December 10, 2021 • 12 mins
Achieve success by stepping out of your comfort zone, because CHANGE requires different thought processes and different abilities to focus.
One of the things that determine if you are ready for success is your WILLPOWER, are you willing to do what it's going to take to succeed and achieve your dream.
One of the things that determine if you are ready for success is your WILLPOWER, are you willing to do what it's going to take to succeed and achieve your dream.
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
If you've suffered with fear, doubt, worry, or lack of
confidence in your life, then this podcast is for you.
In Fostering success, Doctor Adam Starks, having risen himself from
the foster care system to the pinnacle of success in life,
shares his blueprint in this podcast and interviews inspiring individuals
from around the world. You'll be touched, moved, and motivated
(00:29):
by Adam and his guests so that you too can
foster your own success and catapult to the pinnacle of
success in any.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
Area of your life. Here's your host, Doctor Adam Starks.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
Welcome to Fostering Success with Doctor Adam Starks. Today we're
talking about transforming our habits. Now. This is something that
is so difficult for many of us to do because
we get into that comfort zone. We get into a
routine and we really just don't have to think about it. Right,
Think about that nine to five job you're working at,
(01:10):
or that night shift job that you're working at, and
you're going through the motions, you're on autopilot, even getting
to and from home. You're not really thinking about it, right.
That's the comfort zone that many of us prefer to
live in. Because changing requires different thought processes and different
(01:30):
abilities to focus. And so one of the things we
need to do to determine if we are ready for
success is our will power. Are we willing to do
what it takes or what it's going to take to
succeed in whatever your dream is. It could be to
start the family, it could be to get rich, whatever
(01:51):
the case, you need to be able to work to
get there, and that requires developing new habits that you
didn't have before, or you would be there already right
wherever you want it to be in life. So let's
talk through that process. And my goal is to help
you land where you want to go. But I have
(02:11):
to test you first. I have to make sure that
you are fortified and ready for this journey. All right,
You've made the decision that you want to achieve this
dream or achieve this path, complete this path to success.
So the simplest way to do that is to test
your metal going through a twenty one day challenge. All Right.
(02:37):
It's a self challenge, and it can be anything from
stopping cursing or cussing however you pronounce it, depending on
the region you're from. You know, it's cool when rappers
do it. Gary Vee and Joe Rogan and some of
those other famous guys. They can get away with it,
but in day to day life in a professional setting,
that's not something that we can do. So you may
(02:58):
cuss a lot and you need to quit. You can
start a swear jar. So that's a simple example, right.
Think about binge watching Netflix or Hulu, and it's not
necessarily a bad thing. You know, if that's your downtime
and you choose how to spend it, that's fine. But
if you're doing that week in and week out, think
about how much time you're losing, how much valuable time
(03:19):
you're losing. And do you want to look back twenty
years from now and say, man, I sure did watch
a lot of TV. No, of course not. All right,
So it's time to get up and do what you
want to do through this fostering success program, right, And
you have to make that decision. It could be another thing,
you know, think about playing endless hours of video games
(03:40):
on Twitch, or just playing video games without creating content, right,
which is what most of us probably do. For me,
social media is my productivity kryptonite, all right. It used
to be video games when I was in grade school,
back in the nineties, but it quickly became aol. I am, yes,
(04:01):
I'm showing my age here, and that's all good, you know,
I'm in my forties and feeling good. But that's where
it started, and I had a real problem. I mean,
I spent countless hours on that platform just talking to
complete strangers because it was amazing to see who was
out there in the world. And then it went to
my Space. Spent countless hours on my Space. This is
(04:23):
when I graduated college, for the most part, and so
I had a little bit more time on my hands,
but not much since I was starting a family and
working full time. And then my Space went by the wayside,
and then came Facebook, and you talk about a colossal
time waster. I hate to think over the past thirteen
(04:44):
years how much time I've spent on there, arguing politics,
arguing you know, social justice issues. And what I came across,
you know, during my epiphany this year, was that I
didn't change a single mind that way, and I was
trying to get people to agree with me, and that
was the crux of the problem because they have different experiences, right,
(05:08):
and some of the advice that I'm leveling to you
you may not agree with because of your life experience,
but some of you may be open minded to take
this plunge, and if you go through the steps, you
are going to be as successful as me, and probably
even some of you more so. To think about that,
(05:28):
thirteen years, I've wasted countless hours on this platform, and
I just decided, you know what, it's not worth it.
It's not worth all of that time. What am I doing.
I'm essentially watching other people live their lives, right because
they're producing content and I'm not. And was it of
value to me? No? I don't need to watch someone
(05:51):
trip over a milk crate and bust their head on
a sidewalk. That's not valuable for me personally, it's not funny.
