January 7, 2025 • 28 mins
Fashitsho: The Podcast – EP 2: Fake Friends vs. Fake Family
In this thought-provoking episode of Fashitsho: The Podcast, we dive deep into the complex dynamics of relationships with fake friends and fake family members. Join us as we explore the subtle (and not-so-subtle) differences between these two types of toxic relationships and how they affect our mental health and personal growth. We discuss the signs to watch out for, the emotional toll they take, and how to set boundaries with individuals who are draining your energy. Whether it's betrayal, jealousy, or manipulation, this episode offers a raw and honest look at navigating these difficult relationships and reclaiming your peace of mind. Tune in for insightful conversations, personal stories, and practical advice on how to recognize and deal with fake friends and fake family members in your life.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
The Shit Show.
The podcast starts now with DJKornbread, aka the Empress.
Back with another one the ShitShow.
The podcast is up again.
Today we're going to be talkingabout fake friends and family,
which is going to be titledBlood Versus Water, and today I
have two of my guest homies inthe building.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
What's up this?
Your boy, Icy Mike.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
And I got my girl.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
Hey, what's up everybody, this your girl, Jay
Renee.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
In the building and we're about to get on this topic
about the fake friends and thefamily members, because I know
this has been a big topic.
A lot of people have hadsomething to say about this and
I've seen it a lot on socialmedia, including TikTok and
Instagram, and I actually haveseen a little bit on Snapchat.
So my first topic, first thingwe're going to talk about today,
(00:50):
is how do you guys spot a fakefriend, and I guess, mike, we
can start with you.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
How can you spot a fake friend?
Well, that's I mean, well, asfar as my experience, is a fake
friend anybody that try to dresslike you, try to do the same
things you do.
That's a red flag.
You need to watch out for that.
That's some fake friend stuff.
To be honest with you, you knowwhat I'm saying, because
(01:17):
everybody should have their own,you know, doing their own thing
, their own, you know.
But yeah, yeah, yeah, youreally should.
That is that is like the numberone thing.
Somebody try to do the exactstuff you do.
Yeah, that ain't I mean.
Some people may think it's likea compliment, but it's not.
It's not that much of acompliment I definitely agree.
Speaker 3 (01:40):
I know sometimes with fake friends, like they're're
going to be around for what'sgoing to benefit them, so like
you won't hear them for nothing,that you want, like, if you
like, oh well, hey, I'm doingthis for my business or I'm
doing this.
You know I need your supportfor this.
But the moment you postsomething about going out to a
club event or something aboutgiving away something and stuff
(02:03):
like that, you kind of can pickup on who's really going to be
there to support you or who'sjust there for the benefits.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
Facts yeah, I'm kind of like.
So, yeah, I'm thinking like fakefriends, so kind of like what
you said and what I'm on whatmike said too.
So like a person that I don'tknow if they kind of like
following behind, doingeverything that you do, but then
, especially if they're in thebackground on some Now, when you
ask them about certain stuff,now I don't think you should do
(02:31):
that or now do it like this butthen they turn around and
backdoor and do the same thingthat you was talking about or
you asked them about, but theytry to do it on the low, around
people that you don't fuck with.
So you don't know what's goingon.
And then I don't know what'sgoing on and then, like you know
, I don't know, I don't knowfake friends, like I feel like
some, some of them be doing theyact like they gonna do one
thing or they act like they foryou, and then you have to find
(02:51):
out through other friends thatyou thought were real friends
that end up being fake friends.
You know on what they motive isand what they really, what type
of stuff they really on too.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
Yeah, and then you know they also, I think
sometimes I think we overlookthis because we try to see the
friendship.
But some friends will be around, people that you don't
associate yourself with, andcertain things will get said
with those people and then theywant to come back and tell you
you know certain things like, oh, girl, such and such, such and
(03:24):
such, but it's like, okay, well,you know, I don't deal with
them.
So what did you say while youwas with them that you coming
back to tell me, because you hadto have said something, that
you were sitting in that circleexactly I want some shit like
that.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
And then, like I'm gonna, I wanted to, like, I
think I just want to throw thisin there.
So, like, do y'all feel likeand I'm literally just throwing
this in there.
So like, do y'all feel like andI'm literally just throwing
this in there Do y'all feel like, if you are friends with
somebody and they're not friends, they don't like another person
that you're friends with?
Do you feel like you stillshould hang around the person
that they don't like?
(03:56):
And would you I don't know, Idon't even know how to ask this
Like, would you still hangaround that person is one thing,
but then would you tell themtoday, since you fuck with this
person, would you tell them whatthe other person is saying or
no, you're just like, I'm gonnasee, I'm gonna fuck with you
because I fuck with you, andeven though she be talking shit
or saying this about you, I'mnot gonna tell you because I
fuck with both of y'all I thinkit kind of depends, like, if
(04:18):
it's something that's like realsmall and petty, like not really
like a honest, like we just gota big misunderstanding type of
thing.
Speaker 3 (04:28):
It can vary because, like, if someone just don't know
you and that's why they actinglike that, then you know there
could be some changes there.
It might not be something, butI know, like for me, like when
I'm with certain people, uh,because sometimes you're not
aware if people get along or notget along with their friends
not friends, we don't alwaysknow everyone's situation.
(04:50):
So, you know, if I'm withsomebody and I know that they,
you know, if it was you, forinstance, and someone got
something to say, you know I'mgonna be like, okay, well, look,
I don't know what the situationis, but I don't, you know, just
if I'm around, just don't saythat you know, because it's
gonna get back.
So if you don't want her to know, it's gonna get back to her
because I'm gonna let her knowwhat's being said.
And that's just because I owemy loyalty to who, I'm gonna owe
(05:12):
it to, you know.
So if I'm your best friend oryour sister per se because
that's what we like to use a lotwhen it's more than a
friendship you know it's likeshe gonna find out, because you
ain't about to sit here and makeit seem like I'm sitting here
going back and forth with youabout her and trying to flip the
script on me.
So she's going to find out.
Whatever you say, I'm going tolet you know that now.
(05:32):
So if you don't want her toknow, because you could have
incorrect information, so it cankind of vary you know, somebody
(05:55):
just might have heard something, and so they judge an opinion
off of what they heard.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
And it might not even be true.
Exactly Okay Facts.
I've been through that, sothat's yeah, y'all both said
some key points and good shit,because I'm like I'm on the same
thing with both y'all.
Well, yeah, it's just, I Idon't, I don't know.
You just got to kind of sitdown on there because I don't
been through so much.
It's like, yeah, you hadsomebody thinking one thing and
(06:21):
not knowing they won't tell thewhole story too, so you can
survive, you know.
