June 3, 2025 • 16 mins
Dating someone with kids requires a different kind of strength and understanding, as the dynamics go far beyond just your romantic relationship. We explore when it makes sense to pursue relationships with single parents and what factors should be considered before jumping in.
• Children's behavior and level of respect significantly impact relationship viability
• Home environment cleanliness and organization reveals much about parenting values
• The age of children matters – younger kids can still be influenced while teenagers are more set in their ways
• Number of children and baby parents can be important considerations for compatibility
• Understanding why previous relationships ended provides valuable insight
• Finding someone who maintains a balanced approach to responsibilities is crucial
• Don't automatically dismiss potentially great partners just because they have children
• Clear communication about expectations and boundaries is essential from the start
If you'd like to share your thoughts on this topic or suggest future conversation ideas, hit us up at www.fashitshothapodcast.com or call in to be featured on an upcoming episode.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
what's up, y'all?
Sugar dj cornbread, aka theimpresario, know what it is.
Back with another one.
This ep is going to be aboutrelationships and kids.
When is it okay to say yes to arelationship or be with
somebody or try to shoot yourshot at somebody if they have
(00:24):
kids?
Is that a thing or is it not athing?
So do y'all think it's okay fora guy to try to holler at a
female if she's a single parentor vice versa, if the guy is
taking care of kids, that andhe's no longer with the woman?
If it's, is it okay for a womanto shoot her shot or to be
(00:45):
dating a guy that has a singlefather, he has just has his kids
, or just kids that he's takingcare of, or, like I said, vice
versa?
I'm gonna say it just itdepends, because if you call
yourself trying to talk tosomebody or date somebody and
they already have kids, you gotto be strong.
You got to be strong.
(01:06):
It's a different kind of strong, it's like because you have to
be okay with kids and, dependingon how those kids act and the
age you know of the kids and ifthey respectful or not or
disrespectful, that it's a bigthing with it, because sometimes
you might get into arelationship but try to talk to
somebody, you find out they havekids and then they're a single
(01:26):
parent and you're like I don'tknow, them kids' attitude is
fucked up, or them kids don'tlisten, they misbehave, they
rude, you know.
So I'm going to say it alldepends to me on the kids,
because some people you'll bedating and talking to and they
(01:49):
don't want you to say nothing totheir kids.
They feel a certain type of wayand they get pissed off when
you try to put their kids intheir place, even if it's right
and you're.
They need those kids need to beput in their place, or they are
you just telling them somethingthat is going to help them grow
or something that they need toknow, because some kids they
don't act the way they'resupposed to act, but they don't
act the way they should act andthey don't have no type of home
(02:12):
training because of where theyget it from, which can be the
mother or the father, especially, like I said, if they're a
single parent.
If it's a single mom, sheraising kids, if she dirty or
nasty and or and don't give afuck how her house look or how
she take her herself.
Them kids gonna grow up.
They're gonna be the same exactway nasty, dirty, and I won't
take baths, all this type ofshit.
(02:32):
If that's what they was, that'swhat they know, I mean what
else?
What else they gonna know?
Like I mean what else theygonna?
Unless they one of those kidsand some kids they'll see how
their parents or the person, thefigure that they were around,
how they act and they don't likeit or they didn't like it.
So when they get older, theychange all that.
When they start getting older,they're like oh no, I ain't
(02:53):
trying to be funky, I ain'ttrying to be sending them nasty
house, I ain't trying to knowhow to cook any of that.
And they're like they'd be like, nah, I need to flip this.
My house ain't gonna be likethat.
But then you got the ones thatthey don't matter.
It don't matter what shit.
They feel like shit.
This is how I was brought up.
This is how I was taught.
My mama didn't do shit.
My mama didn't cook.
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Mama didn't know how to do this.
She didn't do that.
Mama was nasty, didn't like thehouse clean, didn't like nice
stuff.
You know nice things and soshit.
Why should I, and that's whatmake it fucked up.
Because, first of all, I'm notabout to date nobody.
They got some nasty ass kids orthey're nasty themselves.
That shows a lot about you andyour kids and your lifestyle.
