The Narcissism Trap: How Self-Centered People Destroy Relationships and Peace

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Fashitsho Podcast | Episode 13: "Spotting a Narcissist: Understanding Narcissistic Behavior"
 

Narcissistic behavior leaves a trail of emotional destruction that can take years to heal from. Have you ever bent over backward for someone only to have them act like you did nothing at all? Or dealt with a person who never—not once—admitted they were wrong about anything?

DJ Cornbread tackles this frustrating reality head-on, breaking down why narcissists can be so incredibly damaging to our mental health and relationships. Drawing from both personal experience and clinical understanding, she explains how these self-centered personalities operate—constantly shifting blame, refusing accountability, and somehow always positioning themselves as the victim regardless of their actions.

"You can feel like you went above and beyond to the moon and back," she says, "and they'll still find something lacking." This impossible-to-please nature creates unbalanced relationships where one person gives everything while receiving minimal appreciation or reciprocity in return.

The episode dives into the clinical aspects of Narcissistic Personality Disorder while providing 14 specific warning signs to watch for, including fantasies of greatness, exploitative behavior, and manipulation tactics like gaslighting. Whether you're currently dealing with a narcissistic friend, partner, family member, or coworker—or simply want to protect yourself from these relationships in the future—this raw, unfiltered conversation offers both validation and practical wisdom.

Ready to stop blaming yourself for a narcissist's behavior? Listen now, and learn why setting boundaries isn't just suggested—it's absolutely necessary for your wellbeing. Share your experiences in the comments; we're building a community that understands exactly what you're going through.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
The Shit Show.
The podcast starts now with DJCornbread, aka the Empress.
What's up y'all?
It's your girl, dj Cornbread,aka the Empress.
Y'all already know what time itis.
Back with another one man, sayEP13, this episode is going to

(00:21):
be talking about narcissisticpeople.
Episode is going to be talkingabout narcissistic people.
Oh my God, that is a big one.
I am tired of you motherfuckers.
Oh my God, stranger danger.
Like what the fuck?
Like I'm so tired ofnarcissistic ass people.

(00:42):
Like come the fuck on.
Like, come come on now.
Like if you know for a fact younarcissistic and you don't have
no good intentions when it comesto somebody, or you don't
really want to fuck withsomebody you know.
Like, leave them alone.
Like do you stay to yourfucking self.
Like why do narcissistic peopledo shit like that?

(01:03):
And then they never end thefucking wrong.
Nothing they do is wrong,everything is right.
You can't tell a narcissisticperson, a narcissist, nothing.
Like every little thing thatthey do, they feel like they,
they, they right, they ain'tdone nothing wrong, they, they,
they play victim all themotherfucking time.
It don't matter, they playvictim, oh yeah, so if you

(01:25):
weren't doing this or if thiswasn't this is net and I
wouldn't have acted like this orI wouldn't did like this, like,
come the fuck on, take somekind of fucking responsibility,
like you a narcissist, and youjust need to fucking admit that
shit like.
You just like just admit thatshit.
I hate motherfucking peoplethat do that like damn, and then

(01:47):
like they're playing a victimtype shit, like oh well, this is
this, this, and that I wouldn't.
Wouldn't have did that if.
If you wouldn't did this andI'll let off fake ass shit.
No, no, no, ain't, no, it ain'tnone of that shit.
You, just you, just one of themmotherfuckers that feel like
the what ball is in your hands?
Everything gotta go how youwant it to go.

(02:07):
If it don't go how you want itto go, then you're gonna be on
some old, weird ass shit likeand I don't know, I don't know,
I'll be feeling like, so I'll bewanting to feel like some
narcissistic people can change,but I'm starting to feel like
you motherfuckers can't change.
I don't see a lot of peopletalking about this shit.

(02:27):
Be like, no, don't trust thosenarcissists, hell, no, they
can't change, they never.
They never gonna change.
They'll sit there and act likethey can change, or they gonna
change, or sit there and andjust move around from your ass
and and just randomly just stoptalking to your ass and then try
to go find somebody that's justlike you, or this, this and
that A friend that's just likeyou.
It could be a relationship or afriend, and they'll try to do

(02:50):
this and that, and then thatshit don't go how it go, or it
could be, it could have beengoing how they probably wanted
it to go, but then they alwaystry to come back and step back
and go backwards or go back.
Let me see if this can happen.
Let me see if I can, if I cango back here and do this just to
see all this type of shit.
Stop going and fucking withpeople.

