S3E7: The Trap of Never Enough: Finding Freedom from Performance-Based Worth and Validation

Join host, Ashley and guest, Mandy Faimalie on how to stop performing for worth. Dive deep into the freedom of Being vs. the trap of Doing. 

Who This Is For:
- High achievers who feel empty after checking all the boxes 
- Overthinkers stuck in cycles of "not enough" 
- Christians who know God’s promises intellectually but struggle to feel worthy 
- Anyone defining their value by productivity, roles, or external validation 
- Burned-out souls craving rest beyond a vacation 

Key Take-aways:   

• The "Doing" Trap
• The "Being" Liberation
• The Emotional Shift: 

  - From scarcity (“I must grind”) to abundance (“I am already full”) 
  - Trading anxiety for peace before circumstances change  
  - Why healing begins when we stop negotiating with God (“I’ll rest when I get X”) 

 00:00 Introduction and Welcome 

00:54 Mandy's Background and Journey 

02:02 Daily Prayer Life and Connection with God 

02:55 Childlike Faith and Being vs. Doing 

06:20 Overcoming Childhood Trauma and Self-Worth Issues 

10:47 The Healing Power of God 

18:25 The Importance of Being Over Doing 

22:54 Chasing Validation and Self-Esteem 

24:01 Rewriting Personal Stories 

25:41 Struggles of High-Performing Women 

27:46 The Unfulfilling Pursuit of Success 

31:46 Finding True Satisfaction 

34:42 The Constant Peace of God 

39:55 Final Thoughts and Blessings  

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Mandy's Freedom Practices:

1. You’re wired for BEING, not DOING:

"We’re human beings—not human doings. Your identity isn’t found in achievements but in God’s presence."

2. Performance is a false god:

"When you tie worth to doing, you’ll forever chase the next milestone. True worth is received, not achieved."

3. Your trauma doesn’t get the final say:

"Insecurities (fear of lack, shame, unworthiness) are wounds—not truths. God exchanges your pain for His wholeness."

4. Peace isn’t a reward—it’s your birthright:

"God’s peace isn’t conditional on your success. It flows when you surrender the need to control outcomes."

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