This week on Home to Me, we're throwing out the Nice Girl script — you know the one. Always agreeable. Always apologizing. Never rocking the boat.
Steph shares how growing up in patriarchal systems taught her that being “nice” would keep her safe, loved, and accepted — but instead, it left her stuck in patterns of self-abandonment and resentment. From wetsuit trauma to practicing pausing, she reflects on how “nice” became a trap, and how she's replacing it with something far more powerful: kindness rooted in integrity.
You’ll learn:
· The real difference between nice and kind
· Why kindness might disappoint others — and why that’s okay
· How to start practicing the pause, even when it’s wildly uncomfortable
· Questions to ask yourself when you feel that “nice girl” instinct kicking in
This one is for everyone who’s ever said “yes” and immediately regretted it. Time to reclaim your voice, your power, and your wetsuit size.
Quotes from the episode:
“Being kind might disappoint others. Being nice usually just disappoints you.”
“You don’t owe anyone your likability. You owe yourself your integrity.”
🎧 Rate, review, and DM me your favorite moment from the episode — or the nice girl habit you’re breaking up with this week.
Note! There are many cuss words!
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