May 27, 2025 • 21 mins
Ever notice how the dating world seems to work in mysterious ways? The moment you're happily single, nobody's interested. But as soon as you post that new relationship? Suddenly everyone's sliding into your DMs.
This episode dives deep into the social media relationship paradox that has many of us questioning whether we should post our partners online at all. I break down how relationship visibility can invite unwanted interference from people who suddenly develop interest once you're taken. From my own experiences, I've learned the hard way that sometimes privacy isn't about secrecy – it's about protection.
We explore the frustrating behavior of those "too friendly" individuals who cross boundaries with your partner both online and in person. You know the type – constantly commenting on every post, sending private messages, and then playing innocent with the classic "I'm just being friendly" defense. I call out this behavior for what it really is: disrespect that shouldn't be tolerated in healthy relationships.
The conversation examines how proper boundaries look in the digital age, from appropriate social media interactions to real-life behavior around your significant other. When someone is constantly tagging your partner, loving their posts, or being overly familiar in person, it's not insecurity to question these behaviors – it's relationship preservation.
This topic resonated so strongly that I'll be bringing guests for a part two discussion to further explore where exactly the line between friendly and flirtatious behavior lies. Whether you're currently dating, married, or single and observing these dynamics, you'll find valuable insights about relationship boundaries in today's interconnected world.
What boundaries do you set in your relationships? Have you experienced the phenomenon of suddenly-interested admirers once you're taken? Share your thoughts and join the conversation.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
what's up y'all, sugar, dj cornbread aka the
empress back with another one.
So I just had, I just I justgot something to say.
I just got.
I got a question for y'all.
So, if you are in a relationship, do you think it's okay to post
(00:23):
your significant other onsocial media?
And like, what are the pros andcons of that, especially like
if the person is a nobody?
Or if the person is somebody,an influencer, you know could
have a big name in the city, inthe streets, or it could just be
(00:43):
, you know, it could just beboth of y'all, just regular.
Do you think it's okay to postyour significant other on social
media?
I'm going to say I feel like atfirst, I would say when I was
younger, I used to feel acertain type of way about it.
If the person didn't want topost me, I was like like dang,
what you doing?
(01:04):
You cheating, or is somebody onthere you trying to?
You know, keep tabs.
They got they keep the tabs onyou, or what's the issue, why
you don't want to do that, whyyou don't want to do that.
So my issue was like you don'twant to nobody to see me, you
(01:28):
don't want to.
I mean, what's going on.
But I had to learn andunderstand, like when I got
older.
If you're dating somebody, whenyou I tried to do that I don't,
I don't feel like you shouldn't, you shouldn't post your secret
online, like even when youmarry, like even if it goes as
far as being buried, because alot of people out here be hating
or you know and they don't wantyou with that person or they
(01:51):
don't want that person with youand they'll just, you know, do
any and everything to sabotagewhat you got going on, your
relationship or whatever.
Especially if you y'all arefriends and y'all are trying to
make something happen.
And as soon as you post likeany kind of pictures like y'all
chilling on social media ory'all are trying to make
something happen, and as soon asyou post like any kind of
pictures like y'all chilling onsocial media or y'all around
each other, then you always gotthat one motherfucker that want
to just come in and be like oh,you know uh, or you know this
(02:15):
person used to talk to uh or uh,you talk to her or you talk to
him, you hang around him, likeit always be some messy shit,
even dudes.
Oh, bro, you talk to so-and-soor you book with so-and-so, or
y'all just kicking it.
Or when you start hanging withthis person and it just be
motherfuckers, just behave.
These days it's like nobodywants to see nobody happy,
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everybody want to just be allthe people business and it just
it's just crazy.
Like you can't post nobody thatyou're interested in or you're
talking to or going on justcrazy.
Like you can't post nobody thatyou're interested in or you're
talking to or going on dateswith children.
You can't post nothing becausepeople be so ready to sabotage
and fuck up whatever you gotgoing on.
They would do idiot everything,especially if they want that
(03:01):
person.
They want that person and theyain't been giving them no play
and no type of nothing.
And then all of a sudden theysee you all of a sudden posting
videos and this, this, and thatthey come oh no, no, ain't no
way I've been liking on thisperson.
They be looking at it like no,this person, no, uh-uh, I got to
(03:29):
try to do something or saysomething to try to fuck their
head up so they ain't messingwith this person.
People out here is crazy.
They really do shit like that.
And then don't let you bemarried, you married to somebody
.
It seems like when you get in arelationship or when you marry,
that's when everybody startflocking.
Everybody want to talk to youand fuck up something.
But when you single and youain't messing with nobody, you
ain't dating nobody, everybodybe it's just dry.
Or the people that's comingtowards you or coming trying to
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holler at you or whatever youknow that shit dry, it's lame,
it's like I don't know, uh-uh,keep on moving, keep on trucking
.
But then it's like people thatyou're not interested in.
But then as soon as you talkingto somebody, or you dating
somebody that you really kind ofinterested in and you trying to
see how it's going to go, oryou end up getting engaged and
shit like that oh dog, I'mtalking about motherfuckers.
(04:15):
Be like oh, radars go up.
It's like they know.