I hate the people get hurt, But you know, for
other people, I understand that's a form of entertainment. However,
hours on end, it's just not producing the value that
our society needs, and definitely not the value that you need. Again,
(06:13):
in moderation, it's perfectly fine, but the countless hours I
spent on it, it was an addiction. It was a
tech addiction, and I had to do something about that
if I was going to be successful. I had to
change my habits, and so I did it.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
Now.
Speaker 3 (06:31):
The first time I changed my habit was when Will
Bowen released or published A Complaint Free World. Now, this book,
I highly recommend it. I read it probably, I would say,
about ten years ago, and things were good for a while. Again.
This is a Complaint Free World by Will Bowen, and
(06:52):
it talks about the amount of complaining that we do
on a given day. And for me, I realized that
I was just becoming toxic. You know, what was I doing?
What was I doing about all of these issues? A
whole lot of nothing but complaining, And so I wanted
to take a different approach by solving these problems, or
at least picking a problem to solve, because the world
(07:15):
is overwhelming and it can look like the entire world's
on fire from time to time, but that's not always
the case. Things are typically much better than you know
the media allows us to see, or social media allows
us to see, because that fear factor really gets at
our emotions, and that's what causes us to buy things,
(07:37):
and that's what causes us to stay glued to TV
and social media. You think about nine to eleven and
how often they play that video to make sure that
a nation was effectively traumatized, and we had to spend
countless hours glued to the TV wondering what was going
to happen next, wondering what country we were going to
go to war with, and think about all of the
(07:58):
stress of that cause. For you, think about our social
justice issues and how they just beat it like a
drum and it appeals to our emotions in a negative way.
So a complaint free world forced me to stop complaining
for twenty one days, and if I did complain, I
had to take the purple bracelet and switch it to
(08:18):
my other wrist. That was the consequence if I caught
myself complaining, which I did a lot. So it took
me quite a few tries to get rid of that
habit and get into the good habit of seeing some
of the positive aspects of life. You know, I had
a great family, I had a roof over my head,
I had a steady job, steady income. Things were looking
(08:40):
up for me. But I wasn't embracing those fortunate blessings,
if you will, that were not bestowed upon me. Yeah,
I mean I earned them, for certain, But at the
same time I didn't look at the good side of
life hardly enough, and that started to impact my mental
and physical health. So I tried this book, and like
(09:00):
anything else all right, that you don't commit to, it
faded the way over time. All Right, Facebook got the
best of me with all the negativity on it. Twitter
the same way, and you know, I was just always
involved in the negative aspects of our society, trying to
change people's minds, and I became It became an obsession
(09:21):
for me, a gross obsession, a toxic obsession that produced
no results in the end. And so that's why I
am at my best. I realized that I'm at my
best when I'm helping people, when I am getting at
the crux of the problem and helping solve problems rather
than trying to change people's minds about a particular problem.
(09:43):
It's something to think about. It doesn't matter what your
habit is, but I want to challenge you in the
here and now to look at your life. It can
be smoking, It can be something as simple as not
cursing anymore, and you know, taking a bracelet and switching
it as a consequence, But there has to be some
(10:04):
consequence if you catch yourself doing it. Okay, tell me
how it goes, all right, it's going to take three weeks.
We're going to have a lot of other issues to
address and challenges to address on your road to success,
but we will get you there. But it requires a
mindset change. It requires a commitment that you haven't had
(10:24):
in the past for a variety of reasons. And most
of them are probably valid, all right, but some of
them are invalid and holding you back. And so these
habits have to change because we only have so many
hours in a given day, and we only have so
many years in our life. While it's important to take
down time and time for yourself to just not think
(10:45):
and just let go, some of these issues can become addictions.
Not like a drug addiction per se, but like social media.
It's easy to waste hours on end on there just
flipping through the screen hidden likes and whatnot, or Instagram
or now TikTok. All of that stuff is fun in moderation,
(11:07):
all right. So my challenge to you is take eighteen
to twenty four days and try to change one of
the habits that you feel is holding you back. All right,
do that for me, and I promise you won't regret
it all right. If you want to check out that
book by Will Bowen, it's on all your book as well.
(11:28):
If you're like me and don't have a whole lot
of time a complaint free world, you won't regret it. Okay,
I'll leave you with that, and until next time, thank
you for listening to Fostering Success.