Hell no, if you okay with beingin a nasty ass house with
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different types of everythingand you, just you know you okay
with it and that's fine as longas you feel like you step out,
you good.
But your house ain't up to par.
I don't know.
This should have me scared tosit down to pee at your house.
No toilet seats fuck that ain'tsitting on nothing.
Because you gotta watch.
You have to watch certain.
You have to watch that becauseit's hard trying to get in a
(04:04):
relationship with somebody wheretheir kids don't have no type
of home training and they thinkeverything is cool because
they're getting it from whothey're getting it from, and
that'll fuck up a wholerelationship.
You can be okay or like somebody, as soon as you say the wrong
thing to, to kids or somethinglike that oh yeah, it's backfire
time.
The parent, the other parent ismad, don't say nothing to my
(04:24):
kids, or something like that.
Oh yeah, it's backfire time.
The parent or other parent ismad.
Don't say nothing to my kids.
Don't do it.
No, motherfucker, somebodyneeds to say something to them
because this shit is nasty.
This shit is not ladylike, notguylike or whatever the case may
be woman, female or male.
You got to be clean.
You got to keep your shit cleanyour house, clean your body
clean, brush your teeth, washyour face, take back all it.
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Like, like I said, that somekids, if they don't see that
significant I mean they don'tsee the other parent doing it,
or wasn't taught that, or grewup around seeing their that
parent keeping themselvestogether and being nice and
clean and keeping a clean houseand all that they don't feel
like that shit is just for thebirds.
They're going to feel like, no,that's just some shit.
Like, if I want to do it, I'lldo it.
(05:07):
If I don't want my shit to benasty, it'll be nasty and that
shit is fucked up Because, likeI said, that'll turn me a whole
other direction when it comes totrying to be in a relationship
or trying to be no.
Yeah, hell, no.
You got to figure that out.
And then, what is the age foryou guys that would date
(05:29):
somebody that have kids?
How many kids is okay?
I've heard two kids, I've heardthree, I heard I can't go, it
can't go.
Four or five.
And then how many baby daddiesis okay?
One baby daddy, two?
(05:50):
What if somebody got threebabies, three or four baby
daddies?
What that mean?
They just have to try to get itwhile it's good, I mean, or
they just money hungry.
At that point, what do y'allthink is okay?
Is it okay for a single mom tobe single and not be in no kind
of relationship but got a wholebunch of kids?
(06:10):
My thing would be like what isthe whole reason?
My thing would be like myquestion would be why are you
single?
That's what I'd be wanting.
That's what I would be wantingto know If I was a male and a
woman had a lot of kids.
(06:30):
That's what I'd be wanting toknow.
First of all, why aren't youwith nobody or neither one of
the dads?
To make sure it's not the womanand it's probably my, you know,
because the majority of time,but like women, I always like to
say, oh, it's his fault or I'mnot with him because of this,
I'm, you know.
So if that's the case, thenokay, see what it is and why it
(06:53):
wasn't that.
You decide from there if that'ssomething she want to work with
.
But majority of the timeeverybody already know.
You know it's hard, it's hardto say who fucked up and who
didn't, you know.
Also, on the ages on the ages ofkids, what's okay for an age
(07:13):
range, I've heard if they ain'tunder 10, some people, some
dudes, they like heard if theyain't under 10, some people,
some dudes, they like now, Iain't fucking with it if you got
some kids that's already intheir teenage years and right
there pushing the tweens orwhatever you y'all call them
these days, they like nah,because that mean whatever
they've been taught, whateverthey know, is what they know,
and ain't no changing that shit,ain't no fixing that shit.
(07:34):
So the people just feel like Idon't know, I gotta be able to
still mold you and fix you.
Fix whatever been fucked up orwhat you didn't, any information
or whatever you was taught thatwas wrong.
I gotta be able to fix thatshit.
So what y'all think like is itokay or is it not okay?
Because I have, I feel like ifyou are, I love little kids and
(07:58):
you know teenagers is okay too.
But I feel like it's better ifyou meet somebody and they tell
you oh yeah, I have atwo-year-old, three-year-old,
four-year-old, you know,something like that.
I feel like that would bebetter than having someone
that's already a teenager to acertain extent, because if it's
(08:20):
a kid, like I said in y'allrelationship and say, especially
if they don't know how to,they're not really.