It's like it happened.
Like instantly, like, sometimeswithin minutes I'm not bullshit
Like, especially if you're, ifyou post them, they just like.
It's like I'm talking about.
Like people just instantly, oh,so-and-so, they talk, they
engage this, this and that.
(04:35):
So then they gotta oh yeah, letme start posting this, or get
jumping their inbox and all thattype of shit.
Why, who, how does that make?
I mean, I don't understand it.
Like, why not jump in thatperson's inbox.
When they are single.
They don't have nothing goingon.
They ain't talking to nobody.
(04:56):
You ain't seeing them postingshit.
Like they not doing nothing.
Like when they are postingstuff, it's they always by
theyself, they always treatingtheyself, they always doing
stuff by theyself, not, you know, showing nobody and nothing
like.
It's just them or them andtheir kids.
If that's what you tend to do,show your kids like, why not
date, try to date them or talkto them around that time, or try
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to be cool with them and go outaround that time?
Why wait to a person?
You see somebody out withsomebody, be like, oh yeah, they
fucking with this person.
Today I've seen them beenchilling the last couple spots.
I've seen them.
If they was, they was with eachother and stuff like that.
Or you see them post a picture.
So now all of a sudden, youwant to get up in their inbox or
you want to try to holler themout on the low when you see them
(05:37):
in public and stuff like that.
What part of the game is it if aperson you talking to somebody
or they not well, they notactually talking to them or
dating them or whatever, andit's just like they on some
friendship, they cool in orwhatever.
Then that just needs to be said.
Or you have certain situations,like I've been in where before
(06:00):
in my life where a person wouldbe like, oh, that's my baby mama
, or I stayed her.
I hate that shit too.
You gotta watch them,motherfuckers too.
That's my baby mama, I stayedher, but I'm on there for the
kids because I ain't got nowhereto go right now.
Or I just got out of jail andI'm trying to find my own shit,
and that's the way it be.
All types of shit motherfuckersbe coming up with and the whole
time they be lying and then thebaby mama be looking at you like
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you, trifling bitch like you.
Why the fuck would you do thisif you know I was talking to
this motherfucker first of all,this motherfucker told me that
they don't talk to you no more.
Or she don't talk to you nomore, they just around for the
kids, or they just around youknow to to make sure everything
go good, or they really don't atthat point not using you, but
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you don't want them to gonowhere.
You want to make sure theystraight on their feet and you
know that they doing what thefuck they want to do because
they single, but they just,y'all just live together.
Motherfuckers don't be knowingshit like that.
They just be thinking shit behow this person is trying to
fuck up what I got going on.
No, nigga, this motherfuckingass line, motherfucker done,
said this and it ain't even trueand got me thinking one thing,
(07:05):
got you thinking one thing.
You thinking I'm trifling, I'mthinking you doing some trifling
shit to this person.
Like man, that's messed up,they running over you like this.
So they not, they know, don'tyou know, appreciate you, and
this isn't it not knowing noneof that, like that it'd be, it'd
be crazy out here, man, y'allgotta, you, gotta watch.
I just learned my god, like Isaid, I had to learn the hard
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way when it come to my meat.
But yeah, that's a big questionof mine.
I'm gonna have to like touchbase on that again, like part
two with some guests, because Inever really understood that and
I mean, do you think that a lotof people some people try to
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talk to other people, get out oftheir inbox or try to talk to
them out in public once they seethem with somebody, because
they feel like I want to see ifI got.
I want to see if I can get, getthem, even though they with
somebody.
Like the people I mean, is thatwhat y'all do it for?
I mean that's shit weird.
Like, stay in your own space.
Why go fuck up somebody else?
Shit.
Because you see them now thatthey happy or they trying to
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date somebody or talk tosomebody, but you wasn't even
worried about them before.
Uh, you know, 10 minutes ago,two days ago, it don't matter,
like you wasn't even worriedabout this person.
So now, all of a sudden, yousee them happy.
Now you worried about them andnow you want to be out in that
inbox and shit, or they're gonnagoing to start posting more.
So now you want to.
Okay, let me do this, let me dothat.
That shit weird as fuck.
(08:29):
And then when you're married, Ihate them.
Fucking fake ass friends thatknow you married somebody but
then they be out doing thatextra ass shit to your husbands
and shit or fiancés that extra.
It is a such thing as being toofucking friendly.
I don't care what nobody say.
It's a such thing as being toomotherfucking friendly, like if
you one of them homegirls and Iknow we cool or whatever bitch.
(08:53):
Don't be all up in the personI'm talking to inbox.
Why the fuck are you in theirinbox like that?
Stay your motherfucking ass outtheir inbox.
If any, you need to sayanything to the person that I'm
dating or you have any kind ofquestion about this, this and
that, or there's something thatneeds to be said.
Motherfucker, inbox me, text me.
Don't be inboxing the personthat I'm talking to, asking them
(09:14):
questions or sending like.
Every time they post off someshit you like it and love I mean
liking is one thing, but everyfucking thing that they like
they post, post and shit you'reliking, loving and commenting on
everything.
That's like doing too much Tome.
That's like signs Then, yeah,then what are the signs?