That's another thing.
Going back to like the fakefriends and stuff like that,
like they are, oh yeah, I'm coolwith her.
This isn't it?
I'm around you for this certainkind of reason.
But then if something don'thappen the way they want it to
happen, or it don't go down howthey thought it was gonna go
down, because they was trying todo some slick shit, then they
want to come back on there and Idon't fuck, I ain't fucking
with her, no more, because Icouldn't get what I wanted out
(06:43):
of her.
So then I'm gonna go back overhere to these people that used
to fuck with her and they stillfuck with her and let them know
oh, she a fucked up person, shedid this and that.
Don't deal with her, don't talkto her whatever, because she did
this not knowing that they'renot telling you the whole story,
or a majority of the time whatthey're saying is a lie.
Or they probably done took someinformation and thought that's
what happened or that's what itwas.
But really that's not reallywhat happened, or it was a
(07:05):
reason why certain stuffhappened, because you don't know
what that person was goingthrough or what that person was
told, because I done beenthrough some stuff like that too
, that I done told somebody andtold me something.
So I'm like, okay, well, let metell everybody else this to try
to get you know they trying todo this, let them know that they
can do this, this could happen,and then, not knowing that the
person that's on the back endthat I told me to tell other
people this stuff, they using meand they telling me some some
(07:28):
fugazi stuff that's gonna makeme look bad, because they in it
to fuck up my character yeah,and I mean, and even even
touching more on pushing it thatway, like, and you know bread,
I know you can definitely speakfrom experience because you know
, I know how you are.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
But sometimes some people might think that you
ain't a friend just because, um,it's a misunderstanding.
Like you might not speak tosomebody every day, you might
not hear from somebody for acouple of weeks, couple months,
and somebody might take that as,oh well, she acting weird, she
acting funny because she doingthis, isn and that where someone
else is seeing the point of no,she need her space.
It ain't that she acting weirdor acting funny with nobody and
(08:11):
she ain't, you know, thinkingshe better than nobody.
You know she's doing what shegotta do, but she just maybe
mentally taking a break fromtalking to too many people at
one time.
So it also can fall on amisunderstanding.
But I still feel like that canpush you into a fake friend zone
because you, a real friend,gonna realize like she need her
space, she need her time.
It ain't that she being weird orfunny, she just don't want to
(08:33):
talk right now.
You know where other peoplewould be like, nah, she doing
this because of such and suchand such.
Or she feels some type of waybecause now I'm doing this or
something and it's like thatain't got nothing to do with it,
some type of way because nowI'm doing this or something and
it's like that ain't got nothingto do with it.
You know it may be amisunderstanding, but I feel
like that still can push peopleinto that fake friend zone.
You know, because if you're myfriend, you're going to
understand off top.
You know it's not going to bean assumption that I'm just not
(08:56):
talking to you.
You're going, you know, atleast wait for some type of
clarity between us before youjust jump the gun and say you
between us, before you just jumpthe gun and say you know, oh,
I'm being weird or I'm beingfake or whatever the case may be
.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
I'm kind of with Jaz saying it's kind of the same
with the family or the friends,but, like you said, you know,
with family it's kind of hard todetect that, but I just know
with my family, uh, from myexperience it's direct, because
my family is like this if you,if you doing better than them,
then they want you to to to likehelp them out.
(09:33):
They want you to keep givingthem money.
You know I'm saying toconstantly help them.
But my thing is, who's going tohelp the helper when the helper
need help, like?
Who, like how?
You know what I'm saying andsee they don't see that.
So then, and then on top of that, they don't like it because the
playing field ain't level.
Usually, family want thatplaying field level.
(09:54):
They want to be on the samelevel as whatever you want.
If they down, guess what, theywant your ass down too.
If you up, they want to be up,or hell probably pass you.
I mean I, I hate to say that,but family that's why you heard
so many people talk about lordloyalty these days, like they
value loyalty over family.
Speaker 3 (10:16):
You know I'm saying and yeah, it's, that's, that's
my take on that, yeah, and I'vedefinitely seen it on different
like I can believe it with thefemales.
Like there's some fact to that,I will say that.
But I honestly feel like itdoes kind of tie back into our
Zodiac session.
(10:36):
If y'all did not, you know, geta chance to check it,
definitely look back at oursneak and uncut bonus that we
have.
But I feel like zodiacs play apart of it too.
Some zodiacs just hold on tostuff so it can play a lot of
different things with that fakefriend.
Some signs are moreunderstanding than others.
You know, like she says she's alibra, she give after chance.
(11:01):
I'm a Sagittarius and I know Igive more chances than I
probably ever should in life.
But that's just how you are.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
Yeah, that's true.
I mean it's a sad truth, butthat's how it is.
Speaker 3 (11:17):
So I know, with the fake relative thing, it's
somewhat similar to friends.
I won't lie, it's somewhatsimilar to friends.
I won't lie, it is somewhatsimilar to friends.
Um, you won't always know,unfortunately, with the family
member the difference, becausethey're still going to try to
make themselves active in yourlife, um, but you'll still feel
(11:38):
the resistance.
Like for me, I'm a very color,aura type of person, energy,
like all of that.
So I can tell when you're justyou know, honestly trying to
love on me and I can also tellwhen you're really just trying
to make it for everybody else,like it's kind of like a show,
like you know, we cousins andeverything else.
I'm gonna play cool with youright now, but you're not gonna
(12:00):
hear from me.
I'm gonna tell you, call me forwhatever you need.
You know, lean on me and themoment someone do that, that's
it.
You know you don't get thatwhen, when you're not around
everybody, exactly it becomessomething else.
It's like when you're around,everybody is lean on me.
When I lean on you, there's noresponse.
There's no.
Oh well, this isn't that.
It's always like the whole we'lljust pray about it, like that's
(12:23):
kind of your response.
With family, it's going to besomething as simple as that.
They're going to tell you well,you know, you kind of just got
to pray about it and see whathappened.
You know they're not going totry to work something through
with you.
They're not going to try to.
You know, touch bases with you.
And that's just from personalexperience.
I have people that I've lovedsince I was younger, but I've
noticed where to draw my lineswith them.
(12:45):
I've noticed that it hurt memore to speak on it with them
than it did for me to just keepquiet and just keep the same
facade they got with everybodyelse.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
Well see you got to stand too.
You got to stand too.
See, the reason why familyain't the way it used to be?
Because you gotta stand.
Big mama, them gone.
You see, I'm saying they theone that was the glue.
They, they was the glue thatheld basically the family
together.
So now, as you get older, youknow I'm saying everybody kind
of going their own ways.
(13:18):
Now they got their own, likeyou said, their own families.
