#59 When You Don’t Feel Like Yourself Anymore

If you’ve ever felt like a stranger to yourself during a season of growth, this episode is for you. Discover why disorientation isn’t a breakdown — it’s a breakthrough in motion.

You’ve done the work. You’ve grown. But now you don’t quite recognize yourself — and it’s unsettling.

In this episode of Identity-Level Recalibration, Julie Holly explains why that discomfort is a key part of sustainable transformation. You’ll learn how to name what’s happening beneath the surface when your outer life hasn’t yet caught up to your new internal architecture.

Through personal stories, founder insights, and neuroscience-backed teaching, this episode offers grounded truth for anyone who feels caught between who they were and who they’re becoming.

In This Episode, We Cover:

• The neuroscience of predictive dissonance — and why your inner GPS hasn’t caught up yet
  
  
• Why disorientation often follows deep alignment — not dysfunction
  
  
• The difference between breakdown and identity expansion
  
  
• A personal recalibration moment from Julie’s journal
  
  
• How meeting Ryan Holiday affirmed the value of honoring presence over agreement
  
  
• Shonda Rhimes’ “Year of Yes” and how identity shifts require active ownership
  
  
• The cost of shrinking to make others comfortable
  
  
• Why you don’t have to explain or justify your growth to be aligned
  
  
• How to model identity stretch as a leader, parent, or team builder
  
  
• A subtle invitation to trust that what feels unfamiliar may be divinely aligned
  
  

Today’s Micro-Recalibration:

Ask yourself:

• Where have I felt unfamiliar to myself lately?
  
  
• What old identity is trying to hang on — even though it no longer fits?
  
  

Then anchor here:
“Not recognizing yourself doesn’t mean you’re lost. It might mean you’re finally aligned.”

If you lead a team, a family, or a company:
Model this. Name your own stretch. Normalize change.

Resources:

The Obstacle is the Way by Ryan Holiday

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