Heart Versus Head

Most people want a partner that supports them and cheers for them all the time. But - as you'll learn this episode - that's not always a good idea. Maybe you actually want a partner that's supportive and cheering most of the time. Randy and Beverly explain the difference between an "always partner" and an almost-always kind of partner." Plus they'll share how to be open to criticism in your relationship. #couplesgoals #howhappy #he...

Are you both Hearts? Are you both Heads? Do you think it would be easier if you were with someone more like you? In this episode, Randy and Beverly talk about the importance of balance when it comes to relationship dynamics. In all disagreements, someone is going to be in Heart mode and someone is going to be in Head mode. If you're both doing it the same, you will end up going in circles (and slamming into the riverbank quite a bi...

If you've ever had one of those arguments that the Head partner couldn't move past... this episode explains part of the issue. When issues are discussed, Hearts will focus on the way everyone is feeling about the issue. They want to make it feel better so they can move past it. Heads are trying to identify the logical errors and so they don't get resolution from simply an apology. The trick in these arguments is for Heart partners ...

Happy 4th of July... In this episode, Randy and Beverly explore ways that couples can bring the fireworks back into their relationship. Whether you've been together a long time and gotten a bit predictable - or you're in a new relationship and trying to add some zing - we've got a couple of simple things that can really make a big difference. #HeartVersusHead #relationshipFireworks #4thofJuly

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Randy crashed out. He was angry and ready to give up and walk away from even doing this week's podcast. When Heads get maxed out, they can shut down and explode. Hearts get maxed out too - especially when the Head is being angry. In this episode, Randy and Beverly take you inside their moment of being maxed out. Jump in and see how these problems arise and how to defuse them. If you feel like you're drowning... or you think you're ...

In this episode, Randy and Beverly are sharing some quick and simple ways that you and your partner can recover some of that missing connection. Life is tough sometimes and all couples will experience disconnected moments. As connection fades, conflict rises. These are the suggestions that can turn the problem around so you both can get back to being awesome... together.  There are suggestions for Heart partners and suggestion...

If you've ever had a disagreement that ended up in the Head partner storming off in a huff before the Heart partner even gets to the "important" part of what they were trying to say, then this episode is for you. This episode is for every Heart who has a lot of words and every Head who is overwhelmed by those words at times. Randy and Beverly help both partners understand how Hearts process their emotions out loud and Heads process...

Have you been having the same argument for a decade? Are you both so stuck in your unmovable position that neither is willing to change? Have you become stale mates? Or at least reached a stalemate? In this episode, Randy and Beverly unpack what Heart and Head are each doing to fuel the problem. Then they offer some things that each partner should consider doing differently to get through the stalemate and get back to being teammat...

What are you building in your relationship with your limited human energy? We all have a set amount of energy available to get through the day, the week, the life. Are you using too much energy on the negative aspects of the relationship? How do you begin to turn that around. In this episode of Heart Versus Head, Randy and Beverly talk about their new book Heart Versus Head: How to Communicate and Connect When Nothing Else Works, w...

Sometimes you need to step back to get your partner to step toward you. In this episode, Randy and Beverly explore how the Heart partner often ends up in Head mode when they're too busy pursuing the Head. The trick... is to step back into being a Heart, which creates room for the Head partner to dance a little too. #lifesadance #HeartVersusHead 

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How does forgiveness work for Hearts and Heads? Why is so dang hard for Heads to say "I'm sorry." And why does it feel like Hearts say "I'm sorry" ALL THE TIME. In this episode of the Heart Versus Head podcast, Randy Hampton and Beverly Craddock dive into apologizing and how to get to real forgiveness. #heartVersusHead #ithinkitsaboutforgiveness 

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At the core of how we each operate in our relationships is the guiding concept of Heart and Head. As people are learning about Heart and Head, they see some similarities between it and other relationship models. In this episode, Randy and Beverly explain how Heart and Head is different and, yet, intertwined to the concepts of feminine, masculine, Mars, Venus and even attachment styles. Understanding Heart and Head will unlock your ...

Judging. You know you're doing it. It's natural. It's the comparison nature of having a human brain. You compare yourself to others and that very human action comes with judgement. In this episode, Randy and Beverly explore a better way to judge a partner. Whether you're dating someone and wondering if they're a fit or you're married and trying to understand your partner, you'll see the benefit of judging based on your partner's va...

Are you frustrated by the amount of 'pushback' in your relationship? Does it seem like every little thing is analyzed and critiqued? Or does your partner constantly jump in with 'fixes' you didn't ask for? While all relationships experience these kinds of friction points, why are these differences important in building a strong relationship. (And please excuse Randy in this episode, he 'geeks out' a bit when talking about polarity....

In this episode, Randy and Beverly explain why Hearts and Heads need to "get a life!" Finding your individual interests and outside support networks can make a ton of difference in a relationship. Also in this episode, you'll meet the annoying rooster that lives outside the office (naming suggestions can be emailed to info@HeartAndHeadCoaching.com). When we rely on solely our partner to fill all of our needs, we're headed for a let...

Randy's head is about to explode. In this episode, Randy has reached a level of exasperation with Heart clients who think their Head partners are just supposed to somehow know what the Heart needs. Dive deeper as we explore why most Hearts have an expectation that their partner just somehow magically knows the right thing to do. 

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Do you and your partner have the same definition of love? Are you sure? We've found that the Heart partner and the Head partner see love in very different ways. Hearts are feeling it. Heads are managing it. Find out why that matters so much as Randy and Beverly talk about how love is defined. 

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In this episode, Randy and Beverly explain why Heart/Heart relationships and Head/Head relationships don't work like you think they might. Listen and consider how all relationships seek the balance of Heart and Head. The secret isn't finding someone who has a relationship style just like yours, it's about finding the person who can balance your style, create polarity, and slide the correct direction to support you when you're strug...

Why do we seem drawn to the bad relationships of the past? Have you ever been in a good relationship but felt like you were craving an old partner - even if the old relationship was horrible? Or maybe you keep dating the same kind of problem. What's wrong with us? What's wrong with our brains? Why do trauma bonds have such a strong draw. In this episode of Heart Versus Head, Randy and Beverly dig deeper into what goes on when we ge...