Speaker 2 (11:48):
So that's it for today's episode. Head on over to
iTunes and subscribe to the show. One lucky listener every
single week to post a review in iTunes will win
a chance to win the grand prize, drawing a private
VIP day with doctor Adam Starks himself. Be sure to
head on over to Fostering Success podcast dot com and
(12:08):
pick up a free copy of Adam's Gift and join
us on the next episode.
If you've suffered with fear, doubt, worry, or lack of
confidence in your life, then this podcast is for you.
In Fostering success, Doctor Adam Starks, having risen himself from
the foster care system to the pinnacle of success in life,
shares his blueprint in this podcast and interviews inspiring individuals
from around the world. You'll be touched, moved, and motivated
(00:29):
by Adam and his guests so that you too can
foster your own success and catapult to the pinnacle of
success in any.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
Area of your life. Here's your host, Doctor Adam Starks.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
Welcome to Fostering Success with Doctor Adam Starks. Today we're
talking about transforming our habits. Now. This is something that
is so difficult for many of us to do because
we get into that comfort zone. We get into a
routine and we really just don't have to think about it. Right,
Think about that nine to five job you're working at,
(01:10):
or that night shift job that you're working at, and
you're going through the motions, you're on autopilot, even getting
to and from home. You're not really thinking about it, right.
That's the comfort zone that many of us prefer to
live in. Because changing requires different thought processes and different
(01:30):
abilities to focus. And so one of the things we
need to do to determine if we are ready for
success is our will power. Are we willing to do
what it takes or what it's going to take to
succeed in whatever your dream is. It could be to
start the family, it could be to get rich, whatever
(01:51):
the case, you need to be able to work to
get there, and that requires developing new habits that you
didn't have before, or you would be there already right
wherever you want it to be in life. So let's
talk through that process. And my goal is to help
you land where you want to go. But I have
(02:11):
to test you first. I have to make sure that
you are fortified and ready for this journey. All right,
You've made the decision that you want to achieve this
dream or achieve this path, complete this path to success.
So the simplest way to do that is to test
your metal going through a twenty one day challenge. All Right.
(02:37):
It's a self challenge, and it can be anything from
stopping cursing or cussing however you pronounce it, depending on
the region you're from. You know, it's cool when rappers
do it. Gary Vee and Joe Rogan and some of
those other famous guys. They can get away with it,
but in day to day life in a professional setting,
that's not something that we can do. So you may
(02:58):
cuss a lot and you need to quit. You can
start a swear jar. So that's a simple example, right.
Think about binge watching Netflix or Hulu, and it's not
necessarily a bad thing. You know, if that's your downtime
and you choose how to spend it, that's fine. But
if you're doing that week in and week out, think
about how much time you're losing, how much valuable time
(03:19):
you're losing. And do you want to look back twenty
years from now and say, man, I sure did watch
a lot of TV. No, of course not. All right,
So it's time to get up and do what you
want to do through this fostering success program, right, And
you have to make that decision. It could be another thing,
you know, think about playing endless hours of video games
(03:40):
on Twitch, or just playing video games without creating content, right,
which is what most of us probably do. For me,
social media is my productivity kryptonite, all right. It used
to be video games when I was in grade school,
back in the nineties, but it quickly became aol. I am, yes,
(04:01):
I'm showing my age here, and that's all good, you know,
I'm in my forties and feeling good. But that's where
it started, and I had a real problem. I mean,
I spent countless hours on that platform just talking to
complete strangers because it was amazing to see who was
out there in the world. And then it went to
my Space. Spent countless hours on my Space. This is
(04:23):
when I graduated college, for the most part, and so
I had a little bit more time on my hands,
but not much since I was starting a family and
working full time. And then my Space went by the wayside,
and then came Facebook, and you talk about a colossal
time waster. I hate to think over the past thirteen
(04:44):
years how much time I've spent on there, arguing politics,
arguing you know, social justice issues. And what I came across,
you know, during my epiphany this year, was that I
didn't change a single mind that way, and I was
trying to get people to agree with me, and that
was the crux of the problem because they have different experiences, right,
(05:08):
and some of the advice that I'm leveling to you
you may not agree with because of your life experience,
but some of you may be open minded to take
this plunge, and if you go through the steps, you
are going to be as successful as me, and probably
even some of you more so. To think about that,
(05:28):
thirteen years, I've wasted countless hours on this platform, and
I just decided, you know what, it's not worth it.
It's not worth all of that time. What am I doing.
I'm essentially watching other people live their lives, right because
they're producing content and I'm not. And was it of
value to me? No? I don't need to watch someone
(05:51):
trip over a milk crate and bust their head on
a sidewalk. That's not valuable for me personally, it's not funny.