They got their own situation,stuff like that.
So, like I said, but big mamathen was the glue.
Speaker 3 (13:27):
You know, I'm saying that's just what yeah, and
people wonder why.
I've seen that a lot, like alot of people be like, damn,
she's always with her friends,like we don't ever really just
see her, and sometimes that bethe situation.
Sometimes it's just that theirfamily has pushed them away so
much with, you know, being funnyor feeling like they can't be
just completely honest, which ismy family.
(13:49):
You should feel that way.
You should be honest, no matterwhat, whether it hurt me or not
, you know, you should be honest.
Um, and then they'd be like,well, you know, well, she always
with her friends.
Well, that's probably why sheprobably getting pushed away
from family, probably didn't tryso much with her family, so
much that it's like, okay, well,that's where I don't know if
y'all hear a lot of it, but Iknow I've said it a lot you know
creating your own family andthat's something that this
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generation does a lot, or youprobably see more now, because
family ain't the same, no more.
It's sad to say that.
It's very sad to say that,because you should always have
your family, but sometimes yourfamily is who you created with.
You know, it's not gonna alwaysbe your blood, you know.
So, like you said when you say,blood is thicker than water.
You know, like me and cornbread, I've known cornbread literally
(14:34):
15 years now.
You couldn't tell her bloodapart because I'm always gonna
be there.
It's not gonna matter what shecould call me in the middle of
the night, and if I can move,I'm moving.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
You know, when there's some family that I
probably couldn't say the samefor, and that's just because
they wouldn't do it for me andalso, like I say, don't nobody
have like family reunions, nomore, like I haven't been the
one in probably over 15 yearsyeah, and I had that come up.
Speaker 3 (15:03):
Yep, I've had that come up because, like, um, a few
couple months back, like oneside of my family, um, the
younger people, cousins andstuff like that, people close to
my age, you know they werehosting some type of event and
they just happened to send it tome and then so I'm reaching out
to everybody else, oh hey, arey'all going?
(15:24):
And they was like, well, wedidn't even know about it.
And you know, and a lot of mycousins say the same thing.
They're like well, you know,it's gonna be up to us to try to
reconnect because the peoplethat used to keep us together
ain't here no more our uncles,grandfathers and stuff like that
.
Like, like, uh, max said theynot here.
So, you know, the people thatused to keep us together the
last time they caught, you know,kept us together, was at a
(15:44):
funeral, unfortunately, you know.
So it's like, okay, well, who'sgonna step up and try to keep
stuff together?
You know, I just told my littlebrothers, you know, um, we're
gonna have to start planningtrips and doing something.
I don't want us to lose, youknow, what we have within each
other, because everybody else isnow doing their own thing you
know and now we got, you know,nieces and nephews and cousins
(16:09):
and stuff that they need to bearound each other, because when
we gone, who they gonna have,you know, and it's really gonna
be up to us to keep it togetherif you can do that.
Yeah, it's been a while sinceI've been to a family and no, I
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mean, and nowadays, now youyou'll catch a lot more line
dancing, which I'm grateful thatour generation has picked up
with stuff like that.
You know, like picking up onlike that trail riding scene.
People think it's a joke, butI've actually went out.
It's really a beautiful thingthat you see more Black people
doing now, which is really nice.
There's going to be dramasomewhere somehow, sometimes all
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the time, but for the most partit's a collective people, like
a collective group out justenjoying themselves and they're
out line dancing and Zyko andpartner dancing.
So now there's so much morethat you can have at a party.
It ain't always twerking, now,it's who can.
Who can get out here instead,let's see that, you know, and
there's nothing wrong with it,you know it's it's.
(17:22):
It's a lot more fun to do that.
So it sucks when people sithere and assume that you know,
oh, she ain't gonna have none ofthe people that are twerking.
No, and half the parties I'vebeen to with you, I know you
you'll throw some live music onreal quick, you know, and people
will get up and dance.
Whether you know it can be asuccess, you know or not.
You know I still feel like youstill should get that support,
(17:46):
but that's why they're not goingto do to do that or it's not
gonna turn out the way you thinkit's gonna turn out.
Like it becomes such a negativeNancy situation that it's like
you know you can support,whether you think I'm gonna
succeed or not.
Okay, you know, but it's stilllike you can support somehow.
But I do know firsthand likethere's certain family members
(18:07):
that won't do it because they'relike, oh, your crowd is gonna
be a type of crowd that I don'twant to be involved with because
I know you're gay.
You know not to say that I havea problem with you, which low
key you still are.
But you know, I just know thatyou know that's probably the
crowd you're going to havearound.
That's not my type of crowd, soI'm not going to be involved.
(18:27):
Sometimes that's the you know,when you sit here and say that
stuff.
You know, when you sit here andsay that you know someone, uh,
they don't ask you to postsomething or something or
they're hesitant to do it.
It's because you probablydidn't ask them to do something.
And then they mind it comesacross like damn, she asked me
to do this but I never did it.
You know, I don't know if Ireally want to send this to her,
because what if she'd be likeno, I can't do this for you?
(18:48):
It's that guilt that be hittingthem last minute, because
they'll be like they'd be likeshit.
You know, I want to ask her todo it.
I really want her to promote itbecause I know she got the
platform.
Again, it benefits them.
So it's like shit.
I really want her to post it,but at the same time she asked
me to do something.
I didn't do it.
So is she going to support me?
(19:13):
You know, know.
So it's like, again, it all runsback to that.
When it benefits you, it's okay.
When it benefits what you wantor what you see, like he said,
you know it's like you got youall for it, but the moment it
don't benefit you or you can'tsee nothing out of it, it's it
don't work for you.
You know, I know just from mypromotion days doing stuff I
would be promoting day in, dayout.
(19:34):
I don't care, anybody that'sever worked with me, anybody
that's ever just supported me,y'all know I would work my ass
off to promote anything, andthen sometimes my buildup or the
people that came didn't comeuntil they started seeing the
live videos.
And that was something I used tohate, Because it's like, if
you're going to show up, show up.
Don't ask me who in the club,don't ask me who already here,
(19:58):
don't ask me who in the section.
Like, if you're going to come,come, because at some point I
used to put my phone on D&D youeither going to pull up or
you're not.
I'm not telling them that youfree If you're not already on
the list that I got created,cause little do you know.
I'll, I'll, I'll look out foryou already If you already let
me know ahead of time what'sgoing to be.
What you know, only you knowjust because you there for me,
(20:20):
just because you already showedyour support, even though you
didn't know what was going tohappen.
But that was something I used tohate, cause it was always oh
well, what's it looking likeCome find out.
Don't ask me, just pull up.
