Healing Our Relationships: From Codependency to Authenticity

In order to be authentic we have to have the courage to be seen, judged and misunderstood.

So much of our fear of authenticity comes from making assumptions and projection — seeing others not as they are, but through the lens of our own unhealed stories. Whether we are the projectors or being projected upon, in this episode of Healing Our Relationships, we explore how projections keep us afraid to be fully ourselves, and ...

This month I am on an ancestral pilgrimage to Italy with my father so I am getting creative to bring you something every week. A couple weeks ago my offering for you was a free 7 Day Morning Practice at your own pace video course, last week I offered you a prayer for moments of relationship fear, obsession or disastermind. This week I offer you a guided meditation.

In this meditation you will embark on a profound journey to release...

This month I am on an ancestral pilgrimage to Italy with my father so I am getting creative in order to bring you something every week. Last week my offering for you was a free 7 Day Morning Practice at your own pace video course. Give it a listen for the free promo code. 

This week I am offering you a prayer for moments when you are experiencing obsession and fear inside of your relationships. Whether it be catastrophic think...

This week I have something special for you. 

We can only go so long on our healing journeys with concepts and conversation. We need rhythm. We need practice. We need to move from head to heart to truly begin to embody the work we are doing. We need tools that helps us feel connected to ourselves in a real and powerful ways. 

In this bonus episode, I'm o...

Codependency can be so confusing. Where does true caring end and self-abandonment begin? How do we know when we've shifted from showing up with love into people-pleasing, controlling, or living for someone else's approval?

In this episode of Healing Our Relationships, I share one of the most direct tools that helped me begin to...

In this special conversation, I sit down with Don Miguel Ruiz Jr. — A Toltec Master, author, speaker, teacher, and the son of Don Miguel Ruiz, author of The Four Agreements. Together, we explore the Toltec path and how its wisdom can help us navigate the fears and patterns that shape our relationships. 

Miguel shares powerful insights from his new book,...

Boundaries are one of the most misunderstood aspects of healing and recovery. For some of us, being "boundariless" looks like saying yes when we mean no, letting others decide for us, and living in fear of rejection or disapproval. For others, it looks like building walls, controlling outcomes, or cutting people off entirely as a way to feel safe. Both are forms of disconnection — from ourselves, ...

You can't just flip a switch and love yourself after a lifetime of feeling disconnected. For many of us, self-worth was never modeled it was something we had to earn through approval, performance, or meeting someone else's expectations. Over time, our nervous systems adapted to live in survival mode, we lost sense of who we really are and 

But this is not wh...

Welcome back to Healing Our Relationships. I'm Marisa, Healer & Transformation Guide. Love avoidance often gets mistaken for independence, but in truth, it's another face of codependency — a strategy to control connection and protect ourselves from pain. In this episode, I'm unpacking three core beliefs that keep love-avoidant patterns alive: I can't tr...

What a title! We are packing a lot in today. In this episode of Healing Our Relationships, we explore the deep-rooted beliefs that quietly shape compliance patterns—the part of us that abandons our truth to stay safe, to be liked and to avoid loss.

These patterns aren't weakness. They're survival strategies we learned in e...

Welcome back to Healing Our Relationships. I'm Marisa, Healer & Transformation Guide. In this episode, I'm diving deep into the low self-esteem patterns that so many carry—patterns that whisper, "I'm not enough," "I'm not worthy," "I can't trust myself," and

This is a bonus episode — one I felt called to share because I know how torturous it can feel to be caught in that anxious loop of "Should I stay or should I go?"

Welcome back to Healing Our Relationships. I'm Marisa, Healer & Transformation Guide.

So many of us live trapped inside stories we inherited long ago — stories about who we're supposed to be, what makes us worthy, and how love must be earned.

In this episode of

Welcome back to Healing Our Relationships. I'm Marisa, Healer & Transformation Guide,

In this episode, I want to go deeper than just naming patterns of codependency.

Because self-abandonment co...

Welcome back to Healing Our Relationships. I'm Marisa, Healer and Transformation Guide. 
One of the biggest questions I hear from people on the journey of codependency recovery is this:

"How do I know if I'm being loving… or if I'm being codependent?"

Because when you're healing from codependency, it can feel confusing to tell the difference between true caring and patterns of people-pleasing, self-abandonment, or over-giving...

Welcome back to Healing Our Relationships. I'm Marisa, Healer and Transformation Guide. 
In our first episode, we talked about noticing the ways we abandon ourselves to feel loved, safe, or chosen.

But awareness alone can leave us wondering… Why do I keep doing this, even when I know better?

In this episode, I want to help you understand why codependency runs so deep.
We'll explore how these patterns don't just live in our mi...

Welcome to the first episode of Healing Our Relationships. I'm Marisa, Healer and Transformation Guide. 

If you've ever felt like you're losing yourself in relationships… like you're constantly saying yes when you mean no, staying silent to avoid conflict, or feeling invisible even with the people you love most… you're not alone.

Today, I want to help you begin to understand what codependency really is.
Not just the clinical d...

Welcome to Healing Our Relationships.

I'm Marisa. I'm a Healer and Transformation Guide, and someone who's spent years untangling my own patterns of addictions and codependency — and helping others do the same.

Join me each week on Healing Our Relationships as I guide you through understanding codependency, reconnecting with your authentic self, and crea...