What are the signs ofmotherfuckers that be doing like
(09:35):
low-key, ho shit like that?
I'm gonna tell you one thing.
That's one of them for socialmedia you liking everything,
loving everything, inboxing themotherfucker every time they
post something and just tryingto be a hundred percent on
everything they do.
Why the fuck are you soinfatuated with the person's
page that I'm dating?
That shit, right, there shouldbe a.
(09:56):
That's a sign right there.
And then, like, you constantly,always got something to say
about this person and their pageand this, this and that.
Why does it fucking matter?
Like that's, if you dating thatperson, if somebody else is
dating that person, why the fuckare you worried about
everything that they doing ontheir page?
Like I said, this is one thingIf you say you and that best
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friend or whatever think thisperson doing some post shit or
whatever.
Y'all you know whole shit orwhatever y'all you know.
But when you ain't on no shitlike that and you just doing
shit, just to be doing shit oralso slick-ass shit, man, y'all
gotta watch these motherfuckers,y'all gotta watch them, y'all
gotta watch them.
I'm telling you they be theones that be on that whole shit
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and you just be like.
You gotta just sit and be like,no, you know what, nope, nope,
nope.
And then what part of the game,like what, how friendly is being
too friendly?
Because if I'm dating you andyou all cheesy and smelly, all
in the next motherfucking facewhen we around other people and
(11:02):
all that type of shit, you doinga little bit too motherfucking
much.
You need to slow your roll,slow your ass down or kick rocks
because I can, you can smileand be nice and and be, you know
cool, be your genuine self.
But I hate when motherfuckerstry to play that card.
We're like, oh, I'm just,that's just me.
I'm just friendly, I'm justreally, I'm just nice.
I mean, that's just, that'sjust how I am, that's just my um
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.
You know, my zodiac sign isthis.
So that's just how we are.
We just real.
Now, hell, now you can be one.
Your zodiac sign can bewhatever the fuck.
It is just like I'm a libra andit's one thing.
When you doing the most and youknow you're doing the most, and
then a motherfucker is onlygoing to do what you let them do
too, you have to watch.
I hate when people try to playvictim, when people be flirting,
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doing extra shit, and then theytry to sit there, act like they
don't know why they acting thatway or they don't know why they
do it.
Motherfucker, they acting likethat and they doing that because
the way you're you making themfeel like it's okay.
I don't oh my gosh, like if youone of them motherfuckers where
you tell you don't know how toput a motherfucker in they place
either.
When you dating somebody, youscared to put a motherfucker in
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they place and let them know,hey, hey, that shit ain't gonna
fly with me.
You know my girl here, or youknow this, my girl, nah, nah,
don't be doing all that wholeass shit.
Nah, you need to stay.
Stay your ass in your place.
That shit is real disrespectful.
That's the type of motherfuckerI want around me.
Like baby, come on.
Like like let it be known,because I'm talking about that
shit right there.
You fuck around and getsomething else I'm talking about
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.
Like okay, yeah, like peopleout here, they don't be on that
type of shit.
Like you gotta put people intheir place, because if you
don't put a person in theirplace, they're gonna feel like
any and everything that they'redoing you're allowing and you're
okay with it.
So then, when a motherfucker tryto be on some slick shit, try
to fuck with you or try tolow-key flirt and do this extra
shit, then you wanna act outboo-boo the fool and act like
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you, confused on why they actinglike that, or why this
motherfucker was doing this, orwhy this person oh, they tried
to hook me up with this personon the slide or when you wasn't
around.
Of course, motherfucker,because when they was flirting
with you, when you was around,shit, and you was with your
significant other, the personyou fuck with, if they felt like
shit, you didn't give a fuckabout that person being around,
(13:16):
so why wouldn't they try to hookyou with one of of their
friends and shit like that?
They feel like, oh, it ain'tserious that motherfucker,
because shit, they flirting withme Like hell, no, these
motherfuckers here they be doingthe most.
If that's the type of energythat you bring to the table when
you're dating somebody ortalking to somebody, hell, no,
keep that shit away from me,because that shit is for the
birds, that shit is not cool atall.
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I give a fuck what nobody sayand how they feel.
Rather, you're single or you'remarried.
It is a too friendly ass,motherfucker that yeah, you, you
all it's there's too much.
You can't be doing, it can't bedoing all that extra friendly
ass shit.
No, because, yeah, that thatmeans you need to grounds for
termination.
So, fuck, you mean like on somereal shit, real spill shit.
(13:59):
Like yeah, you gotta watchpeople these days.
These motherfuckers out here beoh, I'm just, I'm just cool and
and oh, well, that's just mycharacter, that's just how I am,
like I'm not for to be noasshole to nobody.
No, you don't.
You're right, you don't have tobe, you don't have to be an
asshole to nobody, but you needto make sure you come correct
and you step a one, you know,when it comes to motherfuckers.
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Because, shit, if they feellike you ain't stepping on your
ground and on the real shit,they gonna fucking treat you and
they gonna act how they want tofucking act and they not gonna
give a fuck what you say, howyou feel, and at that point
they're not even really gonnarespect the other person that
you're dating.