Like it'll look better with youin here.
How about that?
Like, come on, what you want meto say, even if it's already
popping, it's like what do youwant me to say about that?
(20:42):
Like it's already set up, sojust show up, you know, show
your support.
If you're going to show yoursupport, like, let it be an
undying and an unquestionablething.
Um, I have a kind of open mindwith monitoring spirits only
because I feel like you can havea good one and a bad one, or
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good ones and bad ones.
And I say that because therereally are some people who
monitor things that you're doingbut give you positive intel or
give you positive feedback orwill tell you okay, now, look,
you do this, this, what you'relooking at.
You know, I understand that youmight be thinking like this,
but you know, look at this, thisand that, and even though, um,
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it might not seem like they'rebeing positive to you at that
moment, I've had a lot ofconversations with friends and
family that at the time, I'm soset on whatever.
I'm telling them that it's likeyeah, yeah, yeah, whatever.
I'm not even going to hear it.
And some things I've had tolearn.
And what they told me, you know, really came to with that
situation.
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So, even though they weremonitoring what I was doing, it
wasn't to hurt me, it was tohelp me.
You know, really came to withthat situation.
So, even though they weremonitoring what I was doing, it
wasn't to hurt me, it was tohelp me.
You know they weren't trying totell me this because it wasn't
that I wouldn't be successful orsomething like that, or that
they felt like it just wasn'tthe best thing for me to do.
They would just lay it outthere like, okay, well, you do
this.
These are what you know.
(22:09):
This is is what can follow withthat.
And then there are the ones thatare negative, no matter what,
like, like you said, they'regonna be there for you and
everything else, but they backdoor telling somebody girl, she
thinks she can do this becauseof this, isn't it?
Or I don't know why.
You know she feel like justbecause a couple people told her
she was good at doing this andshe feel like she can do this.
And now, now she about to go dothis.
(22:31):
And then here you go withspeaking on people's blessings
and people don't realize youblock so much by speaking.
I literally had to learn that,like last year was that year I
don't know how many people didnot say that, but last year was
that year that so many peoplespoke on so much stuff and even
just sitting back and looking atit, you like, well, damn, damn,
let me shut up like sometimesyou got to tell yourself, shut
(22:53):
up because this.
You got to tell yourself toshut up because even though you
feel like that person is gonnasupport you, they gonna hold you
down, they gonna whatever.
You sit there and you'retelling them this and you
speaking, you know, and it'slike, wait a minute, why is
everything going like this now?
Why is everything?
Because they don't want youthere.
They're going to tell you theywant you there, but that spirit
(23:14):
around them don't want you there.
You know.
So sometimes you that last yearwas that year of shutting the
fuck up.
I don't know about nobody else,but for me it was, you know,
because I had to realizeeverything don't need to be
talked about.
You know part of that.
I'm sitting here thinking likeis it?
(23:36):
Because it's like you knowyou're gonna have family that's
not gonna show support.
But you also know you got, butthey're not really your friends.
Your real friends gonna supportno matter what.
Like you said, even if it'ssharing something they can't
make it, at least share it, postit.
You know something like that,speak about it.
Hell even send you some peoplelike, hey, I might not be able
to do nothing, but these peoplemight be some good you know
prospects for whatever you gotgoing on or something.
Yeah, now, if you was to saybetween a stranger in the
(23:59):
streets and family and friends,I would have went with family
and friends.
They're not gonna show menothing.
I can go outside and tellsomebody real quick like, hey,
I'm selling plates or I got, youknow, a flyer, I'm doing this,
this and that and that and a lotof people.
I've gotten more, more supportfrom people that I've never
known a day in my life, like yousaid, just by showing them a
(24:19):
couple of pictures, and that'show I've gotten to know certain
people you know that havepurchased or who have shared
stuff or who have you know, wordof mouth, giving it to somebody
else, you know, because theymight not be involved, but they
know somebody else that is islooking for it or needs
something in that area.
Um, and the streets will showyou more love than than your
(24:39):
friends or family, sometimesjust people that you meet just
off the bat and don't knownothing about, and because my
parents have money.
So so quote, unquote what theysay, that I was going to be OK
because it could be replaced,and it's like, ok, my parents'
money ain't my money, theirreputation ain't my reputation,
(25:02):
like everything I have, you know, just because my parents are
who they are, yeah, that's true,and you know I could, but, at
the same time, me being me, I'mnot.
So it's like I do feel like alot of people, um, do kind of do
things because they feel like,oh well, she got a silver spoon,
because you know, her mom anddaddy got money.
(25:23):
They always doing this, theygot this, they got that, and
it'd be like, in my eyes, it'slike that's what y'all see
looking in, but that don't meanthat that's exactly how it is,
you know.
So, I think, who your parentsare, can parents, even some
family I have cousins and stuffthat you know do a lot of
different things and it canweigh on people thinking that
(25:46):
you got it different, or makethem feel a different way,
envious more so towards youbecause they just assume that
you got it as good as they gotit and that's not.
I don't think nine times out often in the case that's not ever
the case, because you still gotto be your own person within
your family and stuff.
Sometimes you got it harderbecause of the people that you
(26:06):
have in your family.
It shouldn't even be acompetition.
I hate that people automaticallymake something such a
competition in their head andit's like it ain't even gotta be
like that.
You know, like I, I used to sithere and tell um some of my
friends that do certain things.
They used to be uh kind ofdiscouraged about doing stuff.
I'm like look at stores, likethe most simplest thing, bread.
(26:30):
There are like 30, 40 differenttypes of people that have their
own type of bread, but bread isstill bread at the end of the
day, you know.
So it's like why would you giveup because they're telling you
that there's so many peoplearound here doing this, or
because your family is saying,oh well, you know this isn't.
This person is already doingthat.
Why would you do it?
(26:50):
It's like there's still you,there's still room to do it, and
that all still goes back tothat fake friend, fake family
thing, because it's like supportand encourage, no matter what.
I don't care if you seesomebody who then you know, did
this before.
Yeah, there's a lot of peoplethat have done something.
They're still doing somethingthat a lot of people are doing
and they're still successful,because who they reach ain't
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always who some people reach,and sometimes what they have may
be better than the other, andyou'll never know until you show
that support to see where thatperson can get or where they may
be either.
So I think that all kind of fallback into the influential thing
too, because just because theythink your family got money,
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they might think that yourfamily, whoever got the money in
your family, is automaticallysupporting you, and they might
not even know nothing about whatyou're doing or don't even want
to be involved in what you'redoing because it ain't their
money.
So they might not even touch itor say nothing.
