🎙️ A candid roundtable on tribalism, culture wars, and the struggle to preserve community in Jiu-Jitsu and beyond.
In this episode of Fighting Matters, co-hosts Steve Kwan, Mike Mahaffey, Jesse Walker, and Timothy Lee Peterson take a hard look at how identity politics and ideological polarization are affecting the martial arts world. Drawing from their own experiences as coaches, practitioners, and community leaders, they explore how social division is creeping onto the mats—and how we can push back with empathy, respect, and clarity.
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đź‘Ą Featuring:
Steve Kwan ‪@bjjmentalmodels‬
Mike Mahaffey ‪@OldBastardBJJ‬
Jesse Walker ‪@roughhandsbjj‬
Timothy Lee Peterson ‪@timothyleepeterson‬
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🧠Topics We Cover:
• Why identity has become central to modern conflict
• How online behavior and purity tests are dividing gyms
• The difference between ignorance and harm
• How to handle mistakes without driving people away
• Why modeling values is more powerful than policing language
• Creating psychologically safe spaces for real learning and growth
• How martial arts can teach us to communicate across ideological lines
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đź“– Chapters:
00:00 Exploring Identity in Political Discourse
05:53 The Impact of Tribalism on Communication
11:00 Navigating Conversations with Empathy
17:36 The Role of Language in Identity
22:26 Building Bridges Through Understanding
36:35 Navigating Identity and Respect
39:16 Mistakes and Forgiveness in Communication
40:37 Bridging Divides Through Understanding
42:36 The Importance of Interests Over Positions
46:00 Creating a Culture of Tolerance for Mistakes
50:18 Psychological Safety in Conversations
54:10 Modeling Behavior for Change
01:00:15 The Power of Language in Understanding
01:04:06 Asking the Right Questions to Understand Perspectives
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