Because if they feel like, ifthey, if you're not respecting
them, they don't give a fuck,they're not gonna respect them.
(14:43):
That's honestly, that's howthey feel like you, I'm, you're
not.
That's how they feel you're notrespecting them.
So, shit, if you're notrespecting the person that
you're dating, why the fuck am Igonna respect them?
You don't give a fuck.
You don't give a fuck aboutwhat they're doing, and I mean,
you don't give a fuck about theshit y'all got going on, so I,
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why should I give a fuck?
So I'm gonna sit here and flirtand do this, this and that.
That's how people think andthat's how that's the type of
shit they do.
And when you in a play victimand act like, oh no, that, that
no, I ain't see that.
I ain't see that.
I ain't catch that.
I ain't catch that.
No, because I don't be lookingat that type of shit.
No, motherfucker, you belooking at that type of shit.
(15:25):
You probably not 100% belooking, but you seen some shit
or you know some shit.
Your ass just didn't want tobecause you like the shit.
You like motherfuckers actinglike that and if that's the case
, a person that's like that youhonestly need to be single on
some real shit.
You don't need to be in norelationship, you don't need to
be trying to entertain nobody.
You need to stay to yourmotherfucking self and you need
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to stay single because you likeall that extra ass flirtation
shit.
You like motherfuckers to beall on you trying to flirt with
you and shit when you in arelationship and you got your
significant other around.
And if that shit, if shit likethat is cool, then y'all ass.
You need to be single.
You don't need to be withnobody, because why are you
hurting?
Why stress somebody out and hadhim hurt behind you be talking
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about?
Oh well, I'm just extra friend,I'm just friendly, like that's
just my character.
That's my zodiac sign.
Now, motherfucker, you justneed to be to your motherfucking
self and then just stay, staylike that.
But then what gets me ismotherfuckers that play victim,
act like they don't know thatthey're being too fucking cool
and too flirty with a person ora friend or somebody that's
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around or whatever.
But then soon as they see youdo any little thing it don't
have to be for the type ofpatients or anything any little
thing.
Oh yeah, you smiling, all thismotherfucking face, or you just,
every time I'll make jokes.
You just, hey, hey, kikilaughing and shit.
Like what the fuck?
I laugh because of a joke, Ilaugh because of a joke.
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So now I'm blurting with thisperson, but you will sit there
and be staring at motherfuckersand all in their face and
letting them get close to youand they have to have them there
rubbing their ass on you andshit.
And you just okay with oh well,nah, I ain't looking like that,
I ain't see.
Nah, motherfucker, hell, nah,you keep your ass in your place
and let that shit stay how it is.
Motherfucker, you know what thehell is going on.
(17:16):
You just trying to play boo-hoothe fool and act like you don't
know what the fuck is going on,but hell, no, that is not what
it is.
Yeah, man, we gonna have.
Man, this conversation here isgonna have to be yeah, this
gonna it's gonna be a part twoto this one y'all, because I
mean we have to.
This is so big.
Yeah, we need to talk aboutthis because I got man, we need
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to talk about this because I gotman.
I just got some questions toask people like how, how cool is
too cool, what's flirtatiousand what ain't like it's like I
said even like with the socialmedia thing, it's like you doing
the most up on the people'scomments and shit like that, or
you know, or whatever, andposting like little hearts or
loving stuff or whatever.
When you in a relationship, areyou married?
Is it okay?
When you like somebody's stuff,are you just supposed to like
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it or are you doing a heart,putting a heart on it?
Is that too much or does itmatter?
Like what's what's too much andwhat's not?
You know what I'm saying.
Like it's just, yeah, we gottahave uh.
Uh, yeah, this gonna have to bea part two and I have I'm gonna
have to have some guests on herebecause, yeah, we're going to
have to have a conversationabout this one, because I just
want to know where do we sit,where does this sit at?
(18:23):
Because I know people it's alot of people out here that
think like me.
I know it's a lot of people outhere that think like me because
this shit here is getting outof hand, with motherfuckers that
act like ain't nothing going onand they don't understand.
And I ain't do this, I ain't dothat, I ain't do that.
Oh, I just post this, I justpost this, so I just tag man
every time you post amotherfucking selfie.
Why are you tagging the personthat somebody else is dating?
(18:44):
Like you tagging people if youwant them to see something that
you're from you posting there'snot no fucking promotion.
Like you're not promoting shit.
Like you ain't promoting abusiness or something like that.
I mean, even even if you arepromoting a business, you got on
t-shirts or it's the clothingline or some shit like that why
the fuck are you tagging aperson's best friend or tagging
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this person?
Like you can tag them, but damn, a photo that's you, just you.
Hell.
Nah, yeah, you gotta, like Isaid, you gotta watch
motherfuckers because, uh, thesemotherfuckers out here be doing
the most and that shit is notcool and that shit is for the
birds, because I have quick toall year.
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Now this means, yeah, people,done played on my top too too.
You know, done played on my toptoo many times.
Now ain't nobody playing thatshit and then going into that?
Sis, bro, shit, all that extrashit on social media?
Nah, fuck that nigga.
If y'all didn't come out thesame whatever, whatever, who I?