So you're thinking that, okay,well, she got people that can do
it for her, so we ain't got todo nothing and vice versa, or
turn around, it ain't even likethat.
They got it but they ain't eveninvolved.
And where you could be involvedwould mean more to me, because
(27:58):
I already know these people whogot this ain't gonna do it.
Your family, at the end of theday, should be as supportive as
you need them to be, and theythey're not, not, not fully.
The Shit Show.
The podcast starts now with DJKornbread, aka the Empress.
Back with another one the ShitShow.
The podcast is up again.
Today we're going to be talkingabout fake friends and family,
which is going to be titledBlood Versus Water, and today I
have two of my guest homies inthe building.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
What's up this?
Your boy, Icy Mike.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
And I got my girl.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
Hey, what's up everybody, this your girl, Jay
Renee.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
In the building and we're about to get on this topic
about the fake friends and thefamily members, because I know
this has been a big topic.
A lot of people have hadsomething to say about this and
I've seen it a lot on socialmedia, including TikTok and
Instagram, and I actually haveseen a little bit on Snapchat.
So my first topic, first thingwe're going to talk about today,
(00:50):
is how do you guys spot a fakefriend, and I guess, mike, we
can start with you.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
How can you spot a fake friend?
Well, that's I mean, well, asfar as my experience, is a fake
friend anybody that try to dresslike you, try to do the same
things you do.
That's a red flag.
You need to watch out for that.
That's some fake friend stuff.
To be honest with you, you knowwhat I'm saying, because
(01:17):
everybody should have their own,you know, doing their own thing
, their own, you know.
But yeah, yeah, yeah, youreally should.
That is that is like the numberone thing.
Somebody try to do the exactstuff you do.
Yeah, that ain't I mean.
Some people may think it's likea compliment, but it's not.
It's not that much of acompliment I definitely agree.
Speaker 3 (01:40):
I know sometimes with fake friends, like they're're
going to be around for what'sgoing to benefit them, so like
you won't hear them for nothing,that you want, like, if you
like, oh well, hey, I'm doingthis for my business or I'm
doing this.
You know I need your supportfor this.
But the moment you postsomething about going out to a
club event or something aboutgiving away something and stuff
(02:03):
like that, you kind of can pickup on who's really going to be
there to support you or who'sjust there for the benefits.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
Facts yeah, I'm kind of like.
So, yeah, I'm thinking like fakefriends, so kind of like what
you said and what I'm on whatmike said too.
So like a person that I don'tknow if they kind of like
following behind, doingeverything that you do, but then
, especially if they're in thebackground on some Now, when you
ask them about certain stuff,now I don't think you should do
(02:31):
that or now do it like this butthen they turn around and
backdoor and do the same thingthat you was talking about or
you asked them about, but theytry to do it on the low, around
people that you don't fuck with.
So you don't know what's goingon.
And then I don't know what'sgoing on and then, like you know
, I don't know, I don't knowfake friends, like I feel like
some, some of them be doing theyact like they gonna do one
thing or they act like they foryou, and then you have to find
(02:51):
out through other friends thatyou thought were real friends
that end up being fake friends.
You know on what they motive isand what they really, what type
of stuff they really on too.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
Yeah, and then you know they also, I think
sometimes I think we overlookthis because we try to see the
friendship.
But some friends will be around, people that you don't
associate yourself with, andcertain things will get said
with those people and then theywant to come back and tell you
you know certain things like, oh, girl, such and such, such and
(03:24):
such, but it's like, okay, well,you know, I don't deal with
them.
So what did you say while youwas with them that you coming
back to tell me, because you hadto have said something, that
you were sitting in that circleexactly I want some shit like
that.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
And then, like I'm gonna, I wanted to, like, I
think I just want to throw thisin there.
So, like, do y'all feel likeand I'm literally just throwing
this in there.
So like, do y'all feel like andI'm literally just throwing
this in there Do y'all feel like, if you are friends with
somebody and they're not friends, they don't like another person
that you're friends with?
Do you feel like you stillshould hang around the person
that they don't like?
(03:56):
And would you I don't know, Idon't even know how to ask this
Like, would you still hangaround that person is one thing,
but then would you tell themtoday, since you fuck with this
person, would you tell them whatthe other person is saying or
no, you're just like, I'm gonnasee, I'm gonna fuck with you
because I fuck with you, andeven though she be talking shit
or saying this about you, I'mnot gonna tell you because I
fuck with both of y'all I thinkit kind of depends, like, if
(04:18):
it's something that's like realsmall and petty, like not really
like a honest, like we just gota big misunderstanding type of
thing.
Speaker 3 (04:28):
It can vary because, like, if someone just don't know
you and that's why they actinglike that, then you know there
could be some changes there.
It might not be something, butI know, like for me, like when
I'm with certain people, uh,because sometimes you're not
aware if people get along or notget along with their friends
not friends, we don't alwaysknow everyone's situation.
(04:50):
So, you know, if I'm withsomebody and I know that they,
you know, if it was you, forinstance, and someone got
something to say, you know I'mgonna be like, okay, well, look,
I don't know what the situationis, but I don't, you know, just
if I'm around, just don't saythat you know, because it's
gonna get back.
So if you don't want her to know, it's gonna get back to her
because I'm gonna let her knowwhat's being said.
And that's just because I owemy loyalty to who, I'm gonna owe
(05:12):
it to, you know.
So if I'm your best friend oryour sister per se because
that's what we like to use a lotwhen it's more than a
friendship you know it's likeshe gonna find out, because you
ain't about to sit here and makeit seem like I'm sitting here
going back and forth with youabout her and trying to flip the
script on me.
So she's going to find out.
Whatever you say, I'm going tolet you know that now.
(05:32):
So if you don't want her toknow, because you could have
incorrect information, so it cankind of vary you know, somebody
(05:55):
just might have heard something, and so they judge an opinion
off of what they heard.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
And it might not even be true.
Exactly Okay Facts.
I've been through that, sothat's yeah, y'all both said
some key points and good shit,because I'm like I'm on the same
thing with both y'all.
Well, yeah, it's just, I Idon't, I don't know.
You just got to kind of sitdown on there because I don't
been through so much.
It's like, yeah, you hadsomebody thinking one thing and
(06:21):
not knowing they won't tell thewhole story too, so you can
survive, you know.
That's another thing.
Going back to like the fakefriends and stuff like that,
like they are, oh yeah, I'm coolwith her.
This isn't it?
I'm around you for this certainkind of reason.
But then if something don'thappen the way they want it to
happen, or it don't go down howthey thought it was gonna go
down, because they was trying todo some slick shit, then they
want to come back on there and Idon't fuck, I ain't fucking
with her, no more, because Icouldn't get what I wanted out
(06:43):
of her.
