#62 When Growth Feels Selfish — It’s Usually Sacred

If your need for space or slowness has been labeled selfish — even by your own inner voice — this episode offers a reframe. Learn why solitude, separation, and stillness may be signs of sacred alignment.

When you’re growing at the identity level, even your most life-giving choices can feel... uncomfortable. You say no more. You slow your pace. You carve out space to hear what God is actually saying — not just what others expect. But somewhere along the way, you begin to wonder: Am I being selfish?

In this episode of Identity-Level Recalibration, Julie Holly shares why what feels selfish is often sacred. You’ll learn how the nervous system resists internal shifts, how external expectations distort your pace, and why your alignment may require others to misunderstand you for a little while.

This isn’t permission to isolate. It’s a reminder that obedience sometimes looks like retreat — not because you’re withdrawing, but because you’re anchoring.

With insights from John Bevere, a story about Julie’s husband’s recalibration through fly fishing, and a public example from Taylor Swift’s career pivot, this episode offers clarity, freedom, and a pathway back to your own God-given rhythm.

In This Episode, We Cover:

• Why growth often triggers guilt or fear of being “selfish”
• The nervous system’s interpretation of solitude as threat
• Why sacred shifts often require stepping back before stepping forward
• John Bevere’s insight on how God works in us before working through us
• Julie’s personal story of her husband’s guilt around rest and alignment
• Taylor Swift’s evolution as a model of congruent disruption
• Why your discernment season might not make sense to others — yet
• How to recognize sacred alignment even when it looks like retreat

Today’s Micro-Recalibration:

Ask yourself:

• Where have I labeled my need for space as selfish?
• Where have I resisted slowing down because it might be misunderstood?

Anchor this:
“What feels selfish might actually be sacred.”

If you lead, parent, create, or build — let others see what it looks like to honor the process without apology.
 Your alignment will serve them far more than your burnout ever could.

Resources:

X: Multiply Your God-Given Potential by John Bevere

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