Yeah, nah, fuck all that, y'allain't related, or at least
y'all don't have the same daddy,y'all ain't related.
That shit, anything can happen,anything goes.
(19:51):
And then, fuck all that shittalking about for the bros?
Nah, nah, nigga shit talkingabout for the bros.
No, no, nigga, no, bro, sis,this, this and that y'all just
y'all doing too much.
But all right, y'all.
Like I said, we're gonna haveto have a part two to this
because, yeah, I gotta get somepeople's opinions on this shit,
because I just been thinkingabout it.
It's like, yeah, we, we gottago there, we gotta go there, but
it's your girl, dj cornbread,aka the empress, and I'm out
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this bitch bye.
what's up y'all, sugar, dj cornbread aka the
empress back with another one.
So I just had, I just I justgot something to say.
I just got.
I got a question for y'all.
So, if you are in a relationship, do you think it's okay to post
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your significant other onsocial media?
And like, what are the pros andcons of that, especially like
if the person is a nobody?
Or if the person is somebody,an influencer, you know could
have a big name in the city, inthe streets, or it could just be
(00:43):
, you know, it could just beboth of y'all, just regular.
Do you think it's okay to postyour significant other on social
media?
I'm going to say I feel like atfirst, I would say when I was
younger, I used to feel acertain type of way about it.
If the person didn't want topost me, I was like like dang,
what you doing?
(01:04):
You cheating, or is somebody onthere you trying to?
You know, keep tabs.
They got they keep the tabs onyou, or what's the issue, why
you don't want to do that, whyyou don't want to do that.
So my issue was like you don'twant to nobody to see me, you
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don't want to.
I mean, what's going on.
But I had to learn andunderstand, like when I got
older.
If you're dating somebody, whenyou I tried to do that I don't,
I don't feel like you shouldn't, you shouldn't post your secret
online, like even when youmarry, like even if it goes as
far as being buried, because alot of people out here be hating
or you know and they don't wantyou with that person or they
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don't want that person with youand they'll just, you know, do
any and everything to sabotagewhat you got going on, your
relationship or whatever.
Especially if you y'all arefriends and y'all are trying to
make something happen.
And as soon as you post likeany kind of pictures like y'all
chilling on social media ory'all are trying to make
something happen, and as soon asyou post like any kind of
pictures like y'all chilling onsocial media or y'all around
each other, then you always gotthat one motherfucker that want
to just come in and be like oh,you know uh, or you know this
(02:15):
person used to talk to uh or uh,you talk to her or you talk to
him, you hang around him, likeit always be some messy shit,
even dudes.
Oh, bro, you talk to so-and-soor you book with so-and-so, or
y'all just kicking it.
Or when you start hanging withthis person and it just be
motherfuckers, just behave.
These days it's like nobodywants to see nobody happy,
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everybody want to just be allthe people business and it just
it's just crazy.
Like you can't post nobody thatyou're interested in or you're
talking to or going on justcrazy.
Like you can't post nobody thatyou're interested in or you're
talking to or going on dateswith children.
You can't post nothing becausepeople be so ready to sabotage
and fuck up whatever you gotgoing on.
They would do idiot everything,especially if they want that
(03:01):
person.
They want that person and theyain't been giving them no play
and no type of nothing.
And then all of a sudden theysee you all of a sudden posting
videos and this, this, and thatthey come oh no, no, ain't no
way I've been liking on thisperson.
They be looking at it like no,this person, no, uh-uh, I got to
(03:29):
try to do something or saysomething to try to fuck their
head up so they ain't messingwith this person.
People out here is crazy.
They really do shit like that.
And then don't let you bemarried, you married to somebody
.
It seems like when you get in arelationship or when you marry,
that's when everybody startflocking.
Everybody want to talk to youand fuck up something.
But when you single and youain't messing with nobody, you
ain't dating nobody, everybodybe it's just dry.
Or the people that's comingtowards you or coming trying to
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holler at you or whatever youknow that shit dry, it's lame,
it's like I don't know, uh-uh,keep on moving, keep on trucking
.
But then it's like people thatyou're not interested in.
But then as soon as you talkingto somebody, or you dating
somebody that you really kind ofinterested in and you trying to
see how it's going to go, oryou end up getting engaged and
shit like that oh dog, I'mtalking about motherfuckers.
(04:15):
Be like oh, radars go up.
It's like they know.
It's like it happened.
Like instantly, like, sometimeswithin minutes I'm not bullshit
Like, especially if you're, ifyou post them, they just like.
It's like I'm talking about.
Like people just instantly, oh,so-and-so, they talk, they
engage this, this and that.
(04:35):
So then they gotta oh yeah, letme start posting this, or get
jumping their inbox and all thattype of shit.
Why, who, how does that make?
I mean, I don't understand it.
Like, why not jump in thatperson's inbox.
When they are single.
They don't have nothing goingon.
They ain't talking to nobody.
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You ain't seeing them postingshit.
Like they not doing nothing.
Like when they are postingstuff, it's they always by
theyself, they always treatingtheyself, they always doing
stuff by theyself, not, you know, showing nobody and nothing
like.
It's just them or them andtheir kids.