They're good with toddlers, sostarting to them and I a1 with
them and you good with kids andyou love this, isn't it?
You can get them on the righttrack.
They're taller in the righttrack, so they don't end up
following the footsteps of theperson that's leading them
downhill.
So that's kind of to me.
(08:40):
That, to me, is like a goodthing.
When it comes to like, if you dotalk to somebody and they're
like, oh, yeah, I got kids,because who wants to be talking
to somebody?
And they're like, yeah, I gotkids.
They are grown or teenagers andit's like, okay, yeah, that's
okay when it comes to themtrying to have movie night or
(09:02):
get out and go party or whateverthe case may be, or have a date
night.
It's okay when it comes to that.
But them, they usually be themain ones that be really got
shit going.
They're the ones that, oh yeah,you ain't gonna do this
attitude, gonna be fucked up,cursing and all that type of
shit.
Then you're gonna be wonderingwhy you and a teenager always
getting into it.
(09:22):
You feel some type of waybecause the motherfucking way he
was brought up, way she wasbrought up.
Like I said, you can't, can'tsay shit to some people's kids
because even if they're in thewrong, they know they're in the
wrong.
The person you're dating, theyknow it's fucked up and that's
wrong.
It's fucked up that they nasty,they don't give a fuck.
They just don't want you to saynothing to their kids because
they nasty and it's okay to them.
(09:42):
But, like I mean, I don't know,like I said, that's that's like
another a big topic.
Um, on that issue, because somepeople, like I said, I've heard
they feel like no, when yousingle and you're trying to date
(10:03):
, they've said, nah, don't lookfor nobody, or don't date nobody
.
As soon as they say they gotyeah, I, I got a child, you and
your baby daddy.
Good, nope, I've been a singleparent for so-and-so.
They like, oh, nope, cut thestrip.
Now they're like hell.
Nah, I'm not dealing with it.
But I feel like that's kind offucked up because why would you
cut the strip, cut the string onsomebody that you know that you
(10:26):
can fuck around and might damnnear marry you never know just
because they're a single parent,they have one child, you know.
I feel like you should see whereit goes and see where it leads
to before you just decide ohyeah, I'm not fucking with them
because she got a child and shenot with the baby daddy.
What if the baby daddy wasputting his hands on her or
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beating her?
Or what if she was raped?
Or this is like you don't,y'all don't, you don't know.
So you're just gonna say, fuckthat good thing that could
possibly be your lifelongpartner just because she has a
uh, toddler or a five, six,seven, eight year old.
Now, if it's a newborn baby,yeah, that's, that's kind of
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yeah, that's that's kind of likethe one foot apart, yeah.
So I understand people that'slike, no, no, she got a newborn.
Now, fuck all that.
But then you have some that whenyou can't have, they can't have
kids or they don't have any oftheir own, so they rather the
person they date or they talk to.
They rather them have.
If they are pregnant, theyrather them be well, they rather
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them be pregnant or have a babythat they just had, because
they feel like they can mold thebaby and it makes it more feel
like they just had a baby.
Y'all both had a baby togetherand that's y'all's child,
especially if the dad is not inthe picture or the mom is not in
the picture.
So I mean, I don't know, like Isaid, I feel like it's okay to
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date somebody that's single andthat they're independent and
they do their own shit and theytake care of their kids.
But, like I said, that's onething.
As long as they're taking careof their kids, they're on top of
their shit and shit is movingat a pace where it's not always,
it's not a standstill orthere's some fucked up shit
going on, then that's the personyou like.
Okay, well, maybe let me seehow this works, see if I can
make this, put something withsomething, make something happen
(12:19):
.
But if you're trying, if thisperson is single and they got
all this always going on back toback, nothing's never okay,
nothing's never's ever right.
It's just like damn, what thehell.
You know, you probably need toleave somebody like that, leave
them where they at, because ninetimes out of ten that's going
to be the whole littlerelationship, that same shit
(12:42):
right there, unless it'ssomebody that's looking for
somebody to cater to them and doeverything they want them to do
, which is fucked up.
If you're a person like that,like you're supposed to be, I
don't know.