So then I'm gonna go back overhere to these people that used
to fuck with her and they stillfuck with her and let them know
oh, she a fucked up person, shedid this and that.
Don't deal with her, don't talkto her whatever, because she did
this not knowing that they'renot telling you the whole story,
or a majority of the time whatthey're saying is a lie.
Or they probably done took someinformation and thought that's
what happened or that's what itwas.
But really that's not reallywhat happened, or it was a
(07:05):
reason why certain stuffhappened, because you don't know
what that person was goingthrough or what that person was
told, because I done beenthrough some stuff like that too
, that I done told somebody andtold me something.
So I'm like, okay, well, let metell everybody else this to try
to get you know they trying todo this, let them know that they
can do this, this could happen,and then, not knowing that the
person that's on the back endthat I told me to tell other
people this stuff, they using meand they telling me some some
(07:28):
fugazi stuff that's gonna makeme look bad, because they in it
to fuck up my character yeah,and I mean, and even even
touching more on pushing it thatway, like, and you know bread,
I know you can definitely speakfrom experience because you know
, I know how you are.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
But sometimes some people might think that you
ain't a friend just because, um,it's a misunderstanding.
Like you might not speak tosomebody every day, you might
not hear from somebody for acouple of weeks, couple months,
and somebody might take that as,oh well, she acting weird, she
acting funny because she doingthis, isn and that where someone
else is seeing the point of no,she need her space.
It ain't that she acting weirdor acting funny with nobody and
(08:11):
she ain't, you know, thinkingshe better than nobody.
You know she's doing what shegotta do, but she just maybe
mentally taking a break fromtalking to too many people at
one time.
So it also can fall on amisunderstanding.
But I still feel like that canpush you into a fake friend zone
because you, a real friend,gonna realize like she need her
space, she need her time.
It ain't that she being weird orfunny, she just don't want to
(08:33):
talk right now.
You know where other peoplewould be like, nah, she doing
this because of such and suchand such.
Or she feels some type of waybecause now I'm doing this or
something and it's like thatain't got nothing to do with it,
some type of way because nowI'm doing this or something and
it's like that ain't got nothingto do with it.
You know it may be amisunderstanding, but I feel
like that still can push peopleinto that fake friend zone.
You know, because if you're myfriend, you're going to
understand off top.
You know it's not going to bean assumption that I'm just not
(08:56):
talking to you.
You're going, you know, atleast wait for some type of
clarity between us before youjust jump the gun and say you
between us, before you just jumpthe gun and say you know, oh,
I'm being weird or I'm beingfake or whatever the case may be
.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
I'm kind of with Jaz saying it's kind of the same
with the family or the friends,but, like you said, you know,
with family it's kind of hard todetect that, but I just know
with my family, uh, from myexperience it's direct, because
my family is like this if you,if you doing better than them,
then they want you to to to likehelp them out.
(09:33):
They want you to keep givingthem money.
You know I'm saying toconstantly help them.
But my thing is, who's going tohelp the helper when the helper
need help, like?
Who, like how?
You know what I'm saying andsee they don't see that.
So then, and then on top of that, they don't like it because the
playing field ain't level.
Usually, family want thatplaying field level.
(09:54):
They want to be on the samelevel as whatever you want.
If they down, guess what, theywant your ass down too.
If you up, they want to be up,or hell probably pass you.
I mean I, I hate to say that,but family that's why you heard
so many people talk about lordloyalty these days, like they
value loyalty over family.
Speaker 3 (10:16):
You know I'm saying and yeah, it's, that's, that's
my take on that, yeah, and I'vedefinitely seen it on different
like I can believe it with thefemales.
Like there's some fact to that,I will say that.
But I honestly feel like itdoes kind of tie back into our
Zodiac session.
(10:36):
If y'all did not, you know, geta chance to check it,
definitely look back at oursneak and uncut bonus that we
have.
But I feel like zodiacs play apart of it too.
Some zodiacs just hold on tostuff so it can play a lot of
different things with that fakefriend.
Some signs are moreunderstanding than others.
You know, like she says she's alibra, she give after chance.
(11:01):
I'm a Sagittarius and I know Igive more chances than I
probably ever should in life.
But that's just how you are.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
Yeah, that's true.
I mean it's a sad truth, butthat's how it is.
Speaker 3 (11:17):
So I know, with the fake relative thing, it's
somewhat similar to friends.
I won't lie, it's somewhatsimilar to friends.
I won't lie, it is somewhatsimilar to friends.
Um, you won't always know,unfortunately, with the family
member the difference, becausethey're still going to try to
make themselves active in yourlife, um, but you'll still feel
(11:38):
the resistance.
Like for me, I'm a very color,aura type of person, energy,
like all of that.
So I can tell when you're justyou know, honestly trying to
love on me and I can also tellwhen you're really just trying
to make it for everybody else,like it's kind of like a show,
like you know, we cousins andeverything else.
I'm gonna play cool with youright now, but you're not gonna
(12:00):
hear from me.
I'm gonna tell you, call me forwhatever you need.
You know, lean on me and themoment someone do that, that's
it.
You know you don't get thatwhen, when you're not around
everybody, exactly it becomessomething else.
It's like when you're around,everybody is lean on me.
When I lean on you, there's noresponse.
There's no.
Oh well, this isn't that.
It's always like the whole we'lljust pray about it, like that's
(12:23):
kind of your response.
With family, it's going to besomething as simple as that.
They're going to tell you well,you know, you kind of just got
to pray about it and see whathappened.
You know they're not going totry to work something through
with you.
They're not going to try to.
You know, touch bases with you.
And that's just from personalexperience.
I have people that I've lovedsince I was younger, but I've
noticed where to draw my lineswith them.
(12:45):
I've noticed that it hurt memore to speak on it with them
than it did for me to just keepquiet and just keep the same
facade they got with everybodyelse.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
Well see you got to stand too.
You got to stand too.
See, the reason why familyain't the way it used to be?
Because you gotta stand.
Big mama, them gone.
You see, I'm saying they theone that was the glue.
They, they was the glue thatheld basically the family
together.
So now, as you get older, youknow I'm saying everybody kind
of going their own ways.
(13:18):
Now they got their own, likeyou said, their own families.
They got their own situation,stuff like that.
So, like I said, but big mamathen was the glue.
Speaker 3 (13:27):
You know, I'm saying that's just what yeah, and
people wonder why.
I've seen that a lot, like alot of people be like, damn,
she's always with her friends,like we don't ever really just
see her, and sometimes that bethe situation.
Sometimes it's just that theirfamily has pushed them away so
much with, you know, being funnyor feeling like they can't be
just completely honest, which ismy family.