If that's what you tend to do,show your kids like, why not
date, try to date them or talkto them around that time, or try
(05:17):
to be cool with them and go outaround that time?
Why wait to a person?
You see somebody out withsomebody, be like, oh yeah, they
fucking with this person.
Today I've seen them beenchilling the last couple spots.
I've seen them.
If they was, they was with eachother and stuff like that.
Or you see them post a picture.
So now all of a sudden, youwant to get up in their inbox or
you want to try to holler themout on the low when you see them
(05:37):
in public and stuff like that.
What part of the game is it if aperson you talking to somebody
or they not well, they notactually talking to them or
dating them or whatever, andit's just like they on some
friendship, they cool in orwhatever.
Then that just needs to be said.
Or you have certain situations,like I've been in where before
(06:00):
in my life where a person wouldbe like, oh, that's my baby mama
, or I stayed her.
I hate that shit too.
You gotta watch them,motherfuckers too.
That's my baby mama, I stayedher, but I'm on there for the
kids because I ain't got nowhereto go right now.
Or I just got out of jail andI'm trying to find my own shit,
and that's the way it be.
All types of shit motherfuckersbe coming up with and the whole
time they be lying and then thebaby mama be looking at you like
(06:21):
you, trifling bitch like you.
Why the fuck would you do thisif you know I was talking to
this motherfucker first of all,this motherfucker told me that
they don't talk to you no more.
Or she don't talk to you nomore, they just around for the
kids, or they just around youknow to to make sure everything
go good, or they really don't atthat point not using you, but
(06:42):
you don't want them to gonowhere.
You want to make sure theystraight on their feet and you
know that they doing what thefuck they want to do because
they single, but they just,y'all just live together.
Motherfuckers don't be knowingshit like that.
They just be thinking shit behow this person is trying to
fuck up what I got going on.
No, nigga, this motherfuckingass line, motherfucker done,
said this and it ain't even trueand got me thinking one thing,
(07:05):
got you thinking one thing.
You thinking I'm trifling, I'mthinking you doing some trifling
shit to this person.
Like man, that's messed up,they running over you like this.
So they not, they know, don'tyou know, appreciate you, and
this isn't it not knowing noneof that, like that it'd be, it'd
be crazy out here, man, y'allgotta, you, gotta watch.
I just learned my god, like Isaid, I had to learn the hard
(07:25):
way when it come to my meat.
But yeah, that's a big questionof mine.
I'm gonna have to like touchbase on that again, like part
two with some guests, because Inever really understood that and
I mean, do you think that a lotof people some people try to
(07:47):
talk to other people, get out oftheir inbox or try to talk to
them out in public once they seethem with somebody, because
they feel like I want to see ifI got.
I want to see if I can get, getthem, even though they with
somebody.
Like the people I mean, is thatwhat y'all do it for?
I mean that's shit weird.
Like, stay in your own space.
Why go fuck up somebody else?
Shit.
Because you see them now thatthey happy or they trying to
(08:08):
date somebody or talk tosomebody, but you wasn't even
worried about them before.
Uh, you know, 10 minutes ago,two days ago, it don't matter,
like you wasn't even worriedabout this person.
So now, all of a sudden, yousee them happy.
Now you worried about them andnow you want to be out in that
inbox and shit, or they're gonnagoing to start posting more.
So now you want to.
Okay, let me do this, let me dothat.
That shit weird as fuck.
(08:29):
And then when you're married, Ihate them.
Fucking fake ass friends thatknow you married somebody but
then they be out doing thatextra ass shit to your husbands
and shit or fiancés that extra.
It is a such thing as being toofucking friendly.
I don't care what nobody say.
It's a such thing as being toomotherfucking friendly, like if
you one of them homegirls and Iknow we cool or whatever bitch.
(08:53):
Don't be all up in the personI'm talking to inbox.
Why the fuck are you in theirinbox like that?
Stay your motherfucking ass outtheir inbox.
If any, you need to sayanything to the person that I'm
dating or you have any kind ofquestion about this, this and
that, or there's something thatneeds to be said.
Motherfucker, inbox me, text me.
Don't be inboxing the personthat I'm talking to, asking them
(09:14):
questions or sending like.
Every time they post off someshit you like it and love I mean
liking is one thing, but everyfucking thing that they like
they post, post and shit you'reliking, loving and commenting on
everything.
That's like doing too much Tome.
That's like signs Then, yeah,then what are the signs?
What are the signs ofmotherfuckers that be doing like
(09:35):
low-key, ho shit like that?
I'm gonna tell you one thing.
That's one of them for socialmedia you liking everything,
loving everything, inboxing themotherfucker every time they
post something and just tryingto be a hundred percent on
everything they do.
Why the fuck are you soinfatuated with the person's
page that I'm dating?
That shit, right, there shouldbe a.
(09:56):
That's a sign right there.
And then, like, you constantly,always got something to say
about this person and their pageand this, this and that.
Why does it fucking matter?
Like that's, if you dating thatperson, if somebody else is
dating that person, why the fuckare you worried about
everything that they doing ontheir page?
Like I said, this is one thingIf you say you and that best
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friend or whatever think thisperson doing some post shit or
whatever.
Y'all you know whole shit orwhatever y'all you know.