I look at shit still like 50,50, sometimes 80, 80, 20, 60, 40
, 70, 30, it just depends, youknow like.
But majority of the time it'ssome relationship shit 50, 50.
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But, like I said, you got somepeople that now they they want
to do 10, you do 95, you 95 orthey shit doing zero percent.
You're doing all 100 of them.
So you have to make sure youdecide wisely when it comes to
dating somebody that has kids,that's a single parent, and to
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make sure, like I said, theyknow what the fuck they doing,
they be on top of their shitwhen it comes to their kids,
because these kids out here begiving motherfuckers a headache,
they be cursing at you, theygot a badass attitude.
This fucking social media worldgot them just feeling they
still.
They can go on youtube and justdo, do, do, do and just type
what the fuck they thinkingabout and all that shit just pop
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straight up.
So you got to be all into thatman like, especially when you
have teenagers, when they get tostart feeling theyself in
puberty and all that type ofstuff, you're like, oh man, I
ain't trying to deal with thisshit, but I really like this
person.
So, yeah, you gotta think aboutit.
You gotta think about it.
(14:11):
These motherfuckers ain't gonnaman say, and if it ain't no
child for the wrong me ragged,had me out, stressed out and
shit like, nah, you do that toyour mama, your daddy or
whatever.
But nah, so people, yeah, youwouldn't like me, we don't have
that shit right, right in order.
You'll be quick to and I knowif you ain't trying to
understand and go what the fuckgoing on, because I'll be quick
(14:31):
to.
And I know if you ain't tryingto understand and go with what
the fuck going on, because I'dbe quick to move around your ass
.
You'd probably be quick to movearound on my ass and that's
fine.
But yeah, like I said, whatthose questions?
Do you think it's okay to datea single mom or dad?
That's not, has been in arelationship and is not at that
(14:53):
moment?
How old can the kids be?
How old or how young Is two oldor young?
It's like one of those big, bigtopics.
I already told y'all how I feelabout the situation.
I'm waiting to hear from y'all,so y'all can just hit us up on
the show orwwwshitshowthepodcastcom, or you
(15:16):
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would like to be on the show,but I have not, we have not had
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and let us know your topics orsomething that you want to talk
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(15:36):
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(15:57):
It's your girl, dj cornbread.
what's up, y'all?
Sugar dj cornbread, aka theimpresario, know what it is.
Back with another one.
This ep is going to be aboutrelationships and kids.
When is it okay to say yes to arelationship or be with
somebody or try to shoot yourshot at somebody if they have
(00:24):
kids?
Is that a thing or is it not athing?
So do y'all think it's okay fora guy to try to holler at a
female if she's a single parentor vice versa, if the guy is
taking care of kids, that andhe's no longer with the woman?
If it's, is it okay for a womanto shoot her shot or to be
(00:45):
dating a guy that has a singlefather, he has just has his kids
, or just kids that he's takingcare of, or, like I said, vice
versa?
I'm gonna say it just itdepends, because if you call
yourself trying to talk tosomebody or date somebody and
they already have kids, you gotto be strong.
You got to be strong.
(01:06):
It's a different kind of strong, it's like because you have to
be okay with kids and, dependingon how those kids act and the
age you know of the kids and ifthey respectful or not or
disrespectful, that it's a bigthing with it, because sometimes
you might get into arelationship but try to talk to
somebody, you find out they havekids and then they're a single
(01:26):
parent and you're like I don'tknow, them kids' attitude is
fucked up, or them kids don'tlisten, they misbehave, they
rude, you know.
So I'm going to say it alldepends to me on the kids,
because some people you'll bedating and talking to and they
(01:49):
don't want you to say nothing totheir kids.
They feel a certain type of wayand they get pissed off when
you try to put their kids intheir place, even if it's right
and you're.
They need those kids need to beput in their place, or they are
you just telling them somethingthat is going to help them grow
or something that they need toknow, because some kids they
don't act the way they'resupposed to act, but they don't
act the way they should act andthey don't have no type of home
(02:12):
training because of where theyget it from, which can be the
mother or the father, especially, like I said, if they're a
single parent.