(03:11):
Narcissistic ass motherfucker,stay your ass where you at.
I'm tired of y'allmotherfuckers, tired of y'all
asses.
Like damn man, like if you knowthat you don't have no good
intentions with somebody, orgoing to fuck with them or being
around them.
Like leave them alone.
Like stop going and just likedisturbing their peace.
Like that's enough shit.
Back to another episode that wedid before.

(03:33):
Like stop going and disturbingmotherfuckers' peace.
Narcissists, like y'all alwaysdisturbing people's peace.
Let y'all shit stay fucked uplike if y'all don't want to
change for y'allself and for thebetter for other people, stop
going to fuck up other people'sshit.
That shit weird as fuck man.
That shit is weird, weird,weird, weird.
Stay, your narcissistic assover there Like don't nobody,

(03:54):
like all that fake ass,narcissistic ass shit and you
can't do nothing.
You can't try to do nothing fora narcissistic ass motherfucker.
You can't try to do anythingany.
Don't try to go above andbeyond.
For a narcissistic motherfuckerlike, any little thing that you
do is not enough.
You can feel like you wentabove and beyond to the moon and

(04:15):
back.
You'll go to a narcissist andbe like baby.
I went and got the moon for youand everybody that I found out
that was living on thatmotherfucker and they gonna be
like damn, like where the?
Like they ain't.
Like where I mean it wasn't nomoney up there, like you didn't
bring, like no shoes or nothing.

(04:37):
Like they ain't had no jewelry,um, like you just bought the
world, you just bought it back.
And the people like I mean likethey also they on some like man
, I just don't understand.
Like the motherfuckers likethey don't be happy.
Nothing you do will make anarcissist happy like nothing,
and then don't try to help anarcissist, the motherfucker.

(04:57):
No, like you can say they cantell you they need help or they
can basically speak to you abouta problem, which basically is
letting you know that they needhelp and you can help them.
And then they'll say why dothey?
Why y'all always say this.
They say you didn't have to dothat, you did that on your own.
I ain't asked you to do that.

(05:18):
What the fuck is that?
Like what you?
What the fuck you mean?
And don't say, oh, I mean shit.
Well, it's true, I ain't askedyou to do that.
You the fuck is that like whatyou?
What the fuck you mean?
And don't say, oh, I mean shit.
Well, it's true, I ain't askyou to do it, you did that.
Show you, oh, that's not thefucking point.
Like I hate when people do thatshit.
Act fucking boo-boo the fool,act stupid as fuck, like you
don't understand what the fuckis going on and what you're
doing.
That's that narcissistic assshit.

(05:38):
Like come on down there tryingto act like you don't know, know
what you're doing and know it'sjust.
Oh, I just want to take controland just act like you don't,
you didn't do this, or youdidn't do that, or I don't know
why this person acting like this?
You just uh to anybody elsethat's around you.
You're just a good person.
You're just the perfect,perfect motherfucker in this
situation.
You ain't done nothing wrong.

(05:59):
You don't know why this persondoing this, acting like that, or
don't want you to be aroundthem, or halfway fuck with you
and this, this and that younarcissistic-ass person.
You Tell the truth to yourfriends and family members and
everybody else.
Just associate.
Stop lying to yourself andlying to other people.
That shit, they're X, d, fuckout of me.

(06:27):
I wonder when narcissists likedo y'all go get help?
I mean I honestly feel likewhen y'all go get help, does it
help?
Does it work, shit.
I'm starting to think that thatshit don't even work.
Like it don't even matter.
I mean it don't matter.
I'm starting to think that shitdon't matter.
It don't matter if a narcissist, it don't matter.
What's wrong to think that shitdon't matter, it don't matter
if a narcissist go get help ornot.
Like y'all motherfuckers,that's just the type of shit,

(06:47):
y'all, that's how y'all be on.
Like oh god, I just talkingabout these motherfuckers giving
me a headache, shit.
I mean I don't understand, like,why do you just, you
motherfuckers, I always have tojust, oh, I don't know that shit
thirsts for the birds for me,like, you can't tell the
motherfucker shit, everything isright in they eyes.

(07:09):
They, they just like and thendon't be having, don't have no
argument with no narcissist.
Don't have no argument with anarcissist, because that
motherfucker is going to sitthere and act like you did it,
you did it.
You the reason why they actinglike that, you the reason why

(07:31):
their life is in shambles.
You the reason why they can'tdo this.
You the reason why they can'tdo that shit.
You fuck around with the reasonwhy they can't fuck Anything.
I mean just anything, dating,all of that.
They'll just try to blow it allon you and it's just them.
Like every little thing.
Like they never takeaccountability for nothing, shit

(07:55):
.
I'm starting to think that's.
I don't know if that's a Leothing.
Yeah, because of course it'snot.
I know it's not.
Let me take that back because,shit, it's this narcissist.
That's not leo.
So I, I don't understand this.
I just don't understand thesemotherfuckers like this shit
here is for the birds, like, andthen they really y'all really
do shit to people and thenwonder why when y'all try to

(08:19):
come back around motherfuckers,y'all get the silent treatment
Like that's why?
Like because you, on thatfoolery fuckery, that fake ass
who wants to deal with amotherfucker like that, like
stay in your space Like ugh, Idon't even know what to say.