But when you ain't on no shitlike that and you just doing
shit, just to be doing shit oralso slick-ass shit, man, y'all
gotta watch these motherfuckers,y'all gotta watch them, y'all
gotta watch them.
I'm telling you they be theones that be on that whole shit
(10:39):
and you just be like.
You gotta just sit and be like,no, you know what, nope, nope,
nope.
And then what part of the game,like what, how friendly is being
too friendly?
Because if I'm dating you andyou all cheesy and smelly, all
in the next motherfucking facewhen we around other people and
(11:02):
all that type of shit, you doinga little bit too motherfucking
much.
You need to slow your roll,slow your ass down or kick rocks
because I can, you can smileand be nice and and be, you know
cool, be your genuine self.
But I hate when motherfuckerstry to play that card.
We're like, oh, I'm just,that's just me.
I'm just friendly, I'm justreally, I'm just nice.
I mean, that's just, that'sjust how I am, that's just my um
(11:25):
.
You know, my zodiac sign isthis.
So that's just how we are.
We just real.
Now, hell, now you can be one.
Your zodiac sign can bewhatever the fuck.
It is just like I'm a libra andit's one thing.
When you doing the most and youknow you're doing the most, and
then a motherfucker is onlygoing to do what you let them do
too, you have to watch.
I hate when people try to playvictim, when people be flirting,
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doing extra shit, and then theytry to sit there, act like they
don't know why they acting thatway or they don't know why they
do it.
Motherfucker, they acting likethat and they doing that because
the way you're you making themfeel like it's okay.
I don't oh my gosh, like if youone of them motherfuckers where
you tell you don't know how toput a motherfucker in they place
either.
When you dating somebody, youscared to put a motherfucker in
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they place and let them know,hey, hey, that shit ain't gonna
fly with me.
You know my girl here, or youknow this, my girl, nah, nah,
don't be doing all that wholeass shit.
Nah, you need to stay.
Stay your ass in your place.
That shit is real disrespectful.
That's the type of motherfuckerI want around me.
Like baby, come on.
Like like let it be known,because I'm talking about that
shit right there.
You fuck around and getsomething else I'm talking about
(12:32):
.
Like okay, yeah, like peopleout here, they don't be on that
type of shit.
Like you gotta put people intheir place, because if you
don't put a person in theirplace, they're gonna feel like
any and everything that they'redoing you're allowing and you're
okay with it.
So then, when a motherfucker tryto be on some slick shit, try
to fuck with you or try tolow-key flirt and do this extra
shit, then you wanna act outboo-boo the fool and act like
(12:54):
you, confused on why they actinglike that, or why this
motherfucker was doing this, orwhy this person oh, they tried
to hook me up with this personon the slide or when you wasn't
around.
Of course, motherfucker,because when they was flirting
with you, when you was around,shit, and you was with your
significant other, the personyou fuck with, if they felt like
shit, you didn't give a fuckabout that person being around,
(13:16):
so why wouldn't they try to hookyou with one of of their
friends and shit like that?
They feel like, oh, it ain'tserious that motherfucker,
because shit, they flirting withme Like hell, no, these
motherfuckers here they be doingthe most.
If that's the type of energythat you bring to the table when
you're dating somebody ortalking to somebody, hell, no,
keep that shit away from me,because that shit is for the
birds, that shit is not cool atall.
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I give a fuck what nobody sayand how they feel.
Rather, you're single or you'remarried.
It is a too friendly ass,motherfucker that yeah, you, you
all it's there's too much.
You can't be doing, it can't bedoing all that extra friendly
ass shit.
No, because, yeah, that thatmeans you need to grounds for
termination.
So, fuck, you mean like on somereal shit, real spill shit.
(13:59):
Like yeah, you gotta watchpeople these days.
These motherfuckers out here beoh, I'm just, I'm just cool and
and oh, well, that's just mycharacter, that's just how I am,
like I'm not for to be noasshole to nobody.
No, you don't.
You're right, you don't have tobe, you don't have to be an
asshole to nobody, but you needto make sure you come correct
and you step a one, you know,when it comes to motherfuckers.
(14:22):
Because, shit, if they feellike you ain't stepping on your
ground and on the real shit,they gonna fucking treat you and
they gonna act how they want tofucking act and they not gonna
give a fuck what you say, howyou feel, and at that point
they're not even really gonnarespect the other person that
you're dating.
Because if they feel like, ifthey, if you're not respecting
them, they don't give a fuck,they're not gonna respect them.
(14:43):
That's honestly, that's howthey feel like you, I'm, you're
not.
That's how they feel you're notrespecting them.
So, shit, if you're notrespecting the person that
you're dating, why the fuck am Igonna respect them?
You don't give a fuck.
You don't give a fuck aboutwhat they're doing, and I mean,
you don't give a fuck about theshit y'all got going on, so I,
(15:05):
why should I give a fuck?
So I'm gonna sit here and flirtand do this, this and that.
That's how people think andthat's how that's the type of
shit they do.
And when you in a play victimand act like, oh no, that, that
no, I ain't see that.
I ain't see that.
I ain't catch that.
I ain't catch that.
No, because I don't be lookingat that type of shit.