I hate the people get hurt, But you know, for
other people, I understand that's a form of entertainment. However,
hours on end, it's just not producing the value that
our society needs, and definitely not the value that you need. Again,
(06:13):
in moderation, it's perfectly fine, but the countless hours I
spent on it, it was an addiction. It was a
tech addiction, and I had to do something about that
if I was going to be successful. I had to
change my habits, and so I did it.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
Now.
Speaker 3 (06:31):
The first time I changed my habit was when Will
Bowen released or published A Complaint Free World. Now, this book,
I highly recommend it. I read it probably, I would say,
about ten years ago, and things were good for a while. Again.
This is a Complaint Free World by Will Bowen, and
(06:52):
it talks about the amount of complaining that we do
on a given day. And for me, I realized that
I was just becoming toxic. You know, what was I doing?
What was I doing about all of these issues? A
whole lot of nothing but complaining, And so I wanted
to take a different approach by solving these problems, or
at least picking a problem to solve, because the world
(07:15):
is overwhelming and it can look like the entire world's
on fire from time to time, but that's not always
the case. Things are typically much better than you know
the media allows us to see, or social media allows
us to see, because that fear factor really gets at
our emotions, and that's what causes us to buy things,
(07:37):
and that's what causes us to stay glued to TV
and social media. You think about nine to eleven and
how often they play that video to make sure that
a nation was effectively traumatized, and we had to spend
countless hours glued to the TV wondering what was going
to happen next, wondering what country we were going to
go to war with, and think about all of the
(07:58):
stress of that cause. For you, think about our social
justice issues and how they just beat it like a
drum and it appeals to our emotions in a negative way.
So a complaint free world forced me to stop complaining
for twenty one days, and if I did complain, I
had to take the purple bracelet and switch it to
(08:18):
my other wrist. That was the consequence if I caught
myself complaining, which I did a lot. So it took
me quite a few tries to get rid of that
habit and get into the good habit of seeing some
of the positive aspects of life. You know, I had
a great family, I had a roof over my head,
I had a steady job, steady income. Things were looking
(08:40):
up for me. But I wasn't embracing those fortunate blessings,
if you will, that were not bestowed upon me. Yeah,
I mean I earned them, for certain, But at the
same time I didn't look at the good side of
life hardly enough, and that started to impact my mental
and physical health. So I tried this book, and like
(09:00):
anything else all right, that you don't commit to, it
faded the way over time. All Right, Facebook got the
best of me with all the negativity on it. Twitter
the same way, and you know, I was just always
involved in the negative aspects of our society, trying to
change people's minds, and I became It became an obsession
(09:21):
for me, a gross obsession, a toxic obsession that produced
no results in the end. And so that's why I
am at my best. I realized that I'm at my
best when I'm helping people, when I am getting at
the crux of the problem and helping solve problems rather
than trying to change people's minds about a particular problem.
(09:43):
It's something to think about. It doesn't matter what your
habit is, but I want to challenge you in the
here and now to look at your life. It can
be smoking, It can be something as simple as not
cursing anymore, and you know, taking a bracelet and switching
it as a consequence, But there has to be some
(10:04):
consequence if you catch yourself doing it. Okay, tell me
how it goes, all right, it's going to take three weeks.
We're going to have a lot of other issues to
address and challenges to address on your road to success,
but we will get you there. But it requires a
mindset change. It requires a commitment that you haven't had
(10:24):
in the past for a variety of reasons. And most
of them are probably valid, all right, but some of
them are invalid and holding you back. And so these
habits have to change because we only have so many
hours in a given day, and we only have so
many years in our life. While it's important to take
down time and time for yourself to just not think
(10:45):
and just let go, some of these issues can become addictions.
Not like a drug addiction per se, but like social media.
It's easy to waste hours on end on there just
flipping through the screen hidden likes and whatnot, or Instagram
or now TikTok. All of that stuff is fun in moderation,
(11:07):
all right. So my challenge to you is take eighteen
to twenty four days and try to change one of
the habits that you feel is holding you back. All right,
do that for me, and I promise you won't regret
it all right. If you want to check out that
book by Will Bowen, it's on all your book as well.
(11:28):
If you're like me and don't have a whole lot
of time a complaint free world, you won't regret it. Okay,
I'll leave you with that, and until next time, thank
you for listening to Fostering Success.
Speaker 2 (11:48):
So that's it for today's episode. Head on over to
iTunes and subscribe to the show. One lucky listener every
single week to post a review in iTunes will win
a chance to win the grand prize, drawing a private
VIP day with doctor Adam Starks himself. Be sure to
head on over to Fostering Success podcast dot com and
(12:08):
pick up a free copy of Adam's Gift and join
us on the next episode.
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