(08:40):
Man, that shit is for the birds, that shit is trash.
Dubster juice Like period Cool.
I don't understand that man.
Like that narcissistic-ass shitY'all need to.
Y'all need that shit.
Like I said, y'all need to dosomething with that shit.
That shit is for themotherfucking birds.
But you know what, when y'allgo?

(09:01):
Narcissism a self-centeredpersonality style characterized
as having an excessivepreoccupation with oneself.
You don't care about nobody butyour motherfucking self, nobody
but yourself.
It's all about you.
Self-importance a need foradmiration and a lack of empathy

(09:27):
for others Like that shit istrash.
Like what type of person?
Like don't give a fuck aboutnobody but they self?
Let me let y'all know some keycharacteristics of narcissism.
So self-importance Narcissiststend to have an inflated view of
their own abilities,achievements and importance.

(09:48):
Need for admiration they craveattention and seek constant
praise and validation fromothers.
Lack of empathy they struggleto understand or care about the
feelings and needs of othersEntitlement.
They believe they are deservingof special treatment and have a
sense of entitlement.
Like arrogance.

(10:09):
They often display an attitudeof superiority and maybe, like I
mean condescending, sorry, likewhat the fuck?
Like come like.
This is crazy and it isactually a such thing as called
npd narcissistic personalitydisorder for you people that

(10:30):
don't understand, they don'tknow like this shit is real.
While narcissism is apersonality style, narcissistic
personality disorder is a mentalhealth condition characterized
by a persistent and pervasivepattern of these traits.
People with NPD often havedifficulty forming and
maintaining health relationships, healthy relationships.

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They may struggle withemotional regulation and may
react defensively oraggressively when their ego is
threatened.
Like come the fuck on now.
Important considerations noteveryone who displays some
narcissistic traits has NPD.
It's important to distinguishbetween healthy self-esteem and

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narcissistic behaviors.
If you suspect someone you knowhas NPD, it's important to set
boundaries and prioritize yourown well-being.
And if you're struggling withMPD or suspect you may have it,
seeking professional help isrecommended.
Please seek recommended helpbecause this shit is getting out
of hand.
But I mean, I'm just like forreal, now, come on now.

(11:37):
Like this shit is really reallygetting out of hand.
Like y'all need to like sitdown and somebody needs to have
like a talk with like a wholeroom, like I know, like it's a
lot going on, like they have to,oh I don't know, like it gotta
be a whole bunch of shit, likesomebody.
They need to help these peoplebecause shit, I mean, mean I

(12:00):
ain't saying I'm I know I ain'tperfect, but that narcissistic
shit.
Let me give y'all 14 signs of anarcissist.
One fantasies of greatness.
Two belief that they arespecial and unique.
Three need for excessiveadmiration.
Four sense of entitlement.

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5.
Interpersonality Exploitivebehavior.
6.
Lack of empathy.
7.
Envy of others or belief thatothers are envious of them.
Eight arrogant or haughtybehaviors or attitudes.

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Nine difficulty handlingcriticism.
Ten superficial relationships.
Eleven lack of accountability.
Twelve manipulative behavior,gaslighting guilt, tripping and
playing the victim.
13, obsessed with status andappearance.

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14, inability to maintainhealthy relationships.
And, with that being said, 14says due to their
self-centeredness of lack ofempathy, narcissists struggle to
maintain healthy, long-termrelationships.
They may cycle through friends,partners and colleagues,
leading a trail of brokenrelationships in their wake.
This inability to maintainhealthy relationships can result

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in a pattern of loneliness,instability and repeated
emotional trauma for both thenarcissist and those they
interact with.
Well, damn shit, I might need tostop interacting with fucking
narcissists.
Shit like what the fuck?
Stay the fuck away from me.
But I don't know, man, I'mabout to get up out of here.
Y'all already know what time itis, but shit show the podcast.

(13:51):
Dj Cornbread, aka the Empressout.
Hey man, this is BX the ClipI'm the beat.
Man, this is the largestfashion show on the podcast.
Say, I'm the beat.