No, motherfucker, you belooking at that type of shit.
(15:25):
You probably not 100% belooking, but you seen some shit
or you know some shit.
Your ass just didn't want tobecause you like the shit.
You like motherfuckers actinglike that and if that's the case
, a person that's like that youhonestly need to be single on
some real shit.
You don't need to be in norelationship, you don't need to
be trying to entertain nobody.
You need to stay to yourmotherfucking self and you need
(15:46):
to stay single because you likeall that extra ass flirtation
shit.
You like motherfuckers to beall on you trying to flirt with
you and shit when you in arelationship and you got your
significant other around.
And if that shit, if shit likethat is cool, then y'all ass.
You need to be single.
You don't need to be withnobody, because why are you
hurting?
Why stress somebody out and hadhim hurt behind you be talking
(16:10):
about?
Oh well, I'm just extra friend,I'm just friendly, like that's
just my character.
That's my zodiac sign.
Now, motherfucker, you justneed to be to your motherfucking
self and then just stay, staylike that.
But then what gets me ismotherfuckers that play victim,
act like they don't know thatthey're being too fucking cool
and too flirty with a person ora friend or somebody that's
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around or whatever.
But then soon as they see youdo any little thing it don't
have to be for the type ofpatients or anything any little
thing.
Oh yeah, you smiling, all thismotherfucking face, or you just,
every time I'll make jokes.
You just, hey, hey, kikilaughing and shit.
Like what the fuck?
I laugh because of a joke, Ilaugh because of a joke.
(16:54):
So now I'm blurting with thisperson, but you will sit there
and be staring at motherfuckersand all in their face and
letting them get close to youand they have to have them there
rubbing their ass on you andshit.
And you just okay with oh well,nah, I ain't looking like that,
I ain't see.
Nah, motherfucker, hell, nah,you keep your ass in your place
and let that shit stay how it is.
Motherfucker, you know what thehell is going on.
(17:16):
You just trying to play boo-hoothe fool and act like you don't
know what the fuck is going on,but hell, no, that is not what
it is.
Yeah, man, we gonna have.
Man, this conversation here isgonna have to be yeah, this
gonna it's gonna be a part twoto this one y'all, because I
mean we have to.
This is so big.
Yeah, we need to talk aboutthis because I got man, we need
(17:39):
to talk about this because I gotman.
I just got some questions toask people like how, how cool is
too cool, what's flirtatiousand what ain't like it's like I
said even like with the socialmedia thing, it's like you doing
the most up on the people'scomments and shit like that, or
you know, or whatever, andposting like little hearts or
loving stuff or whatever.
When you in a relationship, areyou married?
Is it okay?
When you like somebody's stuff,are you just supposed to like
(18:00):
it or are you doing a heart,putting a heart on it?
Is that too much or does itmatter?
Like what's what's too much andwhat's not?
You know what I'm saying.
Like it's just, yeah, we gottahave uh.
Uh, yeah, this gonna have to bea part two and I have I'm gonna
have to have some guests on herebecause, yeah, we're going to
have to have a conversationabout this one, because I just
want to know where do we sit,where does this sit at?
(18:23):
Because I know people it's alot of people out here that
think like me.
I know it's a lot of people outhere that think like me because
this shit here is getting outof hand, with motherfuckers that
act like ain't nothing going onand they don't understand.
And I ain't do this, I ain't dothat, I ain't do that.
Oh, I just post this, I justpost this, so I just tag man
every time you post amotherfucking selfie.
Why are you tagging the personthat somebody else is dating?
(18:44):
Like you tagging people if youwant them to see something that
you're from you posting there'snot no fucking promotion.
Like you're not promoting shit.
Like you ain't promoting abusiness or something like that.
I mean, even even if you arepromoting a business, you got on
t-shirts or it's the clothingline or some shit like that why
the fuck are you tagging aperson's best friend or tagging
(19:05):
this person?
Like you can tag them, but damn, a photo that's you, just you.
Hell.
Nah, yeah, you gotta, like Isaid, you gotta watch
motherfuckers because, uh, thesemotherfuckers out here be doing
the most and that shit is notcool and that shit is for the
birds, because I have quick toall year.
(19:29):
Now this means, yeah, people,done played on my top too too.
You know, done played on my toptoo many times.
Now ain't nobody playing thatshit and then going into that?
Sis, bro, shit, all that extrashit on social media?
Nah, fuck that nigga.
If y'all didn't come out thesame whatever, whatever, who I?
Yeah, nah, fuck all that, y'allain't related, or at least
y'all don't have the same daddy,y'all ain't related.
That shit, anything can happen,anything goes.
(19:51):
And then, fuck all that shittalking about for the bros?
Nah, nah, nigga shit talkingabout for the bros.
No, no, nigga, no, bro, sis,this, this and that y'all just
y'all doing too much.
But all right, y'all.
Like I said, we're gonna haveto have a part two to this
because, yeah, I gotta get somepeople's opinions on this shit,
because I just been thinkingabout it.
It's like, yeah, we, we gottago there, we gotta go there, but
it's your girl, dj cornbread,aka the empress, and I'm out
(20:12):
this bitch bye.
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