If it's a single mom, sheraising kids, if she dirty or
nasty and or and don't give afuck how her house look or how
she take her herself.
Them kids gonna grow up.
They're gonna be the same exactway nasty, dirty, and I won't
take baths, all this type ofshit.
(02:32):
If that's what they was, that'swhat they know, I mean what
else?
What else they gonna know?
Like I mean what else theygonna?
Unless they one of those kidsand some kids they'll see how
their parents or the person, thefigure that they were around,
how they act and they don't likeit or they didn't like it.
So when they get older, theychange all that.
When they start getting older,they're like oh no, I ain't
(02:53):
trying to be funky, I ain'ttrying to be sending them nasty
house, I ain't trying to knowhow to cook any of that.
And they're like they'd be like, nah, I need to flip this.
My house ain't gonna be likethat.
But then you got the ones thatthey don't matter.
It don't matter what shit.
They feel like shit.
This is how I was brought up.
This is how I was taught.
My mama didn't do shit.
My mama didn't cook.
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Mama didn't know how to do this.
She didn't do that.
Mama was nasty, didn't like thehouse clean, didn't like nice
stuff.
You know nice things and soshit.
Why should I, and that's whatmake it fucked up.
Because, first of all, I'm notabout to date nobody.
They got some nasty ass kids orthey're nasty themselves.
That shows a lot about you andyour kids and your lifestyle.
Hell no, if you okay with beingin a nasty ass house with
(03:40):
different types of everythingand you, just you know you okay
with it and that's fine as longas you feel like you step out,
you good.
But your house ain't up to par.
I don't know.
This should have me scared tosit down to pee at your house.
No toilet seats fuck that ain'tsitting on nothing.
Because you gotta watch.
You have to watch certain.
You have to watch that becauseit's hard trying to get in a
(04:04):
relationship with somebody wheretheir kids don't have no type
of home training and they thinkeverything is cool because
they're getting it from whothey're getting it from, and
that'll fuck up a wholerelationship.
You can be okay or like somebody, as soon as you say the wrong
thing to, to kids or somethinglike that oh yeah, it's backfire
time.
The parent, the other parent ismad, don't say nothing to my
(04:24):
kids, or something like that.
Oh yeah, it's backfire time.
The parent or other parent ismad.
Don't say nothing to my kids.
Don't do it.
No, motherfucker, somebodyneeds to say something to them
because this shit is nasty.
This shit is not ladylike, notguylike or whatever the case may
be woman, female or male.
You got to be clean.
You got to keep your shit cleanyour house, clean your body
clean, brush your teeth, washyour face, take back all it.
(04:47):
Like, like I said, that somekids, if they don't see that
significant I mean they don'tsee the other parent doing it,
or wasn't taught that, or grewup around seeing their that
parent keeping themselvestogether and being nice and
clean and keeping a clean houseand all that they don't feel
like that shit is just for thebirds.
They're going to feel like, no,that's just some shit.
Like, if I want to do it, I'lldo it.
(05:07):
If I don't want my shit to benasty, it'll be nasty and that
shit is fucked up Because, likeI said, that'll turn me a whole
other direction when it comes totrying to be in a relationship
or trying to be no.
Yeah, hell, no.
You got to figure that out.
And then, what is the age foryou guys that would date
(05:29):
somebody that have kids?
How many kids is okay?
I've heard two kids, I've heardthree, I heard I can't go, it
can't go.
Four or five.
And then how many baby daddiesis okay?
One baby daddy, two?
(05:50):
What if somebody got threebabies, three or four baby
daddies?
What that mean?
They just have to try to get itwhile it's good, I mean, or
they just money hungry.
At that point, what do y'allthink is okay?
Is it okay for a single mom tobe single and not be in no kind
of relationship but got a wholebunch of kids?
(06:10):
My thing would be like what isthe whole reason?
My thing would be like myquestion would be why are you
single?
That's what I'd be wanting.
That's what I would be wantingto know If I was a male and a
woman had a lot of kids.
(06:30):
That's what I'd be wanting toknow.
First of all, why aren't youwith nobody or neither one of
the dads?
To make sure it's not the womanand it's probably my, you know,
because the majority of time,but like women, I always like to
say, oh, it's his fault or I'mnot with him because of this,
I'm, you know.