(13:49):
You should feel that way.
You should be honest, no matterwhat, whether it hurt me or not
, you know, you should be honest.
Um, and then they'd be like,well, you know, well, she always
with her friends.
Well, that's probably why sheprobably getting pushed away
from family, probably didn't tryso much with her family, so
much that it's like, okay, well,that's where I don't know if
y'all hear a lot of it, but Iknow I've said it a lot you know
creating your own family andthat's something that this
(14:11):
generation does a lot, or youprobably see more now, because
family ain't the same, no more.
It's sad to say that.
It's very sad to say that,because you should always have
your family, but sometimes yourfamily is who you created with.
You know, it's not gonna alwaysbe your blood, you know.
So, like you said when you say,blood is thicker than water.
You know, like me and cornbread, I've known cornbread literally
(14:34):
15 years now.
You couldn't tell her bloodapart because I'm always gonna
be there.
It's not gonna matter what shecould call me in the middle of
the night, and if I can move,I'm moving.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
You know, when there's some family that I
probably couldn't say the samefor, and that's just because
they wouldn't do it for me andalso, like I say, don't nobody
have like family reunions, nomore, like I haven't been the
one in probably over 15 yearsyeah, and I had that come up.
Speaker 3 (15:03):
Yep, I've had that come up because, like, um, a few
couple months back, like oneside of my family, um, the
younger people, cousins andstuff like that, people close to
my age, you know they werehosting some type of event and
they just happened to send it tome and then so I'm reaching out
to everybody else, oh hey, arey'all going?
(15:24):
And they was like, well, wedidn't even know about it.
And you know, and a lot of mycousins say the same thing.
They're like well, you know,it's gonna be up to us to try to
reconnect because the peoplethat used to keep us together
ain't here no more our uncles,grandfathers and stuff like that
.
Like, like, uh, max said theynot here.
So, you know, the people thatused to keep us together the
last time they caught, you know,kept us together, was at a
(15:44):
funeral, unfortunately, you know.
So it's like, okay, well, who'sgonna step up and try to keep
stuff together?
You know, I just told my littlebrothers, you know, um, we're
gonna have to start planningtrips and doing something.
I don't want us to lose, youknow, what we have within each
other, because everybody else isnow doing their own thing you
know and now we got, you know,nieces and nephews and cousins
(16:09):
and stuff that they need to bearound each other, because when
we gone, who they gonna have,you know, and it's really gonna
be up to us to keep it togetherif you can do that.
Yeah, it's been a while sinceI've been to a family and no, I
(16:36):
mean, and nowadays, now youyou'll catch a lot more line
dancing, which I'm grateful thatour generation has picked up
with stuff like that.
You know, like picking up onlike that trail riding scene.
People think it's a joke, butI've actually went out.
It's really a beautiful thingthat you see more Black people
doing now, which is really nice.
There's going to be dramasomewhere somehow, sometimes all
(17:00):
the time, but for the most partit's a collective people, like
a collective group out justenjoying themselves and they're
out line dancing and Zyko andpartner dancing.
So now there's so much morethat you can have at a party.
It ain't always twerking, now,it's who can.
Who can get out here instead,let's see that, you know, and
there's nothing wrong with it,you know it's it's.
(17:22):
It's a lot more fun to do that.
So it sucks when people sithere and assume that you know,
oh, she ain't gonna have none ofthe people that are twerking.
No, and half the parties I'vebeen to with you, I know you
you'll throw some live music onreal quick, you know, and people
will get up and dance.
Whether you know it can be asuccess, you know or not.
You know I still feel like youstill should get that support,
(17:46):
but that's why they're not goingto do to do that or it's not
gonna turn out the way you thinkit's gonna turn out.
Like it becomes such a negativeNancy situation that it's like
you know you can support,whether you think I'm gonna
succeed or not.
Okay, you know, but it's stilllike you can support somehow.
But I do know firsthand likethere's certain family members
(18:07):
that won't do it because they'relike, oh, your crowd is gonna
be a type of crowd that I don'twant to be involved with because
I know you're gay.
You know not to say that I havea problem with you, which low
key you still are.
But you know, I just know thatyou know that's probably the
crowd you're going to havearound.
That's not my type of crowd, soI'm not going to be involved.
(18:27):
Sometimes that's the you know,when you sit here and say that
stuff.
You know, when you sit here andsay that you know someone, uh,
they don't ask you to postsomething or something or
they're hesitant to do it.
It's because you probablydidn't ask them to do something.
And then they mind it comesacross like damn, she asked me
to do this but I never did it.
You know, I don't know if Ireally want to send this to her,
because what if she'd be likeno, I can't do this for you?
(18:48):
It's that guilt that be hittingthem last minute, because
they'll be like they'd be likeshit.
You know, I want to ask her todo it.
I really want her to promote itbecause I know she got the
platform.
Again, it benefits them.
So it's like shit.
I really want her to post it,but at the same time she asked
me to do something.
I didn't do it.
So is she going to support me?
(19:13):
You know, know.
So it's like, again, it all runsback to that.
When it benefits you, it's okay.
When it benefits what you wantor what you see, like he said,
you know it's like you got youall for it, but the moment it
don't benefit you or you can'tsee nothing out of it, it's it
don't work for you.
You know, I know just from mypromotion days doing stuff I
would be promoting day in, dayout.
(19:34):
I don't care, anybody that'sever worked with me, anybody
that's ever just supported me,y'all know I would work my ass
off to promote anything, andthen sometimes my buildup or the
people that came didn't comeuntil they started seeing the
live videos.
And that was something I used tohate, Because it's like, if
you're going to show up, show up.
Don't ask me who in the club,don't ask me who already here,
(19:58):
don't ask me who in the section.
Like, if you're going to come,come, because at some point I
used to put my phone on D&D youeither going to pull up or
you're not.
I'm not telling them that youfree If you're not already on
the list that I got created,cause little do you know.
I'll, I'll, I'll look out foryou already If you already let
me know ahead of time what'sgoing to be.
What you know, only you knowjust because you there for me,
(20:20):
just because you already showedyour support, even though you
didn't know what was going tohappen.
But that was something I used tohate, cause it was always oh
well, what's it looking likeCome find out.
Don't ask me, just pull up.
Like it'll look better with youin here.
How about that?
Like, come on, what you want meto say, even if it's already
popping, it's like what do youwant me to say about that?
(20:42):
Like it's already set up, sojust show up, you know, show
your support.
If you're going to show yoursupport, like, let it be an
undying and an unquestionablething.
Um, I have a kind of open mindwith monitoring spirits only
because I feel like you can havea good one and a bad one, or
(21:04):
good ones and bad ones.
