're in an area that youdon't need to be in, or you're
trying to take people with youthat don't need to be with you.
So certain stuff like that willhappen and sometimes your peace
will get disturbed.
But I just honestly feel like,if you honestly know that that's
something that you don't wantto do, and you know that you're
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going to disturb somebody'speace, and you're intentionally
doing it and it's not for a goodreason, and I just feel like
you just need to stay whereyou're at.
So that's my take on the wholesituation.
I just feel like, stay in yourspace because, believe me, I'm
going to stay in mine.
I'm not going to come over tomess with you and doing anything
If I know that I'm not in theright mindset to be dating or
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right minds to be having friends.
I don't have my share of liarswhen it comes to friends and
liars when it comes torelationships and it's like at
this point in time they donemade it hard for any and
everybody and that's hard andthat's messed up to say because
you might have somebody thatcomes around and they really are
on that type of level, they ownthat, like they really might be
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a good person and, you know,really want some some real stuff
or whatever, but from thepeople that have been around you
or the baby daddies, the babymamas and anything like that you
know or fake friends and people, friends that have tried to use
you or set you up and thingslike that it make you not even
want to have any friends andmake you not want to have any
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relationships.
It make you not want to haveany associates or any of that.
So when all this stuff starthappening, it's like you don't
even know.
Disturbing a piece just to bedisturbing the peace.
Stay where you at and leavepeople alone.
That's all I'm going to saystay where you at and leave
people alone.
No more dtp in.
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That's what we should have got.
Dtp it no more disturbing thepeace.
That's what we should havecalled it.
Dtp it no more disturbing thepeace.
So we're going to get out ofhere.
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