So if that's the case, thenokay, see what it is and why it
(06:53):
wasn't that.
You decide from there if that'ssomething she want to work with
.
But majority of the timeeverybody already know.
You know it's hard, it's hardto say who fucked up and who
didn't, you know.
Also, on the ages on the ages ofkids, what's okay for an age
(07:13):
range, I've heard if they ain'tunder 10, some people, some
dudes, they like heard if theyain't under 10, some people,
some dudes, they like now, Iain't fucking with it if you got
some kids that's already intheir teenage years and right
there pushing the tweens orwhatever you y'all call them
these days, they like nah,because that mean whatever
they've been taught, whateverthey know, is what they know,
and ain't no changing that shit,ain't no fixing that shit.
(07:34):
So the people just feel like Idon't know, I gotta be able to
still mold you and fix you.
Fix whatever been fucked up orwhat you didn't, any information
or whatever you was taught thatwas wrong.
I gotta be able to fix thatshit.
So what y'all think like is itokay or is it not okay?
Because I have, I feel like ifyou are, I love little kids and
(07:58):
you know teenagers is okay too.
But I feel like it's better ifyou meet somebody and they tell
you oh yeah, I have atwo-year-old, three-year-old,
four-year-old, you know,something like that.
I feel like that would bebetter than having someone
that's already a teenager to acertain extent, because if it's
(08:20):
a kid, like I said in y'allrelationship and say, especially
if they don't know how to,they're not really.
They're good with toddlers, sostarting to them and I a1 with
them and you good with kids andyou love this, isn't it?
You can get them on the righttrack.
They're taller in the righttrack, so they don't end up
following the footsteps of theperson that's leading them
downhill.
So that's kind of to me.
(08:40):
That, to me, is like a goodthing.
When it comes to like, if you dotalk to somebody and they're
like, oh, yeah, I got kids,because who wants to be talking
to somebody?
And they're like, yeah, I gotkids.
They are grown or teenagers andit's like, okay, yeah, that's
okay when it comes to themtrying to have movie night or
(09:02):
get out and go party or whateverthe case may be, or have a date
night.
It's okay when it comes to that.
But them, they usually be themain ones that be really got
shit going.
They're the ones that, oh yeah,you ain't gonna do this
attitude, gonna be fucked up,cursing and all that type of
shit.
Then you're gonna be wonderingwhy you and a teenager always
getting into it.
(09:22):
You feel some type of waybecause the motherfucking way he
was brought up, way she wasbrought up.
Like I said, you can't, can'tsay shit to some people's kids
because even if they're in thewrong, they know they're in the
wrong.
The person you're dating, theyknow it's fucked up and that's
wrong.
It's fucked up that they nasty,they don't give a fuck.
They just don't want you to saynothing to their kids because
they nasty and it's okay to them.
(09:42):
But, like I mean, I don't know,like I said, that's that's like
another a big topic.
Um, on that issue, because somepeople, like I said, I've heard
they feel like no, when yousingle and you're trying to date
(10:03):
, they've said, nah, don't lookfor nobody, or don't date nobody
.
As soon as they say they gotyeah, I, I got a child, you and
your baby daddy.
Good, nope, I've been a singleparent for so-and-so.
They like, oh, nope, cut thestrip.
Now they're like hell.
Nah, I'm not dealing with it.
But I feel like that's kind offucked up because why would you
cut the strip, cut the string onsomebody that you know that you
(10:26):
can fuck around and might damnnear marry you never know just
because they're a single parent,they have one child, you know.
I feel like you should see whereit goes and see where it leads
to before you just decide ohyeah, I'm not fucking with them
because she got a child and shenot with the baby daddy.
What if the baby daddy wasputting his hands on her or
(10:47):
beating her?
Or what if she was raped?
Or this is like you don't,y'all don't, you don't know.
So you're just gonna say, fuckthat good thing that could
possibly be your lifelongpartner just because she has a
uh, toddler or a five, six,seven, eight year old.
Now, if it's a newborn baby,yeah, that's, that's kind of
(11:09):
yeah, that's that's kind of likethe one foot apart, yeah.
So I understand people that'slike, no, no, she got a newborn.
