Girl, Choose Yourself!

We spend our lives building elaborate systems to avoid feeling certain things. And we don't even realise we're doing it. We call it being organised, being responsible, being careful. We call it managing. But underneath all that managing is something much simpler — pain we decided a long time ago we couldn't afford to feel.

And it costs us everything. Our energy, our relationships, our sense of aliveness. We were not p...

Maybe it's the Tuesday night drink that became two. Maybe it's the glass you pour before you've even thought about it. Maybe it's the question you push away before it fully forms - Is this still serving me?

Nia Thomas used to be the woman with the glass of bubbles in her hand. It was part of her identity, the glue she believed held connection and celebration together. Until it wasn't.

In this conversation, Ni...

This is a personal one.

Earlier this week, I went in for a targeted ultrasound and left with a breast biopsy scheduled for the following morning. It was my third. And what happened in the hours between that appointment and the result, particularly on a walk I took on a cold Monday evening under a very blue New Mexico sky, felt important enough to bring straight to you.

The result was clear. I'm fine. But that's almost not t...

What if the voice in your head telling you that you're not enough isn't actually yours?

Most of us have been in self-rejection mode for so long that we don't recognise it as a choice. It feels familiar. It feels like reality.  It's time to wake up.

In this episode:

The billion-dollar industry that profits from your not-enoughness, and why you cannot win a game designed for you to keep playing
How your attention...

Over 70% of women in the UK report experiencing sexual harassment in public spaces. Globally, it's higher than that. And yet the message to women remains the same — be careful, stay safe, it's your responsibility.

Today's guest is done with that narrative.

Amy Watson is the founder of Hassl, a social impact organisation launched just over a year ago that is tackling harassment at its root. It's shifting the focus ...

If someone asked you right now what you want — truly want, for yourself, not for anyone else — could you answer? For so many women in midlife, that question lands like a small panic. Not because life is bad. But because somewhere in the years of partnering, mothering, working, and showing up for everyone else, the thread back to yourself got very thin.

This episode is about finding it again.

There is a belief at the heart of this con...

What does it look like to walk away from a nearly decade-long career — no backup plan, no degree, just a gut feeling that something had to change? For Sarah Magnoni, it looked like burnout, a text sent on a Saturday morning, six months of napping, and eventually... a sold-out trip to France in 18 hours.

Sarah is the founder of Cobblestones and Castles, which runs small-group trips to Europe for women — curated around historical femi...

Are you the one who volunteers first? Who over-delivers without being asked? Who smooths the awkward silences, anticipates what everyone needs, and makes herself indispensable — in friendships, at work, in her family?

Most of us were never taught that being easy to be around is a pattern worth examining. It looks like warmth. It looks like generosity. But underneath it, for a lot of women, is something much older — a quiet fear that...

What happens when we finally name the system?

In this powerful conversation, I’m joined by award-winning journalist, activist, and author Soraya Chemaly, whose latest book All We Want Is Everything: How We Dismantle Male Supremacy, is one of the most important books on gender and power published in recent years.

Soraya has spent decades researching and writing about gender, culture, and power — and in this conversation, we explore th...

We live in a world where stress, anxiety, and burnout have become normal. According to the World Health Organization, workplace burnout alone was officially recognized as a legitimate occupational phenomenon — and it continues to rise year after year.¹ In the U.S., multiple studies show that more than 75% of adults report moderate to high stress, and anxiety disorders affect nearly 1 in 5 people annually.²

You don’t need to be “brok...

Scrolling through social media and feeling that familiar sinking feeling? That's not accidental—it's engineered. But the real cost of comparison goes way beyond just feeling bad for a few minutes. In this solo episode, Eimear reveals three hidden costs of the comparison trap and shares one research-backed protocol that actually works to break free from the cycle.

EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS [00:00] Introduction: The comparison trap...

What happens when a woman experiences a problem firsthand — and decides not to tolerate it?

In this powerful conversation, Eimear is joined by Vanessa Karel, founder of Greether, an award-winning, global travel platform built by women, for women — centered on safety, trust, connection, and economic empowerment.

After being stranded alone during the pandemic and experiencing the vulnerability so many women know too well while travelin...

January asks us to reinvent ourselves overnight.
But our bodies, and the natural world, tell a different story.

In this episode, Eimear invites you into the quieter turning point that arrives in early February, when the light begins to return, and something inside us starts to stir again.

Through the Celtic festival of Imbolc and the story of Brigid — goddess, saint, healer, poet, and keeper of the flame — we explore how renewal ...

Confidence doesn’t disappear by accident.

It’s shaped, slowly, quietly, by what we grow up surrounded by and taught to accept as “normal.”

The voices we’re used to hearing in charge.
The roles women are expected to play without comment.
The subtle signals about who gets to lead, who is meant to serve, and who should soften themselves to fit in.

This episode explores how those invisible defaults influence women’s confidence, am...

If you’ve been circling the thing you really want — the book, the business, the bold new chapter — but you keep putting it off, this episode is for you.

In today’s episode, I break down what behavioral science actually says about procrastination (spoiler: it’s not laziness), share practical ways to get traction fast, and then I go into the part that doesn’t get acknowledged enough: the very real context women carry — from self-vigil...

Many women move through life with a quiet, persistent thought in the background: something is wrong with me.

Not loudly.
Not dramatically.
Just enough to keep self-acceptance slightly out of reach.

In this episode, Eimear explores how that belief takes root — not because women are failing, but because the standards we measure ourselves against were never designed with women’s lives, bodies, or responsibilities in mind.

When su...

As a new year begins, many women rush to set goals, habits, and resolutions — and yet so little actually changes.

Why?

Because most change doesn’t fail at the level of effort.
 It fails at the level of identity.

In this episode, Eimear explores the idea of A Case of Mistaken Identity — the subtle but powerful way we stay loyal to outdated versions of ourselves long after we’ve outgrown them.

You’ll discover how old survival pattern...

There comes a moment in every woman’s life when the identity she has carried for years simply no longer fits. The patterns, roles, and ways of being that once kept her safe begin to fall away, creating a period of deep inner uncertainty. Because this episode releases in mid-December, at the threshold between endings and beginnings, it is an especially potent time to explore this transition. The end of the year naturally invites ref...

In this episode, Eimear explores what it truly means to choose yourself, even when that choice disappoints people. Drawing on the ideas from "The Courage to Be Disliked," she breaks down approval addiction, boundaries, life lies, and the deeper self-concept work required to finally live a life aligned with your truth.

What would become possible in your life if you stopped organising everything around being liked?

In this so...