And I say that because therereally are some people who
monitor things that you're doingbut give you positive intel or
give you positive feedback orwill tell you okay, now, look,
you do this, this, what you'relooking at.
You know, I understand that youmight be thinking like this,
but you know, look at this, thisand that, and even though, um,
(21:29):
it might not seem like they'rebeing positive to you at that
moment, I've had a lot ofconversations with friends and
family that at the time, I'm soset on whatever.
I'm telling them that it's likeyeah, yeah, yeah, whatever.
I'm not even going to hear it.
And some things I've had tolearn.
And what they told me, you know, really came to with that
situation.
(21:49):
So, even though they weremonitoring what I was doing, it
wasn't to hurt me, it was tohelp me.
You know, really came to withthat situation.
So, even though they weremonitoring what I was doing, it
wasn't to hurt me, it was tohelp me.
You know they weren't trying totell me this because it wasn't
that I wouldn't be successful orsomething like that, or that
they felt like it just wasn'tthe best thing for me to do.
They would just lay it outthere like, okay, well, you do
this.
These are what you know.
(22:09):
This is is what can follow withthat.
And then there are the ones thatare negative, no matter what,
like, like you said, they'regonna be there for you and
everything else, but they backdoor telling somebody girl, she
thinks she can do this becauseof this, isn't it?
Or I don't know why.
You know she feel like justbecause a couple people told her
she was good at doing this andshe feel like she can do this.
And now, now she about to go dothis.
(22:31):
And then here you go withspeaking on people's blessings
and people don't realize youblock so much by speaking.
I literally had to learn that,like last year was that year I
don't know how many people didnot say that, but last year was
that year that so many peoplespoke on so much stuff and even
just sitting back and looking atit, you like, well, damn, damn,
let me shut up like sometimesyou got to tell yourself, shut
(22:53):
up because this.
You got to tell yourself toshut up because even though you
feel like that person is gonnasupport you, they gonna hold you
down, they gonna whatever.
You sit there and you'retelling them this and you
speaking, you know, and it'slike, wait a minute, why is
everything going like this now?
Why is everything?
Because they don't want youthere.
They're going to tell you theywant you there, but that spirit
(23:14):
around them don't want you there.
You know.
So sometimes you that last yearwas that year of shutting the
fuck up.
I don't know about nobody else,but for me it was, you know,
because I had to realizeeverything don't need to be
talked about.
You know part of that.
I'm sitting here thinking likeis it?
(23:36):
Because it's like you knowyou're gonna have family that's
not gonna show support.
But you also know you got, butthey're not really your friends.
Your real friends gonna supportno matter what.
Like you said, even if it'ssharing something they can't
make it, at least share it, postit.
You know something like that,speak about it.
Hell even send you some peoplelike, hey, I might not be able
to do nothing, but these peoplemight be some good you know
prospects for whatever you gotgoing on or something.
Yeah, now, if you was to saybetween a stranger in the
(23:59):
streets and family and friends,I would have went with family
and friends.
They're not gonna show menothing.
I can go outside and tellsomebody real quick like, hey,
I'm selling plates or I got, youknow, a flyer, I'm doing this,
this and that and that and a lotof people.
I've gotten more, more supportfrom people that I've never
known a day in my life, like yousaid, just by showing them a
(24:19):
couple of pictures, and that'show I've gotten to know certain
people you know that havepurchased or who have shared
stuff or who have you know, wordof mouth, giving it to somebody
else, you know, because theymight not be involved, but they
know somebody else that is islooking for it or needs
something in that area.
Um, and the streets will showyou more love than than your
(24:39):
friends or family, sometimesjust people that you meet just
off the bat and don't knownothing about, and because my
parents have money.
So so quote, unquote what theysay, that I was going to be OK
because it could be replaced,and it's like, ok, my parents'
money ain't my money, theirreputation ain't my reputation,
(25:02):
like everything I have, you know, just because my parents are
who they are, yeah, that's true,and you know I could, but, at
the same time, me being me, I'mnot.
So it's like I do feel like alot of people, um, do kind of do
things because they feel like,oh well, she got a silver spoon,
because you know, her mom anddaddy got money.
(25:23):
They always doing this, theygot this, they got that, and
it'd be like, in my eyes, it'slike that's what y'all see
looking in, but that don't meanthat that's exactly how it is,
you know.
So, I think, who your parentsare, can parents, even some
family I have cousins and stuffthat you know do a lot of
different things and it canweigh on people thinking that
(25:46):
you got it different, or makethem feel a different way,
envious more so towards youbecause they just assume that
you got it as good as they gotit and that's not.
I don't think nine times out often in the case that's not ever
the case, because you still gotto be your own person within
your family and stuff.
Sometimes you got it harderbecause of the people that you
(26:06):
have in your family.
It shouldn't even be acompetition.
I hate that people automaticallymake something such a
competition in their head andit's like it ain't even gotta be
like that.
You know, like I, I used to sithere and tell um some of my
friends that do certain things.
They used to be uh kind ofdiscouraged about doing stuff.
I'm like look at stores, likethe most simplest thing, bread.
(26:30):
There are like 30, 40 differenttypes of people that have their
own type of bread, but bread isstill bread at the end of the
day, you know.
So it's like why would you giveup because they're telling you
that there's so many peoplearound here doing this, or
because your family is saying,oh well, you know this isn't.
This person is already doingthat.
Why would you do it?
(26:50):
It's like there's still you,there's still room to do it, and
that all still goes back tothat fake friend, fake family
thing, because it's like supportand encourage, no matter what.
I don't care if you seesomebody who then you know, did
this before.
Yeah, there's a lot of peoplethat have done something.
They're still doing somethingthat a lot of people are doing
and they're still successful,because who they reach ain't
(27:13):
always who some people reach,and sometimes what they have may
be better than the other, andyou'll never know until you show
that support to see where thatperson can get or where they may
be either.
So I think that all kind of fallback into the influential thing
too, because just because theythink your family got money,
(27:35):
they might think that yourfamily, whoever got the money in
your family, is automaticallysupporting you, and they might
not even know nothing about whatyou're doing or don't even want
to be involved in what you'redoing because it ain't their
money.
So they might not even touch itor say nothing.
So you're thinking that, okay,well, she got people that can do
it for her, so we ain't got todo nothing and vice versa, or
turn around, it ain't even likethat.
They got it but they ain't eveninvolved.
And where you could be involvedwould mean more to me, because
(27:58):
I already know these people whogot this ain't gonna do it.
Your family, at the end of theday, should be as supportive as
you need them to be, and theythey're not, not, not fully.
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