Now, fuck all that.
But then you have some that whenyou can't have, they can't have
kids or they don't have any oftheir own, so they rather the
person they date or they talk to.
They rather them have.
If they are pregnant, theyrather them be well, they rather
(11:32):
them be pregnant or have a babythat they just had, because
they feel like they can mold thebaby and it makes it more feel
like they just had a baby.
Y'all both had a baby togetherand that's y'all's child,
especially if the dad is not inthe picture or the mom is not in
the picture.
So I mean, I don't know, like Isaid, I feel like it's okay to
(11:58):
date somebody that's single andthat they're independent and
they do their own shit and theytake care of their kids.
But, like I said, that's onething.
As long as they're taking careof their kids, they're on top of
their shit and shit is movingat a pace where it's not always,
it's not a standstill orthere's some fucked up shit
going on, then that's the personyou like.
Okay, well, maybe let me seehow this works, see if I can
make this, put something withsomething, make something happen
(12:19):
.
But if you're trying, if thisperson is single and they got
all this always going on back toback, nothing's never okay,
nothing's never's ever right.
It's just like damn, what thehell.
You know, you probably need toleave somebody like that, leave
them where they at, because ninetimes out of ten that's going
to be the whole littlerelationship, that same shit
(12:42):
right there, unless it'ssomebody that's looking for
somebody to cater to them and doeverything they want them to do
, which is fucked up.
If you're a person like that,like you're supposed to be, I
don't know.
I look at shit still like 50,50, sometimes 80, 80, 20, 60, 40
, 70, 30, it just depends, youknow like.
But majority of the time it'ssome relationship shit 50, 50.
(13:07):
But, like I said, you got somepeople that now they they want
to do 10, you do 95, you 95 orthey shit doing zero percent.
You're doing all 100 of them.
So you have to make sure youdecide wisely when it comes to
dating somebody that has kids,that's a single parent, and to
(13:28):
make sure, like I said, theyknow what the fuck they doing,
they be on top of their shitwhen it comes to their kids,
because these kids out here begiving motherfuckers a headache,
they be cursing at you, theygot a badass attitude.
This fucking social media worldgot them just feeling they
still.
They can go on youtube and justdo, do, do, do and just type
what the fuck they thinkingabout and all that shit just pop
(13:51):
straight up.
So you got to be all into thatman like, especially when you
have teenagers, when they get tostart feeling theyself in
puberty and all that type ofstuff, you're like, oh man, I
ain't trying to deal with thisshit, but I really like this
person.
So, yeah, you gotta think aboutit.
You gotta think about it.
(14:11):
These motherfuckers ain't gonnaman say, and if it ain't no
child for the wrong me ragged,had me out, stressed out and
shit like, nah, you do that toyour mama, your daddy or
whatever.
But nah, so people, yeah, youwouldn't like me, we don't have
that shit right, right in order.
You'll be quick to and I knowif you ain't trying to
understand and go what the fuckgoing on, because I'll be quick
(14:31):
to.
And I know if you ain't tryingto understand and go with what
the fuck going on, because I'dbe quick to move around your ass
.
You'd probably be quick to movearound on my ass and that's
fine.
But yeah, like I said, whatthose questions?
Do you think it's okay to datea single mom or dad?
That's not, has been in arelationship and is not at that
(14:53):
moment?
How old can the kids be?
How old or how young Is two oldor young?
It's like one of those big, bigtopics.
I already told y'all how I feelabout the situation.
I'm waiting to hear from y'all,so y'all can just hit us up on
the show orwwwshitshowthepodcastcom, or you
(15:16):
can call us and we will be sureto put you on live, put you on
air so you can tell us yourthoughts and if also, if you
would like to be on the show,but I have not, we have not had
a topic that you want to talkabout you are welcome to call
and let us know your topics orsomething that you want to talk
about or something you want tobring to the show, and we can do
(15:36):
a whole live in-personinterview at the on air, at the
radio or I mean the studio.
Or you can do something virtualin person for live footage, for
like youtube or social media,or you can do just the audio.
So, like I said, hit us upwwwfishowthepodcastcom.
(15:57):
It's your girl, dj cornbread.
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