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This is what’s keeping you lonely- isolated and distant from your police, firefighter, military husband or boyfriend. And, I provide a clear way to improve your connection to your partner.

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My deputy K9 wife client went from feeling like time together with her husband was nearly impossible, especially because he was accepting optional overtime without talking to her first. If you’re a police wife, firefighter wife, military wife or girlfriend, this episode is for you. This is how she flipped their relationship upside down and got back to back dates with her husband.

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Ever feel like your partner’s workouts just take more time away from the family? I felt this way in the beginning of our marriage too as a police wife. I share how I overcame it and you can too.

Women have said that they began supporting their husband’s workouts and improved their own self care after reading my book and completing my Empowered Partner course.

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Feel like you’re butting heads with your police, firefighter, or military husband or boyfriend? You’re not on the same page about anything lately. You’re not sure he wants to be around you and your family. Work seems to be prioritized more than you and/or your family. This episode is for you to switch from a solo sport to playing on the same team again with your partner as a police wife, firefighter wife, veteran wife or girlfriend...

An Instagram follower asked me, “How does your family dinner look?” She didn’t know just how passionate I am about the family dinner along with my police husband. But, our police family dinner looks different than others and so can yours. I provide ideas on the importance of family meals and how you can navigate them differently based on your partner’s shift as a police wife. Our family has dealt with night, swing, and day shifts.

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Ever feel like your partner is distant, but he won’t open up to you? You push him to talk, but instead of pulling him closer, you push him away. This skill my client learned she says always has him opening up to her when she uses it.

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My client found that her husband of many years was distant. She felt he was no longer sharing about his shift days with her like he used to. He wasn’t as physically affectionate as he was before he experienced a traumatic incident that pushed him over the edge. He wasn’t struggling emotionally and she was feeling like her needs weren’t met. Instead of drawing him closer, she was pushing him away when he pushed him to talk to her. I...

Dating a cop can be different. My client’s friends were telling her she wasn’t seeing him enough. She was questioning things and getting all up in her head. Sure, she didn’t see him as much as other people saw their boyfriends because he worked a ton of overtime, but he was there for her, loving, and kind when they were together. Through group coaching in my Resilient Ride Along program, she was able to use my Assertive Trauma Info...

This easy to adopt strategy will improve your communication with your partner as a police wife, firefighter wife or military wife immediately. I’m so excited for you to feel closer to your partner as a result even on their long shifts or deployments away from home.

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My heelsandholster: a police wife devotional book

Resilient Ride Along group coaching: https://www.heelsandholster.com/resilientridealong

As a police wife, firefighter wife and military wife, your partner experiences trauma and it is a part of him when he comes home. I share two stories from my own marriage where we have run into trauma he has experienced at work. I share practical tips on how to navigate trauma in your own relationship and provide reasonable accommodation to the symptoms of trauma that you see.

Shift Happens

Empowered Partner Course

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You’re feeling disconnected from your partner as a police wife or girlfriend, firefighter wife or girlfriend or veteran wife or girlfriend because he’s not telling you about his day at work. In this episode you will become more connected by learning to identify ways that your police husband, firefighter husband or military husband is indeed opening up to you and being vulnerable.

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Feel like you’re doing it all alone and the responsibilities are weighing you down like a weighted vest? Girl, I got you. In this episode, you will learn exactly how to feel supported and end resentment. You will feel okay about asking for help.

1:1 coaching: https://www.heelsandholster.com/1coaching

Resilient Ride Along group coaching: https://www.heelsandholster.com/resilientridealong

Police family books

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Ever feel like your conversation doesn’t go anywhere when you ask your police officer, deputy, firefighter veteran partner for help? As a police wife, firefighter wife or veteran wife or girlfriend, it’s so critical that you learn Assertive Trauma Informed Communication to be heard. This communication method will transform your relationship. Ready for your convo so go smooth next time you bring up something you know bugged him in t...

As a police wife, deputy wife, firefighter wife or military wife, you know the shift work, overtime, and last minute shift changes are consistent, but what about consistent time together AND the confidence to embrace your first responder family lifestyle in a way that is unshakeable? That’s what this episode is all about and I know it’s going to be relationship changing for you.

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My client, a K9 deputy wife and mom of a new baby, went FROM her husband feeling like she didn’t support his job because she was used to her teacher schedule with weekends and holidays off TO feeling like she was so lucky and loved her K9 deputy so much.

This story highlights the power you have to shift the dynamic of tension to strong you can feel it to peace in your relationship with a police officer, firefighter or veteran.

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